WishfulThinning18 wrote: »

I’m super annoyed. Not sure if it’s at my co worker, at myself... most likely both.

Sitting down to work.. co worker comes over and asks if I wanted this peanut butter Krispe treat covered in melted chocolate. I said no thank you. Mind you they know I’m trying to lose weight. It’s not a secret... the Nutrisystem part is but they know I’m trying... so what does he do? Plops it right down in front of me on my desk and walks on. If I didn’t have someone sitting next to me I would have just thrown it away but we were working on a project so she moved the trash can so we could sit next to each other.

I ate it. I already touched it. He already had touched it. I didn’t know where he put the container. Now thankfully Nutrisystem allows me to flex (exchange things in and out) so I decided that I would flex my dessert and have this. And it wasn’t even good. At all. It was meh at best.

30 minutes go by and he asks if I ate it. I said yes but please don’t ever set food down in front of me again.

Now I’m thinking I probably sounded like a witch, and I’m new so now I’m worried about how I came off.

Sigh. I’m taking this weight loss seriously. I’m paying quite a bit of money for my plan. And if I go off it I feel like I’m wasting money because I am paying for said plan. I don’t want to be fat. And I’m an all or nothing kinda girl as well so going off what I’ve planned for myself is why I’m upset with myself. That’s how it always started in the past when cooking my own foods.. oh it’s just this once.. oh it’s just a bite.

@WishfulThinning18. Sometimes you need to defend your own space. Even if it offends other people.

Hindsight is always 50/50, but really the correct thing to do in this situation was either offer it to someone else, or get up and throw it in the bin (just so you can tell mister drop and leave that his "gift" was not welcome considering you stated you did not want it in the first place and that it disrupted your work having him leave it on your desk).

You were right to tell him not to set food down in front of you again. Do not be concerned with how it sounded, he did the wrong thing by you to begin with.

Next thing is to forgive yourself for this disruption to your eating plan. It was not a circumstance you had planned for. It was beyond your capacity to resist at this stage (it take a LONG time to build up cast-iron resolve). As you progress, you will get better at handling this (and other) situations.

You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it.

Simply resolve to do better the next time.

August 17
Exercised?: Yes. 5km walk in hills in 38 mins.
Calories?: Yes
Tracked?: Yes

Nice to work from home for a day.

Long way under calories. Will have something before bed, but still will not put me over budget. (I could demolish a 100g block of chocolate and STILL not be over budget).

Bad weather tomorrow and Sunday (after good weather all week). Race scheduled for tomorrow postponed.



Daily Strength challenge

Challenge for August 17 is sit-ups or crunches (abs day - be sure to use a mat or towel for cushioning - )

2 sets

• First set till the point where you can do no more, wait 2 mins
• Second set of 50% of the number you did in the first set (half)
  

The reason for only 2 sets for this exercise is that it ideally should be balanced with back strengthening exercises (which plank variants provide).

@grebber1 Happy Belated Birthday!

eevang wrote: »

Will the honeymoon be in a warm beachy place?

Yes indeed! 2 weeks in New Zealand with a bit of beach time in amongst trying to see as much of the country as possible and then 5 days in Langkawi, Malaysia. I can't wait! Between saving for a home and then saving for a wedding we haven't had a proper holiday since 2014. Although we've had a great week in Cornwall and some amazing short trips to Ireland for wedding planning.

fe452436 wrote: »

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Weight last week:193 lbs
Weight today:194.5 lbs

Sorry.Need some more time.I am trying.
Once I lost 15 -17 lbs and hit 160 lbs .At that time I was not thinking of anything but weight loss.In that situation one can perform too many repetitions hurting anything.
I wish I could be able to join gym classes again.

@fe452436. Seems like you have not found your balance yet. Eating style/preferences vs satiety vs activity level.

If you get the balance right, the weight takes care of itself (this is from experience).

Time and time again, those successful at weight management confirm it's a lifestyle change, not a diet or an activity plan. Your entire way of thinking slowly changes. You no longer WANT the things that made and keep you overweight.

