February Check-n-chat: Bada$$ B!tches do it with barbells
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Welcome Sam!!!
I love coming here and seeing everyone be so supportive and uplifting.....I swear, checking this thread is the first thing I do when I get home. Especially today.
I. AM. SO.EFFING.GRUMPY.
So bad. Like I am going to lose my *kitten* on everyone and anyone. And that means I'm bound to be unreasonable. Which I am being completely unreasonable right now. Which means my man friend is completely in the dog house. Because I am being an effing nutcase.
I hate men.
That is all.
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ETA: and my boss is man. And I hate him too right now. So double :explode: :explode:
I really think that is all this time :frown:0 -
I know getting to 129 is a pipe dream.... I just wanna taste it, I promise I wont inhale..... Im a solid size 12 now at 190 lbs.... I was size 8 at 130....so suffice to say my body comp has changed.... Im bottom heavy ( pear shaped)
i know we arent supposed to get caught up in numbers or clothes sizes but If i get to size 8, with decent lean muscle and low body fat ( no cellulite) I dont care what number the scale says, I'd be in heaven
Ive already purchased a pair of booty shorts in size 8 as inspiration
I workout at the Y so wearing compression shorts with my *kitten* hanging out is a no go there but getting to that point of fitness is no less desired by me, Queen of Vain0 -
awwww Vegas have a drink and daydream about basing em upside the head hope your angst passes soon so we wont need to bail you out0
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I hate men.
Gonna go hide now.
jk I hate men too they're stupid and smelly.0 -
Hey there. This is my first post. I'm so glad I found this thread. I've been doing Stonglifts 5x5 for a little over 3 months now. I squat 125#. Bench is 120#. Deadlift 225#. OHP I've kept low because of my God awful form (75#) and same for Barbell Rows (80#). It's so nice to see other women doing this program. I lift with my husband and I love it, but he progresses so much faster than I do. My scale weight has gone up 10lbs but my measurements have stayed the same or gone down. I really love this program. I use the iPhone app. Super handy.
Wow Wow Wow!!! I want to deadlift 225!!!0 -
@juliemouse...yeah, I'd punch the wiifit in the throat...I HATE that thing...like the little "uh oh" and then blowing up my mi just to make me fat...jerks...I haven't been on it since I dropped 40lbs but I'm quite sure it will still mock me, there won't be any wolf whistles..and DAMMIT there SHOULD be...so, meh...ignore the little b@tard. And thanks, I do think the no scale NSV was a biggie...I'm such a freakshow.
And have you ever noticed how it kind of moans when you step on it? GRRRRRR….But I love the cardio aspect cuz it’s fun, and I apparently have issues with balance (I fall. A lot) so I do those. Not loving the Yoga or strength, but as long as I get a burn from playing…I just hate how sarcastic it can be…”Oh…too busy to work out?” No, dammit, I simply forgot to log yesterday’s bad@$$ lift is all…Jerk. :bigsmile:0 -
@Vegas - I’m sorry…that was totally me on Monday. I’m so glad it was a lift night, otherwise I would have probably hurt someone (especially the scrawny, sawed off little rat b#####d that was talking smack about my department…SOB hasn’t picked up anything heavier than a mop in his life.) Oooo…yeah, I am apparently harboring a bit of hostility, still.
I’m gonna go have a well deserved glass of wine.
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It is weird. I have only been doing some ab exercises for maybe about 2 weeks, and only a few times a week, but my abdomen is getting pretty solid and sort of muscly already. My thigh just above my knee, is pretty rock solid, when sitting the area looks pretty large to me and I cannot deny, it was stressing me out a bit. I think it is very diffficult seeing your body change when you have a history of anorexia and have had long periods of being very thin, or lean with less muscle. To adjust to accepting the change. My aim for most of my life has been to be thin, a small size, a light weight. That is several decades, basically. Changing my mindset is not smooth sailing.0
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It is weird. I have only been doing some ab exercises for maybe about 2 weeks, and only a few times a week, but my abdomen is getting pretty solid and sort of muscly already. My thigh just above my knee, is pretty rock solid, when sitting the area looks pretty large to me and I cannot deny, it was stressing me out a bit. I think it is very diffficult seeing your body change when you have a history of anorexia and have had long periods of being very thin, or lean with less muscle. To adjust to accepting the change. My aim for most of my life has been to be thin, a small size, a light weight. That is several decades, basically. Changing my mindset is not smooth sailing.
