Message I just received - if you need a laugh :)
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Man this thread is FUNNY especially being someone that totally sucks at online dating.Here is the email that I send most women.
First I introduce myself and say:
"My name is Gionni and I found your profile very interesting! I am new here and trying to meet new interesting people! Its hard to really tell if someone is fascinating just based on their profile so I hope we can start a conversion!
THEN I write about something I read in their profile like:
"My favorite actor/director is Woody Allen too. I just finished "Midnight in Paris" it definitely wasn't what I expected!"
What do you think? Terrible isn't it ? I tried everything but nothing works!!!!!!
I'd answer you :flowerforyou:0 -
Man this thread is FUNNY especially being someone that totally sucks at online dating.Here is the email that I send most women.
First I introduce myself and say:
"My name is Gionni and I found your profile very interesting! I am new here and trying to meet new interesting people! Its hard to really tell if someone is fascinating just based on their profile so I hope we can start a conversion!
THEN I write about something I read in their profile like:
"My favorite actor/director is Woody Allen too. I just finished "Midnight in Paris" it definitely wasn't what I expected!"
What do you think? Terrible isn't it ? I tried everything but nothing works!!!!!!
No, it's not terrible. It's polite, respectful, nicely worded. At first I was going to say that it annoys me when guys send "canned" messages (I can tell them send the same message to everyone), but you said that you like to add something personal related to the woman. Good move. Half the time I can tell that the guy didn't bother to read my entire profile (if any!!!)0 -
I used to write personal messages to each person but I got frustrated when they didn't reply (which they never do). So I write a "canned" opening and when a short personal message. That why I can deal with the rejection better
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"My name is Gionni and I found your profile very interesting! I am new here and trying to meet new interesting people! Its hard to really tell if someone is fascinating just based on their profile so I hope we can start a conversion!
I thought "interesting" was just another word for lame, lol
Since your intro was obviously canned, I probably woudln't have even read so far as to even get to the personal part. Not trying to be vain, but I used to get so many "hey sexy" and canned messages I would hit delete immediately upon seeing the canned part. Maybe you could start with the personal stuff and then a canned closing?
Just one (single) person's opinion
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Man this thread is FUNNY especially being someone that totally sucks at online dating.Here is the email that I send most women.
First I introduce myself and say:
"My name is Gionni and I found your profile very interesting! I am new here and trying to meet new interesting people! Its hard to really tell if someone is fascinating just based on their profile so I hope we can start a conversion!
THEN I write about something I read in their profile like:
"My favorite actor/director is Woody Allen too. I just finished "Midnight in Paris" it definitely wasn't what I expected!"
What do you think? Terrible isn't it ? I tried everything but nothing works!!!!!!
I'd very likely reply! Just a quick comment though, you have 5 sentences and only one ends in a period. That many exclamation points just kinda rubbed me the wrong way. If I was getting jaded with online dating, that might be enough to put me off. Just some friendly feedback... 0 -
If your message is canned, it's dog poop.
If it isn't canned but not long enough, it doesn't get the attention.
If it isn't canned and is too long, it's creepy and you increase the risk of tripping on something plus you wasted your life.
I think most of the girls in their 20s on this website are challenged intellectually. Seriously.
I think I shall try Gionni's approach though. Or perhaps something else: I've read though that it's better to shoot in the dark a canned decent message to all the girl with 2-3 "holes" in the text where you insert some stuff she likes (better ROI, and if the girl likes you she'll reply anyway).
Something similar to: "Hey I see you like [INSERT INTEREST1 HERE]. I must say I'm... etc etc"0 -
"My name is Gionni and I found your profile very interesting! I am new here and trying to meet new interesting people! Its hard to really tell if someone is fascinating just based on their profile so I hope we can start a conversion!
THEN I write about something I read in their profile like:
"My favorite actor/director is Woody Allen too. I just finished "Midnight in Paris" it definitely wasn't what I expected!"
What do you think? Terrible isn't it ? I tried everything but nothing works!!!!!!
I like this, especially the 'hope we can start a conversation'!!
