For the ladies that have approached a man...
La_Amazona
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Okay, so I swore I'd never ask a guy out FIRST (and I probably won't although I have no problem asking a guy out once I know he's interested and 1st date has been completed) but there's this guy....
He works out at the gym I do. He could be younger than me, which would be horrible but I'm not sure. I don't even know his name. I don't know if he's attached or what.
What I do know is he works out on Monday nights and Thursday nights when I'm there. He doesn't wear a ring and he's very cute. When I first saw him I noticed him. Then several weeks down the road I started to recognize him, he recognized me too.
I am up close and personal with him when I'm in the weight room because he and I are usually the only ones in there. We have smiled at each, looked at each and looked away, etc.
Then one time I was in the weight room by myself and he was out on a machine in the main room. I was jamming out dancing and he came in and caught me. He laughed and smiled at me (blushed) and I turned red, smiled, laughed like an idiot.
Last week, I was on the Arc Trainer when he came in.. I looked over and he looked at me and he sort of smiled and nodded.
So we basically know each other exists. Haha.
The problems are:
I'm disgusting and sweaty at the gym. I always think "this is NOT how I look like on a normal day.. you should see me in my dresses/ heels"
That I don't normally talk to a guy first. Last time, I swear I thought he was going to say something but nope.
I don't know anything about him... whether he has a gf, if he's 21 (he doesn't look that young but still), nothing.
Tonight I will see him. I think I'm going to say something but don't know what. A "hi" is good enough right? lol
He works out at the gym I do. He could be younger than me, which would be horrible but I'm not sure. I don't even know his name. I don't know if he's attached or what.
What I do know is he works out on Monday nights and Thursday nights when I'm there. He doesn't wear a ring and he's very cute. When I first saw him I noticed him. Then several weeks down the road I started to recognize him, he recognized me too.
I am up close and personal with him when I'm in the weight room because he and I are usually the only ones in there. We have smiled at each, looked at each and looked away, etc.
Then one time I was in the weight room by myself and he was out on a machine in the main room. I was jamming out dancing and he came in and caught me. He laughed and smiled at me (blushed) and I turned red, smiled, laughed like an idiot.
Last week, I was on the Arc Trainer when he came in.. I looked over and he looked at me and he sort of smiled and nodded.
So we basically know each other exists. Haha.
The problems are:
I'm disgusting and sweaty at the gym. I always think "this is NOT how I look like on a normal day.. you should see me in my dresses/ heels"
That I don't normally talk to a guy first. Last time, I swear I thought he was going to say something but nope.
I don't know anything about him... whether he has a gf, if he's 21 (he doesn't look that young but still), nothing.
Tonight I will see him. I think I'm going to say something but don't know what. A "hi" is good enough right? lol
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I say go for it. Say hello and see where that leads. Don't worry about being sweaty. Guys like girls that workout.0
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Why does it matter if he's younger?0
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Just say hi and nod.... whats the worse that can happen( hes married and got 4 kids). Take a risk0
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Why does it matter if he's younger?
As long as he isn't under 28, it's okay.
I think I need to get out of my comfort zone more often lol...
And when I'm sweaty.. I'm talking sweaty.. just as much as he is. I don't play at the gym. :smokin:0 -
Sweaty is good - trust me. The guy I've been talking to has only seen me at work wearing a uniform and hair in a ponytail or at the gym sweaty as hell. Every time we leave the gym I get a text from him saying how sexy I looked. Guess he's too shy to say it in person
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I once had a guy tell me that being all sweaty for a girl is sexy. I mean think about what else you get all sweaty doing lol:blushing:0
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Men do this stuff pretty frequently. He won't care if you don't have makeup on. I see sweaty women at the gym that I find hot. Most of the time they are wearing their ipods, a sign that they aren't wanting to be approached.
Just smile and say hi. If he likes you, he'll talk.0 -
Hmm we both have our earphones on.