This is really normal but if you want it, you can have it. Anytime you're freaking out about your body just reach out and talk to someone about it, it can really help0 -
It is weird. I have only been doing some ab exercises for maybe about 2 weeks, and only a few times a week, but my abdomen is getting pretty solid and sort of muscly already. My thigh just above my knee, is pretty rock solid, when sitting the area looks pretty large to me and I cannot deny, it was stressing me out a bit. I think it is very diffficult seeing your body change when you have a history of anorexia and have had long periods of being very thin, or lean with less muscle. To adjust to accepting the change. My aim for most of my life has been to be thin, a small size, a light weight. That is several decades, basically. Changing my mindset is not smooth sailing.
This is really normal but if you want it, you can have it. Anytime you're freaking out about your body just reach out and talk to someone about it, it can really help
Thanks Tameko. My mother is not very sympathetic to the freaking out. But I looked down at my legs in winter tights for the first time since xmas while sat down for dinner and noticed they are much larger than they were back then just above the knee, not just imagination, I can tell by my hand span, lol as I used to rest my hands across my legs or grasp my thighs above my knees to check the muscle. Obviously, with my history, my reaction was to feel panicked and fat and to wonder if maybe I have been overdoing the calories. I have been eating at close to 3000 some days. Not junk, just a lot of chicken or fish, greek yoghurt, cheese, sweet potatoes, veggies, fruits and such things.0 -
Changing my mindset is not smooth sailing.
No it's not. It also doesn't help when you're living in a society where a size 12-14 is considered "fat" and a size 0 is considered "desirable." WTF people? Really?? :huh: I haven't seen a size 0 since ... never. :ohwell:
I actually started lifting because "dainty" is never going to happen for me, so I might as well embrace it and go for kicka$$. Then I can help defend the dainty little waifs out there and carry stuff for them and catch them when they faint. :laugh:
Focus on being healthy and strong. You're so much more than your body, although it does help to have a body that's healthy so you can go live your life to the fullest.
Also, the Wii Fit talks smack to people? :huh: All I get from my Xbox is what a great job I'm doing. And badges! Maybe you should switch consoles. :laugh:
@Vegas ... have some wine, lady, and chillax. It'll be alright. :flowerforyou:0 -
If you're talking US sizes -No it's not. It also doesn't help when you're living in a society where a size 12-14 is considered "fat" and a size 0 is considered "desirable." WTF people? Really?? :huh: I haven't seen a size 0 since ... never. :ohwell:
I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"0 -
If you're talking US sizes -No it's not. It also doesn't help when you're living in a society where a size 12-14 is considered "fat" and a size 0 is considered "desirable." WTF people? Really?? :huh: I haven't seen a size 0 since ... never. :ohwell:
I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"
Yeah, it's pretty rare around here. And "country folk" I think maybe *used* to be a little smaller, or at least in better shape. But now sometimes I think we're even worse off, because not only has everything become more automated (like, farm equipment, for example) but we're also so far away from everything we can't walk anywhere or even ride a bike anywhere. Unless we, you know, purposely go for a bike ride. The more naturally "outdoorsy" people are in pretty good shape.
Even with that said, though, I'd say I know VERY few 2s and 4s. My boss is one of the teeniest people I know and I occasionally get freaked out by how little she eats and how she "forgets" to eat. She might even be a 0. But she also has teeny tiny bones, I think. Teeny little wrists and stuff.
I feel like a large, viking woman now, just thinking about it. (I'm half Norwegian.)0 -
If you're talking US sizes -No it's not. It also doesn't help when you're living in a society where a size 12-14 is considered "fat" and a size 0 is considered "desirable." WTF people? Really?? :huh: I haven't seen a size 0 since ... never. :ohwell:
I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"
I'm in Houston, and for fun on the drive through downtown I decided to count the number of skinny people I saw crossing the street at one of my red lights. 2 out of 7 weren't over weight. 2 were "overweight", but at this moment I'd still kill to have their bodies (probably size 12s?), and everyone else was obese. We did have the title of fattest city in the country for a while, but we did lose it again. (Probably not because people got skinnier here, but another city got fatter.)0 -
I am seeing smaller numbers on the tape, but still seeing fat arms. There is a hint of definition in my shoulder/upper arm area, but the light has to hit it just right. :grumble: Granted, I just finished week 2, so I didn't expect a visual miracle, although, I do wish the reflection would catch up to how awesome I feel on the inside. The confidence level in my brain is almost pegged, lol.
