Over 50s Ladies - Our Special Needs
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@Ellen Far from a scientific fact, but my mum always says that if you can't sleep just to appreciate that your body is getting rest. It certainly helps your mind to relax rather than start getting frantic and sometimes a resting mind will drift off to sleep again.
@Kitn and Ellen - thank you for your thoughts. It's never an easy time is it? And hubby is putting his head in the sand as much as possible, which I truly understand. I think that's a universal saying, but just in case it isn't, it just means pretending the event isn't happening. We live in a place where sand is the only 'soil' we have so the saying is very apt for us.0 -
Sorry May to hear about your in-laws. Tough situation-we'll be facing it soon with my Mom and step-Dad. They were just here visiting us at our beach place and he is deteriorating more and more....0
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@grannymayoz and @wheatlessgirl66 thanks so much for your welcome!
My tale is quite unusual...back in the depths of time when I was a mere 35 years old I was an egg donor to help a childless couple have the pleasure of being a parent hopefully. Little did I know the long lasting effect it would have on MY body! After the eggs were collected my body decided it didnt want to get back to normal and I effectively went into early menopause.
Fortunately after about 3 years it had got back to a 'normal' state but not before I had a severe depression and put on about 42lbs.
Added to that my Consultant decided I needed testosterone injections to help my balance. Great! Life was back to a good balance....apart from my huge belly and the 42lbs!lolol. The result of the anti depressant medication and testosterone and comfort eating!
As I had for most of my life I tried every diet going...lost a few pounds, gained a few more. Then around 2002 I heard about Atkins and tried it and lost 26lbs!! Hurray! At last. My lovely husband did it with me to! We both loved the low carb life style but as with many things we slipped and gradually put the weight back on....along with moving from UK to UAE (does that answer your time question???)
Its a standard joke here that everyone puts on at least 12lbs when they first move here....just what I needed! I still had my belly too and was resigned to never getting rid of it but moving here gave me bigger hips to go with it!
Then menopause hit....fortunately I had an easy time...apart from my post menopausal weight redistribution....to my belly!
Losing any weight completely stalled. Our last real period of eating low carb was 2010-2012. Then my in laws moved in with us and........
so, now enough is enough and I need to get back in control. Over the last 2 years I have put on 16lbs and feel awful. The trouble is my body is just not behaving any more! We started low carb about 6 weeks ago and it is sooooooo slow if not static and I am desperately trying to maintain my enthusiasm and willpower. Hubby is doing well as men usually do. SO UNFAIR,lol.
Its lovely to find someone else who counts in fractions of pound or kilo,lol.
Now I'm concentrating on keto rather than Atkins and watching my macros which is new to me..especially as I vowed never to count calories again!
There you have it...an experienced Atkins dieter but novice Keto/Macro dieter.
Sorry everyone if thats been a long post to read.
@grannymayoz.....hopefully things are peaceful and calm with your mil and fil.
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Thank you for sharing your story jumanajane ! Life can be so tough, and it's tough for us to see the effects on our poor old bodies ! This is a very supportive group, so we should all do well here, on our mission to lose weight ....and to sort out everything else too.
I personally find that it is especially during times of stress that I have mistreated my own body, sometimes unknowingly, just by following conventional wisdom at times, or by trying to "comfort" myself.
Well, now I have found a new way to comfort myself, and that is by taking charge of my own health by committing to this way of eating. I had been eating low carb for quite a while, but not as low as keto. Since starting to log my food on MFP, I have seen such a difference in my ability to lose weight. It may be coming off slower than when I was younger, but it is coming off and I won't stop until I am at the stage of wanting to maintain my weightloss, whenever that will happen....
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@jumangane Your life experiences brought you to this point, and now you're doing the right thing to pay attention to your health and way of eating.
We've all found that our bodies are not "behaving" anymore--so true!
But here we are, and we're working hard to understand how our bodies work and to feed them the things that restore health. It seems crazy that it's taken so many years to really know the truth about what that is.
