Problems, hardships, and issues.
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Hey y'all. Hopefully you guys can help a girl out. I am well on my way to losing approx 115 lbs. (I've lost 20 so far). I was born with a very rare hereditary condition that causes blistering on my feet anytime there is friction involved. (VERY tender feet). I have been doing an elliptical machine because this seems to be less stressful on my feet. Within the last week, I've switched to walking at least 2 miles every day just to change up my cardio routine. My poor feet are SO sore...does anyone have any remedies for blisters when running/walking? I'd really like to keep walking and eventually run, but unless I come up with a solution to the blistering, i will not be able to do it. My shoes are a good fit and I'm currently using the specialized socks for less friction...but it does not seem to be working. Thoughts??? Tia!0
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In this 100+ lbs loss journey, we should all expect to take some wrong turns.
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@bmeadows380 thanks for your input
I just wanted to clarify that I was actually responding to the post @Saiosyn made above me. I know there are a multitude of nutrition plans aside from Keto, I would never want to impose my WOE on anyone. I only share information when it may be relevant. I 100% agree that its all about finding what works for you and is sustainable for your lifestyle. 0 -
Thank you guys. It's not that I have issues with staying under 20g of carbs when I'm feeling normal.... And I guess I'll get a bit personal, but I don't want a bunch of I'm sorries or oh my gods. Or whatever. But my mother passed last week. 13 days ago...And I've been stress eating. Carbs. And That's that I'm having trouble stopping. The stress eating from dealing with everything that comes along with it. Yesterday was the first day I actually ate a proper amount of food. With my proper macros. Granted....I only ate once. But it was kinda like a fat fast I guess. Huge breakfast (1000 cal ish) then nothing till I woke up at 12:30AM. Now I'm nomming on a small snack till another breakfast. So I think I might actually be able to pull myself out of this funk. We'll see how today goes. I might need to take a day where I feel like crawling out of bed and meal prep cause that also was an issue. I didn't wanna make anything. I just went to the kitchen and grabbed something easy. Or ate left overs from what people brought me. Though I really want some homemade bread right now xD0
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Does anyone have a spouse that may/may not be supportive be sure as heck does not help the situation at all. I love my husband, but he sits here and says he wants to lose weight, and when I tell him just the basics - go down to a 2k calorie intake and just get used to tracking everything first, (because big steps are not his strong suit) he just says he isn't gunna do that. Then goes about his business. It makes my heart hurt.
I know if I actually put effort into my weight loss I would lose more weight, but for it to be as simple as eating less and more of the right things and taking a couple extra walks. I park further away at the grocery store. It is all little things and I am steady losing weight. Little by little. Sigh. I hope he gets it together before it is too late.
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Does anyone have a spouse that may/may not be supportive be sure as heck does not help the situation at all. I love my husband, but he sits here and says he wants to lose weight, and when I tell him just the basics - go down to a 2k calorie intake and just get used to tracking everything first, (because big steps are not his strong suit) he just says he isn't gunna do that. Then goes about his business. It makes my heart hurt.
I know if I actually put effort into my weight loss I would lose more weight, but for it to be as simple as eating less and more of the right things and taking a couple extra walks. I park further away at the grocery store. It is all little things and I am steady losing weight. Little by little. Sigh. I hope he gets it together before it is too late.
Sorry for venting
@Ayane101 I agree with you, little things can add up to bigger things for sure. Regarding your husband, we can't control what other people do. We can only control what we do ourselves. It sounds like maybe the idea of tracking everything he eats seems overwhelming to him. Maybe it starts with portion control, or tweaking recipes into lower calorie versions, or swapping out food you keep in the house gradually etc. Idk...people are strange sometimes. Sometimes it's best to just "lead by example." All I know is, a lot of people around me who kept claiming they never were "into all that" suddenly started asking me how I'm doing it.0 -
@Saiosyn you need to give yourself sometime to process your loss ... a day at the time and you will get back to your healthier eating pattern .. just chose something to change each day and to try other healthier alternatives that might help with the cravings.