Having next to no upper body strength, tho, is a drag. OHP @ 35 lbs tore me up tonight, and I was so hoping to nail 40. Maybe next time. I just hope I will get enough in by mid-April, which is when the mud run is. I'll be damned if I want the other girls pushing or pulling me over the obstacles. That would basically be a suckfest.
Gah! My butt is dragging, and I am so ready to crawl into bed. Tomorrow is a rest day, and my son has a big award banquet, so I will actually have to not work out, lol...
So it's off to find my jammies!0 -
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I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"
Yep I'm talking US sizes. A realistic "skinny" size for me is about a 10. Anything less than that and it means I'm starting to look gaunt. Then again I've never lifted heavy and so with the whole body recomposition it just might happen, who knows? Right now I'm aiming for a 12 cause I'm a comfortable 14 and have been for some years but I felt pretty good at a 12, especially after giving birth to my youngest.
You're right, height has everything to do with it, as do genetics. Many Asian ladies (that I know personally) are slight to begin with, and for them a 0-4 would be realistic. I'm a 5'10" German tall drink of beer, and a size 0 for me would mean I'm either in a prolonged coma with inadequate feeding tube intake or I've been dead for a good while, neither of which is something I consider "healthy." :laugh:
I just think it's scary what's being sold to our young girls as "desirable" and "attractive." No wonder eating disorders abound.
I'm more of a "happy medium" type person. Neither super skinny nor obese. Somewhere in the middle that's realistic and sustainable, sounds perfect to me.0 -
[If you're talking US sizes -
I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"
Yep I'm talking US sizes. A realistic "skinny" size for me is about a 10. Anything less than that and it means I'm starting to look gaunt. Then again I've never lifted heavy and so with the whole body recomposition it just might happen, who knows? Right now I'm aiming for a 12 cause I'm a comfortable 14 and have been for some years but I felt pretty good at a 12, especially after giving birth to my youngest.
You're right, height has everything to do with it, as do genetics. Many Asian ladies (that I know personally) are slight to begin with, and for them a 0-4 would be realistic. I'm a 5'10" German tall drink of beer, and a size 0 for me would mean I'm either in a prolonged coma with inadequate feeding tube intake or I've been dead for a good while, neither of which is something I consider "healthy." :laugh:
I just think it's scary what's being sold to our young girls as "desirable" and "attractive." No wonder eating disorders abound.
I'm more of a "happy medium" type person. Neither super skinny nor obese. Somewhere in the middle that's realistic and sustainable, sounds perfect to me.
Yeah I have a friend who's actually very tall (well, 5'8") and probably a size 4 (she weighs like 120), because she is freakishly SMALL - even her head is small (she has to buy an x-small helmet for her motorcycle, which is normally a children's size). And naturally blond. And blue eyed. *grinds teeth*
AT 5'10 and a reasonably lean (you know, 23-25% bf or something) 170 (which I'm taking from the goal weight on your ticker) I think its very feasible you'd be a 10. If not smaller. Some days lately I have weighed that and all my 8s still fit (although, snugly at 170) and I'm 4 inches shorter than you but *freak*ishly heavy.0 -
Thanks for the words of encouragement friends :flowerforyou:
I am slowly starting to come down off the ledge....partially because I'm thinking things through and developing a plan. I don't think it matters how much weight you lose or how much you recomp your body or how you have changed your lifestyle for the better...if you have at one time suffered from low self-esteem or lack of confidence, it haunts you for a damn long time. And it's damn hard work to change that way of thinking.0 -
Sam- You do have some rocking numbers lady. WTG!
Hiit- I know you're bummed, but you're doing great. 10lbs is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you're one of those people allergic to everything.
JulieJ- How awesome are those NSV's! I remember after I quit smoking, and started doing cardio. All of a sudden mowing the lawn was so easy. :laugh:
Rowing machine: Interesting to know cause the gym where I got my personal training has one, and I was like "how do people do this for longer than 10 seconds." And then I found one on CL for cheap so hopefully they'll get back to me and I can join the cool kids rowing club. ***crosses fingers***
JulieM- I only do wii fit at my moms (and she lives 10 hours away.) Stupid thing tells me I'm unbalanced all the time. Jerk.
