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  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Bob is a class-A jerk. What an awful thing to say after you’ve been so kind to him. Is it possible that old Bob has lost his “social filters”? Sometimes old folks (look who is talking!) lose the ability to censor themselves. Old guys especially think they’re being funny when they’re insensitive. My late father in law began saying awful things he thought were very humorous when he started exhibiting signs of Alzheimer’s.

    Anyway don’t let this dumb remark derail you. You’re tougher than that!
  • Bella_Figura
    Bella_Figura Posts: 4,322 Member
    edited June 2022
    Yep, Bob sounds like a jerk. Being 84 doesn't automatically excuse you from being a jerk (not all old folks are sweet and lovely)...but Yooly is right that advanced age and crass remarks do seem to go hand in hand. My experience is that old age makes folks who were jerks in their middle age even jerkier, and can turn some previously adorable middle aged folks into newly minted jerks as they lose control over their civil/social inhibitions.

    Don't let it needle you....you probably look simply gorgeous just the way you are....and a few surplus pounds can be re-lost but being a jerk is a much harder problem to solve.

    Also...don't let it stop you being kind to Bob. Toxic comments can hurt, but losing your compassion and natural kindness can hurt your spirit in a different way.
  • conniewilkins56
    conniewilkins56 Posts: 3,391 Member
    Sorry about Jerky Bob!…

    I had a good day but way too busy!…dentist in the morning, John has an MRI scheduled and I have a cardiologist visit Wed….Thurs John sees spine doctor again….sheesh!
  • lauriekallis
    lauriekallis Posts: 4,765 Member
    Hope it all goes well, Connie.

    Walking up my street tonight, Bob was on the front lawn with neighbours across the street from him. As I approached the husband called out "don't worry - he's grounded" :)
    I said "did he tell you what he said?"
    He and his wife said "no"
    I said "ask him - and tell him that it was a really dumb comment to make to a woman" ... they laughed...I imagine they will get it out of him and rag him for being a dumb ***kitten***
  • bojaantje3822
    bojaantje3822 Posts: 257 Member
    Bob 😡

    I hurt my left lower back exercising yesterday. I woke up several times from the pain and decided to call in sick to work because my full focus is on the pain at all times. Fortunately I'm on a diet break so I can eat whatever and not worry. Might have to order in, which I never do by myself and have only done three times when I had people over. I'm not even hungry or craving anything. It's 8.13am and I'm not even sleepy, even though I've been fully awake for an hour and I am not at all a morning person.
  • AlexandraFindsHerself1971
    AlexandraFindsHerself1971 Posts: 3,106 Member
    bojaantje3822 wrote: »
    Bob 😡

    I hurt my left lower back exercising yesterday. I woke up several times from the pain and decided to call in sick to work because my full focus is on the pain at all times. Fortunately I'm on a diet break so I can eat whatever and not worry. Might have to order in, which I never do by myself and have only done three times when I had people over. I'm not even hungry or craving anything. It's 8.13am and I'm not even sleepy, even though I've been fully awake for an hour and I am not at all a morning person.

    I'm so sorry! Alternating ice and heat will help it feel better. I have some scoliosis in my lumbar spine so I'm familiar with just how much muscle aches can cripple you.

  • bojaantje3822
    bojaantje3822 Posts: 257 Member
    Thanks! That's really useful advice. I ended up napping on and off for 3 hours and the pain is somewhat less intense but mostly I've been really hot so I'm gonna start alternating with ice.

    I used to have a lower back injury but it never hurt like this before. It was more nagging constant pain rather than the sharp spikes whenever I move I am experiencing today. But hopefully this will also go away much faster if I just rest for a few days.
  • lauriekallis
    lauriekallis Posts: 4,765 Member
    Oh, @bojaantje3822, hope it settles quickly.
  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Hope you have air conditioning Alexandra! Looks like a brutal summer ahead.
  • AlexandraFindsHerself1971
    AlexandraFindsHerself1971 Posts: 3,106 Member
    We do, but not central air. It is trying to keep up but it's only getting partway there. It's hard.
  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    I remember growing up in Cleveland when no one had AC! Luckily the hot weather is temporary in the Midwest. Hope things cool off soon.
  • AlexandraFindsHerself1971
    AlexandraFindsHerself1971 Posts: 3,106 Member
    Tooth blew up at three am, and it took one of my precious hoarded pain pills to get it to where I wasn't weeping in pain. I'm managing right now because in an hour and a half I can go to my dental appointment and get antibiotics, and some temporary pain relief.
  • lauriekallis
    lauriekallis Posts: 4,765 Member
    You are both having a difficult time. Hope it passes very quickly.
  • PAV8888
    PAV8888 Posts: 14,234 Member
    Yikes. Hope health improves for all three of you. Ibuprofen seems to work even better than opioids for teeth for me.

