1Madgirl's weight loss journey
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haha on popular vote I've decided to not go through with it.
maybe i just need to change my macros
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Thanks for the advice. Usually 1000 is enough for me. I only need 1400 to maintain anyway (I only weigh 117.5 pounds so I don't need a lot to maintain!I agree with others, your calorie totals seem very low. Do you feel full after 1000 calories?
As far as your plan of course do what you fell comfortable with, but I might offer a suggestion.
If you are going to try a fast I'd put the fasting days back to back to get more bang for the buck, rather than breaking the fast for a day then fasting again.
For example going by calories the days would be;
1000
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1000 ) so usually im full. I had mcdonalds today and the calories from McD werent as satisfying as my usually protein-full meals (I usually eat around 100g of protein a day compared to the 20g protein found in a McD meal) so I did need to eat over my maintenance value to feel satisfied!
I added in bread, nuts and a mcflurry haha.
Let's see how my weight responds!
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Also, I've noticed I've been eating a lot more carbs and less fat. Maybe these two need a little swap!
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Gained half a kilo! (1 pound)1
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Hi,
I guess I need to admit (to myself mostly) that I haven't been doing so great lately. I'm sure my stress levels are the cause of the plateau and I don't know how to stop it. I've been acting (around others and at home) that I'm fine and over the breakup... but yesterday it was clear that I'm really not.
I broke up with him a few months ago because he was always calling me names (retarded, down syndrome, kicked in the head when I was a baby, thick, manipulative, negative, controlling, a bad person, just to name a few) and comparing me negatively to other girls - and I cannot forgive myself for letting him do that to me. I just keep reading the insults in our chats. Over and over again.
Sorry I know this is not a therapy forum but I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can control this. I'm even missing periods now...0 -
First of all, stop going over those chats. Delete them for forever. You have already moved forward now, but still getting pulled back by your memories. The only person who can help you is you. You are doing so great: you managed to realize your worth, took the courage to take care of yourself by joining this health journey, then why stop and look back? Chin up girl! You have a wonderful life ahead. You're going to look back and smile one day. You deserve much better!
Now just relax, love yourself, sleep well and eat better. Everything will fall into place 2 -
As someone who was both physically and mentally abused in a past marriage, you need to take it one day at a time. I agree to delete those chats, you're torturing yourself.
As a psychologist, try controlling your thoughts. Start by day dreaming of where you want to be. When negative thoughts enter your head, stop them and say dream. Eventually those day dreams will be what you think about. Believe it or not you have the power to control your mind. Also, it's only been a few months, allow yourself to go through the stages of greiving. Feel your emotions, then overpower them.
I'm here if you ever need to talk! Feel free to send me a message!1 -
Oh and as a psychologist: for the love of god, do not try to rush through, eliminate or otherwise the things you need to feel. It's part of the healing process0
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(((((1MADGIRL)))), I agree with the other two ladies in that ditching those chats is good idea. Hit delete and don't look back, easier said than done, I know. He didn't appreciate you for who you were, it is his loss and his mistake. I hope you're able to come to a place where you love yourself more and realize that because you do, you will never allow yourself to deal with complete a$$hats again.
Edited to add: This is your journal, it isn't just weight loss that matters. Everything you go through to get where you want to be factors in. You need to vent or cry and need virtual hugs, this is your place. One day you can look back through and see how far you've come. :-)1 -
I agree with everyone else, delete those texts now...Words hurt more than anything and rereading them is not letting you heal...You do not deserve someone that treats you that way...You will get through this it's just going to take time and the first step is to delete those texts...There is someone out there that will treat you like you deserve to be treated...Stay strong
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Delete the bad stuff - and the good stuff. You need to work on letting go of the good memories because they'll mess with you even more than the bad ones. You aren't dumb to believe him. He was a master at manipulating you. One thing he probably did was try to convince you you aren't strong - but if you aren't strong he wouldn't have had to work so hard to manipulate you.
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Wow. So many supportive and thoughtful comments! Sorry sometimes I get really down and this certainly helped
This breakup hit me hard. Thanks again guys xx1 -
You're welcome and I hope you have a nice weekend 1
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Anyone who calls another names like that isn't a friend let alone a significant other! Agree with what others said.1
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I don't tend to go for the sweetest guys.
They both liked to call me names and when I cried or begged them to stop I get told I'm too sensitive. I actually believed that I get offended easily for quite some time...
But anyway. I'll try heal now and set better boundaries and keep an eye out next time
I really love the support from all you guys!3 -
Yes, and next time, bring the boy here, to sit by my pond with me, and I will tell you if he is a keeper or not. I have LOTS of experience at this. My daughter has brought home the jerks who didn't respect her or care for her, and I could see it, although I never said anything. After all, it's her life, and her decision, isn't it? Well, about a year ago when she was going to ditch a real sweetheart for another jerk, I intervened.
And yes, breakups are hard. When my first marriage broke up, I cried on the subway for a year. But in the end, I realized the jerk did me a favor. I wasn't strong enough to leave the cheater -- he left me! Nonetheless, it's really hard. I think the hardest is losing your own dreams about the life you want. Not losing the jerk. And so I KNOW from experience that YOUR real keeper is out there somewhere.
You just need to heal yourself.0 -
You're so sweet
Oh I wish I could bring guys by your pond! Unfortunately when the guy starts acting like a jerk, I blame myself - that I've done something wrong... or I hold on to the good parts, which in all honesty there were quite a few good moments. But the insults were destroying me. The comparisons with other people were destroying me.
And now that I left, I still feel bad.
maybe him telling me that I'm a quitter didn't really help.
Thank you for your kind words. I'm doing my best to heal and focus on my fitness journey 0 -
I really appreciate Omad when I get to eat 1200 cals in one go. Feel so full I feel I might burst every night! Split into 6 portions throughout the day is so unsatisfactory1
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I do the same except I can go about 2500 cals in the evening and still lose! I do like that.1
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amflautist wrote: »
Are you walking? I get about 300 cal a day for walking, about 700 cals 3 times a week running, and about 300 cals twice a week for lifting. My bmr is about 2200 a day but the other stuff makes tdee about 2700 to 2800 a day. That gives me a lot more room to work with.1 -
Hi guys!
Does anyone know how I can tell if I'm gaining body fat or muscle weight when I gain a few 100 grams on the scale?
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It takes a lot of heavy lifting to gain muscle, regularly and for a long time. For men, it's like .25 of muscle weight/monthly and for women, even less. If you aren't strength training or just started, it's not going to be muscle. Could be water weight, you may have a pooh forming and in-wait, urine, a small dust bunny on your foot, etc. Fluctuations are normal. I was 205.6 two days ago, and even though my binge yesterday was only 1856 calories, I was up two pounds today. :-/0
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It's probably just water weight.
When I have a splurge I can gain 3 or 4 pounds but I know it's not fat and it will go away soon...1 -
My experience (as a guy) is that if I haven't lifted for a long time I can gain fast over about 2 months and then it will decrease substantially and the gains will be slow. My skinny teenage boy put on about 20-lbs of muscle in a summer.0
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Thank you! Been training consistently for just a week so it's probably too early
20lbs in one summer is amazing! wow. I've heard that beginners/people who return to it after a while, get gains quickly 0
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