Venting
ConstantStruggle
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I have fallen off the keto wagon....I was doing really good (lost 6 lbs, which is good for me, only had 8 to go) and then I started a new job where lunch is catered in everyday. I'm still taking my lunch to work but I've been making worse choices away from work and I think it's cuz the food I am seeing at work is making me crave carbs more and then I say "oh I can have 1 or 2 pieces of this chocolate/bread or whatever", then it turns into, "we'll I just ruined the whole day so f### it!!
I drink alcohol also but was doing great at figuring that in. Gin and diet tonic has 0 carbs so that is my go to but I can't seem to keep the calories down along with carbs. I know this will work if I stick to it but I just can't stay within perameters. I envy all of you that have done any kind of diet and stuck to it. I've been trying to lose the same 10-15 lbs for 2-3 years and I lose 6 and gain it back.....it is just so frustrating. I'm really not looking for any sympathy I just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening! Lol
I drink alcohol also but was doing great at figuring that in. Gin and diet tonic has 0 carbs so that is my go to but I can't seem to keep the calories down along with carbs. I know this will work if I stick to it but I just can't stay within perameters. I envy all of you that have done any kind of diet and stuck to it. I've been trying to lose the same 10-15 lbs for 2-3 years and I lose 6 and gain it back.....it is just so frustrating. I'm really not looking for any sympathy I just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening! Lol
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Vent away! Most of us have been there. The struggle is real.0
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As much as no one likes to hear it, situations like this happen all of the time, and eventually you just have to mentally bitchslap yourself into saying no. If you can't do that, it's going to be the same cycle over and over, because the rest of the world isn't going to stop eating like John Goodman just because you want to.11
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I just messed up yezterday and this morning too...its ok1
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Gallowmere1984 wrote: »As much as no one likes to hear it, situations like this happen all of the time, and eventually you just have to mentally bitchslap yourself into saying no. If you can't do that, it's going to be the same cycle over and over, because the rest of the world isn't going to stop eating like John Goodman just because you want to.
I too feel you, OP. Big time!
What Gallowmere is saying is not what ANYONE wants to hear, but it's the God's-honest-truth.
This is the ticket right here.
Oh I'll have just a "little bit." PFffft.
Tell yourself "'Nah' to the 'Ah' to the 'No', 'No', 'No'
The annoying song I hate by Meghan Trainor that my 5-year-old keeps singing right now.
My version: (Sing it to yourself-in your head, cuz out-loud in public would just be crazy
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"I think it's so cute and I think it's so sweet
How you let your coworkers encourage you to try and eat me
But let me stop you there, oh, before you speak
"Nah" to the "Ah" to the "No", "No", "No"
A little chocolate? "No"
A little bread? "No"
Gonna eat it? "No"
You need to let it go
You need to let it go
Need to let it go
"Nah" to the "Ah" to the "No", "No", "No""
Yes, I am bizarre. But I lost all the weight and am keeping it off. So I might be onto something.
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Can you maybe work on noticing how the cabs make you feel when you go crazy? I know for me realizing that eating higher carbs really really causes some GI distress helps make choosing not to eat them easier.1
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Do any of u drink alcohol? If so, what?0
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Very rarely, and when I do, it's usually an Irish Whiskey or Scotch.0
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ConstantStruggle wrote: »Do any of u drink alcohol? If so, what?
I drink alcohol every weekend. I like gin and club soda also tequila and soda with lime in a salted glass. If I have my liquid stevia with me, I'll add a bit so I have more of a margarita thing going on.
I usually drink dry red wine though. Literally every Friday or Saturday. Sometimes both days.
Though I should say I've been working on losing my last 10 pounds for over a year too. Though I have gone down a whole pant size even though I've lost no scale weight. So I'm not concentrating on the weight. I haven't had any episodes of falling off the wagon and I think it's because I look at it just @Gallowmere1984 says. I don't care what others "get" to eat. Honestly, I feel bad that other people don't know what I know. I feel like finding keto has been a godsend and a privilege for me. I've been at it over 18 months with no slip ups and it must be due to that mindset.
Embrace it. Eating low carb isn't something we "have to do", it's something we "get to do". It gives us an advantage over others they don't even understand.