@Rangerharms my husband does triathlons so he runs for several hours and to avoid blisters he uses socks that are specifically for running (they have cushioning and feet don't sweat as much) and covers his feet with glide (looks like a bar deodorant). In terms of workout, if you go to a gym have you tried rowing? You have the traditional machine and then the one with water resistance that I love because the sound relaxes me0 -
@Saiosyn
Big hugs!!! Process what you are going through and deal with that first.
@anna4anna
I totally hear what you are saying. I make him the same sized plate as myself in order to help the portion control but he will then go and grab another full plate or eat a whole bag of chips right afterwards. I know I can not control him or change him. I just hope that after he starts to actually see my loss it might inspire him to want to talk some steps himself.
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happygirlxxx wrote: »@Saiosyn you need to give yourself sometime to process your loss ... a day at the time and you will get back to your healthier eating pattern .. just chose something to change each day and to try other healthier alternatives that might help with the cravings.
@Rangerharms my husband does triathlons so he runs for several hours and to avoid blisters he uses socks that are specifically for running (they have cushioning and feet don't sweat as much) and covers his feet with glide (looks like a bar deodorant). In terms of workout, if you go to a gym have you tried rowing? You have the traditional machine and then the one with water resistance that I love because the sound relaxes me
Thank you!! I will look into the socks and glide!0 -
I've also been stumbling a bit. I'm still eating under my limit, but what I'm eating is not the healthiest haha. I've "only" lost one pound in the past week, but I had a large enough deficit to almost lose two.
Everyone got sick with the flu and I ran out of healthy groceries. No one wanted to cook or go shopping, so I either skipped meals (Saturday I only ate once) or when I finally ate it would be all of my calories in one meal and a desert. Saturday I had two biiiig helpings of spaghetti with ground beef and garlic bread, and then a cup of frozen yogurt. I was still under 1400 so no big deal, but that was the first time I felt the want to just eat and eat and eat and eat and I'm having a hard time getting rid of it. I think the issue has been since I don't have my typical lunch choice, I'm back to eating frozen and canned foods like I used to before I started. They're pretty much all carbs. My dinner last night and the night before were pretty much all carbs.
I'm hoping the extra pound or so just water weight from all the carbs, but who knows? Buying more chicken and rice and whatnot tomorrow I think. I wonder if it'll curb the cravings I've been having again. At least I ate all of the frozen yogurt, so no more of that
I've still been here logging, but I ditched the community aspect of MFP for a while and refused to update my weight due to no progress. 0 -
I understand completely, Jirachii. My parents were up 2 weeks ago, which threw me off my pattern, since I was cooking for 3 instead of 1, and it seems to have re-awakened the part of me that wants to eat sugar and other things that I had been trying to limit, so it's been a constant argument with myself, and I've caught myself slipping, eating a little more than my limit, giving in, just estimating because I know it will be more than what I should have, etc. I am still losing, but it's slowed way down. This weekend was the worst - I definitely over-did it Saturday and Sunday.
But I'll keep slogging along!1 -
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It's so interesting that for an entire month I never felt a strong urge to eat anything unhealthy or eat more than one serving.
