What makes you a "catch...?"
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I bring a lot to the table and I think she should as well.
My dad told me "Think of everything you could possibly want in a man and then go make sure that everyone of those things also applies to you. Unless its something manly, then achieve the ladylike version of it. Whether ifs financial stability or knowing how to wolf-whistle at baseball games. You dont want to fall in love with an amazing man and then give him the short end of the stick, do you?"0 -
I bring a lot to the table and I think she should as well.
My dad told me "Think of everything you could possibly want in a man and then go make sure that everyone of those things also applies to you. Unless its something manly, then achieve the ladylike version of it. Whether ifs financial stability or knowing how to wolf-whistle at baseball games. You dont want to fall in love with an amazing man and then give him the short end of the stick, do you?"
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This is easy... I'm:
*Honest
*Smart (although I have a couple of "duh" moments on occasion,ha)
*People love me
*Independent
*Can cuss like a sailor (except around my daughter- that's a no-no)
*Can hold my booze (most of the time;))
*I'll let you know how much you turn me on
*I have a sense of humor
*I don't have to be with you every waking moment (believe it or not I like to be with my friends and do things without you)
*I'm a great mom
*I have a good job (doesn't pay a lot, but I make it-- will be worth it in the long run)
*I can cook (when I feel like it)
*Love trying new things
*I don't have a criminal record
*I don't do drugs
*I like sports
*I'm not crazy... really I'm not
*I LOVE sex
*I'm not perfect, but I'm me.0 -
It's a shame that others dont see us the way we see ourselves :laugh:
Or perhaps we should pinpoint our flaws too??
eg. I love giving bj's, am generous and kind and good fun, but I'm an emotional wreck too!! That is moi :bigsmile:0 -
I've always thought I was a great catch- loyal, good cook, good at managing the home/money, believe in living debt free, adventurous in many ways. But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want. Not gonna be bitter about it, but just gotta adjust my expectations ;-)0
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My dad told me "Think of everything you could possibly want in a man and then go make sure that everyone of those things also applies to you. Unless its something manly, then achieve the ladylike version of it. Whether ifs financial stability or knowing how to wolf-whistle at baseball games. You dont want to fall in love with an amazing man and then give him the short end of the stick, do you?"
Your dad was a smart man!0 -
But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want.
OH YES YOU ARE!
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I've always thought I was a great catch- loyal, good cook, good at managing the home/money, believe in living debt free, adventurous in many ways. But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want. Not gonna be bitter about it, but just gotta adjust my expectations ;-)
Just because certain people might not appreciate specific qualities doesn't mean that no one will. Just means the two of "you" are not a fit. Someone will
I can't tell you how many times I've heard guys say they want "drama-free" and "low-maintenance" but here comes along moi and they pick the blond with fake nails and cake-up. Not my loss
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I've always thought I was a great catch- loyal, good cook, good at managing the home/money, believe in living debt free, adventurous in many ways. But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want. Not gonna be bitter about it, but just gotta adjust my expectations ;-)
And thats why I said that what's a catch for me isn't for you (in a guy) and I might not be one guy's idea of a catch but definately this other guys..
According to most women on the board, I'm considered "high maintenance". I'm fine with that. There's guys out there that like it and plenty that don't.
So it comes down to personal preference. YOU are what plenty of men want. We all are!!0 -
I'm fun. Not crazy. Splendid sense of humor. Fantastic personality. Good cook............
Oh yeah...... for the right woman I have a very high sex drive AND I'm loyal.
I'll end here because I don't know what else to say about myself that would be relevant.0 -
I'm dirty, perverted, immature, can chug beer faster than almost anyone, I make taking care of myself a priority, I have a good and stable job, I love dogs, I'm smart, financially stable, adventurous, drug free!, and I have really soft skin.
Probably other things, but that's what makes me weird (in a good way) right?0 -
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. I love giving bj's,blah blah blah :bigsmile: 
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I am a guy that actually does listen,says what he thinks plus a lot of the other supposed "great" things a guy should be so most taken ladies say I am a great catch.