I dont even care that its 'canned'. I think that its short enough to spark my interest, and I like the personal touch at the end :bigsmile: (Long, canned messages saying how beautiful you are and perfect for making a long and happy life and I think I love you already, are bad!! lol)
Just one thing I would reword: where you say "I'm trying to meet some new interesting people" I would say "I'm looking for that special person". Everyone woman likes to think she's special (as does every man?) rather than one of many!!
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
If your message is canned, it's dog poop.
If it isn't canned but not long enough, it doesn't get the attention.
If it isn't canned and is too long, it's creepy and you increase the risk of tripping on something plus you wasted your life.
:laugh: :laugh: you make me laugh Flam!! Until I started reading the guy comments on this forum, I always thought that (reasonably attractive, active) men (without fish or dog pictures!!....lol) had the pick of the crop on dating sites!! You've given me more of a balanced view :flowerforyou:0 -
You guys are so nice! i wish the ladies online shared your opinions! BTW men on dating sites have it bad. I send 1000s of canned and personal emails and have only got a dozen back tops0
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If your message is canned, it's dog poop.
If it isn't canned but not long enough, it doesn't get the attention.
If it isn't canned and is too long, it's creepy and you increase the risk of tripping on something plus you wasted your life.
I think most of the girls in their 20s on this website are challenged intellectually. Seriously.
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You guys are so nice! i wish the ladies online shared your opinions! BTW men on dating sites have it bad. I send 1000s of canned and personal emails and have only got a dozen back tops
this is the funny part.
"I want personalized e-mail." If the guy writes a long, nice e-mail but:
isn't my type
doesn't have a job
isn't' my type
isn't attractive
isn't my type
takes a picture of himself in the mirror
isn't my type
profile sucks
isn't my type
then you're not going to respond.
The guy could write the sequel to the twilight series in an e-mail and he probably wouldn't get a response if he "isn't your type"
Ladies......
Quit being picky about the initial e-mail and give a guy a chance. If he sucks at writing in the second e-mail then move on.0 -
Quit being picky about the initial e-mail and give a guy a chance.
Hmmm, maybe women will stop being picky about the initial email once men stop being picky about the initial appearance
maybe women will give a poor-email writer more of a chance once men give someone with a few extra pounds more of a chance...:bigsmile:0 -
The guy could write the sequel to the twilight series in an e-mail and he probably wouldn't get a response if he "isn't your type"
If he wrote the sequel to the twilight series...he DEFINITELY isn't my type, lol!
I absolutely promise if I ever go back online dating sites I will, will, will, give every guy who actually asks me out a chance...
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Quit being picky about the initial e-mail and give a guy a chance.
Hmmm, maybe women will stop being picky about the initial email once men stop being picky about the initial appearance
maybe women will give a poor-email writer more of a chance once men give someone with a few extra pounds more of a chance...:bigsmile:
haha, I didn't say that a poor e-mail writer should warrant a response. But if it is semi-canned response with all the dotted i's and crossed t's (and if you f that up on a computer you're definitely out) then maybe it's worth a response?0 -
The guy could write the sequel to the twilight series in an e-mail and he probably wouldn't get a response if he "isn't your type"
If he wrote the sequel to the twilight series...he DEFINITELY isn't my type, lol!
I absolutely promise if I ever go back online dating sites I will, will, will, give every guy who actually asks me out a chance...
Lol, I'm not saying that. Just don't discredit a guy if you like his profile but he sent you a canned e-mail for the initial mail.
Oh come on, you know you're dying to see what happens next! 0 -
its hard to figure what a girls type is online. I only write if I fill some/all of the criteria. If i wrote nothing but personal emails I would TOTALLY give up on women 100% and maybe try an "alternative lifestyle. " Writing personal emails can be emotional especially the ones that talk about WHY your a perfect match. I figure that if a girl thinks I am her type it doesn't really matter what the initial email says because, if she is serious, she would at least want to give me a chance. I read an article that said the guys that are the most successful online are the ones that email a million women with a nice canned email (he called it the "cut and paste" method) and once a girl bite THEN seduce her with charm.0
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seduce her
Exactly why I used to delete those canned messages. Well, that and also I work long hours and didn't physically have time to read through 30+ emails a day full of random stuff that doesn't apply to me. I don't want to be the one girl who bites out of a wide-cast-net for the next conquest.