Like @Kitnthecat said, much luck to you. Yes, we can do this!
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@sbom1 Thank you. And I’m very sorry that you know what I mean
@jumanajane Oh wow, UAE? How exotic! I read somewhere recently that the Arab countries have more of a weight problem than the usual suspects (USA, UK, Australia…); I had never known that before. I’m so sorry about your egg donating story. What a blow to do such a wonderful thing for others, only to be smacked down I can’t imagine having in-laws live with you. I’ve had my mother and my brother in the past and that was nightmare enough. My brother was a sweetie, but if I wanted anything done I had to ask, and I was so timid back then… My mother was a whole other story that life’s too short to bother telling 
Thank you for telling us something about yourself and for sharing here.
Is everyone here doing Keto, or do we have any Atkins, general LCHF ladies?
As I already said on my profile page and in the April check-in, I slept badly last night *and* didn’t drink enough water yesterday. Oh boy have I paid for those 2 things with a big weight gain today!!! I hope it doesn’t take too long to rid myself of it again ha ha!
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@grannymay Oy, those gains hurt, don't they? I still have the 2 lbs I gained after my big drop.
Was under calories yesterday, so I hope I'm hungrier today. (Now, isn't that a weird statement coming from my mouth!) I hope you get back into your groove and your body drops the weight soon. It'll happen!
I always consider myself LCHF but I guess I'm also keto at this point since I'm around 20 carbs. Yesterday I hit almost 30 though--my highest--b/c I ate a whole avocado.0 -
I'm more general LCHF. My carb range is typically around 20-30 but Staying below 50 is my goal.0
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I was low carb eating paleo, but now experimenting with keto and loving it. It's not as hard as I imagined it would be. I thought it would be harder to give up some of the veggies, but I can usually stay below 20 g carbs daily.
And some potential good news....it looks like I'm in first place to win the "Biggest Loser" thing at work after all, I'll find out tomorrow if I am the winner of $140 Can. I lost 8.23 % of my body weight even though I was anticipating better results and thought I'd blown it. And we'll be starting another work challenge....the bikini / speedo challenge. Ain't no way I'll get into a bikini, but I'm game for the next weight loss challenge...then maybe I'll get into my tankini with the skirt bottom !0 -
@Ellen I'm down part of that gain but not all of it in time for this morning's result. That's OK, there are certainly worse things in life to worry about. So thrilled about your new vocabulary opportunities around 'not hungry enough' ha ha - isn't that brilliant? I can't help but wonder if I'm more in stall mode this week because I'm eating too little (maybe?), but if I'm not hungry... my body is not stupid and my energy is good...
@ibetty Thanks for checking in
@Kitn I love keto too. Who would ever have dreamed that of us last year? So exciting about your work challenge, I truly hope you win the prize!!! I miss speedo's - when they're on the right body anyway. Men these days are no joy to look at. I always loved seeing nice muscular legs and butt (who said that???) but they're all hidden under baggy sacks that pass as clothing now.
My M-i-L has been diagnosed with bladder cancer. She's already had an operation and a 6-week course of something they poured into her bladder once a week, but those haven't worked. My husband and eldest son are going to see her in hospital today while I babysit the girls. I definitely have the cheeriest part of that deal. I hope it's not too miserable for the men though. My M-i-L has advance alzheimers so she's not bothered by any of it, it's just my F-i-L that we're mostly concerned about obviously.
