For the ladies that have approached a man...
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You are freaking adorable! lol ..Now it is definately your move. IMO he tried a couple times...so now it is on you darling! :bigsmile:0
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IMO, asking about the machine seems contrived (whether it is or not). There are people that work there that can do that. Just say hi, smile, if he's available and interested, he'll move.
yeah but during our wedding vows, I can somehow add something about the machine that brought us together.
J/K :laugh: [
and the wedding cake will be made in the shape of the machine...... :laugh:If he liked me, he SHOULD have said something. He had the perfect opportunity to say something when he mentioned my bottle cap. And then I wonder why the hell didn't HE pick it up?
this is just me but if I am all sweaty and stinky from the gym and someone drops something personal, especially a water bottle cap, the LAST thing I'd wanna do is pick it up for them with my sweaty paws. that person may not appreciate it. sweat and that sorta thing doesn't bother me but it may bother others. I seen it at times when I am using a machine @ my YMCA. I get a clean fresh towel, spray and wipe it down throughly after I am done with it. The next person waiting to use it after me, NOT BEING SEXIST but it's always been a girl, looks at it funny. Like I missed a spot or something...:grumble: it's just sweat lady it's not going to kill you.....
Good point. I thought it was weird he didn't pick it up!0 -
This thread made me smile. Very cute. I haven't had a crush in so long. I hope you're enjoying it. Maybe next time you can ditch the earphones and hopefully that will make you more approachable. Good luck
I did ditch the earphones when I was lifting during squats but he was in the middle of his lifting. :blushing: I could hear him groan and breath really hard.
This is cute yes, but last time I had a crush he totally rejected me and put me in the beloved friend zone. :ohwell: I like this part of a new crush because you have no idea what's going on. Talking, exchanging numbers, dates, kissing, etc make it all complicated lol.0 -
I think he is just moving to the next stage at the moment, which is contacting a buddy and asking him to steal your handbag at the end of the gym session, when you go out.I tested the waters. This is how I did it.
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Then he'll run after him and "beat the crap" (not for real) out of his friend to get your handbag back.
Talk about direct approach! :laugh:
I personally would have sold the aluminium water bottle top on eBay:
"Hey! Look, I just found an aluminium water bottle top, sold it on eBay and made a few $. Wanna have a coffee with me or something?"
Last: he is either amused at your obvious attempts to hit on him (or flattered) and not interested, or extremely shy. Perhaps go and talk to him, I dunno. It's risk free to be honest.
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I was NOT obvious in my attempt. It DID fall.. I just acted like I didn't see it fall. Plus he was in the weight room when it fell so he didn't know. And it was a good 20 minutes later that he brought it to my attention. So there.0 -
Like I told you before, I don't hit on women in the gym. He opened his mouth and spoke, that's a step in the right direction. Next time you're both in the gym, you must tell him your name.
I'm definately going to introduce myself next time. I just have to think, I don't want to make it too obvious because I have to see him several times a week. How awkward would it be if he wasn't interested/ is attached/ or gay or something!?! I don't know.
His voice was wonderful though. He's smile is even better... especially when he's blushing. 0 -
Moe and helovesme- The funny thing is, when he told me about my water cap, I didn't even say thank you. :sad: Doh. I just said "oh yeah that iS mine!" and ran to get it then stayed out in the gym for 10 minutes to do lunges. I'm so dumb. I was in the weight room to begin with then I stayed out there. :ohwell: I just got nervous.0
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Moe and helovesme- The funny thing is, when he told me about my water cap, I didn't even say thank you. :sad: Doh. I just said "oh yeah that iS mine!" and ran to get it then stayed out in the gym for 10 minutes to do lunges. I'm so dumb. I was in the weight room to begin with then I stayed out there. :ohwell: I just got nervous.
There is no guarantee that something will click but you have no reason to feel like a guy would not be attracted to you.
