Might sound like a stupid question but...
Replies
-
probably a mistake!
I hope you didn't lead with that.
On a more serious note, your comments in a previous post about her being able to do way better than you hit home for me. The last two guys I was in relationships with, I didn't question whether or not I was good enough for them. With the first guy, I thought he was the one who outkicked his coverage. With the next guy, I felt we were evenly matched at first, but he slowly unveiled these insecurities and these paralyzing fears about being rejected, and he started to devolve into this guy I didn't even recognize.
The guy I'm talking to now is a guy I've known for a few years. In the beginning, I didn't think I had a chance with him because he's tall and hot and really smart and successful and the most incredibly decent man you've ever met. And I defined myself as a formerly chubby girl with no game whatsoever. That was how I saw myself. I didn't see that I also had all these other qualities I was attributing solely to him. So I never put myself in a position to be rejected by him. I dated other guys who were "on my level." Fast forward to today, and he's the one calling me, telling me he wants to see me. And I have finally learned to stop keeping score and trying to figure out who is the better catch. If he wants to be with me, then all my analyzing amounts to nothing.0 -
Well its done. Have asked. No response as yet, but probably a mistake!
And jq2122 things aren't always quite that simple. As ive said before my friendship has no conditions on there being anything else, its not the sole reason I hang out with her.
Not a mistake at all.
Now regardless of what happens you can rest easy knowing that it would have
a) Never happened
b) is going to happen
Trust me, in a few days/weeks you will feel much better about the whole thing.0 -
Well she said yes..... sort of!
Said we will definitely work out a night for it soon. Not sure if thats a delaying etc tactic tho!0 -
Well she said yes..... sort of!
Said we will definitely work out a night for it soon. Not sure if thats a delaying etc tactic tho!
YAY!0 -
Well she said yes..... sort of!
Said we will definitely work out a night for it soon. Not sure if thats a delaying etc tactic tho!
YAY!
:flowerforyou:0 -
Nice!0
-
Well its done. Have asked. No response as yet, but probably a mistake!
And jq2122 things aren't always quite that simple. As ive said before my friendship has no conditions on there being anything else, its not the sole reason I hang out with her.
Just because it's not easy doesn't mean it's not simple.0 -
True but in this situation I don't think it's either. I'm keen to see if there is something more but not at the cost of her friendship so its about balancing things.0
-
True but in this situation I don't think it's either. I'm keen to see if there is something more but not at the cost of her friendship so its about balancing things.
Yeah, but that's you complicating it. You want to have your cake and eat it too, so you're doing this elaborate planning and wondering and testing and prodding but at some point you're gonna have to pick one and the results will still a simple "yes" or "no".0 -
Well she said yes..... sort of!
Said we will definitely work out a night for it soon. Not sure if thats a delaying etc tactic tho!
Said yes to what? To hanging out with you? Or to potentially allowing your penis to enter her?0 -
Haha. Straight to the point. To dinner.0
-
Haha. Straight to the point. To dinner.
Yay!!0 -
Haha. Straight to the point. To dinner.
Did you say anything about it being a date?0 -
Haha. Straight to the point. To dinner.
Did you say anything about it being a date?
That's what I'm wondering. Did you tell her it was a real date, or did you present it as a fairly normal hang out?0 -
Haha. Straight to the point. To dinner.
Did you say anything about it being a date?
That's what I'm wondering. Did you tell her it was a real date, or did you present it as a fairly normal hang out?
I agree with the people above.
I think the key point here is that you need to label it as a DATE!!!
Also, don't say 'probably a mistake' you need a smidge more confidence my friend.. fake if it you have too0 -
Well she said yes..... sort of!
Said we will definitely work out a night for it soon. Not sure if thats a delaying etc tactic tho!
Said yes to what? To hanging out with you? Or to potentially allowing your penis to enter her?
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Is this possible during dinner??0 -
I said will you let me take you out for dinner. Didn't specifically label it as a date but dont think that implies mates either.0
-
Best of luck to you! Just make sure you take her to a place that's a bit nicer than usual, quiet, and romantic so it actually feels like a date. Don't ask her where she wants to go, just take initiative and be confident. I hear girls like that.I said will you let me take you out for dinner. Didn't specifically label it as a date but dont think that implies mates either.0 -
i started to try to read this but all I got was that you left a vulnerable sleeping woman alone in a cab, expecting the driver to get her home safely.0
-
I was wondering the same thing, I think he cleared it up and said he always walks her to the door. At least that's how I understood it.i started to try to read this but all I got was that you left a vulnerable sleeping woman alone in a cab, expecting the driver to get her home safely.0 -
Do I think she likes me? I have no idea. That's why I'm in single peeps! I don't get relationships. Everyone around us thinks she does and tells me. But not her.
Here's the sure fire way to tell. Chicks looooove magic. So offer to show her a trick. Do the quarter behind the ear trick except instead, pull out a condom. After she chuckles which she no doubt will, stare at her with the condom still held out in front of you and only grunt out 'eh? eh?' If she gets naked, she likes you. If you then say condoms are dumb and she's cool with that, she really really likes you.
The best precursor to all of this is alcohol, lot's and lot's of alcohol. Now go get her champ!0 -
Do I think she likes me? I have no idea. That's why I'm in single peeps! I don't get relationships. Everyone around us thinks she does and tells me. But not her.
Here's the sure fire way to tell. Chicks looooove magic. So offer to show her a trick. Do the quarter behind the ear trick except instead, pull out a condom. After she chuckles which she no doubt will, stare at her with the condom still held out in front of you and only grunt out 'eh? eh?' If she gets naked, she likes you. If you then say condoms are dumb and she's cool with that, she really really likes you.
The best precursor to all of this is alcohol, lot's and lot's of alcohol. Now go get her champ!
You speak my language.
Also loving the McManus brothers pic in your ticker.0 -
So when is this date?0