I'm sure there must be a way around weighing though.
Fisher- So happy for your return of the big plates. That's such a good feeling. =D
Vegas- Awww! Hug or martini or chocolate. Whatever degrumps you best!
Tameko- I'm the same way. I'm still trying to figure out my "sweet spot" but when I stuck to 1400 calories a day and worked out 5-6 days a week I lost almost nothing. Big deficits don't like me.
Graelwyn- It's odd how our perception of ourselves is often different from how we look, or how small changes can reflect so largely in our mind. I'm the opposite of you which is actually pretty nice other than I might not dress in quite as flattering an outfit as possible. In my most of my head I'm still a hot 150lbs with a nice rack. I tend to rest my hands on my hips/waist and I've noticed that the area feels smaller. So in my head I'll think it's clearly time to workout with just a sports bra. Then I check myself in the mirror and realize that would probably not be advisable.
Dani- Xbox eh? My kind of lady. :flowerforyou:
Jaylio- My mom is a city mouse turned country mouse, and it's definitely been harder for her to keep exercising. When she lived in the "city" (used loosely) she was on a golf league, went to the gym all the time, played darts. Now the nearest gym is 10 miles away, and after driving 35 miles home from work it's hard to find the motivation to go. I think another thing about living in the country is unless you have a garden it's a pain to get fresh produce.
I worked out today! I shared the power rack with this dude again during OHP time. Talked about lifting and bro'd out :laugh:
Squats: 110 5x5
OHP 74 5x5 So harrrrrrrrd. I think partially cause I was chatting instead of talking **** to the bar!
DL: 155 5x1
That lunge thing you ladies told me to do for hip flexors FELT SOOOOOO GOOD after today. I wanted to do it FOREVER. Then I decided I was hungry. So I came home and made Xidia's tuna noodle deliciousness. Totally hit the spot.
Hopefully I get a job soon, and I can cut down noveling on the forums. Even though I less than three you all.0 -
[If you're talking US sizes -
I know lots of 0s and 2s and 4s. But I do live in Southern California where overall people are thinner than the national average, AND we have a lot more Asian women. So, its not that uncommon here, although generally the most common sizes are a 6-8. (judging by how those are the first to disappear from the sale racks) which sounds about right for a woman of average height and reasonable fitness (not super thin but not overweight) But in the end height does matter a whole lot, even my sister who is very slim has never been smaller than a 4 at 5'4"
Yep I'm talking US sizes. A realistic "skinny" size for me is about a 10. Anything less than that and it means I'm starting to look gaunt. Then again I've never lifted heavy and so with the whole body recomposition it just might happen, who knows? Right now I'm aiming for a 12 cause I'm a comfortable 14 and have been for some years but I felt pretty good at a 12, especially after giving birth to my youngest.
You're right, height has everything to do with it, as do genetics. Many Asian ladies (that I know personally) are slight to begin with, and for them a 0-4 would be realistic. I'm a 5'10" German tall drink of beer, and a size 0 for me would mean I'm either in a prolonged coma with inadequate feeding tube intake or I've been dead for a good while, neither of which is something I consider "healthy." :laugh:
I just think it's scary what's being sold to our young girls as "desirable" and "attractive." No wonder eating disorders abound.
I'm more of a "happy medium" type person. Neither super skinny nor obese. Somewhere in the middle that's realistic and sustainable, sounds perfect to me.
Yeah I have a friend who's actually very tall (well, 5'8") and probably a size 4 (she weighs like 120), because she is freakishly SMALL - even her head is small (she has to buy an x-small helmet for her motorcycle, which is normally a children's size). And naturally blond. And blue eyed. *grinds teeth*
AT 5'10 and a reasonably lean (you know, 23-25% bf or something) 170 (which I'm taking from the goal weight on your ticker) I think its very feasible you'd be a 10. If not smaller. Some days lately I have weighed that and all my 8s still fit (although, snugly at 170) and I'm 4 inches shorter than you but *freak*ishly heavy.
Just tonight in one of our main papers was an article about how young women are having liposuction to try and get this thigh gap that is suddenly the in thing to have. Every day there are articles and images of the victoria secret models, or various other skinny celebrities with the articles title often pertaining to their lean body or perfect body or super flat abs etc. even at my age, I cannot deny it has some small impact.