The fact you got down to 160 and have gone back out to over 190 shows that this "mindset" was not learned as you dropped the lbs to 160.

It is a common mis-conception that you need the gym or vigorous exercise to lose weight. I have not seen the inside of a gym in more than 5 years and I dropped over 50 lbs last year (and have kept it off). My main "exercise" is walking (not jogging or running - low impact walking). I supplement this the quick bodyweight exercises. No equipment required. Completely portable.

If you like the gym, and/or it is convenient, then this is great way to work out for you (and sculpt the body you desire). For me, the gym is not convenient, nor a place I even want to be. Any activity that you try that you do not enjoy doing, in time you will avoid and stop doing.

Get your normal eating habits correct, then worry about activity (gym). Note this is not a "diet", something you go on an off, this is getting your normal eating habits set to something you can live with that will work best for you.

You have all the time you need. I am happy to help out where I can to get you on a track that heads you in the right direction.

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craigo3154 wrote: »

Lastly you could forego mains entirely and just straight to dessert (have it while others are having mains ). This way you get something you enjoy .

@craigo3154 Yasss -- now if only I could do this while somehow getting the little dudes to not clamor for dessert instead of dinner, too!

eevang wrote: »

I do want to add...I'm not sure I could eat a grilled chicken salad while people are eating pizza around me. Ever. I just couldn't face that temptation while eating salad. My go-to meal at an Italian restaurant is generally a chicken entree where I ask for the noodles to be swapped out with broccoli (I generally check to make sure they have broccoli first). I've done Chicken Parmesan and Chicken Piccata before. I also did a philly cheese steak without bread over baby spinach before.

@eevang You (and @craigo3154) definitely have great suggestions about the alternatives for eating out, and I've got a lot to learn in this area. I really do appreciate your ideas.

Now here's where I get honest and recognize my petulance: I don't like this particular restaurant, and I probably look for ways to have a bad time there. So, that's something for me to work on, too. Just got to get over that feeling and probably give the place a skip more often than not until I can. Darned mental weight loss game!

LesIckaBod wrote: »

craigo3154 wrote: »

Lastly you could forego mains entirely and just straight to dessert (have it while others are having mains ). This way you get something you enjoy .

@craigo3154 Yasss -- now if only I could do this while somehow getting the little dudes to not clamor for dessert instead of dinner, too!

@LesIckaBod. For a night out at special place, let the little dudes start with dessert too. Keeps them happy and makes it special night for them too. (Maybe limit them to ONE desert which they can have before or after mains - their choice).

LesIckaBod wrote: »

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Now here's where I get honest and recognize my petulance: I don't like this particular restaurant, and I probably look for ways to have a bad time there. So, that's something for me to work on, too. Just got to get over that feeling and probably give the place a skip more often than not until I can. Darned mental weight loss game!

@LesIckaBod. It's ALWAYS going to be a mental game. EVERYTHING is. If you expect to have a bad time, most often you are right. If you expect to have a good time, most often you are right too.

Training a mental approach to things takes YEARS of re-enforcement. I was fortunate to be coached in sports psychology when competing ice skating as an adult (in my 30's - I started at age 28 and managed to compete in 7 successive national championships). With any endeavour, weight loss, skating, difficult work situations, difficult social situations, etc... mental preparation helps make thing go your way. (btw, I am now over 50 ).

A day or two out from the situation, take 5 minutes to imagine the situation going the way you want. Find a quiet place, sit comfortably, close you eyes and imagine the situation in as much detail as possible. Remember you are in control of the situation you are imagining. You can change details, people attitudes, etc.. , but you want to make it seem to your brain as real as possible. Run through the scene/situation as many times as you need to focusing on controlling you actions to attain the desired outcome. The more times you can do this, the better prepared mentally you will be when the situation arises to be able to cope and try get the desired outcome for real. (This is a simplified summary of a technique I use, but the full explanation would take a chapter in a book).

The above can be repeated as often as desired as, at it's core, the brain cannot tell the difference between reality and simulation. The more practice you have at a situation, the better you become at it.

Hope this helps.

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