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diodelcibo
diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
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Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
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  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
    Wanna go on a date?
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    As a women I try not to think that the man will automatically pay for me.I always take money and offer to pay my portion. If I invited a guy out on a date I would like him to assume the same however never having actually asked a guy on a date it's never come up for me lol
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
    Wanna go on a date?

    Depends , how much bacon will there be?
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    so not what i expected.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?
    Wanna go on a date?

    Depends , how much bacon will there be?
    Lots of bacon. Bacon cheeseburgers, bacon pancakes, chocolate covered bacon, etc.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I have boobs. I don't pay.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    I have boobs. I don't pay.

    I have boobs too... albeit smaller in size
  • poncho33
    poncho33 Posts: 1,511
    I have boobs. I don't pay.

    sure you do, with boob-currency
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I always offer to pay for mine, and the only time I had to pay for mine on date one I also had to pay for his too.
    I am all for dutch - but paying him for date one, really??? I always offer to pay, even after a guy told me to stop asking as he would never let me pay. It's just not my nature to 'take advantage' so I always asked as a sign of respect - or I would treat him to a surprise to show my appreciation.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    I have boobs. I don't pay.

    Forget the boobs....BEER!!!
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    I have no issue always paying as long as you ladies agree I should continue to make 15% higher salary for the same job.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?

    So, you were asked out by a woman and you think she should pay?? Was she just being assertive in doing the asking?? Why did you go?? Are you interested in her, or just being polite??

    I think if a guy expected me to pay the whole evening, then I'd take it as a sign he's not interested in me. I think most men would feel uncomfortable doing this?

    But it does depend. Like, if I asked you to go to a concert cos I had tickets, then I wouldnt want the money for them, or yours. But I'd expect you to buy a couple drinks or pay the cab or something.

    And then of course, if you're my b/f then I'd pay for whole dates.
  • Bonita_Lynne_58
    Bonita_Lynne_58 Posts: 2,794 Member
    Newly single here...the world's changed since I was last single. I'm clueless....waiting for more opinions.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.

    Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I have boobs. I don't pay.

    Forget the boobs....BEER!!!

    Paid for by....BOOBS. :wink:
  • Daisy_Cutter_
    Daisy_Cutter_ Posts: 386 Member
    If I ask a guy out... I assume I'll be paying. Usually he'll offer to pay or split. But, if I'm doing the asking I never EXPECT him to pay anything.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.

    Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.

    I was going to post this on your status so as not to ruin my joke here but you deleted your status. :angry:

    Jokes aside, yea I agree with you. Who pays doesn't matter to me as long as it's not totally one-sided throughout the entirety of the relationship. I've been in relationships where I was too generous and got taken advantage of financially. Never again. And I wouldn't expect that on the guy, either.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    In all seriousness, I would always pay for the first date. And likely the second. I would be highly impressed by a girl who not only asked me out on a creative date but also footed the bill.

    Every relationship I've had has been one sided financially. Female friends of mine have told me that is ridiculous and I should stop that. I think that after the initial first few dates, things should probably balance out a bit more. It does make me feel good to be able to provide, but there is a point where you are just being taken advantage of.

    Yeah I have to agree with your female friends. Even if you do pay for the first few dates, she should offer to pay for one or atleast take you to the bar and pay for drinks.... I went to the movies the other night and Holy *kitten* that got expensive quick and we got the tickets for free lol


    Its not fair for a guy to pay the entire time while your dating. Also I would think it would limit how often you two would be able to go out lol
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Say if someone asked you out on date ,is it not expected that they either pay or the bill is split, not that you end up paying?

    So, you were asked out by a woman and you think she should pay?? Was she just being assertive in doing the asking?? Why did you go?? Are you interested in her, or just being polite??

    I think if a guy expected me to pay the whole evening, then I'd take it as a sign he's not interested in me. I think most men would feel uncomfortable doing this?

    But it does depend. Like, if I asked you to go to a concert cos I had tickets, then I wouldnt want the money for them, or yours. But I'd expect you to buy a couple drinks or pay the cab or something.

    And then of course, if you're my b/f then I'd pay for whole dates.

    She asked me out on a date, I was thinking at the time when she asked we'd be splitting , I just mentioned the her paying because when I asked a friend afterwards she said that if someone took her out on a date she'd expect them to pay.

    I'm was interested fairly interested in her at the time but the paying at the end kind of made me a little angry.
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    Second meeting with a guy this Saturday (first was just coffee).. we are going out for dinner and to an AHL hockey game. I offered to pick up the tickets. They will be considerably less than dinner though.

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