I don't know. I'll just smile. :happy:
ETA: i said headphones.. :laugh: who wears those? I meant earphones.0 -
First thing...being sweaty in a gym is not a turn off,the whole notion that a lady has to be "dolled up" to be noticed is more a creation of the female mind then a reality.
Second is that right now he has no idea if you are attached or not,am guessing that many ladies don`t wear jewelry while lifting weights so the absence of a ring is not an indication of marital status.
Say hi to him,that alone will give him some idea you are available.0 -
I even thought of asking him to show me how to use this certain machine.. I really do want to use it for my squats, so it's not a lie. But I imagine that's cheesy.0
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I even thought of asking him to show me how to use this certain machine.. I really do want to use it for my squats, so it's not a lie. But I imagine that's cheesy.
It's not cheesy!!! I was in the "boy" part of the gym and needed help and I asked the closest man to me. He answered me and it was fine. It would have been a great opener for me if that had been my intention!0 -
You could just say "Hi I am ... I just thought I would introduce myself since we seem to have the same sechedule" or "I wanted to introduce myself and find out your name just incase I needed a spotter at some point" I think something along those lines would not come off as a come on but woud open up a conversation.0
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First thing...being sweaty in a gym is not a turn off,the whole notion that a lady has to be "dolled up" to be noticed is more a creation of the female mind then a reality.
Second is that right now he has no idea if you are attached or not,am guessing that many ladies don`t wear jewelry while lifting weights so the absence of a ring is not an indication of marital status.
Say hi to him,that alone will give him some idea you are available.
I echo what you are saying. I usually say Hi How are you tonight? If the are interested they will continue to talk. If they are not they will say how they are and leave it at that. You have nothing to loose.0 -
okie.. i'm going to say Hi.. then I'm going to ask about the machine and introduce myself. I'll let him take it from there.0
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IMO, asking about the machine seems contrived (whether it is or not). There are people that work there that can do that. Just say hi, smile, if he's available and interested, he'll move.0
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True but usually we're the only 2 people in the whole gym at that time on Thursday. My gym is a smaller one.. not a Gold's or anything like that.
Okay, I'll think about it. I do think introducing myself would be great since we do see each other and seem to "greet" one another.0 -
I thought boys like to save girls!!! Totally ask him about the machine! If he is shy this will give him an opportunity to talk to you without having to make the first move and if he doesn't want to continue talking then he has an out .. if he does .. you are there!0
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IMO, asking about the machine seems contrived (whether it is or not). There are people that work there that can do that. Just say hi, smile, if he's available and interested, he'll move.
yeah but during our wedding vows, I can somehow add something about the machine that brought us together.
J/K :laugh: [0 -
i say why not! i have had some great fun going after guys i wanted, i didnt want to miss out. i have tried the bold approach and the regular approach...
i have come to discover over the years that guys don't care if you sweat or wear makeup, if they do then perhaps they should stop wearing foundation themselves.0 -
Someone just finished their workout. Spill it!0
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You could just say "Hi I am ... I just thought I would introduce myself since we seem to have the same sechedule" or "I wanted to introduce myself and find out your name just incase I needed a spotter at some point" I think something along those lines would not come off as a come on but woud open up a conversation.
I vote for this approach....0 -
IMO, asking about the machine seems contrived (whether it is or not). There are people that work there that can do that. Just say hi, smile, if he's available and interested, he'll move.
I have to disagree. I've never once went to a worker and asked about a machine - I always ask people around me. I think it depends on how you say it. If you're "oh hoo hoo giggling how do you work this" then yeah, it's contrived. But if it's "hey, how do you work this...oh thanks, I'm ________" it's normal!0 -
So I get there and I didn't see him. He was super late today. I honestly thought he wasn't going to show but he did. :bigsmile:
I tested the waters. This is how I did it.
So I dropped my aluminum water bottle's top when I was on the ARC trainer. I thought, hmmmm this would be a good way for him to say something to me. We were the only 2 in the entire gym.
