why are you single?

SouthernNHgirl

Married 15 yrs, divorced in June 2010. Dated off and on for about a year after the divorce and only found crazies or needy men. I decided to give myself a year to lose weight and find myself. I figure when I'm feeling better both mentally and physically I'll be open to a relationship again. I haven't dated since August 2011 and don't plan on it until at least a year from then. If someone comes along I wouldn't push him away, but I'm definitely not even close to looking.

Also, the guys I find attractive aren't attracted to me. Hopefully that will change when I'm at my goal weight and in shape.

I'm much happier being alone than with the wrong person.

wbgolden

my daughters mom cheated on me so she filed for divorce. Most girls don't want to date a single dad.

I've had the same problem, so I've stopped actively trying to play the game. Plenty of life left once the youngest moves out!

lorro

Re those of you who find girls don't want to date a single dad. That's odd. Perhaps you prefer to date childless women? None of the single mums I know will date a guy without kids, as we've found that only guys with kids understand/accept the kids needs coming first.

Monti_e_lmt

just what the question asks. if you had to come up with a reason (and i understand it's complex), why are you single?

Nobody's interested!

kdingo- I don't know why. You are absolutely beautiful, you remind me of a lady from the 40s that sang. There is someone for you, he just hasn't seen you yet. Good Luck and Happy hunting

bluezy83

I am single because I like the no drama simplicity of life without a partner. However, it can be a tad boring :ohwell:

SaintOnEarth

I'm single because I am working on myself right now. I am currently waiting on a decision to come from D.C. to see what my next few years will be spent doing. I am focusing on myself right now and not looking for anyone, so that is another reason. If someone were to come along, even though I am not actively searching, it would be great.

kerri_thing_1

my fiance/best friend was killed in a bike accident almost 4 years ago. i've tried dating but no luck so far

Anu_mee13

I needed to take time off from dating and work on myself! Inside and out. I'm ready to start dating again, just not quite sure how to put myself back out there.

Sr1023

I was in a relationship for almost three years and we broke up because of being in different points of our life and the fact that I am VERY outspoken in how I feel about everything. That was in the end of November and since then, I feel like I would almost rather be sad from being alone then to go through the heartache again.

Anu_mee13

The people I want to date don't want to date me and I don't want to date the people who want to date me. I'm also very fat and very picky. If I could change one of those things, dating would probably be a lot easier for me :ohwell:

ajfrench

In past years, was because my life and my opinion of myself got in the way.

But after alot of "work" both mentally and physically, I feel like its a new day and a new me! Still have goals to accomplish on the outside, but the inside is SO much happier and healthier.

Looking forward to seeing what (or who??) is in store for me. :bigsmile:

^^^^^^This and the other reason is that I seem to attract women who like to boil rabbits in large pots!

Haha, bunny boilers!! Not funny if you're the target, but hysterical phrase.

La_Amazona

It'd be funny if someone said "because I'm crazy, psycho, unstable and the last 2 restraining orders are still on.."

:huh: :bigsmile:

damonmath

Divorced after 8.5 years of marriage... Sometimes people just grow apart.

committomittxoxo

Because my most recent ex-boyfriend is a self-centered, egotistical, prick... And I'd rather be single than be with ANY of my ex-boyfriends... :flowerforyou:

paulaSo8

The people I want to date don't want to date me and I don't want to date the people who want to date me. I'm also very fat and very picky. If I could change one of those things, dating would probably be a lot easier for me :ohwell:

Exactly what she said

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

when my husband went to Heaven, I declared that I would not get married again... it's been 10 years and i've been on a couple dates... I found a really good man who is now one of my best friends! I think I'm just too picky... waiting for 'my prince' to come riding in and sweep me off my feet into happily ever after land...

NeedANewFocus

The people I want to date don't want to date me and I don't want to date the people who want to date me. I'm also very fat and very picky. If I could change one of those things, dating would probably be a lot easier for me :ohwell:

Exactly what she said

i used to have this exact same mind set. At times, I still have these thoughts. However, I was introduced to a curriculum that helped me clear the space. Weight has nothing to do with dating. Feel free to PM me if you interested to find out more about how my life changed regarding this very concept. :flowerforyou:

As a point of clarification, this is an invite to learn how dating is easy and not directly related to our own weight perceptions.

Miss_curvy

Because im too sexy for my ex

I dont know, i think its better to waste the time in myself, doing exercise, shopping , etc... of course all of us are different
in my case im miss independient sometimes... :laugh:






*sorry if i have mistakes, i dont speak english at all

j_emerson

Not by choice, but learning to find myself. I've been divorced since Sept 2009. Less than a year into my marriage, my husband decided my best friend (or so I thought) was better for him. They went behind my back from Feb to June 2009 until he decided he got everything he could out of me (financially) and left. I've dated since then, but was never happy. Finally realized until I'm happy with myself, I'll never be truly happy in any aspect of my life.

cdngirl71

The people I want to date don't want to date me and I don't want to date the people who want to date me. I'm also very fat and very picky. If I could change one of those things, dating would probably be a lot easier for me :ohwell:

Exactly what she said

Yep same here!!

Begood03

Because I'd rather be single than in a miserable relationship.

^^ Exactly! ^^

firesoforion

I'm in a period of transition in my life. City to city, life stage to life stage, it's hard for it to happen right now, as it has been for the last two years.
I'm shy around people I like. I'm outgoing around people I'm not interested in, but (and because) they don't see the whole me.
I just haven't met the right person yet (pretty sure there's only one person out there odd enough to be a match, lol).

In short: It'll happen when it happens. It hasn't happened yet.

Karis5401

because I need to work on myself before I can work on a relationship. I am also very over weight and that doesn't make men want to date me at all.

naedaily

I am single because: (in no particular reason)
1. My heart was broken at 21 and I didn't feel like dating for years after that.
2. The guys I meet I am not attracted to
3. I don't like dating random guys, I prefer to know them on a friend base before hand
4. Language barrier - when I decided I wanted to date, I moved to a different country. Living in Japan and not knowing enough Japanese makes it really hard to find a cute little Japanese man to date.
5. Japanese men - they are really shy and you always have to make the first move.
6. I don't believe in making the first move. I'm an old school romantic and believe in the guy making the first move.
7. I am fat, not to mention I don't think I am very beautiful.
8. Self confidence - Number 7 is the reason I have low self confidence.

TBoom915

I get one type of guy that approaches me, but I refuse to settle. Plus I feel God is still working on me and him, whomever he may be. I want to be ready when I meet him and I pray that my next relationship will be my last.

hcoburn37

my husband cheated on me for 3 years and I was oblivious. I work in child care and I have no idea where to go or how to meet a decent guy. My trust level is not very high right now. But as pay back I did drop 45 pounds and he wants me back and can't have me now.

firesoforion

I already answered this question but I have a more succinct version.

I have not yet become who I'm supposed to be, and without that, I can't find who I'm supposed to be with.

MiaOrange

The people I want to date don't want to date me and I don't want to date the people who want to date me. I'm also very fat and very picky. If I could change one of those things, dating would probably be a lot easier for me :ohwell:

This is how I feel, except not many people want to date me. I think I have a wall built up because of being hurt in the past.

jpruth

Someone claimed I was emotionally unavailable because she never personally saw me in a relationship. I said that I don't give chase just because someone is cute.

She didn't get it.

I wanted to elaborate that I'm more interested in a woman who reads Shakespeare rather than watches "Jersey Shore" but it didn't seem worth explaining further.

jamszy

Due to the oilfield influx of a small city, the ratio of guys to girls is 22:1 (best guess, ha), so it's hard to meet that perfect woman who's not already taken.