To single ones looking I am not exciting or something I guess.0 -
- I'm smart.
- I'm educated about world issues and love to debate them
- I'm dedicated to things I care about
- I'm a good friend to my friends
- I'm a hard worker
- I'm willing to try new things
- When I trust someone, I'm pretty much an open book
- I am willing to put time into a relationship0 -
I am a guy that actually does listen,says what he thinks plus a lot of the other supposed "great" things a guy should be so most taken ladies say I am a great catch.
To single ones looking I am not exciting or something I guess.
Pshaw. I've been secretly wishing you were more local more and more every time you post :P0 -
I'm kickass, my only problem is the areas I suck at are all ones that inhibit meeting people. They are, I'm nervous around new people, I'm an awful conversationalist, and I look like I belong in the Lollipop guild. Besides that, I am awesome, with some pretty amazing dance moves and a sweet Boston accent.0
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I am a guy that actually does listen,says what he thinks plus a lot of the other supposed "great" things a guy should be so most taken ladies say I am a great catch.
To single ones looking I am not exciting or something I guess.
Pshaw. I've been secretly wishing you were more local more and more every time you post :P
That was so sweet. :blushing:0 -
But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want.
OH YES YOU ARE!
thanks! it cracks me up that "on paper" (or, at least "on profile") a lot of guys are into me... I had at least 8 first dates in May... but when we meet, I discover what what they SAY they're looking for and what they really want are two different things. I mostly like myself the way I am...have some areas I'm working on, but for the most part I'm just not interested in changing.0 -
i don't really think i am a catch.
i have been amazed at the fact that guys want to go on dates with me, want to be intimate and even want relationships with me!!! i mean pretty gosh darn shocked. i am the one turning people away..... which in my current state in life i did NOT think would be happening!!!
i am told that i'm nice, thoughtful, pretty, sexy, an amazing kisser, refreshing! and there are others.
ETA: most of the people that have shown interest seem interested in the fact that i'm a risk taker. i'm not boring. i like to have fun. i'm not all that serious. and i am willing to try almost anything. i'm guessing some of this is because these are men that have either been single a long time, or have gotten out of marriages that were dull or in a rut, or just plain dead. i have no filter, so i think sometimes that surprises them in a GOOD way. ya know?? i am NOT hung up on looks, or dollar signs. i married looks, i was raised by ( and then married) dollar signs. so, for me unless you made more than my dad...... you're not gonna impress me one iota with your W2. and even if you're the guy that every single girl wants, if you're a jerk i'm not gonna be interested either. been there, done that.
i had a guy who was interested go on and on about his degrees. and then said something about going for a phd. that made me immediately disinterested. not because there is anything wrong with that, but because i've already been there, and done that and will NEVER do that again!!!
so, really so much of it is to each their own. i would rather be with someone that is not all that attractive and broke but has a big, amazing heart. someone who HONESTLY LOVES other people, his family, his friends. someone who would give the shirt off his back to someone in need........... then be with the great looking guy, with tons of money, but looks down upon everyone else in his life. who doesn't reach out and help, who is selfish with his time, money, and talents...........
that's just me though :-)0 -
i don't really think i am a catch.
i have been amazed at the fact that guys want to go on dates with me, want to be intimate and even want relationships with me!!! i mean pretty gosh darn shocked. i am the one turning people away..... which in my current state in life i did NOT think would be happening!!!
i am told that i'm nice, thoughtful, pretty, sexy, an amazing kisser, refreshing! and there are others.
Try letting yourself believe them instead of what is clearly (just going by your profile pic that is attractive) a wrong thought in your mind.
