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My hardest part about losing weight is living with my boyfriend and his kids. They are pretty much all sticks, eat what they want and don't gain weight. It's really hard to see them eat unhealthy foods all the time and try to stick to eating healthy.1
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SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »My hardest part about losing weight is living with my boyfriend and his kids. They are pretty much all sticks, eat what they want and don't gain weight. It's really hard to see them eat unhealthy foods all the time and try to stick to eating healthy.
I can relate to that. My ex was the same way. He could eat anything and everything and never gain any weight, and always be eating. It was really hard for me when we lived together to stick to anything.2 -
SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »My hardest part about losing weight is living with my boyfriend and his kids. They are pretty much all sticks, eat what they want and don't gain weight. It's really hard to see them eat unhealthy foods all the time and try to stick to eating healthy.
Oh yeah, tell me about it. My roommate and daughter are the same way. He'll eat a whole container of cookies or a whole batch of brownies. So much processed food and he's still a stick. And my daughter eats and eats and eats and doesn't gain a thing, in fact, she's underweight. What sucks most is I still feed her. So I'm shovelling super fatty foods and pasta in her face and I can't even lick a spoon xD I smell the pudding she's eating and gain 10lbs =P2 -
I'm in the same boat here. I just gained back 5 lbs while doing strict Keto which is regulated calories 20% carbs/60% fat/20% protein. I pretty much said forget it after a month of that. It's a calories in and calories out focus from here onward. And I need to eat healthy. My husband is able to self regulate like nobodies business and same with our son. They've both never been on a diet a day in their life. They both work office jobs too and don't exercise. Ugh. My son can eat a package of candy or cookies and he's tall and thin as ever.0
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It's nice to know I'm not alone in this battle. Thanks for sharing0
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I know this may be silly, but does anyone get scared or have anxiety about losing weight? I struggle with this a lot when I start to lose a decent amount and then I shut down and can't keep going. I know I'm definitely afraid of change and the unknown. Any suggestions how I can get past that? So far I'm ok, but I get worried that it will happen.2
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alexnkae2012 wrote: »I know this may be silly, but does anyone get scared or have anxiety about losing weight? I struggle with this a lot when I start to lose a decent amount and then I shut down and can't keep going. I know I'm definitely afraid of change and the unknown. Any suggestions how I can get past that? So far I'm ok, but I get worried that it will happen.
I'm scared of loose skin and that I'll gain everything back if I stray even slightly off my diet. Also scared that it won't work. And I'm doomed to stay fat and unhappy forever. I'm also scared somethings going to lick my toes while I sleep, but I still sleep. xD For me, I tell myself to suck it up and you never know until you try. If you ever have these feelings, or something is starting to bring you down, or just feel anxious, send me a msg, or post here. I WILL respond. As I'm sure others will too. That's why I made this group and these discussions. We all need a support system. Weight loss is one hell of an emotional rollercoaster. But we're riding it together. We got you.1 -
alexnkae2012 wrote: »I know this may be silly, but does anyone get scared or have anxiety about losing weight? I struggle with this a lot when I start to lose a decent amount and then I shut down and can't keep going. I know I'm definitely afraid of change and the unknown. Any suggestions how I can get past that? So far I'm ok, but I get worried that it will happen.
Yes. I get anxiety. I get really scared. I understand how you feel.0 -
I appreciate that a lot guys. I've tried to explain it to my parents and my boyfriend but no one seems to understand. They were/are overweight too, but at some point in there lives they have all been skinny. I never was, and sometimes it can be really overwhelming. Thanks for your help
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I am in the same boat I have never been skinny I started gaining at 8 years old and slowly overtime gainned more and more. a lot of it comes down to - I want to be health, and able to do things that I can't now.2
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SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »My hardest part about losing weight is living with my boyfriend and his kids. They are pretty much all sticks, eat what they want and don't gain weight. It's really hard to see them eat unhealthy foods all the time and try to stick to eating healthy.
I understand. My husband can say "I need to lose weight" and instantly drop 20 lbs. I have a new theory. At might, it jumps off him and sticks to me!2 -
alexnkae2012 wrote: »I know this may be silly, but does anyone get scared or have anxiety about losing weight? I struggle with this a lot when I start to lose a decent amount and then I shut down and can't keep going. I know I'm definitely afraid of change and the unknown. Any suggestions how I can get past that? So far I'm ok, but I get worried that it will happen.