Suddenly there's some good spaghetti in my face and I'm like hold my stuff. I even had the leftovers for lunch today and then had a small dinner so I could finish the leftover spaghetti lol. I think I can officially list spaghetti as a weakness food. Bright side is that the noodles were whole wheat. But the meat was all ground beef ;_; What sucks is I'm still hungry.0 -
Thank you guys. It's not that I have issues with staying under 20g of carbs when I'm feeling normal.... And I guess I'll get a bit personal, but I don't want a bunch of I'm sorries or oh my gods. Or whatever. But my mother passed last week. 13 days ago...And I've been stress eating. Carbs. And That's that I'm having trouble stopping. The stress eating from dealing with everything that comes along with it. Yesterday was the first day I actually ate a proper amount of food. With my proper macros. Granted....I only ate once. But it was kinda like a fat fast I guess. Huge breakfast (1000 cal ish) then nothing till I woke up at 12:30AM. Now I'm nomming on a small snack till another breakfast. So I think I might actually be able to pull myself out of this funk. We'll see how today goes. I might need to take a day where I feel like crawling out of bed and meal prep cause that also was an issue. I didn't wanna make anything. I just went to the kitchen and grabbed something easy. Or ate left overs from what people brought me. Though I really want some homemade bread right now xD
I'm so sorry for your loss. It always takes time to get through something like that but you will get back on track!0 -
Does anyone have a spouse that may/may not be supportive be sure as heck does not help the situation at all. I love my husband, but he sits here and says he wants to lose weight, and when I tell him just the basics - go down to a 2k calorie intake and just get used to tracking everything first, (because big steps are not his strong suit) he just says he isn't gunna do that. Then goes about his business. It makes my heart hurt.
I know if I actually put effort into my weight loss I would lose more weight, but for it to be as simple as eating less and more of the right things and taking a couple extra walks. I park further away at the grocery store. It is all little things and I am steady losing weight. Little by little. Sigh. I hope he gets it together before it is too late.
Sorry for venting
I know how you feel. My boyfriend said he would eat better and start exercising with me, hasn't happened yet in the 4 months I've really been trying. What is even worse is when he is out shopping and buys me junk food that he knows I like. Know he is trying to be sweet but it's sabotaging me.1 -
My issue is sleeping, I average 2 or 3 hours per night.
This is not helping with my weight loss at all. I've tried teas, over the counter stuff, exercising and nothing seems to help. Talked to the doctor once but wont prescribe anything. I have a desk job so I eat throughout the day to help stay awake. I just don't know what else to try.0 -
I know how you feel. My boyfriend said he would eat better and start exercising with me, hasn't happened yet in the 4 months I've really been trying. What is even worse is when he is out shopping and buys me junk food that he knows I like. Know he is trying to be sweet but it's sabotaging me. [/quote]
Ugh!! Me too! Hubby just bought me a five pack of Cadbury eggs knowing that I LOVE them.....he says they are for "celebratory purposes" when I lose...but what he doesn't realize is that every time I open the cabinet door, they wave at me and beg me to scarf them all down in one sitting!0 -
Rangerharms wrote: »
I know how you feel. My boyfriend said he would eat better and start exercising with me, hasn't happened yet in the 4 months I've really been trying. What is even worse is when he is out shopping and buys me junk food that he knows I like. Know he is trying to be sweet but it's sabotaging me.
Ugh!! Me too! Hubby just bought me a five pack of Cadbury eggs knowing that I LOVE them.....he says they are for "celebratory purposes" when I lose...but what he doesn't realize is that every time I open the cabinet door, they wave at me and beg me to scarf them all down in one sitting! [/quote]
The last thing he bought me was Cadbury eggs too.....his excuse was I know you love these and they aren't out all the time.0 -
SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »My issue is sleeping, I average 2 or 3 hours per night.
This is not helping with my weight loss at all. I've tried teas, over the counter stuff, exercising and nothing seems to help. Talked to the doctor once but wont prescribe anything. I have a desk job so I eat throughout the day to help stay awake. I just don't know what else to try.
I have a ton of issues sleeping. Mine is due to stress and not being able to get my mind to stop racing. I found this guy on youtube not terribly long ago and it has helped me tremendously. You don't know me but I'm not a hippy/dippy therapy/hypnosis person, but I was desperate and it helped me so much.