You can do it if you let yourself.0 -
oh, i don't mean that like a downer comment or anything like that. i have pretty decent self esteem ;-)
i just figured that being where i am currently, would not really appeal to any males. it's been shocking that i don't make them run for the hills!!!! and i'm being totally sincerely. if i were able to run, i would! LOL!!!
i did edit that post and add to it, if you want to go back and read more. not so much about me, but about how we can all be someone else's catch really. we aren't all looking for the exact same things in other people, which is GOOD!!! :-)0 -
Im just freaking awesome.. Thats about it.0
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But you know? As I look at what other people are looking for... I'm not really what they want. Not gonna be bitter about it, but just gotta adjust my expectations ;-)
I am similar in thought. But how are you changing your expectations or maybe its more which ones are you changing?0 -
But how are you changing your expectations or maybe its more which ones are you changing?
I really enjoy being single. I've often said I'm not interested in getting married anytime soon. BUT in the back of my mind, there was always the thought that I would "settle down" in 5-10 years. The reality is finally seeping in that 10 years from now, age, religion, persnickety-ness, or other things about me significantly decrease my chances of finding a long-term compatible mate.
I do not believe that every individual can have every single thing they want out of life. There are trade offs. For example, some people are naturally thin, but struggle in other areas. I'm not thin, and I have to trade the fun of eating for working on a better body. Some people are naturally pleasing to the opposite sex. Some of us aren't. I am not willing to trade my core beliefs to snag a man the way I'm willing to trade another piece of birthday cake for fitting into my cute jeans.
I make a good wife, this even my ex husband will tell you, but I'm neither inspiring nor exciting. I'm too analytical, too religious, too intense (a nice way of saying call guys on their crap). I'd rather be alone than have another husband who was just looking for a good wife. I want to be cherished and adored, prized and valued. This isn't the same as being "forever alone" because I suspect, due to my outgoing nature, I will always be surrounded by friends and activities.
I feel like I'm rambling (bedtime??) but I hope that answered your question.0 -
hmmm let's see...
I'm independent
loyal
motivated
caring
I can take a joke
tall - and proud of it :-)0 -
i had a guy who was interested go on and on about his degrees. and then said something about going for a phd. that made me immediately disinterested. not because there is anything wrong with that, but because i've already been there, and done that and will NEVER do that again!!!
.... You seriously lost interest in a guy because he wanted to pursue a PHD?0 -
Guys always tell me that I'm the type of girl that would be marriage material, lol
Also I can cook really well, I pole dance, I'm funny, smart, kind and I'm incredibly faithful.
I also really, really like sex, and am not afraid to be experimental hahah0 -
Guys always tell me that I'm the type of girl that would be marriage material, lol
Also I can cook really well, I pole dance, I'm funny, smart, kind and I'm incredibly faithful.
I also really, really like sex, and am not afraid to be experimental hahah
Sigh :flowerforyou:
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hmm let's see......
I'm tall and semi-dark
I'm pretty motivated. if you need someone to drag your butt to the gym or other things.
I'm bilingual in english and spanish.
I'm pretty good with gadgets, computers. I can figure out and fix most issues.
I'm open to trying new things. food, experiences.
I'm patient. very patient.
laid back and easy going. I get along with most people. gay, straight, or other. doesn't matter to me.
I'm told I have a quirky sense of humor
I am loyal. won't cheat or betray
I will be honest, brutal if asked to. I don't sugar coat it.0 -
yes. my ex was working on his before and after we got married, and had our first daughter. it was hell. he was impossible to get along with, tired, mood, cranky, ALL THE TIME. it got to the point where we couldn't even live together, because he was so nasty and mean. he would NOT have sex with me, but jerked off to p0rn on an extremely regular basis.......
wouldn't join us for my daughter's first birthday party and when i expressed being sad by that fact his response was " well, do you ever want me to get this phd done?" her party was 3 hrs long, and in aug. he defended his phd in LATE october.
someone mentions the letters P H D to me, and i just go glassy eyed. been there, done that, NEVER doing it again! if you already have one, fine. but, i'm not gonna be the significant other to someone working on theirs...............
so, for me, that drive for level of education does NOT make someone a catch.i had a guy who was interested go on and on about his degrees. and then said something about going for a phd. that made me immediately disinterested. not because there is anything wrong with that, but because i've already been there, and done that and will NEVER do that again!!!
.... You seriously lost interest in a guy because he wanted to pursue a PHD?0
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