    And Bob. Can join my innocent looking dad. Who commented I should add a kilo or two instead of trying to lose even more weight (his interpretation of maintenance, not mine). And the next day when I added a second 400 Cal frozen dinner for myself after we each had one for dinner (I was operating with 1500 Cal remaining)... he said: "wow: a second one. As long as it doesn't make you head out for a walk! 😡😡😡🤬🖕
  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Old guys! You just gotta ignore them or forgive them. Someone changed the rules in the old guy world and forgot to clue them in.
  • Bella_Figura
    Bella_Figura Posts: 4,322 Member
    Clueless old guys...the world's full of them. Plenty of clueless old gals too. We just have to hope we don't join their ranks one day.

    I've burned a lot of calories today. Two long walks accounted for 16,000 steps, and we also went for a 50km (30 mile) bike ride. Stopped at a pub for lunch at the 35km point and had a diet Pepsi and a ham baguette...nicked a half dozen of Kim's chips. Man, I love being retired!
  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Oh my goodness! I wish Alexandra and Jennifer all the best. Those are some difficult challenges.
  • conniewilkins56
    conniewilkins56 Posts: 3,391 Member
    I hate reading everyone’s bad health problems today when I am having such a great one!…..yesterday at the dentist I had no cavities and only one tooth to watch for sensitivity!….I plan on keeping these teeth the rest of my life!….

    Saw the cardiologist today and my ECHOgram and stress test were ok!…I have a thicker left heart valve because of high blood pressure for so many years and it showed up as a blockage!…I was cleared for all exercise and was told to find one activity out of my comfort zone!…said I look great ( except for weight ) for almost 71 years old!

    I feel really good and am getting some energy back again….depression is always hovering in the background but I am fighting it…

    I hope everyone has a better day tomorrow!
  • AlexandraFindsHerself1971
    AlexandraFindsHerself1971 Posts: 3,106 Member
    We're just getting all sorts of things we don't want, aren't we, Connie? (hugs)
  • Yoolypr
    Yoolypr Posts: 3,284 Member
    Alexandra, is there a dental college in your town? Often they take patients for senior students to work with at a greatly reduced cost. They are supervised by their professors and get graded so there’s big incentive to do good work. And they might offer some new innovative treatments.

    Several of my family members have had great experiences. Can’t hurt to get a second opinion if possible.
  • lauriekallis
    lauriekallis Posts: 4,765 Member
    Alexandra - what unpleasant news. I really dislike going to the dentist... It sounds like a nightmare.

    Jennifer - I really don't know what to say. That sounds so very terrifying. Be gentle with yourself. And try to give yourself some special treatment on your birthday tomorrow...keep us updated.

    Connie it was such a pleasure to read your good news post. Ideally it's best to be a healthy hot mama!
  • PAV8888
    PAV8888 Posts: 14,234 Member
    edited June 2022
    @jenniferelizabethwiseman and @AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wow. I know that both of you will overcome. But I've heard of better news, right?!?!?!

    My update is basic. Garage was almost empty to use for staging. Rain started. Driven. Against the door. obviously bottom seals are not water tight. Garage has lots of water. Not suitable for staging. Either bet on no more rain over the next two weeks or try to fix the seals. I was fixing seals today! While doing enough for work like things to not end up in deep poo poo!
  • Bella_Figura
    Bella_Figura Posts: 4,322 Member
    @jenniferelizabethwiseman and @AlexandraFindsHerself1971 I'm so sorry for what you're both going through. Sending healing vibes in your direction!
  • PAV8888
    PAV8888 Posts: 14,234 Member
    Lots of healing vibes!!!
  • lauriekallis
    lauriekallis Posts: 4,765 Member
    Selling / staging is where my son/daughter in law are at. There house is so pristine at the moment...and they are still doing little things in the spare time. Yuck. Good luck with the repairs and the balancing act, PAV.

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