I have never been above a uk size 12, and getting to that size was an effort. I was about 150 at my 5'10 height to hit that. I am generally a uk 8-10 when not at an unnaturally starved size, which is a us 4-6 I believe. I did fit gap size 25 waist not too long ago for a time. Oddly I looked my best, supposedly, when I wa 126 ibs through just healthy diet and walking, but now, even at a much higher weight , my mother thinks I look gaunt in the face. I presume this is because I work out very hard until I am dripping sweat most times and less body fat or somesuch. I find that so odd that I could look less healthy almost 14 ibs heavier.
I am in London right now, and there are a lot of thin women here. More thin than fat here actually. In my home city, there are more lean or skinny people too. You know, the ones in tight jeans with legs that have a huge gap and no calf muscle at all. Ideally, regardless of weight, I want to get back to the measurements I has when I mostly just cycled a lot, which were 33, 25, 35. I am an inch off on my waist, half an inch on hips and an inch on bust. I gained all the weight when I had a bad emotional experience and binged very severely for 6 solid weeks. I have been unable to drop it back again for the most part. I am a big eater. I find it hard, ironically for somene who lived on half a rice cake a day at her worst, to restrict. If I am having yoghurt, I want a 200g serving with my flax and oatmeal thrown in, not a piffling little sugary fruity pot.
I suppose my ideal body is a cross between miranda kerr, that woman in the pics tameko posted, a ballet dancer and a gymnast haha.0 -
I am in London right now, and there are a lot of thin women here.
I suppose my ideal body is a cross between miranda kerr, that woman in the pics tameko posted, a ballet dancer and a gymnast haha.
If none of those people existed to compare yourself, what would you like to look like, for whom, and why?
Cause a lot of ED's happen when women compare themselves to other women and try to "conform" to some sort of "normal" or "ideal" which may or may not be realistic for them.
I finally had to decide that if I'm going to compare myself with others, I need to go deeper than skin level and outward appearance because there's always going to be somebody skinnier, prettier, fitter, richer, with better boobs and a rounder butt ... you know, the list goes on and on, really. And, at the end of the day, most women out there are just as insecure as I am, and therefore comparing myself is useless cause somebody, somewhere is looking at my life wanting to trade with me for whatever reason.
I figure if I have the basics covered and am not scrounging around on a city garbage dump in a 3rd world country somewhere in a tin hut, I have it pretty good, and at that point most bases of comparison seem shallow and self-defeating anyway.
Sometimes all it takes is for us to get our heads away from our narrow focus immediately around ourselves, and think globally so we can appreciate the real struggles other ladies are facing; that's when our own become much smaller, they shrink down to their actual size (instead of the mountain we've made of them in our own heads) and become manageable.
I don't mean to be preachy or anything. Just typing this because I can relate and because I want to help. When I was still stuck inside the remnant of my anorexic head (and we're talking like 10 or so years ago still even though I hadn't actually been anorexic for years and years), it would have been dangerous for me to lose weight because I wouldn't have known when to stop and I would have run the risk of severely hurting my health, and that's not worth it since I have kids and a husband and a grandbaby and just way too much to live for to do that to myself.
If you like to eat, then eat. Have that 200 calorie yogurt. Who cares? Enjoy it. Too many women out there hurting themselves badly in pursuit of some ideal body image. Not worth it. I mean, women are dying after injecting their butts with silicone? That's insane. The beauty industry with its messed up ideal body images is making us all crazy in the head I tell ya! Not worth dying for, and damn sure not worth giving up my health for. Thankfully Victoria's Secrets makes bras in my larger ladies size, and my hubby appreciates the bit of cleavage I get from them; but at the end of the day he loves me for me; the whole package; the good, the bad and the ugly. If I don't accept myself for who and what I am, then other people never will. I'm an imperfect person who lives in an imperfect world with other imperfect people. That's just how it is. I'm just happy to find people I can hang with and be honest with and who treat me decent, no matter what jeans size I'm wearing.0 -
Dani.....that was a wonderful post! Well written and completely on point! Thank you! :drinker: :flowerforyou:0
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Dani.....that was a wonderful post! Well written and completely on point! Thank you! :drinker: :flowerforyou:
@Dani Great post.