You are beautiful,believe it. :flowerforyou:0 -
Moe and helovesme- The funny thing is, when he told me about my water cap, I didn't even say thank you. :sad: Doh. I just said "oh yeah that iS mine!" and ran to get it then stayed out in the gym for 10 minutes to do lunges. I'm so dumb. I was in the weight room to begin with then I stayed out there. :ohwell: I just got nervous.
There is no guarantee that something will click but you have no reason to feel like a guy would not be attracted to you.
You are beautiful,believe it. :flowerforyou:
Darn you Carl. Why can't I assume it will click? I want it to click. The guys that want to click with me.. eh, I have no interest clicking with them. But the 1 or 2 that I want...0 -
Moe and helovesme- The funny thing is, when he told me about my water cap, I didn't even say thank you. :sad: Doh. I just said "oh yeah that iS mine!" and ran to get it then stayed out in the gym for 10 minutes to do lunges. I'm so dumb. I was in the weight room to begin with then I stayed out there. :ohwell: I just got nervous.
There is no guarantee that something will click but you have no reason to feel like a guy would not be attracted to you.
You are beautiful,believe it. :flowerforyou:
Darn you Carl. Why can't I assume it will click? I want it to click. The guys that want to click with me.. eh, I have no interest clicking with them. But the 1 or 2 that I want...
It very well may and sounds as if he is interested but there is no way I could promise you that is all.
One thing I can say is that if you don`t put some effort into making it happen then it probably won`t.
Not a sob story but it is pretty tough for a guy to put his neck and ego on the line too when it comes to asking a lady out.
Being told no or being ignored cuts our legs out from under us so don`t wait for him to sweep you off your feet.
Talk to him. 0 -
A bottle cap lost "inadvertently".I was NOT obvious in my attempt.[...] So there.
A girl giggling, smiling, blushing and forgetful.
Guy and you keep looking at each other, smiling and blushing.
Guy moves bench and stuff.
Well, he must be quite thick (or really innocent) then if he hasn't figured anything out - at least that there is some *moderate* interest.0 -
You're doing it wrong!
You should do what I do and get drunk then go over and be super bold, tell him how awesome you both are, and that you should be awesome together!
...wait.. no, don't do that.. it only works sometimes.0 -
You're doing it wrong!
You should do what I do and get drunk then go over and be super bold, tell him how awesome you both are, and that you should be awesome together!
...wait.. no, don't do that.. it only works sometimes.
I do this often actually.
If I could have a glass of wine before the gym I would... then I'd be brave!0 -
A bottle cap lost "inadvertently".I was NOT obvious in my attempt.[...] So there.
A girl giggling, smiling, blushing and forgetful.
Guy and you keep looking at each other, smiling and blushing.
Guy moves bench and stuff.
Well, he must be quite thick (or really innocent) then if he hasn't figured anything out - at least that there is some *moderate* interest.
Good points! Le sigh.0 -
You're doing it wrong!
You should do what I do and get drunk then go over and be super bold, tell him how awesome you both are, and that you should be awesome together!
...wait.. no, don't do that.. it only works sometimes.
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Just talk to the guy!!!!! I dont see what's so difficult about that. Pretend like you dont fancy him and just talk to him like a human being!! I mean, with the whole gym to yourselves, it would be perfectly natural to strike up a conversation with somebody just to be sociable, wouldnt it? :bigsmile:
The hard bit would be asking him out!!! But dont do that until you've talked to him enough to find out if he's got a partner. You can ask subtle questions in that area. Or, what I've found is that guys with partners, let me know pretty soon. Its like a secret signal that happens. Kind of like 'I know you're interested in me and I think you're attractive, however, I need to let you know and keep my conscious clear by dropping the 'my girlfriend' line in our conversation'......
So, just talk.....in between squats and lunges or whatever. You obviously dont want to interupt each others work out.
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
So I get there and I didn't see him. He was super late today. I honestly thought he wasn't going to show but he did. :bigsmile:
I tested the waters. This is how I did it.
So I dropped my aluminum water bottle's top when I was on the ARC trainer. I thought, hmmmm this would be a good way for him to say something to me. We were the only 2 in the entire gym.
