Dating challenge
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Telling someone you’re not into them (instead of poofing) = 25 points
I can do the others. It's just finding the time and motivation to get out there. This is the one I can't do. And I don't poof either, I just end up dating them for far too long. :grumble:
Edit, just re-read. I'll pass on becoming a porn star.
Anji, That just means you're tooooooo nice of a person!0 -
Damn I had this dream that I asked a guy out...this is getting to me.0
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Damn I had this dream that I asked a guy out...this is getting to me.
Clearly you have a competitive side!!:laugh: Oh and who was the guy?
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Damn I had this dream that I asked a guy out...this is getting to me.
I think that's the whole point. Go get em tiger! I'm routing for you!0 -
CRAP....I'm failing miserably in my scorekeeping duties. I missed that part of the scoring matrix. :noway:
So, as the scorekeeper, here are my "guidelines":
Post your activities on the board so that everyone can see it.
Put how many times you did it each activity, plus the total points for that activity.
Put the total points earned for that time period at the bottom.
Frequency of reporting doesn't matter, as long as you don't double count any activities.
I will post new scores on Saturdays (however, I'll try to something posted tomorrow night to get us started).
If I miss your post, please send me an email and I'll fix it. There is a lot of traffic on here already, and I won't forget you on purpose.
ETA - That was my 750th post. Yay!0 -
I got dumped yesterday..and I still love him. So I'm not actually playing but am already at 62. Oops.0
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I got dumped yesterday..and I still love him. So I'm not actually playing but am already at 62. Oops.
Oh no SB! What happened?
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Damn I had this dream that I asked a guy out...this is getting to me.
Clearly you have a competitive side!!:laugh: Oh and who was the guy?
Haha I woke up and was like "hell yeah" the I realized. I don't remember I think some random guy somewhere?0 -
So I went out last night.... (which is something that maybe happens once every two months)... here is what I was able to accomplish....
Flirting with someone you fancy = 50 points
Saw a guy at the bar who I've had a crush on for many years but haven't pursued it. Saw him out, struck up a conversation and we were laughing and talking and everything. I thought I was flirting (but remember I'm very bad at it). Midway through our conversation he turns to his buddy who he was out with and starts talking about a girl who just walked in who he's had a crush on for years. Very quickly got the "I'm not into you that way" vibe from him. He then turned to me and started asking me how he should approach the girl who just walked in. Who was hot and skinnny and blonde and pretty and probably never needed MFP a day in her life. B**ch. haha
I tried. And failed. This is why dating sucks and I hate it and it's stupid.
So at the end of the night I gained 50 points for flirting, but lost at least 30 cause I suck at flirting.0 -
So I went out last night.... (which is something that maybe happens once every two months)... here is what I was able to accomplish....
Flirting with someone you fancy = 50 points
Saw a guy at the bar who I've had a crush on for many years but haven't pursued it. Saw him out, struck up a conversation and we were laughing and talking and everything. I thought I was flirting (but remember I'm very bad at it). Midway through our conversation he turns to his buddy who he was out with and starts talking about a girl who just walked in who he's had a crush on for years. Very quickly got the "I'm not into you that way" vibe from him. He then turned to me and started asking me how he should approach the girl who just walked in. Who was hot and skinnny and blonde and pretty and probably never needed MFP a day in her life. B**ch. haha
I tried. And failed. This is why dating sucks and I hate it and it's stupid.
So at the end of the night I gained 50 points for flirting, but lost at least 30 cause I suck at flirting.
Skip the bars. For the most part, I find that it is better to stay in and do nothing than go to bars if you are going out somewhere with the purpose of meeting compatible singles. If you must go to a bar, however, go to one that is nearly as quiet as a library. Bars with loud music do not help with getting from Point A to Point B.
There's an idea floating around my head called the 80-20 rule. What this means is that 80 percent + of one gender wants 20 percent of another. For instance, 80+% of men want that 20% of women who are hot and skinny. Likewise, men are not alone in this. 80+% of women think they deserve a man who is in that 20%, and those guys are fit, handsome and making big bucks. There seems to be some degree of inefficiency in the pairing process.
With regard to last night, I don't think that guy was a legit prospect. If he were, something would have happened years ago. If he wanted you, he would have made a move a while back. Sometimes guys are not the best at making moves. For the most part, if there's someone I want, I make a move on them and they know what I want. This is also part of the reason why I don't have a lot of female platonic friends IRL. If there's anyone I perceive as an eligible single, I go for them. If it is clear that they don't want me sexually, I'm not sticking around.0 -
Skip the bars. For the most part, I find that it is better to stay in and do nothing than go to bars if you are going out somewhere with the purpose of meeting compatible singles. If you must go to a bar, however, go to one that is nearly as quiet as a library. Bars with loud music do not help with getting from Point A to Point B.
