Chat. Happy or grumpy. We’re here for it all.
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Oh. Whatever it is that is the root cause of my balance issue has been off and on for well over a decade now.
It’s just how things are. Thanks for the good wishes.
Today was definitely better.
But I’ll have more bad days. That’s just how I roll.
Ya. I hear you about kids, & the worries over their decisions. All we grandmas can do is hope for the best sometimes.
My son is doing fairly well. Which pleases me greatly.
My stepson and his babymama? An entirely different story. A long story. We haven’t seen them in about 8 years because (serious reasons) and I worry. But I’m the wicked stepmother, and dad has dementia. So there’s nothing I can do.
Congratulations on the new job! I wish you the best with it.
And if you can’t do it? Hey. That would be disappointing. But I have a friend who has been severely disabled their entire life and they say we’re all only temporarily able bodied. It’s just that it catches up to some of us sooner than others.
Ya. That’s my version of a pep talk. Sorry.
I do tend to be fairly blunt.
I am sure you will do your very best. And that’s the key part.
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Thanks Margaret! I hear you about kiddos. I'm so sorry about your stepson and the drama, not fun at all. I hope things keep looking up for your balance issues!
It went Ok last night, although I am going to have to figure out something to combat snacking, because it is really throwing my meal schedule off.0 -
Oh the balance issues are here to stay.
And I would not be too surprised to hear from a doctor at some point that a wheelchair is in my future. My ability to walk has been declining for over a decade. With literally all doctors shrugging their shoulders and passing the buck. Or worse.
What I do hope for one day is an actual diagnosis. I have my suspicions about what this is. And if it is what I think it is? It’s not the worst thing.
What I do know is it’s not psychosomatic. And my GP agrees.
With luck my next specialist will actually listen to me.
I am glad to hear the job went well. That is great news. Do keep us informed!2 -
I did some soul searching and asked the new job if they could find a different position in the company with different hours. I am getting too old I guess to pull those kind of hours with 3-4 hours of sleep every day. They said no, and I resigned. They told me I could apply again when I have more "free time". I guess as a free baby sitter for my oldest I will never see free time again lol. Had a heart to heart with her though and told her as much as I hate to ask, she is going to have to arrange childcare for the baby at least 3 days a week so I can do something to bring in income. We can't live on social security income alone, rent has gone up again and we "make too much" for any help, which is a crock. It is either find daycare for the baby so I can try and work, or we are going to be homeless by this time next year when my son loses his SSI check he draws off of his dad.1
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I am so sorry the job didn’t work out.
That stinks.
And no joke, the financial difficulties are awful. If we didn’t have my husband’s VA disability rating supporting us, we would be absolutely screwed. As it is I do a tremendous amount of economizing.
Myself: checking in.
Last few days were OK. Quiet. And low energy on my part.
I did my nails. That’s becoming a real obsession. It distracts me while I’m doing it, and gives me something pretty to look at. And I’m getting better at it with every attempt.
Today, while doing laundry, I noticed a bunch of beads on the floor. Turns out it was my old Weight Watchers bracelet I had made for myself years ago. The idea was you would move charms around to count your daily points. The frog here is clearly silver. Nothing tarnishes so completely like neglected silver. But I kinda like it.
The elastic had turned into yellow, brittle, spaghetti like bits. So it finally broke and fell off the shelf where I had clipped it years ago.
I have them packed up with my craft stuff now. Ready for the next project, I guess.
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Those are such pretty beads!! I'm glad your past few days have been ok 😄1
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Physical therapy begins again today.
I have a mix of trepidation and happiness. It’s been a long wait for this one.2 -
Did it go Ok, Margaret?? Hopefully it is helping a bit, at least.1
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LynneM1980 wrote: »Did it go Ok, Margaret?? Hopefully it is helping a bit, at least.
Yes. Thanks.
The PT was a younger woman. Very professional. She did a lot of reflex testing. And had a hard time getting my legs to kick, which was weird because they usually do. But didn’t this time.
And she had similar issues with ankle reflexes.
I go again tomorrow. And will bring my walker. She plans to do a “walking trial” which I’ve done multiple times.
Whatever is discovered or not discovered, as long as I’m not treated as a hypochondriac? That’ll be OK.1 -
Ok, so minor gripes... I've been logging my food mostly on the app because of the bar code scanner, but for some reason the website eats all my dang logs!! For example, logged on here this morning to chat and no food recorded. *shakes fist* any tips?
Also, I was out on a nice walk today and lost my glasses. I put them in my pocket and I guess they fell out when I took my coat off.0 -
LynneM1980 wrote: »Ok, so minor gripes... I've been logging my food mostly on the app because of the bar code scanner, but for some reason the website eats all my dang logs!! For example, logged on here this morning to chat and no food recorded. *shakes fist* any tips?