And I found a hole in the garden yesterday, the exact diameter of that snake we had in the house 3 weeks ago. David has rung the council, and then Parks & Wildlife and they said it could be a frog hole. We certainly have plenty of those in the garden!!! They also said the snake we had indoors was definitely a juvenile. So did it come *out* of that hole, and where are its siblings? David had sealed up every possible hole for any wildlife to come into the garden, which means every hole is sealed for anything to get out as well. So now I'm nervy again about any of us (including the dog) going into the garden, and looking around every corner and under every piece of furniture before I walk around the house. Knowing I just have to be patient and wait for my confidence to slowly return. It was also apparently illegal for David to have killed the snake, but the guy did understand that David had to protect the girls and myself when it wouldn't allow itself to be caught. *Shudder* If I see another on this property we're going to have to sell the house! The P&W guy did recommend some stuff that you put around 'that hole' and I guess doorways etc as well, that repels wildlife from crossing. Have to buy it, read the label and check it can be put where the dog hangs out safely.0 -
@GrannyMayOz
Snakes...why did it have to be snakes?
I think I'd have to move, too, if the place I lived was snaky.
-T.
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Good afternoon(or morning/evening,lol) all. Hope you are all feeling positive and full of energy.
@agrannyMayOz UAE is just like anywhere else you see on the TV or go for a holiday....exotic but living here is different. Most people dont have time to enjoy all the bling etc you see on different programs..too busy working or priced out of range. Nice to find Im not the only one whose 'soil' is sand!! lol.
I'm very happy to say that we dont have a problem here with snakes etc. Very little nasty wildlife to contend with. Loads of stray cats is about as bad as it gets...apart from mosquitos the size of a small bird! I have to say snakes and spiders is one reason I have never ventured as far as OZ! Ugghhh
There is a huge problem in the Gulf countries with obesity and diabetes. Unfortunately it is traced back to the introduction of 'western' fast food franchises around 30 years ago. Just shows how toxic they can be to a population. Its not helped here by the fact that vitually no one walks anywhere. Its just too hot. For example today is only 28C but yesterday was 34C and the day before 39C. Just too hot to walk outside and its still spring. Another month or so and it will be in the 40+ right through until november. You live in AC, drive in AC to go to an AC'd Mall.
@kitnthekat....brilliant...there is nothing as motivating as achieving something like that! Bring on the next one..we are all waiting for updates and advice on how you did it!
@wheatlessgirl66 you are so right..it takes something to jolt us into realising that we need to take responsibilty for our own health and a huge part of that is what we put into our bodies. Sadly so many people just dont get that jolt and suffer needlessly. I have to say that the biggest change for me when I first started Atkins was losing my 'sweet tooth' and the consequence that I also didnt comfort eat....was the comfort needed just my body demanding more sugar????
I love going shopping and just totally ignoring the cake and sweet section purely because I just feel...nothing! No desire for it at all! Yaaaay.
Do any of you find that if you go to a Dr for the first time that they look at your size and immediately make the assumption that at your age and size that you must a) be diabetic b) have high cholesterol c) have high blood pressure and/or heart disease?? About 3 years ago I was having chest pain so went to see a Cardiologist who ruled out a heart attack so booked me to have an angiogram and did loads of blood tests. I had the angio and it was fine. he came to see me and said...'I have your results' All normal! I laughed and said you expected them to be all over the place didnt you??? Yes was his answer. Just shows what a long term low carb diet can do for you!!!0 -
I am 47, so not quite over 50, yet, lol! Had a total hysterectomy two years ago. I naively thought there wouldn't be an actual tom anymore, but there is! The pattern I am seeing is every few weeks there will be an increase on the scale and then it will decrease again the next week. I always thought that once the lady parts were gone, the hormonal symptoms would too, but nooooooo such luck! Just thought I would pass that along!0
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Hello Everyone,
Looks like we've gotten some new Lady Friends since I last visited. Welcome aboard to all!
Yuck with the snakes and the heat and the "big boys" in speedos and the nice ones in big baggies! LOL You ladies always make me smile.
I'll be out of pocket for a while. Going Tuesday to have a pound of flesh removed (ha! maybe they can take a few pounds from some other places??!). HATE that I went thru seven weeks of torment just to have to do this anyway but I will be so glad to have it over and done.
Ms. May sorry to hear about your MiL. I will keep your family in my prayers.
@ Karlottap if you kept your ovaries you kept the hormones that cause the monthlies! From what I hear of menopause I'd rather do monthlies anyday.