This guy smiles a lot at me. Almost like a shy blushing smile. I LOVE IT. I get all red too when I smile. We look at each other and smile each time. Blah.
Anywho, he went to restroom or something and I'm in the weight room. He comes in and takes off his headphones and says something so I take mine off.. he says there's a key chain thing on the floor by the ARC trainer, was it mine? (yes! he fell for it!)So I played it off (:blushing:) and said "excuse me?" He repeated and I pretend to look (hehe) and said yes that was mine so I run to get it. By now I'm super nervous. I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING THEN BUT I DID NOT.
Then I leave the weight room to do my lunges because I couldn't take it!.
By now I'm such a blushing mess and all he did was mention my damn water bottle cap.
Eventually I make my way back into the weight room where he's at to do my dead lifts and abs. He then asks me (i have my earphones though) if I want him to move the bench that was between us for me.. I'm fumbling with my stupid iphone to turn it down and before you know it he moved all the bench for me so I could have more room. :blushing: I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING THEN BUT I DID NOT.
I had to look away because I was smiling like an *kitten*. We looked at each other AGAIN and smiled big.
Oy.
Maybe he's just being polite. Whatever. All I know is I have a new crush now. :bigsmile: You all must think I'm men crazy.
So eventually he left. Le sigh.
If he liked me, he SHOULD have said something. He had the perfect opportunity to say something when he mentioned my bottle cap. And then I wonder why the hell didn't HE pick it up?
Lol! You're doing fine. Words do not need to be spoken, you've had an entire conversation through non-verbals. My advice, forget about what you are going to say and concentrate on teasing the guy to death. :bigsmile:0 -
so what's the next step?
wouldn't it be funny if he were on this site reading this thread?0 -
so what's the next step?
wouldn't it be funny if he were on this site reading this thread?
not at all.
next step is to introduce myself and save him from all that blushing and giggling he does...
j/k
but i am going to introduce myself.0 -
so what's the next step?
wouldn't it be funny if he were on this site reading this thread?
not at all.
next step is to introduce myself and save him from all that blushing and giggling he does...
j/k
but i am going to introduce myself.
now that's a great idea!0 -
Doomed. Over. Done. Fail.
I saw him today... with 2 little boys. He brought them to the gym.
Meh.
I feel he's married and not a single dad. He didn't look at me today as he usually does.0 -
2 little boys. Did you get the hint?Doomed. Over. Done. Fail.
I saw him today... with 2 little boys. He brought them to the gym.
Meh.
I feel he's married and not a single dad. He didn't look at me today as he usually does.
Ah well, on to your next conquest!0 -
2 little boys. Did you get the hint?Doomed. Over. Done. Fail.
I saw him today... with 2 little boys. He brought them to the gym.
Meh.
I feel he's married and not a single dad. He didn't look at me today as he usually does.
Ah well, on to your next conquest!
Boo! Dang! I'm sorry
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2 little boys. Did you get the hint?Doomed. Over. Done. Fail.
I saw him today... with 2 little boys. He brought them to the gym.
Meh.
I feel he's married and not a single dad. He didn't look at me today as he usually does.
Ah well, on to your next conquest!
:sad: And here I thought he might be 21! Lol
Okay I'm over it... :bigsmile:0 -
Cougar!!! :laugh::sad: And here I thought he might be 21! Lol
Okay I'm over it... :bigsmile:0 -
Ah well... Next! 0
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Exactly!!Ah well... Next!0 -
Ah well... Next!
yup0 -
At first I was shocked. :sad: Then I thought.. well maybe he's in a big brother program. :noway:
Then I heard one of them say DADDY. :ohwell:
Then I got mad and lifted.0 -
Aw man! We thought he was so cute! (notice I insert "we" because I am living vicariously). Well at least he is a good man and didn't approach you. If anything, your radar for good people is on. :flowerforyou: 0
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He may be single, but then you have your no kids rule.0
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