As much as women complain about not being able to find a good man, I'm really intrigued learning more about the male side of this coin.0 -
its hard to figure what a girls type is online.
everybody has different things they like and don't like... maybe you could think of some women in your life that are the kind of woman you'd want to settle down with and then see how you can be - and portray yourself (I say that because sometimes we portray ourselves as some other kind of person by accident)- as the kind of man they want.
A man who is right for me is not going to be the kind of man that works for "most women." So if I tried to follow all the dating advice about game playing and such, and write my profile to attract "most men" and post pictures that would draw "most men," I would totally miss out on one who would be compatible for me because he would skim right past me looking for someone more unique.0 -
Yeah pretty much this.I read an article that said the guys that are the most successful online are the ones that email a million women with a nice canned email (he called it the "cut and paste" method) and once a girl bite THEN seduce her with charm.
Tbh* I'm not too sure what is going to happen if I date another woman from this kind of sites. The way most of them behave online makes that I am currently building a lot of resentment.
All that resentment I build up against a faceless and indiscernible mass of "online women" (I hate "them") is probably going to be vomited on the first representative of the species that will attempt to communicate with me (she'll probably a nice girl, too, but she'll have to work twice as hard to succeed).
Not that I am not exploring other avenues, into which I am more successful (i.e. bars/pubs/clubs).
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Simple.As much as women complain about not being able to find a good man, I'm really intrigued learning more about the male side of this coin.
Exaggerating slightly: you never receive messages, you never get replies.
You get bored, you switch to canned messages because whether you try to type more or not, the result is roughly the same (although canned messages are faster to send, so in half an hour of work on canned messages, you should end up with more responses as opposed to half an hour of specific message).
Anyway, you end up meeting girls you don't give a monkey about and with who you feel no connection at all (Ah! This girl replied? So what does she say anyway? Hmmm ok... Guess I can still f*** her).
You break their "hearts" (kinda). They say men are *kitten*, and they reply even less to messages, being even more strict with their criteria.
And so on and so forth, year after year.
After 100 years of this, a black hole of nothingness and desperation appears and the entire universe is dissolved.
We've got to stop this now... Or else!0 -
Simple.As much as women complain about not being able to find a good man, I'm really intrigued learning more about the male side of this coin.
Exaggerating slightly: you never receive messages, you never get replies.
You get bored, you switch to canned messages because whether you try to type more or not, the result is roughly the same (although canned messages are faster to send, so in half an hour of work on canned messages, you should end up with more responses as opposed to half an hour of specific message).
Anyway, you end up meeting girls you don't give a monkey about and with who you feel no connection at all (Ah! This girl replied? So what does she say anyway? Hmmm ok... Guess I can still f*** her).
You break their "hearts" (kinda). They say men are *kitten*, and they reply even less to messages, being even more strict with their criteria.
And so on and so forth, year after year.
After 100 years of this, a black hole of nothingness and desperation appears and the entire universe is dissolved.
We've got to stop this now... Or else!
Great! now to add to all the other reasons for feeling ambivalent or anxious about going on a date, I have to worry that it's only happening because I am the only girl who bothered to reply!! hehe. Sweet!0 -
in half an hour of work on canned messages, you should end up with more responses as opposed to half an hour of specific message).
Anyway, you end up meeting girls you don't give a monkey about and with who you feel no connection at all (Ah! This girl replied? So what does she say anyway? Hmmm ok... Guess I can still f*** her).
You break their "hearts" (kinda). T
I don't think that's too much of an exaggeration... which is part of why I wasn't on Match very long...and why I just deleted canned messages, lol
ETA: as much as I dog out online dating, the male attention was actually good for my ego, so I'm excited my friend is going to set up a profile...she's asked me to do it with her, so look for my profile review coming in about a month or so;-)0 -
Simple.As much as women complain about not being able to find a good man, I'm really intrigued learning more about the male side of this coin.