There's an idea floating around my head called the 80-20 rule. What this means is that 80 percent + of one gender wants 20 percent of another. For instance, 80+% of men want that 20% of women who are hot and skinny. Likewise, men are not alone in this. 80+% of women think they deserve a man who is in that 20%, and those guys are fit, handsome and making big bucks. There seems to be some degree of inefficiency in the pairing process.
With regard to last night, I don't think that guy was a legit prospect. If he were, something would have happened years ago. If he wanted you, he would have made a move a while back. Sometimes guys are not the best at making moves. For the most part, if there's someone I want, I make a move on them and they know what I want. This is also part of the reason why I don't have a lot of female platonic friends IRL. If there's anyone I perceive as an eligible single, I go for them. If it is clear that they don't want me sexually, I'm not sticking around.
This is a totally serious question because I have very little social life. Besides bars, which as I grow older I'm not a huge fan of, where else do people go? I literally live the life of a hermit so this is a legit question. Last night I went to this bar as it was a friend's birthday.
I agree with your 80/20 rule. My problem is opposite of yours, I have a ton of guy friends. Actually more than girlfriends. Also could be my problem.0 -
There's an idea floating around my head called the 80-20 rule. What this means is that 80 percent + of one gender wants 20 percent of another. For instance, 80+% of men want that 20% of women who are hot and skinny. Likewise, men are not alone in this. 80+% of women think they deserve a man who is in that 20%, and those guys are fit, handsome and making big bucks. There seems to be some degree of inefficiency in the pairing process.
The majority of female Peeps have told you over and over that looks are not as important as they are to you...Now you're just adding arbitrary statistics to validate your own preferences? Just makes me chuckle... :laugh:0 -
There's an idea floating around my head called the 80-20 rule. What this means is that 80 percent + of one gender wants 20 percent of another. For instance, 80+% of men want that 20% of women who are hot and skinny. Likewise, men are not alone in this. 80+% of women think they deserve a man who is in that 20%, and those guys are fit, handsome and making big bucks. There seems to be some degree of inefficiency in the pairing process.
The majority of female Peeps have told you over and over that looks are not as important as they are to you...Now you're just adding arbitrary statistics to validate your own preferences? Just makes me chuckle... :laugh:
The key word in your sentence is told. What people say and what people do are totally different things. Anyone in market research would tell you that. My paragraph was based on an idea floating around my head. I think there's validity to the idea but it's not idea like gravity, which has been proven. And besides, where did I interject myself into that 80-20 idea? It is a larger scale behavioral observation.0 -
This is a totally serious question because I have very little social life. Besides bars, which as I grow older I'm not a huge fan of, where else do people go? I literally live the life of a hermit so this is a legit question. Last night I went to this bar as it was a friend's birthday.
I agree with your 80/20 rule. My problem is opposite of yours, I have a ton of guy friends. Actually more than girlfriends. Also could be my problem.
Guy friends are not an asset for a woman. A very large percentage of single guys perceive a woman with predominantly male friends is trouble. A downside of having more male friends than female friends for a woman is that you will be less able to use the friend of friend network. Since most women have more offers for male genitalia than they can process, they can funnel some of their unwanted offers to other women, provided that the guy is adequate in some fashion. Women are more likely to hook up their friends up than men are.0 -
This is a totally serious question because I have very little social life. Besides bars, which as I grow older I'm not a huge fan of, where else do people go? I literally live the life of a hermit so this is a legit question. Last night I went to this bar as it was a friend's birthday.
I agree with your 80/20 rule. My problem is opposite of yours, I have a ton of guy friends. Actually more than girlfriends. Also could be my problem.
Guy friends are not an asset for a woman. A very large percentage of single guys perceive a woman with predominantly male friends is trouble. A downside of having more male friends than female friends for a woman is that you will be less able to use the friend of friend network. Since most women have more offers for male genitalia than they can process, they can funnel some of their unwanted offers to other women, provided that the guy is adequate in some fashion. Women are more likely to hook up their friends up than men are.
I don't think that is true AT ALL. I have ALWAYS had just as many guy friends as female. I can use BOTH friend of friend networks.