I checked in for the April challenge and realized I've lost a few pounds. I've been so absorbed in other things I hadn't noticed. Wouldn't it be great to go on with life and look up to realize you were svelte all of the sudden!! oh well, a girl can dream! I just don't get the "hungry" thing. If I wait until I "feel hungry" I'd be picking myself up off the ground a lot. I notice when my BS drops low enough that I get grouch/irritable and I feel like my skin doesn't fit. But I just don't do hungry.
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GrannyMayOz you must know my husbands relative she lives in Waikiki lol.
So sorry to hear about your in-laws and their health problems.
My weight has stalled/plateaued ?? Even though I have kept carbs low, will wait patiently for it to shift again, I sometimes think that 1400 cal or so is too low, or is it my age0 -
@Risi That stalled weight thing is a real frustration. I was so excited that I was down 2 lbs, then it was back the next morning and is still hanging around. I'm bumping my macros and cals up to just over 1400 to see if that helps. But I'm not hungry sometimes, so I still won't hit them. I do think age has a lot to do with it. But most of the time I feel like I don't know what I'm doing.0
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I'm not a big poster but, I'm with you @RisiM and @wheatlessgirl66 , I am also so frustrated.
It will be 4 weeks tomorrow with no weight loss..ugghhh. I have decided to up my calories to 1600 (from 1500) and up my exercise (helps that the weather is beautiful) and stay away from the scale for at least 1 week (instead of daily). Also just finished my TOM so hoping next week will be a HUGE loss (always have to have hope, don't we?)
@GrannyMayOz , hugs to you and your family with regards to your MIL. It is a very difficult time. Strength and hugs to help you get through
@Kitnthecat - hope you were the Biggest Winner today at work
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I am considering doing this - when you set up your percentages on MYP what are you doing - the pie chart? Up to now I have set (tried) for 1200 calories and had carbs 35 / fat 25/ protein 40...what do you guys use for low carb ?0
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@Karlottap : I had a hysterectomy, but still have my ovaries. Sometimes they work and still kick off the hormones. They sort of...throw off my scale every month or so, too.
@pagangds : I have mine set at 1300 for calories. I am very tight and on a keto diet, so my numbers may be very different. I have 75% fat, 20% protein, 5% carbs.
-T.
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Another sleepless night! Tossing and turning for a couple of hours then get up again so I dont disturb hubby! What amount of magnesium is a good starting point???
Also I find myself feeling hungry! Not anything I have done on Atkins! Am keeping within my macros more or less. Any one got any suggestions please?0 -
My goals are set at 75% 20% and 5% carbs - which is 20 for the day0
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jumanajane, I'm not sure if you mentioned what kind of magnesium you take, but I take " Natural Calm" every evening. If I am having an average day I will take one tsp, but if extra stressed I will take 2 rounded tsp. This amount may loosen stools so you have to be careful. Each tsp equals 205 mg magnesium citrate.
You could also try camomile or "Sleepytime" tea, or a tea with valerian root. You could also soak in a bathtub with some epsom salts. This is actually magnesium that will absorb through the skin. It will help calm your muscles.
Well ladies, no word yet if I am the winner of the contest. They are all congratulating me, but I don't have the money in my hands yet....
Just came back from the chiropractor. I was coming home from work yesterday when the car behind me hit my car. My car seems OK, but I am sore today and will probably feel worse tomorrow. My neck and back...trouble spots for me already. He will get me back to feeling better, but he is also awesome because he fully supports me in my keto mission. It is just a short ways off from the way he encouraged me to eat in the first place, i.e., grain free, sugar free etc. I asked him what he thought about zero carbs, and he is not a fan. I was thinking of trying the May meat challenge, but may not just on his advice. I have noticed that I eat less and less veggies though, kind of naturally.