It actually is not silly at all. The first time I lost a lot of weight someone called me skinny and I freaked out. I vividly remember. Mind you, I was nowhere close to skinny but I had lost a lot of weight. That one little comment freaked me out so badly that I stopped caring about losing weight.
Fast forward about 10 years later, when I decided to take charge of my life and my health. When people call me skinny, I laugh and say thank you. Again, I am nowhere close to skinny, but I know what they mean. A lot of weight loss is mental or everyone who wanted to lose weight would lose it. What has worked for me in the past two years is to not get bogged down on the scale and what it says or does not say. I weigh myself faithfully every Monday. I record it and I move on. If I have to make adjustments I do, if I have a loss I allow myself a few minutes of congratulations then I get right back to it.2 -
I got caught up in replying and forgot my own comment. This morning when I weighed myself I had a good loss. My birthday is in two days and I normally announce how much I have lost at big family events. This morning I was thinking for a brief second that I would be embarrassed to say that I have lost almost 200 lbs. Those are the mind games that I play with myself. It is not like my family did not see me 200 lbs ago. I did a little self talk and I was over it.5
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I'm happy with my progress but also sometimes feel overwhelmed with the scale, or scope of this journey. Dropping 100 lbs can easily be 18-24 months of careful eating. Dropping a lb or more a week, every week, is no simple task for us to accomplish.2
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LCHF feels very natural to me. First time a woe ever felt like that for me.0
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I tend to be very pessamistic myself. The last time I was successful, I didn't give away my larger clothes, sticking them instead in the closet because I just knew I was going to need them again - and probably setting myself up for failure. But I've been heavy my entire life and have tried and failed so many times, that it's so hard to believe that I just might succeed in getting it off and keeping it off this time! Especially when I have PCOS and thyroid issues, so my body fights against me constantly.2
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bmeadows380 wrote: »I tend to be very pessamistic myself. The last time I was successful, I didn't give away my larger clothes, sticking them instead in the closet because I just knew I was going to need them again - and probably setting myself up for failure. But I've been heavy my entire life and have tried and failed so many times, that it's so hard to believe that I just might succeed in getting it off and keeping it off this time! Especially when I have PCOS and thyroid issues, so my body fights against me constantly.
I have PCOS as well and my body is insulin resistant. It's taken me a long time to find a way of eating that works for me. Keep going and when you move past clothing sizes, definitely consider saying goodbye of those clothes. It's actually pretty fun getting new clothes 1 -
I'm flooded with all kinds of contradictory feelings. I won't unpack them all, but I do worry that I'm going to have a lot of loose skin and look older when I lose the weight. I'm also SO EXCITED that I'm going to be able to wear cuter clothes!!! But I don't have the money to spend on clothes, so there's a disappointment. But also I'm really proud of myself! I've lost 15 pounds in a month, that's amazing!
My rings won't fit my fingers and I don't have money to resize them. But I might avoid diabetes and heart disease! I can't eat as much delicious fatty foods and I LOVE delicious fatty foods. But I can still have some sometimes!
The pros outweigh the cons, which is why I'm here, but I am a whirlwind of pride, self-doubt, excitement, and anxiety.3 -
dungeonmarm wrote: »The pros outweigh the cons, which is why I'm here, but I am a whirlwind of pride, self-doubt, excitement, and anxiety.
Me too, I love this description. I'm feeling a little all over the place. It's an overall good feeling, though.1 -
I still haven't reached the point yet where I suddenly realized "it's working!" even though I've lost 35 lbs since I started - it just hasn't registered yet for me; I seem to keep expecting to stall. Its probably because while I have lost an inch or two overall off my hips, waist, and such, I still haven't lost enough to truly drop a clothing size yet. Maybe when I can comfortably get back into the close that are a size smaller than what I wear now, maybe that's when it will kick in for me? Or it may not be until I get below 300..... I'm serious when I say I tend toward being pessimistic! lol2
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bmeadows380 wrote: »I still haven't reached the point yet where I suddenly realized "it's working!" even though I've lost 35 lbs since I started - it just hasn't registered yet for me; I seem to keep expecting to stall. Its probably because while I have lost an inch or two overall off my hips, waist, and such, I still haven't lost enough to truly drop a clothing size yet. Maybe when I can comfortably get back into the close that are a size smaller than what I wear now, maybe that's when it will kick in for me? Or it may not be until I get below 300..... I'm serious when I say I tend toward being pessimistic! lol
It's good that you measure yourself. It's your reward, for now. Look at how amazing that really is!!! You should be really proud.0 -
I just wanted to say how awesome I think you guys are, its no easy task to open up and be honest about what youre feeling- be it fears, concerns, or apprehension. I really admire people who can speak to their thoughts. Its something I struggle with often.
