What makes you a "catch...?"
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I think it's hilarious the girls (yet again) comment on sex while none of the guys listed this as one of their PROS.
It seems like the girls here are a bit more upfront with their sexuality, at least from what I've read when lurking. I listed sex as a con in the other thread, so I though I would list something positive in this one,
Sex is super important...
I think it is just that in the context of this particular group the guys are decent (yeah I know,patting myself on the back) and out of respect to the ladies just didn`t feel the need to go there with that topic.
Besides,I could make all kinds of statements regarding my perceived prowess in certain activities and it would not sound like someone reflecting on why a lady should want them but rather just locker room boasting.
aw crap now I feel even worse. Ok no more sex talk.
While I agree with Carl, boasting about sex stories for us men isn't a huge turn-on to the ladies... I do think you add a unique point of view to this group, and that is an area that you are very comfortable with. I think the general rule here is if it could help someone or is funny post that *kitten*!0 -
I think it's hilarious the girls (yet again) comment on sex while none of the guys listed this as one of their PROS.
It seems like the girls here are a bit more upfront with their sexuality, at least from what I've read when lurking. I listed sex as a con in the other thread, so I though I would list something positive in this one,
Sex is super important...
I think it is just that in the context of this particular group the guys are decent (yeah I know,patting myself on the back) and out of respect to the ladies just didn`t feel the need to go there with that topic.
Besides,I could make all kinds of statements regarding my perceived prowess in certain activities and it would not sound like someone reflecting on why a lady should want them but rather just locker room boasting.
aw crap now I feel even worse. Ok no more sex talk.
Why would you feel worse,nothing wrong with guys (if I am correct) showing some discretion around ladies nor anything wrong with ladies discussing things important to them. :flowerforyou:0 -
kinda odd, random, take what you want from it story.......
i had been separated for 6ish months at this point. but it had been almost a year without any kind of physical intimacy. i was with a group of girlfriends and their hubbies. ( hubbies not around during this convo though) i mentioned how much i missed giving BJs. like genuinely missed do that!! my girlfriends were all like " that's awesome, 'hey honey, come here XXXX wants to give you something' ".
i was surprised at the fact that out of that group of women none were really all that into giving them. and would do what they could to get out of having to give one. i found it very interesting.....
regarding sex drive and women. in those that have a high or active drive, i don't think it peaks in the late 20s early 30s....... mine is higher now than it was before i had kids, or during having kids either..... ( oh and i had 5 kids in 7.5 yrs, so it was pretty gosh darn high then!! )
Over the last ten years or so, every time I found out one of my girlfriends would do anything to avoid giving a BJ, I would ask at another time if she could orgasm during intercourse or if she needed, you know, something else, like oral or something. Cause you know us girls can be all TMI all the time if we felt like it...
almost every girl I talked to that didnt like giving head and refused to swallow, also rarely had an orgasm during intercourse. And every girl I talked to that loved it, was also one of the girls that had no problem at all having multiple Os at a time, a few times throughout the night.
Im probably even going to get yelled at for talking that graphically, but for me it was an experiment for information, to figure out if letting go and feeling uninhibited and secure about what you do and enjoy sexually - allows you to relax enough to have deeper physical pleasure and fun. Or something.
Im not saying there is a solid connection, or that my "studies" count for anything, just that its something Ive been observing since the late nineties and i thought what i found was cool. I dunno, i think they're important.
I would say it makes sense especially if in the context of a lady who was brought up to think sex was dirty or anything outside of procreation was wrong.
Would also add that with many teens now engaging in sex with no inhibitions it is likely many ladies reach adult life never being satisfied or understanding they can and should be.
A 16 year old boy is not thinking of intimacy,he just wants to get off and the girl is the tool for it so he never learns to please her and she doesn`t think it should happen.0 -
kinda odd, random, take what you want from it story.......
i had been separated for 6ish months at this point. but it had been almost a year without any kind of physical intimacy. i was with a group of girlfriends and their hubbies. ( hubbies not around during this convo though) i mentioned how much i missed giving BJs. like genuinely missed do that!! my girlfriends were all like " that's awesome, 'hey honey, come here XXXX wants to give you something' ".
i was surprised at the fact that out of that group of women none were really all that into giving them. and would do what they could to get out of having to give one. i found it very interesting.....
regarding sex drive and women. in those that have a high or active drive, i don't think it peaks in the late 20s early 30s....... mine is higher now than it was before i had kids, or during having kids either..... ( oh and i had 5 kids in 7.5 yrs, so it was pretty gosh darn high then!! )
Over the last ten years or so, every time I found out one of my girlfriends would do anything to avoid giving a BJ, I would ask at another time if she could orgasm during intercourse or if she needed, you know, something else, like oral or something. Cause you know us girls can be all TMI all the time if we felt like it...
almost every girl I talked to that didnt like giving head and refused to swallow, also rarely had an orgasm during intercourse. And every girl I talked to that loved it, was also one of the girls that had no problem at all having multiple Os at a time, a few times throughout the night.