I think I need to soak in some epsom salts myself. I'm debating whether I start a personal injury claim through my insurance, just for the healthcare. I don't want to go to a regular Dr, since I trust my chiropractor to fix me.....he could tell just by checking me out that I was looking to the side when the impact occurred. If I start a claim, at least my chiropractic would be covered.... Think I'm trying to sound this out to decide what I should do.0 -
I seem to have had good luck with Natural Calm and sleepytime chamomile teas recently. I had to up my Natural Calm to 1.5 teaspoons, and will probably try 2 tonight, though, because I still get some foot cramping in the morning right before I'm supposed to get up. At least I'm not tossing around all night like I was before the Natural Calm was added to my evening routine.
@Kitnthecat : I would recommend filing whatever you can file. Every bit helps.
-T.
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@happylifex10 I seem to remember reading once about 'set points' where your weight 'sticks' at certain levels and you just have to wait for your body to adapt to losing again, very annoying especially when you know you've stuck to the 'rules'0
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Wow – so many posts since I last looked.
I haven't looked at that URL. If there are pictures of snakes I really don't want to see them. I just unfriended parkdad because his new avatar is with a snake round his neck and the fewer pictures I see right now the sooner I'll recover I think.
@jumanajane I understand what you mean. Where we live is never exotic. Mosquitoes love me. I could sell myself as a high-priced mozzie diverter I think because they never bite anyone else if I’m around. And I seem to be allergic to some and they stay red, angry and very itchy for 6 weeks or more. So perhaps UAE isn’t the place for me. You’re free of wildlife in the main parts of suburbia here, but I live near a large tract of native bush so the snakes and lizards come from there. I would never do the same again but I really love this house. Plus moving house involves paying many thousands of dollars to the gov’t for ‘stamp duty’ on a new property We regularly gets temps in the high 30s and low 40s in summer. The hottest day I’ve known was 44°C. It’s usually a very dry heat here in Perth so a lot easier to take than humid places. I know you get hotter still. I don’t go to a doctor unless I’ve broken a bone (which I’ve never done) or am going to give birth, so I can’t answer your question. I’m so sorry you’re sleeping badly, but glad that @Kitn and @Teneko have replied to help you. As to the hunger, what are you eating? Well, what are your macro goals? Have you arrived at those goals with a calculator or other reliable source? What’s so different about what you’re doing now compared to Atkins?
@Karlottap Glad someone answered your question.
@Rebecca Glad that I gave you a smile my dear. I’m so very sorry to hear about your pound of flesh, and truly sorry for what you endured for no reward Will you be long in hospital? And thank you for your prayers, they are truly appreciated. I will keep you in mine as well. Awesome news on the weight loss. I’ve not dared turn my back on my scales because I know what happens when I do!
@Risi Waikiki, Perth? That’s near Mandurah at the absolute south end of the Perth urban sprawl and we’re up past Joondalup which is nearly the north end. But still, as far as you’re concerned, we’re pretty close! I know all about plateaus; I think we all do here. I’ve no idea how many calories a day I’ve been eating this month. If you haven’t hidden your own calories you could view my diary and see, but please don’t tell me. I’m going to unhide them again and look back on 1st May. When I could see them I was aiming for 1450 per day regardless of exercise. You could certainly try eating higher for a set period and see what happens. Try to cling to the fact that your body is healing itself when it’s not throwing fat out. I think, as fat is released, it frees the toxins that had been stored there and then your body has to cleanse that before it can be ready to open itself for the next onslaught.
@Wheatless Oh heck, don’t you hate the moment of glory that’s snatched away the next day? But you’re healing. I’m not enjoying some healing at the moment too
@happylife ugghhh indeed. Seems we’re all hanging around uneventful at the moment. Thank you so much for your thoughts on the family situation.
@pagangds welcome to our little ‘older ladies’ group. My daily goals are for around 1450 calories, 15 grams carbs, 125 grams fat and 70 grams protein. When you cut carbs you have to replace those calories with something, and the ‘something’ of choice around here is fats. Have you seen the FAQ section at the head of the LCDaily forum group? There’s heaps of information there.