Also, I was out on a nice walk today and lost my glasses. I put them in my pocket and I guess they fell out when I took my coat off.
Oooo. That sounds like a question for tech support. And also very annoying.
And sorry. Losing the glasses.
The hippies around here say “Mercury is in retrograde” when lots of bad things happen all at once.
Today was a pretty rough one for us here at the homestead. ER with my husband. And while I was there texting my son he informed me that he had tested positive for COVID.
He’s vaccinated. And past the worst. So that’s great. But my husband might be in trouble. I don’t have all the details. But they gave him a CT scan. And we have to get an immediate appointment with a urologist.
I am actually pretty worried.
And I didn’t do my exercises today. But I really really have to tomorrow. No matter what.2 -
Huge hugs. Any updates on your son or husband? How are you feeling?1
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LynneM1980 wrote: »Huge hugs. Any updates on your son or husband? How are you feeling?
My son’s COVID is officially diagnosed now. Not just a home test. And he’s on the mend.
He and his wife think he got it from her. And she got it from unvaccinated customers.
My husband? He’s feeling better today now that antibiotics are on board. But…. I would not be especially surprised if the bladder issue turns out to be pretty bad.
I have a dear friend who is a nurse, and usually talks me down off any worry cliffs when serious things happen. I hired her a few years ago to help get my husband past the last few weeks of post bypass surgery recovery. She’s going to go over the concerns with me this evening.
The truth is, we’re all just going along, atoms doing their thing. And part of their thing is random decay of molecules. Leading eventually to system collapse. (This is true no matter what your spiritual philosophy)
All we can do is enjoy the ride while it lasts.
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Huge huge hugs coming your way. My husband is also in horrible health, and we live on the doorstep of "just a matter of time now" . I'm here if you ever want to chat. I'm glad your hubby is feeling better today! That at least is a positive step.1
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Embarrassing question: best bladder leak product? Had an accident out walking today.1
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LynneM1980 wrote: »Embarrassing question: best bladder leak product? Had an accident out walking today.
I have been experiencing increased incontinence for over a decade now.
So. For a light leak, like…. some dribbling but you make it to the toilet for most of the urine? I like Poise. But honestly I didn’t use that style for long.
I have “graduated” to disposable underwear. And even then sometimes it isn’t enough.
Yesterday I added the poise pad (overnight ultimate) to my disposable underwear. I poked some big holes in the plastic of the poise pad, and when it happened…. the urine was ALL caught by this combination.
Since we were at the VA, this was a HUGE win. I was able to just change the soiled items and go on about getting my husband the appointments and stuff he needed.
I have noticed that the larger diapers (XL/L) fit around my thighs just fine until I was about 240ish. And the next size down (M/S) fit around my thighs well between 240ish and 210ish.
But that’s the smallest size I can find in the stores.
NOW, at 5’8” 188 lbs, they are freaking leaking around my thighs. All of the brands. Sometimes a lot. Which means at home I’m still sitting on a waterproof pad.
Also, most store brand adult diapers are as good (and some significantly better) than the name brands. Although Depends brand has a decent beige color that from a distance might be mistaken for cloth panties.
I am past caring what my diapers look like.
One final recommendation for anyone else who may read this later:
I really like Gorilla Grip brand reusable incontinence pads. I also really like Mighty Monkey brand.
I have Gorilla Grip chair sized pads. And I have the Mighty Monkey 34”x52”ones for my bed. VERY comfortable. And that Mighty Monkey one has held up to repeated washing over two years now.
Amazon has both brands.
They’re expensive ($40 for two of the Mighty Monkey). But worth it. Very much worth it.
They hold a LOT of liquid. They’re great to sleep on. And they do not slip or bunch up.0 -
Thank you so very very much for sharing! I am beyond dribbling to full out having accidents while I am out, which embarrasses the heck out of me. I picked up some depends today, size Large. I might try the reusables too, I am able to run though for now at home and generally only have dribbles, for which I am using period pads bc stupid poise pantyliners just don't fit me.1
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I'm sorry I've not been the best friend with responding to posts lately. My daughter has been in the hospital with something called Intussusception since Monday afternoon, and I have been a ball of stress and nerves. Between sitting with her all day during visiting hours ( she's 19 so an adult and they wouldn't let me stay outside of hours.. bah! ) I've just been logging. No exercise so to speak of besides cleaning around the house. She's home now, with a doctor's visit today to follow up since she discharged yesterday afternoon, and we need to get an appointment with a gastro doc after her biopsies come back, so probably a week or so out with that. They are testing her for celiac's disease and a few other things that I didn't catch the name of because I was too busy freaking out. I'm going to try to get back into the swing of things today!! If it doesn't rain, I'll go out walking after her visit to the doctor. I hope everyone is doing well!