To Bridget, I think its natural to sometimes err on the side of "skepticism" when it comes to our own journeys in this. Like you said, its hard to see the progress ourselves, or for it to even register. I often look in the mirror and see no changes in me, even though I know I've worked hard. We are our worst critics, but try to stay mindful of what you've accomplished so far. 35lbs is amazing. One of the best phrases that I've heard circulate around other forums I belong to is: "trust the process." So even if you aren't "seeing or feeling" results yet, if you keep going on the right path, that will come. Every day we are being healthier versions of ourselves, and that's got to lead us to a better place than yesterday, right...
Regarding loose skin, I too have that concern in the back of my head. To the point where I have researched the cost of tummy tucks and procedures in my province. I have a long ways to go before any of that is on the forefront though, but I know and follow many inspirational people who have completed their weight loss goals and have been faced with the issue. What I keep telling myself is "I would rather it be loose skin than what it is now." Its almost like, I'll be proud to wear that as a testament to whats been accomplished. At least, that's what I'm telling myself from this distance away from it lol.
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I'm so glad y'all brought up the loose skin issue...I am SO worried about that. I have had three kids all by C-section and my tummy is so saggy already. I'm hoping when I lose the weight, everything will tighten up and go back to the way it was BEFORE I was pregnant. Sometimes I just fear that it won't go back because I waited so dang long to fix it. My oldest is 8 and youngest is 1. I've steady gained throughout all of the pregnancies. Now I have over 115 lbs to lose and feel so bad about letting myself get to this point. Anyway, it's nice to vent here, so thanks for this thread! Y'all are awesome!1
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I was 'feeling' some humor today
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Feeling very discouraged today. Been on this journey for almost 2 months and haven't lost very much. Trying to focus on the small victories but..I dunno. Just discouraged. Trying not to compare myself to people on MFP or in real life but it's hard. I've never stuck to something this long. I'm proud of that but..I dunno. I'm rambling.
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Feeling very discouraged today. Been on this journey for almost 2 months and haven't lost very much. Trying to focus on the small victories but..I dunno. Just discouraged. Trying not to compare myself to people on MFP or in real life but it's hard. I've never stuck to something this long. I'm proud of that but..I dunno. I'm rambling.
I'm sorry you feel discouraged. I'm proud of you for being on this journey for two months and still here. That's something to give yourself credit for, none of this is ever easy. I'm sure everyone here can attest to that. I understand because I've been there many times. Remember the reasons you started, and the reasons you have to keep going.
Sending you positive thoughts and if ever you find you're needing someone to talk to, send me a message. Any time.
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forCole wrote: »
Feeling very discouraged today. Been on this journey for almost 2 months and haven't lost very much. Trying to focus on the small victories but..I dunno. Just discouraged. Trying not to compare myself to people on MFP or in real life but it's hard. I've never stuck to something this long. I'm proud of that but..I dunno. I'm rambling.
forCole, I feel your pain. I too get discouraged when I haven't done as well as I think I should have. But remember to just take it one day at a time. We are our worst critics. Keep sticking with it and it will pay off.2 -
Feeling very discouraged today. Been on this journey for almost 2 months and haven't lost very much. Trying to focus on the small victories but..I dunno. Just discouraged. Trying not to compare myself to people on MFP or in real life but it's hard. I've never stuck to something this long. I'm proud of that but..I dunno. I'm rambling.
If the scale isn't showing what you expected after a couple months then just take it as feedback on your diet, don't get discouraged. Double down on your diligence in measuring/logging, and tweak your calorie goals.
Have you taken measurements? You'll see inches come off the measuring tape long before you see a change in the mirror.1 -
I love how eating healthy and exercising makes me feel, but some days I feel a little upset about the fact I can't be one of those "I can eat what I want and never gain weight" kind of people.
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