I have always made it clear with every relationship I have had that I *DO* have a lot of guy friends, because if they can't handle it, then I nip it in the bud and don't waste my time.... just like the *jock* last week who flat out admitted to me (in person) he had a jealous streak about it all. Told him that wouldn't work if he was going to be jealous of friends I've had 10+ years. *Exit stage left*.... see, it helped not to waste time..... NEXT.
So is having guy friends an asset to me? Of course it is. It removes the jealous koo-koo types from my radar if I don't see it right off the bat with my own two eyes. Voila. 0 -
I'm TOTALLY random... this is going to be fun.
Fri & Sat.... Jan 4 & 5
Eye contact with a stranger = 1 point
---3 pts total >>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Smiling at a stranger = 1 point
---3 pts total >>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Initiating an email (or wink) on a dating site = 1 point
---15 pts total>>>> wrote 15 random local guys that fit my "criteria" on POF
Any conversation on a dating site that makes it to 10 replies back and forth = 5 points
--- 10 replies???... GAH! I'm usually texting them if I like them after the 5th convo... this will be a tough one...
Starting a conversation with a stranger in public = 5 points
--- 15 pts total>>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Asking for/or giving out your phone number = 20 points
---20 pts total >>>> POF'r yesterday.... we'll see how that goes... lol
Telling someone you’re not into them (instead of poofing) = 25 points
--- 25 pts. Wow, that was new. Yep, told a guy shorter than me that.
Starting an online dating profile (only valid if you don’t already have one) = 50 points
--- 50pts - Reopened my previously closed account!
Going to a bar on your own and flirting with someone = 500 points
--- 2000pts. Yep. LOL (last night - lots of new faces! Woo hoo!)
K... I'm at 2,131 pts so far. LOL
(I'm a self-admitted bar flirtbag - guess I need to just ramp it up a notch, eh?.... lol)0 -
I'm TOTALLY random... this is going to be fun.
Fri & Sat.... Jan 4 & 5
Eye contact with a stranger = 1 point
---3 pts total >>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Smiling at a stranger = 1 point
---3 pts total >>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Initiating an email (or wink) on a dating site = 1 point
---15 pts total>>>> wrote 15 random local guys that fit my "criteria" on POF
Any conversation on a dating site that makes it to 10 replies back and forth = 5 points
--- 10 replies???... GAH! I'm usually texting them if I like them after the 5th convo... this will be a tough one...
Starting a conversation with a stranger in public = 5 points
--- 15 pts total>>>> Random guy on motorcycle at gas station, young buck at grocery store, new male cashier at grocery store
Asking for/or giving out your phone number = 20 points
---20 pts total >>>> POF'r yesterday.... we'll see how that goes... lol
Telling someone you’re not into them (instead of poofing) = 25 points
--- 25 pts. Wow, that was new. Yep, told a guy shorter than me that.
Starting an online dating profile (only valid if you don’t already have one) = 50 points
--- 50pts - Reopened my previously closed account!
Going to a bar on your own and flirting with someone = 500 points
--- 2000pts. Yep. LOL (last night - lots of new faces! Woo hoo!)
K... I'm at 2,131 pts so far. LOL
(I'm a self-admitted bar flirtbag - guess I need to just ramp it up a notch, eh?.... lol)
FPW, You are definitely in the pro category along with Jenbit. :drinker:
I'm sorry if this seems silly to some people, but for those of us who may be a bit shy, trying to be bolder is a real challenge.0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!0 -
Thanks for keeping score! haha. I've actually decided to cancel my POF account. I've been thinking, and I want to get myself right first. And honestly, I've had zero luck on there. So I'm going to delete it, work on me, and if I meet someone along the way, great. But right now, I don't think online is the way to go for me.0
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Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I know JenBit and she's been using some "performance enhancing" techniques.. like a short skirts and push-up bras. It's like playing home run derby against Barry Bonds and Mark McGuire.0 -
Thanks for keeping score! haha. I've actually decided to cancel my POF account. I've been thinking, and I want to get myself right first. And honestly, I've had zero luck on there. So I'm going to delete it, work on me, and if I meet someone along the way, great. But right now, I don't think online is the way to go for me.
No problem.
I absolutely understand that. Work on you. It should always be your number one priority. Something I've learned along the way is if I don't take care of myself, nobody else will. And, like many other peeps have said in other posts. Confidence is sexy. Once you feel more comfortable with yourself, you will find men flocking. 0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I know JenBit and she's been using some "performance enhancing" techniques.. like a short skirts and push-up bras. It's like playing home run derby against Barry Bonds and Mark McGuire.
HEY!! Those are simply tools....