Don't worry about eating too many calories on occasion. If you don't push your luck with crap foods you won't need to worry about it. Don't blame eating too many calories when it's pushing the limits of the diet that's to blame. It'll keep you focused on the calories and not the problem foods.2 -
ConstantStruggle wrote: »Do any of u drink alcohol? If so, what?
Straight liquor and zero-carb mixers (like ice or olive juice) in modest quantities - which is OK, because keto makes you the cheapest drunk in the county.0 -
Doing alternate day fasting. I always have a glass or two of red wine on my eating days. I water fast on my non-eating days...usually 36 hrs from last intake til next intake. That's what gets me thru my fasting days...looking forward to really good food and my wine! But, I am very strict otherwise.2
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@baconslave I love that song, it makes me want to dance around, lol! Wouldn't like it sung by a 5 yr old though.
Any good hard liquor (except gin, I'm not a huge fan of gin) preferably straight up. Red wine, white wine. But not all that often, maybe 3 or 4 drinks a month (2 - twice a month).1 -
I don't drink alcohol (on diet or not) - I am in Mexico right now and super grateful to everyone that has posted about a relapse - been under 30 carbs since July keep net carbs under 20. I don't eat meat only hCP465SFsome fish eggs and cheese.
I have not eaten any processed carbs since being here - it's been difficult - a "carby" breakfast has always been my go to treat on vacay. Haven't done it. Not on my IF schedule, eating lots of nuts, giving myself latitude with veggies and calories. But no chips no rice no fruit no croissant or pancakes no toast no desert- it is all of you in my head - thinking about how great it has been reaping the benefits of the LC lifestyle - clothes fit so well, happy to,put on a bathing suit - why sabatoge it for a fling with carbs? It seems like it is hard to get back to it so why get off it?
I walked about 40 minutes today to a health food store. Had a great LCHF brunch and found natural almond butter. That's a big treat. Life is good.4 -
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Big hugs to you, I feel you mate.0 -
Doing alternate day fasting. I always have a glass or two of red wine on my eating days. I water fast on my non-eating days...usually 36 hrs from last intake til next intake. That's what gets me thru my fasting days...looking forward to really good food and my wine! But, I am very strict otherwise.
Bully for you! How did you happen to get into ADF?0 -
Doing alternate day fasting. I always have a glass or two of red wine on my eating days. I water fast on my non-eating days...usually 36 hrs from last intake til next intake. That's what gets me thru my fasting days...looking forward to really good food and my wine! But, I am very strict otherwise.
Bully for you! How did you happen to get into ADF?
Made the mistake of doing LC without the HF in the past, then ADF on a primarily vegetarian diet. Desperate to make the military standards for waist measurements. Then looked at the guys who showed up to work every day with a dozen boiled eggs for breakfast and started talking to them. It was truly years of trial and error and learning from others. Since I have been doing LCHF with IF, I have made great strides.
My nemesis(es) (despite my education, I am unsure how to pluralize nemesis and to lazy to google) have been tortillas for quesadillas, blue nacho chips for nachos and when I ate cheese I was convinced it had to go on a Wheat Thin. Those days are over...thank goodness.2 -
Gallowmere1984 wrote: »As much as no one likes to hear it, situations like this happen all of the time, and eventually you just have to mentally bitchslap yourself into saying no.
This. I was where you are just a few short days ago. This is what it took to be back on track.... And these gray people in the forum.0 -
canadjineh wrote: »@baconslave I love that song, it makes me want to dance around, lol! Wouldn't like it sung by a 5 yr old though.
I think I'd like the song better if it wasn't coming out of my son's mouth. Over and over. Yes, I said my son. Sung with all the sass he can muster. The other one I hear from him all the time is Taylor Swift's Shake It Off. Which I also have a low-carb version of. Coping mechanisms... My oldest daughter (14) plays her music loudly and constantly. 1 -
"I've been trying to lose the same 10-15 lbs for 2-3 years and I lose 6 and gain it back.....it is just so frustrating. I'm really not looking for any sympathy I just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening! Lol"
OP: I was in the same place that you mentioned above until I finally made it the NUMBER ONE priority in my life. Instead of just "mouthing" my need to lose, I finally made up my mind to shut my mouth and just get it done.