@Kitn I truly hope that you feel better soon and am so sorry you’re having to endure this.
We've been out today and bought some animal deterrent stuff, but it's going to be Sunday at best before David has a chance to spray it where we want it. In one breath, his mum is supposed to be getting transferred to another hospital (I fear this may be a hospice), and in another breath they are going to do another operation on her, which means she'd have to stay where she is, so we're up in the air, which is fairly typical hospital behaviour. Albert is having to literally spoon feed her or she won't eat and the nursing staff aren't even checking to see if she's eaten anything. Food is never checked by anyone to make sure patients are eating, it's just ridiculous!
I'm still very happy with what, and how I'm eating and recording even though the scales have nothing nice to tell me I'm still up 300 grams from 9th April's nice lowest weight. Oh well, that's why we're all here together for support *hugs*
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Good day, all! It's nice to have so much to read when I open the forum, especially this particular page.
@grannyMay I hope the deterrent works and you are permanently rid of the uglies. We lived in the West for a while and got them in our basement. I hated it. Finally conquered them, but it was awful in every way.
@Kitnthecat So sorry about your being hit in your car. I'm on the side of your filing a claim. You'll have the extra medical expenses because of it and it's right that they be covered by the person who hit you. So good that you have an excellent chiropractor! Feel better soon!
@jumanajane Yes, the magnesium will help your sleep! Which will help your weight loss!
@happylife Bumping up calories seems to help a lot of people. I just bumped mine, too, so hope we both get good results. I weigh every day so I can see what's going on, which in my case is daily fluctuation.
So let's all say it together: my body is healing, my body is healing, my body is healing! For some (most?) of us, it's going to take a very long time but we're here for the long haul. This isn't a diet, it's a way of eating. I'm glad we're here to support each other!
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@GrannyMayOz : It's a scene from Indiana Jones with Harrison Ford staring down a cobra. In the movie, he says, "Snakes...Why did it have to be snakes?" He also hates snakes. -_-
Very busy group.
Bad news: I upped my magnesium last night to 2 teaspoons and drank plenty of water. I was still awakened at 4 AM..at 6 AM...at 7 AM...
And in the shower, I had my foot cramp up, too! This is even AFTER rubbing that homeopathic arnica gel on my legs and feet AND having an Oxylent electrolyte and vitamin mix at 6 AM with a bunch of water. What...the...heck. I thought it was getting better.
At this point, I might have to see a doc about it. The bruising on my legs and feet is quite bad this morning.
-T.
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I look forward to reading this thread too! All of you amaze me, daily!
When I had my total hysterectomy they took my ovaries and said I was "covered in endometriosis," so that is what causes the monthlies for me. The only way to stop it is to not , ever, take estrogen. But is not happening, so I just deal with it. It's just yesterday when I saw the trend it opened my eyes to the upticks on the scale.
@Kitnthecat, I hope you are able to recover without any problems! Are you in the U.S.? I believe the other insurance is supposed to automatically cover any expenses related to the accident. Not to scare you, but may, I was in a rear end collision 18 years ago and still suffer to this day with neck pain and headaches. I have already prayed that's not the case for you, or anyone for that matter. If the responsible insurance company balks for any reason, don't hesitate to get legal counsel. At this point you have to protect yourself. Right now you are able to talk with the insurance company about this yourself. If you get a lawyer all communication goes through them. And DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING THE INSURANCE COMPANY MAY TRY TO GET YOU TO SIGN, OR AGREE TO VERBALLY! This is their way out of responsibility and is tricky, on their part, sometimes.
I am still staying away from the scale for this week. Is depressing to not see a change, or an increase! Has been raining here, south Mississippi, everyday and is supposed to keep raining through the weekend, boo! So, outside activities have been curbed, for now. I enjoy walking, though really need to find me something on YouTube that I can do inside. I hope you all have an amazingly wonderful day!
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