So today basically I was kinda punished for being lazy. I knew I should have gone to the gym in the mid morning which is when I normally do. However, I slothed around and caught up on some tv shows. So by the time that I dragged myself out of the house and to the gym it was 5 pm and pretty much the only time that is crowded at my gym. Could I have waited and gone later in the night.?Sure but I was worried that I might not end up making it based on how I was already feeling today.
So the first thing that I notice when I get there is that the weight room is completely packed and every blown up meathead was in there. Everyone in there is lifting a ton of weight when I am walking in and I just felt crappy about it. I am not usually an insecure guy but today I was just off. Fortunately the power rack was open so I put my head phones on and got to work on my squats. I get up to my work weight and this kid is next to me that looks near anorexic with no muscle to speak of and he is squatting 5 lbs more than me. Granted he was only going 80% of the way down but it was still a hit to my ego. I know there will be someone that can out lftt me but I should be able to out lift Mclovin.
So get through my squats and to the bench not really anything eventful happening there. Still progressing on the bench pretty well. Then when I was on the bench the rack got taken over so I had to wait about 20 mins till I could get it back. I did go over to the treadmill and walk a little bit. My Rows went really well after watching some more videos this week I think that my form is much better. 145 felt a lot better than 120 a few weeks ago.
So that brings me to the most interesting part of the night. There were two women in the weight room.. well there were a lot more than that but these two in particular were interesting. Obviously I have no problem with women in the weight room. Encourage it in fact. One of them was dressed in bright purple and gold (not laker colors) and was so revealing she looked like a porn star. She wasnt the one I had an issue with so much. The other one was wearing one of those tennis mini skirt outfits and it was really short. Fine. Until she was bending over and flashing her see thru thong all over the place. To make things more interesting she did about 5 sets of putting a 30 pound fixed barbell on her hips and then doing hip thrusts. It was an interesting show.
Most women wear really form fitting clothes to the gym and I dont really have a second thought about it. But these two seemed to scream look at me. Am I wrong?
I am not a saint. Wasnt going to miss the show. They were hot after all. But isnt this doing a disservice to other woman or should they just wear what they want? I feel like this would be like me going in wearing bike shorts that are 3 sizes too small and purposefully trying to show my self off.
Plus they were about 35 not like 21. Shouldnt they know better?
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But isnt this doing a disservice to other woman or should they just wear what they want? I feel like this would be like me going in wearing bike shorts that are 3 sizes too small and purposefully trying to show my self off.
Their only doing a disservice to women in a bigoted environment. Otherwise they're just doing a disservice to good taste and manners.0 -
But isnt this doing a disservice to other woman or should they just wear what they want? I feel like this would be like me going in wearing bike shorts that are 3 sizes too small and purposefully trying to show my self off.
Their only doing a disservice to women in a bigoted environment. Otherwise they're just doing a disservice to good taste and manners.
I agree with tree. It was kinda tacky - ok no, it was REALLY tacky, and rude, because while some people would have enjoyed the show, and stared outrageously, and possibly tried to take pictures with their phone and gotten yelled at by their husband for being rude (THIS GIRL RIGHT HERE) it was really rude to force it on people who might NOT enjoy the show, and had no idea they were signing up to see nearly naked ladies do suggestive things in the weight room.
Also this story is hilarious. But, considering how many people on this site are offended by pictures of girls in sports bras and shorts I can't imagine how offended they would have been by THAT.0 -
But isnt this doing a disservice to other woman or should they just wear what they want? I feel like this would be like me going in wearing bike shorts that are 3 sizes too small and purposefully trying to show my self off.
Their only doing a disservice to women in a bigoted environment. Otherwise they're just doing a disservice to good taste and manners.
I agree with tree. It was kinda tacky - ok no, it was REALLY tacky, and rude, because while some people would have enjoyed the show, and stared outrageously, and possibly tried to take pictures with their phone and gotten yelled at by their husband for being rude (THIS GIRL RIGHT HERE) it was really rude to force it on people who might NOT enjoy the show, and had no idea they were signing up to see nearly naked ladies do suggestive things in the weight room.
Also this story is hilarious. But, considering how many people on this site are offended by pictures of girls in sports bras and shorts I can't imagine how offended they would have been by THAT.
It's like how Dan Savage says it's not cool and semi-violating to involve someone in your sex life without their permission. (Like random passerbys that can see you banging behind the bushes.)