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I work in a large office. It's someone's birthday every other day. There are always left over conference foods in the kitchen. The lady I sit next to has the top drawer of her desk full of fun sized chocolates and the bottom drawer full of packets of crisps. My hubby eats candy and crisps and all sorts of stuff every night. Life is full of temptation. It's easier for me now because I've been keto for so long but you really need to just get it straight in your head that this stuff is basically poison, and what it does to your body when you eat it is not worth it. I'm not even tempted anymore. I don't see chocolate, I see diabetes, or at least how crap it is going to make me feel.3
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I am a noob to this forum...can someone tell me what they mean when they reference "gray" ??0
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I believe it's Typonese for "great."4
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I'm just determined this time. I have health reasons: really high antibodies (thyroid, hashimotos diagnosis), vitamin d deficient and slightly higher cholesterol and hemoglobin.
I do drink. Which is why I find keto so successful for me. I eat about 900-1100 calories/day with intermittent fasting, and then I have a couple cocktails several times per week. I either drink vodka and soda water or red wine. I have a tendency to overdrink the wine, so that's a treat.
I also have the energy and lowered inflammation, so I find myself WANTING to work out. Mind over matter.
I think back to what my dr said last year, far before I committed to this fully, "the American diet is so perverted. We eat like we think food is supposed to taste so good. But it's really to nourish our body."2 -
ConstantStruggle wrote: »I have fallen off the keto wagon....I was doing really good (lost 6 lbs, which is good for me, only had 8 to go) and then I started a new job where lunch is catered in everyday. I'm still taking my lunch to work but I've been making worse choices away from work and I think it's cuz the food I am seeing at work is making me crave carbs more and then I say "oh I can have 1 or 2 pieces of this chocolate/bread or whatever", then it turns into, "we'll I just ruined the whole day so f### it!!
I drink alcohol also but was doing great at figuring that in. Gin and diet tonic has 0 carbs so that is my go to but I can't seem to keep the calories down along with carbs. I know this will work if I stick to it but I just can't stay within perameters. I envy all of you that have done any kind of diet and stuck to it. I've been trying to lose the same 10-15 lbs for 2-3 years and I lose 6 and gain it back.....it is just so frustrating. I'm really not looking for any sympathy I just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening! Lol
@ConstantStruggle - To me, it seems like you really need to get back in touch with your whys. Why are you doing this? Why keto?
Also, figure out if you really feel like you deserve this/that you CAN actually do this. Leanne Vogel asked that really hard question of someone else who struggling on a recent podcast. (healthfulpursuit.com)
It was like a sucker punch as I sat there and mulled it over. I realized that for me this whole journey to health is full of "impossibles" "lucky" and "disbelief." Like I can't believe that I did something or that I deserve something good.
Don't get me wrong, I'm really working on my positive self-speak, and it's hard...but it does help.
So, personally, I think that until you put a hard definition to your whys and other questions, you'll never have that backstop of determination to lean on when temptations are in your face...
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I agree so much with @KnitOrMiss
The why is really the foundation of it all right? If you don't decide why, then it's too easy to make compromises.
See if this little pep talk helps. It's only a few minutes to listen. Maybe 5..
https://www.ketovangelist.com/episode-1-start-with-why/1 -
What they both said. The Why is so important.1
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I totally agree with @KnitOrMiss and @Sunny_Bunny_ The WHY is what keeps me motivated. Once I got the confirmation that this WOE has significantly improved my diabetes and hbp, I thought why go back to what was making and keeping me sick? Am I perfect?, no by no means but I look at this WOE as a permanent , preferred, rest of my life choice. I want to be healthy, I want to live to see my grandkids (which prob won't be till Im in my 70s lol), This wants far outweigh I want to eat that sugar/carb laden thing. Get to the why
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I go back time and time again to the healing words someone provided me when I was in an abusive relationship. Many friends and family demonized my partner, which prompted me to come to his defense rather than advocate for myself. Never ask an abused person "why do you stay?" because that most often triggers justification/rationalization of the action whether it makes sense or not.
A very wise person used three magic words..."you deserve better"
When I am not doing what I should, I view it as me abusing myself...who would abuse themselves? All of us. But those three magic words that have become my mantra always return me quickly to a path of self love and self care.
Continue to remind yourself that YOU DESERVE BETTER1 -
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