Exaggerating slightly: you never receive messages, you never get replies.
You get bored, you switch to canned messages because whether you try to type more or not, the result is roughly the same (although canned messages are faster to send, so in half an hour of work on canned messages, you should end up with more responses as opposed to half an hour of specific message).
Anyway, you end up meeting girls you don't give a monkey about and with who you feel no connection at all (Ah! This girl replied? So what does she say anyway? Hmmm ok... Guess I can still f*** her).
You break their "hearts" (kinda). They say men are *kitten*, and they reply even less to messages, being even more strict with their criteria.
And so on and so forth, year after year.
After 100 years of this, a black hole of nothingness and desperation appears and the entire universe is dissolved.
We've got to stop this now... Or else!
Important points. Although I have not put hard numbers to my dating site activity, I am able to say that the majority of emails (if I had to guess a percentage, I would guess around 80%) that I send on dating sites (have noticed little diff between free and pay sites) do not get responded to. I am not inappropriate, my grammar/spelling/punctuation is terrific and my emails are not canned, but are semi formulaic. It is evident though that I read the profile and the emails are unique.
Even if I get a response from a woman, there is no assurance that we will go out on a date. I've even had a situation where a woman asked me out over email and nothing materialized. The thing that I did notice about my paid time on Match vs free sites that if you actually did get a response on Match, you were more likely to actually meet them in person. I was near 100% on that vs the free sites.
I have a presence on POF & OkCupid now, but trying not to initiate messages. I will respond when someone initiates something. While that is more efficient, it is not necessarily more effective, at least towards the overarching goal of the process.
Hence why I am trying to wean off the dating sites.0 -
I have a presence on POF & OkCupid now, but trying not to initiate messages. I will respond when someone initiates something. While that is more efficient, it is not necessarily more effective, at least towards the overarching goal of the process.
When I was online, I almost never emailed a guy first... I would wink or click "yes" on the pages where they show you guys and ask you to say yes, no, or maybe, but that's was about it.
I had no success with the free sites- I did connect with men, but they emailed forever and wasted my time b/c we'd never meet. I suspect most of them were married or in booring jobs, looking for diversions.
So maybe we need to find someone who used the sites effectively and have them tell us what worked....A friend of mine met a woman on Match.com that turned out they'd both grown up in the same town (since moved) and participated in one of the same missions events (so large they never actually met, but they're both in the pictures of the group). So it really worked out for them.0 -
I have a presence on POF & OkCupid now, but trying not to initiate messages. I will respond when someone initiates something. While that is more efficient, it is not necessarily more effective, at least towards the overarching goal of the process.
When I was online, I almost never emailed a guy first... I would wink or click "yes" on the pages where they show you guys and ask you to say yes, no, or maybe, but that's was about it.
I had no success with the free sites- I did connect with men, but they emailed forever and wasted my time b/c we'd never meet. I suspect most of them were married or in booring jobs, looking for diversions.
So maybe we need to find someone who used the sites effectively and have them tell us what worked....A friend of mine met a woman on Match.com that turned out they'd both grown up in the same town (since moved) and participated in one of the same missions events (so large they never actually met, but they're both in the pictures of the group). So it really worked out for them.
See, I've heard horror stories about Match, Eharmony, POF, OKC, all of them...
Then I've heard "I met the love of my life" stories on Match, Eharmony, POF, OKC, all of them...
So it's just down to fate... I think.
Oh now I'm being sappy.
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I have a presence on POF & OkCupid now, but trying not to initiate messages. I will respond when someone initiates something. While that is more efficient, it is not necessarily more effective, at least towards the overarching goal of the process.
When I was online, I almost never emailed a guy first... I would wink or click "yes" on the pages where they show you guys and ask you to say yes, no, or maybe, but that's was about it.
I had no success with the free sites- I did connect with men, but they emailed forever and wasted my time b/c we'd never meet. I suspect most of them were married or in booring jobs, looking for diversions.