On a serious note this is super squicky and gross. I would be mad offended/creeped out/talking to gym management/finding a different gym if some dude was wearing say jogging shorts and purposefully exercising in such a fashion to display his junk.(and seemingly getting off on it.) It's also kind of ****ty that we live in a place where since it's attractive women you'd probably be judged for complaining. No one should be judged for not wanting to see genitalia in an inappropriate setting!0 -
I guess what I'm wondering is that if this affects those women that are scared to come into the weight room and see things like this going on. Obviously these women were getting attention. And it seems to be one of the big "excuses" for women not coming into the weight room that it's a guys zone and theyre just going to be leered and stared at. Im sure this isnt going on at most gyms and its only the first time Ive seen it at mine. But was just curious as to how women felt about it.
I wasnt offended by it. Obviously. Even if they weren't in shape and didnt look good it wouldnt be something that I'm going to the management about. Double standard but I find it creepy when men do it no so much when women do.0 -
Doozer: cracking up over your gym/pelvic thrust story.
Vegas: I have three sons and a husband, I know about hating males some days. Hope today is better!
Body image talk. Wow, that was really great to read. Body image is one of my "things"....which I weird, becasue I struggle so much with it.
Today's lifting was OK, but I'm still struggling with my rows. I just can't seem to get my form right and it feels weird. Could it be that my huge boobs are getting in the way? I have no idea and there is no one to help me in person. Sigh.
I need to step it up on my upper body work. I'm only at 75 on my bench presses and I feel like it should be more.0 -
Good morning from the USA East Coast, y'all!
Oh, I feel SO much better this morning after a night of hard sleep! :happy:
Well, I am wearing a DRESS at the office today. My son's banquet is kind of formal-ish (read: scrubs would NOT be appropriate), so I figured I would save time and just dress like a chick today. The outfit I am wearing made me look like a sausage in casing last year. On a whim, I pulled it out of the closet and it actually FLOWS around me...doesn't cling to anything but the girls. I am SO happy. (Made a mental note that I can add this back to my work-wear arsenal.)
Doozer, your adventures at the gym tickled me. Are they regulars, or do you think they did it on a dare, LOL...I don't turn down many dares, but that would have been one I wouldn't have picked up and run with. :laugh:
I love the posts about body image! I never had a problem with it until I got fat. 5 years ago, when the weight was starting to creep up on me, my best friend was a girl 15 years my junior and was wearing size "0" and we were doing a LOT of swimming on the weekends. I was starting to get a feeling of what it was like to really NOT like my own body. And then the weight kept gaining. *SMH*
I will be SO happy when I can NOT race past the mirror on my way to the shower and have to look the other way or cringe if I do look. (It's like a train wreck...you don't want to look but sometimes you just can't help yourself...) Soon, soon! :bigsmile:0 -
@Dani that was an amazing post! Between you and Tameko I feel like I'm hanging out with some very wise women!
@Doozer - I'm glad I wasn't drinking when I read your story. I think it's sad that women don't have the self respect to keep private things private. Here's hoping their really, really stupid and didn't realize they were putting on a show...
Had a complete BAMF moment at the gym this morning. A trainer was working with her client near the squat rack this morning, and when her client went to get water she noticed me putting 45s on the bar for my deadlifts. She told me that was a lot of weight and asked if I could pick it. My response? "Oh, this is still a warm up set."
Squats felt pretty good this morning, and I'm really focusing on trying to engage my abs since my knees seem to be behaving on their own without too much concentration on them. At some point I'll be able to think about multiple things at once, but not there yet :laugh:
OHP are getting better! Now I just need to concentrate more! I did either 4x5 and 1x4 at 52.5 or 5x5 and 1.4 at 52.5. I had five hash marks total on my paper, but when I put the second one down, I really did feel like it was my third set. I'm wondering if I forgot to record a set. I'm distracted way too easily for this ****... Either way, I did better than last time, so at least these are progressing.
Deads, I rocked 155, but it was REALLY hard. I think I'm going to need to repeat this one, and finally start progressing in 5lb increments. I doubt I can do 165 next time. Oh well; still felt like a bad *kitten*!
And really hoping that my new ipod case comes in soon because the music at the gym is horrible (and hopefully my really crappy battery can last through a workout...)0