He has a number of sessions but I've been using the sleep and letting go I've never heard the entire thing, I'm able to sleep pretty fast now when I have it on. If I'm super wound up I put it on a loop so when I wake up during the night I can go back to sleep pretty quickly again. I hope it helps if you decide to try it. I have no affiliation with this guy at all. Good luck
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC85kX_lkwSOISRCnqMvI_kA0 -
That is a dilemma you have, Ranger & Seminole! On the one hand, you have some incredibly sweet, thoughtful men in your lives - I know a lot of women who'd love to have their men think of them like that! But on the other hand, they are being incredibly dense as well!
Instead of keeping the eggs in the cabinet, try putting them in the back of the freezer. Out of sight out of mind
Or take the extras to work. And then it sounds like you may have to have a firm talk with him, about how you need his support, and that while you greatly appreciate his thinking of you when he sees the treats, that he's sabotaging you in something that you desperately want to succeed in. And then perhaps suggest some healthier, less damaging snacks he could bring you instead? 2 -
SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »Was just wondering if anyone struggles with emotional eating. On a normal basis I can stick with a calorie range and am satisfied with what I eat, not hungry or anything. When I get really down or stressed, I turn to food and become an endless pit. Where on a normal day, 2 slices of pizza would be filling but when I'm emotionally eating, I could consume a large pizza, a burger, fries, ice cream and still keep going.
The main way I emotionally eat is when I'm angry or stressed because of work conflicts...Dang! I can decimate a pizza, or a full bag of pizza rolls, or a bucket of fried chicken...OMG. When I'm pissed I let the monster out of the cage and eat like bear getting ready for winter.
I don't do this as much anymore. I do try to go to the gym or journal or meditate. However, it is hard to not run to food to make myself feel calm. Really. Freaking. Hard. 1 -
I am not sure with which type of eating (emotional, convenience, bored, hangry) I've been struggling!!! My friend loves to go out to lunch - we tease her that it should be her job! Unfortunately, I can't go out to lunch with her that often because the menus where we go (we live in a very small town) are very limited and their "off limit" foods are really, really, really good. Usually I can go, eat half, get a side salad instead of fries and bring home what's left. But sometimes, I just want to eat the entire 8" prime rib steak sandwich with hand cut fries - and yesterday I did
But that triggered a downward spiral the rest of the day. All of the sudden, that bag of chips of which I can usually just eat a 1 oz portion as a snack became my dinner, and that 1 piece of leftover pizza I was saving for the following day's lunch - became a evening snack. Now, today I am back on track, but I ate 2+ days worth of calories yesterday. ANY ADVICE?? 0 -
omgstfualready wrote: »SeminoleGirl78 wrote: »My issue is sleeping, I average 2 or 3 hours per night.
This is not helping with my weight loss at all. I've tried teas, over the counter stuff, exercising and nothing seems to help. Talked to the doctor once but wont prescribe anything. I have a desk job so I eat throughout the day to help stay awake. I just don't know what else to try.
I have a ton of issues sleeping. Mine is due to stress and not being able to get my mind to stop racing. I found this guy on youtube not terribly long ago and it has helped me tremendously. You don't know me but I'm not a hippy/dippy therapy/hypnosis person, but I was desperate and it helped me so much.
He has a number of sessions but I've been using the sleep and letting go I've never heard the entire thing, I'm able to sleep pretty fast now when I have it on. If I'm super wound up I put it on a loop so when I wake up during the night I can go back to sleep pretty quickly again. I hope it helps if you decide to try it. I have no affiliation with this guy at all. Good luck
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC85kX_lkwSOISRCnqMvI_kA
Thank you so much. I'll check it out, I really appreciate it1 -
My husband is an enabler. He keeps me fat. Ok, not totally true. I lack proper self control. So does he. I know how to say no but I just can't sometimes.0
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This is going to be a rant. Let me preface this by saying: I am normally an extremely level-headed person, to the point where people have told me most of my adult life that I am a "robot." It takes a LOT to push my buttons to where I actually begin to get upset.