This guy smiles a lot at me. Almost like a shy blushing smile. I LOVE IT. I get all red too when I smile. We look at each other and smile each time. Blah.
Anywho, he went to restroom or something and I'm in the weight room. He comes in and takes off his headphones and says something so I take mine off.. he says there's a key chain thing on the floor by the ARC trainer, was it mine? (yes! he fell for it!)So I played it off (:blushing:) and said "excuse me?" He repeated and I pretend to look (hehe) and said yes that was mine so I run to get it. By now I'm super nervous. I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING THEN BUT I DID NOT.
Then I leave the weight room to do my lunges because I couldn't take it!.
By now I'm such a blushing mess and all he did was mention my damn water bottle cap.
Eventually I make my way back into the weight room where he's at to do my dead lifts and abs. He then asks me (i have my earphones though) if I want him to move the bench that was between us for me.. I'm fumbling with my stupid iphone to turn it down and before you know it he moved all the bench for me so I could have more room. :blushing: I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING THEN BUT I DID NOT.
I had to look away because I was smiling like an *kitten*. We looked at each other AGAIN and smiled big.
Oy.
Maybe he's just being polite. Whatever. All I know is I have a new crush now. :bigsmile: You all must think I'm men crazy.
So eventually he left. Le sigh.
If he liked me, he SHOULD have said something. He had the perfect opportunity to say something when he mentioned my bottle cap. And then I wonder why the hell didn't HE pick it up?0 -
Keep in mind that right now he still has no idea if you are single or married so he is being cautious and a gentleman.
Since he did speak to you and offer help now it is your chance next time you see him to say hi and tell him your name.
If only it were easy but it isn`t.0 -
I will do...
I feel like he likes me. But then again, who knows. I thought my stupid former crush did and apparently I read his signals wrong.0 -
IMO, asking about the machine seems contrived (whether it is or not). There are people that work there that can do that. Just say hi, smile, if he's available and interested, he'll move.
yeah but during our wedding vows, I can somehow add something about the machine that brought us together.
J/K :laugh: [
and the wedding cake will be made in the shape of the machine...... :laugh:If he liked me, he SHOULD have said something. He had the perfect opportunity to say something when he mentioned my bottle cap. And then I wonder why the hell didn't HE pick it up?
this is just me but if I am all sweaty and stinky from the gym and someone drops something personal, especially a water bottle cap, the LAST thing I'd wanna do is pick it up for them with my sweaty paws. that person may not appreciate it. sweat and that sorta thing doesn't bother me but it may bother others. I seen it at times when I am using a machine @ my YMCA. I get a clean fresh towel, spray and wipe it down throughly after I am done with it. The next person waiting to use it after me, NOT BEING SEXIST but it's always been a girl, looks at it funny. Like I missed a spot or something...:grumble: it's just sweat lady it's not going to kill you.....0 -
This thread made me smile. Very cute. I haven't had a crush in so long. I hope you're enjoying it. Maybe next time you can ditch the earphones and hopefully that will make you more approachable. Good luck 0
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I think he is just moving to the next stage at the moment, which is contacting a buddy and asking him to steal your handbag at the end of the gym session, when you go out.I tested the waters. This is how I did it.
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Then he'll run after him and "beat the crap" (not for real) out of his friend to get your handbag back.
Talk about direct approach! :laugh:
I personally would have sold the aluminium water bottle top on eBay:
"Hey! Look, I just found an aluminium water bottle top, sold it on eBay and made a few $. Wanna have a coffee with me or something?"
Last: he is either amused at your obvious attempts to hit on him (or flattered) and not interested, or extremely shy. Perhaps go and talk to him, I dunno. It's risk free to be honest.0 -
Like I told you before, I don't hit on women in the gym. He opened his mouth and spoke, that's a step in the right direction. Next time you're both in the gym, you must tell him your name.0
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you shoud just go for it....if you are the only ones in the gym, and he is not trying to go somewhere else where he has more "room" then he is definitely interested in at least being friends........so be risky 0
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