Im probably even going to get yelled at for talking that graphically, but for me it was an experiment for information, to figure out if letting go and feeling uninhibited and secure about what you do and enjoy sexually - allows you to relax enough to have deeper physical pleasure and fun. Or something.
Im not saying there is a solid connection, or that my "studies" count for anything, just that its something Ive been observing since the late nineties and i thought what i found was cool. I dunno, i think they're important.
I would say it makes sense especially if in the context of a lady who was brought up to think sex was dirty or anything outside of procreation was wrong.
Would also add that with many teens now engaging in sex with no inhibitions it is likely many ladies reach adult life never being satisfied or understanding they can and should be.
A 16 year old boy is not thinking of intimacy,he just wants to get off and the girl is the tool for it so he never learns to please her and she doesn`t think it should happen.
Im not sure that have fewer inhibitions in the bedroom means that you are spending less time pleasing your partner and more time just getting off, I actually think it means being comfortable enough to take your time and actually exploring each other, in a room where you can see each other, and laugh and goof off and wrestle and GIVE BJS and have sandwich breaks and hydration refills and high fives and round threes; instead of hurriedly undressing under the covers with the lights out for 30 minutes of getting your mind blown.
Its having those insecurity walls down when you are having fun in the bedroom and it really is just the two of you in the whole world and you're kissing and talking and looking each other in the eyes... that helps with the birth of intimacy between two people.
But when someone is insecure in the bedroom, or not open to anything outside of strictly procreation, like you said, then Im not putting my mouth on that! or pushing him away before he can orgasm, or keeping her naked body covered from armpits to midthighs, and keeping the lights off... are all different ways of keeping that wall up between you.
I think that teenagers always run off into sex three sheets to the wind. But hey, how else do we learn what we learn by the time we are adults. And how are we going to learn from our mistakes and hapless adventures if we dont have them when we are young?
And those girls will figure out just in time that they can get pleasure from it too. Because there are millions and millions and millions of good guys out there that arent causing that problem
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i think that having sex as a teenager doesn't necessarily mean learning more by the time you're an adult.
i know people that had sex in their early teen years and as an adult ( talking over the age of 18 here) they did not like or enjoy sex more. they weren't more interested in experimenting, etc.
i was in college before i lost mine, and it didn't take me long to realize what i liked and what i didn't. that there is so much out there to try and experiment with. my ex lost his virginity in his early teen years. he never really wanted to do anything interesting. i was the one that wanted to try things we had seen in movies and tv shows. in our early years ( before marriage) he was willing to go along, but not afterwards. so, since i've been single i've been able to learn even more, try even more, i do things FOR ME now!!! i'm willing to bet i've learned more in the past couple years than i did between my teen years and early 20s........ just a guess :-)0 -
true story - everyone is different. I didnt lose my V til I was 19 and I didnt start actually getting comfortable enough with my body and losing my inhibitions until I was about 28 or 29. when my libido jumped and I started taking better care of my body and all the exercise pumped me full of happy chemicals.0
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true story - everyone is different. I didnt lose my V til I was 19 and I didnt start actually getting comfortable enough with my body and losing my inhibitions until I was about 28 or 29. when my libido jumped and I started taking better care of my body and all the exercise pumped me full of happy chemicals.
My libido was crazy starting about about age 12. It spiked when I lost my virginity at 16 and hasn't dropped yet (though I have learned more discretion since between the ages of 18-20). I can't imagine it getting worse
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I think it's hilarious the girls (yet again) comment on sex while none of the guys listed this as one of their PROS.
It seems like the girls here are a bit more upfront with their sexuality, at least from what I've read when lurking. I listed sex as a con in the other thread, so I though I would list something positive in this one,
Sex is super important...
I think it is just that in the context of this particular group the guys are decent (yeah I know,patting myself on the back) and out of respect to the ladies just didn`t feel the need to go there with that topic.
Besides,I could make all kinds of statements regarding my perceived prowess in certain activities and it would not sound like someone reflecting on why a lady should want them but rather just locker room boasting.
aw crap now I feel even worse. Ok no more sex talk.
While I agree with Carl, boasting about sex stories for us men isn't a huge turn-on to the ladies... I do think you add a unique point of view to this group, and that is an area that you are very comfortable with. I think the general rule here is if it could help someone or is funny post that *kitten*!
I don't think girls want to know what their guy has done with other girls in the past....i think that having sex as a teenager doesn't necessarily mean learning more by the time you're an adult.
I definitely agree. I met a girl who'd been dating her BF since high school, and we were about 20/21. She told us that she'd never orgasmed from sex before. I think she was too shy to say something, and maybe it was one of those things where he thought she did and it was too late to say something.
As for me...I would say I have a pretty good libido. I've never had sex, but I still get mine lol. I think that in the beginning of a sexual relationship, I would be honest with the guy about what I need to get there. You're not just using my body and getting yours! I do think sex is special and meant for a relationship, but just because I believe that doesn't mean that I'm not into sex. It would just take a while to do it with a guy, but after we started doing it, it would be crazy lol.0 -
Ummm I already knew all the answers on the Things Men wished Women Knew thread?0
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Sweet, respectful, confident, responsible, playful and a little silly at times. :-)0
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