Maybe once we get a couple weeks in, I'll break it into groups. We'll have the Majors, AAA & AA with people moving up as their scores rise?0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I know JenBit and she's been using some "performance enhancing" techniques.. like a short skirts and push-up bras. It's like playing home run derby against Barry Bonds and Mark McGuire.
Huh. Guess I need to buy some bras and skirts. My method of mass destruction was merely jeans and yoga pants. Pfft. Who knew with that I ramped it up all *roller* derby style up to the level of Ted Williams and Tony Gwinn (go homeboys, go homeboys)
... ooooohhh oooooooooohhhhhh (said in Sam Kinison voice)
Edited because I'm tired and I made a stupid typo. Meh.0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I gotta ramp it up!!0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I gotta ramp it up!!
Christine, Yup, that's the whole point!!! :drinker:
So, I guess only the female peeps feel the need to step out of their comfort zones since no guys are playing??? The men are all perfect as is...
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Christine, Yup, that's the whole point!!! :drinker:
So, I guess only the female peeps feel the need to step out of their comfort zones since no guys are playing??? The men are all perfect as is... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I second that Christine....if you were local, I'd bring you out. :drinker:
And, yeah...perfect. :laugh: :laugh:0 -
Work on those points gals! WOOHOO! That's awesome!
How does it feel to let go more often? 0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I gotta ramp it up!!
Christine, Yup, that's the whole point!!! :drinker:
So, I guess only the female peeps feel the need to step out of their comfort zones since no guys are playing??? The men are all perfect as is... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Seeing as my new years resolution is to try and be more social (make more friends in my area), I guess I could try to play along. Problem is I look everyone in the eyes (been told I am intimidating tho). So lets see from this weekend...
Eye contact with a stranger = 1 point x 10 = 10 Points
Smiling at a stranger = 1 point x 2 = 2 points
Initiating an email (or wink) on a dating site = 1 point x 2 (even though didn't get anything back) = 2 points
Any conversation on a dating site that makes it to 10 replies back and forth = 5 points x 1 = 5 points
Starting a conversation with a stranger in public = 5 points x 3 = 15 points
Asking someone you know to fix you up = 25 points x 1 = 25 points (this may end up being funny, me 28, her 20)
Attending any social event/function you wouldn't normally (including dates you would might have previously said no to) = 30 points x 2 = 60 points (bar for football game to socialize and a first date with someone not my type)
Starting an online dating profile (only valid if you don’t already have one) = 50 points x 1 = 50 points
So lets see, for a busy weekend, I scored 169 points. Wish I could start deducting points with one night stands...but don't see that happening anytime soon.0 -
Stats as of 11:20 EST, 6Jan13....
christine24t - 2
kitsune - 10
pa_jorg - 26
oualum26 - 50
kerrymh - 56
smallerbridesmaid - 62
shammxo - 82
jenbit - 1,167
fitnesspalworks - 2,131
Way to go ladies!!!
I gotta ramp it up!!
Christine, Yup, that's the whole point!!! :drinker:
So, I guess only the female peeps feel the need to step out of their comfort zones since no guys are playing??? The men are all perfect as is... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Seeing as my new years resolution is to try and be more social (make more friends in my area), I guess I could try to play along. Problem is I look everyone in the eyes (been told I am intimidating tho). So lets see from this weekend...
Eye contact with a stranger = 1 point x 10 = 10 Points
Smiling at a stranger = 1 point x 2 = 2 points
Initiating an email (or wink) on a dating site = 1 point x 2 (even though didn't get anything back) = 2 points
Any conversation on a dating site that makes it to 10 replies back and forth = 5 points x 1 = 5 points
Starting a conversation with a stranger in public = 5 points x 3 = 15 points
Asking someone you know to fix you up = 25 points x 1 = 25 points (this may end up being funny, me 28, her 20)
Attending any social event/function you wouldn't normally (including dates you would might have previously said no to) = 30 points x 2 = 60 points (bar for football game to socialize and a first date with someone not my type)
Starting an online dating profile (only valid if you don’t already have one) = 50 points x 1 = 50 points
So lets see, for a busy weekend, I scored 169 points. Wish I could start deducting points with one night stands...but don't see that happening anytime soon.
Awesome, we got a guy playing!! :drinker:
Oh and how far do you and Shammxo live from one another??? :bigsmile:0 -
Awesome, we got a guy playing!! :drinker:
Oh and how far do you and Shammxo live from one another??? :bigsmile:
I don't know. Ann Arbor to Farmington is about 30-35 miles, so 30-40 minutes probably.0