My best friend lives 3 hours away, in my hometown, but we talk every day via iMessage or skype. The dynamic between us has somewhat changed because I had always been the heavier one and now its flipped and she is now at the weight I was at my heaviest when I started my journey. But I've supported, cheered her on and encouraged her at every turn. I've been there for every break-up and every emotional breakdown.
She knows about my lifestyle choice to eat Keto and has seemed supportive thus far. In fact, when she saw me for the first time in a while, when I had at that point lost ~55lbs, she asked me to help her start Keto, which I was more than happy to help her get started. Anyway, fast forward to earlier this evening when I mentioned doing Intermittent Fasting. Her immediate reaction was to conclude that IF was "super dangerous for your body" and that I was being "unhealthy because my brain needs fuel." I tried to explain to her that I am not starving myself. I am still meeting my caloric and macro goals. Intermittent Fasting isn't about starving yourself, its not even wholly about how much you eat (unless you're aiming for weightloss of course) but rather, IF is about WHEN you eat. So I tried my best to explain the science behind it, I tried to explain that I am the healthiest I have been in years, I explained that eating Keto and doing occasional IF works for managing my insulin resistance and why, I told her my most recent bloodwork showed everything was leaps and bounds improved and all tested normal (when I was on the brink of diabetes before)... Her response to everything was that she is a nurse and she knows "how we need to nourish our bodies."
I appreciate that she may be speaking from a place of concern and love (albeit coupled with a heap of ignorance) but its so frustrating to have someone completely write off and admonish a lifestyle choice that is working for me and is sustainable (because IF isn't something you HAVE to do every. single. day. forever). I love and respect my best friend, I do, I just wish she would respect the work I've put into learning and studying the choices I make. I never make decisions regarding my health on a whim. I am not sitting at my computer, googling "how to lose weight as fast as possible." I am a total and utter nerd, I am constantly eating up knowledge about the WOE that I've completely fallen in love with. I feel AMAZING.
Except now I'm sad, like really sad... that someone I've supported through thick and thin (literally and figuratively) is so harshly judging what I'm doing without taking the time to understand what I'm doing.0 -
... Her response to everything was that she is a nurse and she knows "how we need to nourish our bodies."
One of my two best friends is a classically trained nutritionist. And I can tell you that when a person has gone through graduate school the way they think afterward is rarely changed...I won't speak for all people, just in my experience that my friend has had a very hard time getting past what she was taught by the medical/academic community as gospel. And anyone who says anything that doesn't line up with her core taught "laws" is hurting themselves.
all that to say this. I have learned that it is all in how I say things to that friend. If I were to discuss IF with her, I wouldn't use the term fasting I would say I was timing my meals for my blood sugar and when I feel most hungry.1 -
Also I am sorry that you feel let down by your friend. >>>>HUG<<<<1
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I'm wondering if she unintentionally lashed out b/c she seemed to finally get things on track for herself and if she's using you as a role model (compliments to you!) then now she has more changes to keep doing that and that's scary.
Plus I agree, when people are indoctrinated with beliefs they are hard to overcome. I don't do IF and I haven't seen anything that would make me think that I would be willing to live that lifestyle. That's me, I don't speak out against it or for anything else. Hey, remember when Pluto was a planet.....people are still denying that. Science marches on whether you are on board with it or not, it doesn't care if you believe in it, it doesn't make it less true.
But, good for you for having a safe place to vent and not letting a blip in an otherwise strong relationship derail you.
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Isn't it weird how dynamics change with weight? My mom went from supportive to really bitter about my efforts when I reached the 10 pound mark. She's been blasting me to lose weight for years, and now that I'm trying it, she tries to sabatoge me. I think she likes that I've been stuck at the exact same weight for over a week now. (214-214.2)
I've never heard that IF is bad for you before. It's not like you're waiting until the sun goes down to eat. It sucks that she shut it down so quickly
if she really knew how to nourish her body though, would she be where you started? I'm only asking because the reason I'm personally heavy in the first place is because I had absolutely no clue. 1
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