So maybe we need to find someone who used the sites effectively and have them tell us what worked....A friend of mine met a woman on Match.com that turned out they'd both grown up in the same town (since moved) and participated in one of the same missions events (so large they never actually met, but they're both in the pictures of the group). So it really worked out for them.
See, I've heard horror stories about Match, Eharmony, POF, OKC, all of them...
Then I've heard "I met the love of my life" stories on Match, Eharmony, POF, OKC, all of them...
So it's just down to fate... I think.
Oh now I'm being sappy.
I found the most creepers on the free sites (like okcupid). Never tried POF because I heard that's the "hookup" site. I feel like at least if the guys are paying for it, they are at least somewhat serious.
My cousin met his wife on match and they are a wonderful couple. My other cousin met his girlfriend on there, and they are practically married, they just had a beautiful baby. I know 4 other couples who have met on match and one on Myspace when Myspace was cool. Seems like they all pretty much met these people within weeks of signing up....yup it must be up to fate!!! Hm....maybe God's perfect match for me really IS on Christian mingle, hehehe :laugh:0 -
So is this our official "funny messages I just received" thread? lol
I think I'm about to block this guy. He just annoys me.
So far I have NOT responded to any of his messages. Here's the list:
"Damn NOW you are a real woman"
*crickets*
"So how is everything tonight"
*crickets*
"What's up"
*crickets*
"Ok sweetheart let's talk"
*crickets*
"Can you talk"
*crickets*
These are all in a span of a week. Don't you understand I'm ignoring you???0 -
This is a message i recieved on pof:
The subject line said: Your future depends on this.
You should read this message and send a reply, because this message is the message
you were looking for when you logged on. This message is going to fulfill every
desire you had in a relationship. The man you were looking for when you joined this
site is the one who wrote you this message. He is waiting for your reply, but will
not be waiting long. He has a very busy life, but needs to find someone to share it
with. Do yourself a favor and send him a reply.
P.S. I shouldn't have to say this, but you are attractive. You already know this
otherwise you wouldn't have put a picture up.
Really? I'm sure he thought he was so clever and probably copy and pasted that to all the girls. :grumble: One of my guy friends and I had a really good laugh at this. My friend even came up with a reply for me to send, sadly I didn't send it.0 -
This is a message i recieved on pof:
The subject line said: Your future depends on this.
You should read this message and send a reply, because this message is the message
you were looking for when you logged on. This message is going to fulfill every
desire you had in a relationship. The man you were looking for when you joined this
site is the one who wrote you this message. He is waiting for your reply, but will
not be waiting long. He has a very busy life, but needs to find someone to share it
with. Do yourself a favor and send him a reply.
P.S. I shouldn't have to say this, but you are attractive. You already know this
otherwise you wouldn't have put a picture up.
Really? I'm sure he thought he was so clever and probably copy and pasted that to all the girls. :grumble: One of my guy friends and I had a really good laugh at this. My friend even came up with a reply for me to send, sadly I didn't send it.
Ugh how creepy!!! I really think they think that their cleverness will attract you, but honestly, I feel like they are trying way too hard. I really don't find it attractive when a grown man tries to act cutesy.
I once had a guy from Louisiana (I live in NY) message me and say "I bet you didn't know that the love of your life lived in Baton Rouge, LA, did you?? Well, he does!" Grrrr. Not cute!!!0 -
So is this our official "funny messages I just received" thread? lol
I think I'm about to block this guy. He just annoys me.
So far I have NOT responded to any of his messages. Here's the list:
"Damn NOW you are a real woman"
*crickets*
"So how is everything tonight"
*crickets*
"What's up"
*crickets*
"Ok sweetheart let's talk"
*crickets*
"Can you talk"
*crickets*
These are all in a span of a week. Don't you understand I'm ignoring you???
I will NEVER understand those types of guys. How do they not realize they are coming across as creepy and desperate?! A guy who can't respect boundaries or take a hint, or doesn't seem to care whether or not you're interested is a creeper in my opinion!!!0
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