I'm curious to know if you heard from him too. I've done online dating, and I have met quite a few people who "seem" great on the surface but are actually all sorts of wrong. If he'd been texting and emailing many times a day for 2 weeks, and then doesn't respond for even 24 hours, he's not interested. Not "he's busy, he lost his phone," etc. There's not a single person on the planet too busy to respond to a text, sorry. Even if they do it when they're walking to the bathroom (or in the bathroom), or as they're getting into bed, or while they're waiting for the kettle to boil. See what I'm saying? Takes seconds to respond.

The good news is, one day, one will come along who takes the hard work out of everything. I mean we have our problems, sure, what with wayward teenagers and ex wives and my weight and such, but - for the most part it's great. There's not a relationship on the planet that doesn't require some effort on both sides to be understanding and considerate, but we "fit" together.

I was curious what B.O.B. meant...my guess was Be Own Boyfriend? Either way...good message And thank you @KnitOrMiss for the insight. I'm actually 100% okay with being alone right now and focusing my energy on myself (well, I lied...my dog and then myself). But I do know that eventually, "loving myself" will need to be upgraded to including someone else...I just hate the first date parts and wish that I could skip to like the 3rd or 4th date when you already have a sense that you are diggin' each other.

Ahhh, that makes much more sense

Keliandra wrote: »

Hi,

Yes, I heard from him Tuesday morning. He said that he wanted to be honest, that "the energy was good, but not great", and that it had to be great for him to proceed. I asked if we could get together again when he returned from a trip, and he agreed, though he wasn't over-the-top enthusiastic. I guess we will see. Meanwhile, I'll drop my line back into the ocean and see if there is another fish

I saw that HORRIBLE picture Tuesday afternoon as well and my eyes were opened! *shudder* He is a very fit and highly active: motorcycles, sailing, horse riding, car racing...I don't look as tho I could keep up, especially when we were riding in a tiny smart car I guess he was trying to find a nice way to say it. However, this one -could- turn out to be a very good friend. If not, oh well! He wanted someone quirky, intelligent, loving, honest, openly affectionate, with a giving nature and a high sex drive. I'm all that and soon I will be fit and healthy, too!

Might be something worth mentioning, your current focus on regaining your health. Maybe you could engage him in assisting you getting more active? Definitely worth trying to make a friend out of him, because energies change, shift, and heat up! If not, you can still have a great friend.

Love what both knitormiss and sljohnson1207 wrote. Back in my young & frivolous days, I've passed up a couple of guys who I thought there was no chemistry with just because I wasn't instantly physically attracted to them...it wasn't until I became buddies with them and got to know them more that all of a sudden I found myself with a new found crush. Of course, it wasn't until it was too late and some smarter girl saw them for who they are much quicker than I did. Live and learn...but gaining a new friend is always good...and you may even meet more people through him, which could also open up that dating pool.