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Happy Sunday everyone!! Carvana delivered my new car yesterday, so I am finally able to go do things for myself again. It is SO liberating. Living in the boonies and not having a car is just not do-able for me. I didn't get an SUV this time, but I think the car I got has a big enough trunk for the hubby's wheelchair. Still haven't heard back from the job interview I went on, so I emailed them yesterday and asked if I was still in consideration. I did get another job, but it really isn't one I want, and not enough money to live on if Ray ( hubby ) should pass. I also applied for opportunities for Ohioans with disabilities to see if they can help me get job training to do something else, since my dang bachelor's degree isn't of much use. Hubs thinks I should just do grad school, but that still doesn't guarantee a job that I can physically do. Other than that, I finally decided to call around and see if we can get help putting a ramp up for the house. Ray doesn't use his chair from the house to the car normally, but if he gets to where he needs to, I would like to have it.1
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MargaretYakoda wrote: »I’ve had some rough days lately.
Just feeling extra weak.
Just grocery shopping is a trial. I even used the motorized cart the other day. I almost used it today, and by the time I got to the checkout I kinda wished I had.
That said? I’m down another pound and a half. So, keeping on keeping on, here.
I’m still here.
Haven’t used a motorized cart for grocery shopping in a while…. But honestly, grocery shopping is still a major chore.
I was in a rear end accident about six months ago and have been dealing with an injury. Have been doing rehab again for that.
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Hi Hi
popped in for an fyi -- not sure why, but see the new challenge discussion as a sticky at top of the all forums when i use the navigation link(s) to see all (recent) discussions1 -
@MargaretYakoda -- points up to fyi about challenge as a sticky on main public forum discussion pages.
How does that even happen? There is another one stickied too right now, and have noticed a few 'private, no permission' ones stickied the last few months. Baffled
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Adventurista wrote: »@MargaretYakoda -- points up to fyi about challenge as a sticky on main public forum discussion pages.
How does that even happen? There is another one stickied too right now, and have noticed a few 'private, no permission' ones stickied the last few months. Baffled
No idea.
I stickied it as an announcement in this group. If it’s showing up as stickied in the main forum maybe that’ll help others see the group?
Growing a community is haaaaaard
For real, though. The more members the better.
Don’t forget to bookmark and follow!
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I’ve been getting annoying calluses on my palms from gripping the NuStep handles. So I’ve ordered some bike gloves that have gel pads.
I hope they solve the issue.
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My bike gloves have arrived!MargaretYakoda wrote: »I’ve been getting annoying calluses on my palms from gripping the NuStep handles. So I’ve ordered some bike gloves that have gel pads.
I hope they solve the issue.
I’m afraid they might be too big. I’m gonna ask over on the main forum. Some avid bikers will probably have more knowledge than me.
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Not a lot of folks are reading this.
Oh well.
I’ve been moping around about some blood test results…
The test was done a couple weeks back.
I finally looked at them and they’re borderline but potentially not happy news.
I don’t want to speculate too much about what it means. But it would actually explain absolutely every weird symptom I have been experiencing for the last 30 years.
Symptoms that have been vague and annoying. Symptoms that have mostly been ignored by doctors. Symptoms that have caused medical professionals to call me a hypochondriac (or just treat me like one)
I’m torn between wanting and dreading an answer, as well as a smoldering rage at doctors who should have listened to me.
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My back hurts again and I am so tired….
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I’m struggling emotionally a bit.
Trying not to obsess about some potentially worrisome stuff. I have a dr appointment next week which should clear up a few things.
Yesterday was our town’s Pride event. I volunteered last year. This year I just tried to use my rollator to get around. It was noticeably more difficult for me to maneuver. Which has me feeling down today. Because I’ve been exercising for months. It should have been easier
The fact it was harder just adds to my anxiety.
After Pride we went to the local health food store because they have an amazing hot food and deli section. Then I made a tactical error and bought some vegan marshmallows yesterday and they’re huge and absolutely delicious.
I had zero will power.
I have eaten over 1000 calories in marshmallows today.
Not a great day.
Oh well.
I’m not gonna let this drag me down.
Normally I would have posted something this personal on the newsfeed.
But FML no newsfeed.
And the community forum seems to be dying too.
So basically I’m just typing to thin air right now.
Say hello if you read this.
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Still here. Still plodding along.
One step in front of the other.0
