Paying for dates?
diodelcibo
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?0
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As a women I try not to think that the man will automatically pay for me.I always take money and offer to pay my portion. If I invited a guy out on a date I would like him to assume the same however never having actually asked a guy on a date it's never come up for me lol0
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
Depends , how much bacon will there be?0 -
so not what i expected.0
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
Depends , how much bacon will there be?0 -
I have boobs. I don't pay.0
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I have boobs. I don't pay.
I have boobs too... albeit smaller in size0 -
I have boobs. I don't pay.
sure you do, with boob-currency0 -
I always offer to pay for mine, and the only time I had to pay for mine on date one I also had to pay for his too.
I am all for dutch - but paying him for date one, really??? I always offer to pay, even after a guy told me to stop asking as he would never let me pay. It's just not my nature to 'take advantage' so I always asked as a sign of respect - or I would treat him to a surprise to show my appreciation.0 -
I have boobs. I don't pay.
Forget the boobs....BEER!!!0 -
I have no issue always paying as long as you ladies agree I should continue to make 15% higher salary for the same job.0
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
So, you were asked out by a woman and you think she should pay?? Was she just being assertive in doing the asking?? Why did you go?? Are you interested in her, or just being polite??
I think if a guy expected me to pay the whole evening, then I'd take it as a sign he's not interested in me. I think most men would feel uncomfortable doing this?
But it does depend. Like, if I asked you to go to a concert cos I had tickets, then I wouldnt want the money for them, or yours. But I'd expect you to buy a couple drinks or pay the cab or something.
And then of course, if you're my b/f then I'd pay for whole dates.0 -
Newly single here...the world's changed since I was last single. I'm clueless....waiting for more opinions.0
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In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.
Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.0 -
I have boobs. I don't pay.
Forget the boobs....BEER!!!
Paid for by....BOOBS.0 -
If I ask a guy out... I assume I'll be paying. Usually he'll offer to pay or split. But, if I'm doing the asking I never EXPECT him to pay anything.0
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In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.
Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.
I was going to post this on your status so as not to ruin my joke here but you deleted your status.
Jokes aside, yea I agree with you. Who pays doesn't matter to me as long as it's not totally one-sided throughout the entirety of the relationship. I've been in relationships where I was too generous and got taken advantage of financially. Never again. And I wouldn't expect that on the guy, either.0 -
In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.
Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.
Yeah I have to agree with your female friends. Even if you do pay for the first few dates, she should offer to pay for one or atleast take you to the bar and pay for drinks.... I went to the movies the other night and Holy *kitten* that got expensive quick and we got the tickets for free lol
Its not fair for a guy to pay the entire time while your dating. Also I would think it would limit how often you two would be able to go out lol0 -
Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
So, you were asked out by a woman and you think she should pay?? Was she just being assertive in doing the asking?? Why did you go?? Are you interested in her, or just being polite??
I think if a guy expected me to pay the whole evening, then I'd take it as a sign he's not interested in me. I think most men would feel uncomfortable doing this?
But it does depend. Like, if I asked you to go to a concert cos I had tickets, then I wouldnt want the money for them, or yours. But I'd expect you to buy a couple drinks or pay the cab or something.
And then of course, if you're my b/f then I'd pay for whole dates.
She asked me out on a date, I was thinking at the time when she asked we'd be splitting , I just mentioned the her paying because when I asked a friend afterwards she said that if someone took her out on a date she'd expect them to pay.
I'm was interested fairly interested in her at the time but the paying at the end kind of made me a little angry.0 -
Second meeting with a guy this Saturday (first was just coffee).. we are going out for dinner and to an AHL hockey game. I offered to pick up the tickets. They will be considerably less than dinner though.0