@Cornada, (((hugs))) to you, my friend. Thanks for your kind words. Let's NOT focus on this last week but look forward to a new week and finishing this month strong. OK? We can do it!!

@AustinRuadhain, thank you!! You are right that I need to look at what I am doing right, which is weighing in and owning the number, working out, tracking my points (most days ), and mostly NEVER giving up!! I might be down this week but I'm NOT staying down. Thanks for the quotes from the book and for your takeaways. Great stuff and I need to spend some time really meditating and journalling what you wrote. I'm too tired now but will do it in the morning. Thank you!!

@davors19 yay, 2lbs down!

@mrmcgrath sounds like a beautiful weekend! Noom sounds interesting, the psychological aspect would definitely be helpful.

@gunderw59 nice drop, congratulations!

@TeresaW1020 ((hugs)) to you as well. I agree- this week is best put behind us and focus on moving ahead. I'm also going to focus on not having a "what the heck, I already messed up so I will eat whatever I want all weekend" weekend.

raleighgirl09
Saturday check in

Hm, Saturday - feels like any other day! Ha! Going to follow in the footsteps of @katmary71 and try a new recipe this week - Chana Masala. Also, some Sweet Potato Roti - so that's actually 2 new recipes! I'll let you guys know how it turns out!

Still working to get back to 100% of plan. The basic meals are fine but I have been eating spoonfuls of peanut butter and jelly in the evening....slink style. Didn't have a couple of alcohol-free days as I had started and I have noticed a trend with my weight and alcohol nightly versus only a few nights a week. Water is down and I have only 2 days this past week that I actually wrote a plan. Sleep is great, exercise is great (taking a couple walks a day). I would love to just bounce back and not take days and days to peel it back and be back on track after a set back - do I work it this way because I tell myself this is how I work it...? Worth thinking about.

My food prep this week is the aforementioned recipes and also tofu, chicken wings, bratwurst, salads, veggies and rice. Still following hunger cues versus weighing and measuring and will continue doing that as it has been very helpful.

@its_cleo thank you so much for the kind words and message - yes, I'll need to go back in and get my stuff from the office when it reopens. I have some anxiety around that because it wasn't a fabulous ending but I'm working to separate the real from the imagined, think about what I can learn from and do better next time and to not be angry about choices the company made. I feel they were not honest with me and didn't value me as an employee or it wouldn't have happened like that. I think if I can recognize that in a non-emotional way and not be angry then it will be easier to have an honest (with myself) perspective. I can only control me, here, not anyone else.
@AustinRuadhain I really love Austin's takeaways regarding temptation and agree with @Cornanda that the whole willpower thing is a slippery slope - it just doesn't serve a person well. We're either all bound up in the effort or we're struggling to get back. Having a mindset of choices is less binding - I am choosing xyz actions for abc reasons helps me when some BS thinking has me wanting a spoonful of peanut butter just because the thought crossed my mind. So, if I have the spoonful, that is an action of choice and it may have an impact on my weight loss. If I don't have the spoonful, that is an action of choice and it may have an impact on my weight loss. It really is that simple - and a much better mindset, easier to manage than the whole 'will power' thing.
@Shoop69 nice drop, so happy for you!!!
@vegan4lyfe2012 what a fantastic weigh-in....new decade is in sight! WOOT!
@trooworld that sounds like such a lovely day - some very healthy and much needed self care!! I love this:

Thanks for sharing that video. It spoke to me, too. I wish I could show it to one of my co-workers who expects the whole office to stop bringing in treats because she and I are trying to lose weight. I just want to tell her that you can't go life expecting the world to bend to you, you have to resist the temptations. This video says that well.

This was one of the best lessons I ever learned - that my choices are mine and it was not right for me to try to control others' actions simply because I could not control my own....nope, had to get me under control and let others be and the will be.

@cornanda I am loving seeing your posts! Love your pre-planning to not have a 'what the heck weekend' I think I'll join you for that!! I'll share some tips with you on the quotes. You can hit 'Quote' as a choice at the bottom of someone's post and you can just delete out some if you want - or - if you want to just do a little piece, copy in what you want from the other person's post, highlight it in your draft post and simultaneously click ctrl and the letter q - it will give you the quote brackets. Same works for Bold Font (ctrl and b) and the Italicized font (ctrl and i). I find doing these with the keys to be the easiest.

Cornanda wrote: »

Plus, the more I think badly of myself, the more I want to eat!

Ain't this the truth? For me, anyway, self contempt leads directly to more of the behaviors I do not want.

That Tiny Habits system I keep raving about has you focus on what feels good. You choose to create Tiny Habits based on things you want to do. And when you do them (even if you think of them late,etc). you celebrate (do something that makes you feel good).

Self-compassion. Baby steps. Joy. Celebration.

As @TeresaW1020 says: Make "a plan ... work the plan! [and] Be VERY kind to yourself!"

@AustinRuadhain, I printed out your post so that I can re-read it and ruminate on it. Below are a few observations from your takeaways.

AustinRuadhain wrote: »

Austin's Takeaways from Indistractable so far

• Resisting temptation is not effective. Ain't that the truth!!!
• Resisting temptation can actually make giving in to desire... more gratifying. (Yes, for those of you of the right age, I am thinking of Rocky Horror and "shivering with antici......... pation." Oh my. Yes. I have so played this game with myself without noticing what I was up to.) WOW!! I don't think that I've ever considered this but it sure makes a lot of sense. Ohhhh and how I LOVE Rocky Horror!!
• We can manage temptation by changing how we think about it. Specifically we can reimagine the thing that triggers us, the action that we take, and the story that we tell ourselves about ourselves and who we are. This one is hard and I'm not even sure how to do it.
• To disarm a trigger, look for the emotion preceding it, write down what that trigger is, and explore the negative sensation with curiosity instead of contempt.Yeah, I'm going to have to focus on this one too. I don't know if I always have emotion triggering my tempation. There are times, when like I'm in the kitchen, and I think or a handful of nuts would be good and before thought comes into play I am eating the nuts. THEN I am like or snap!! Why did I do that? I do think when I pre-track my day and stay determined to not eat what I do track helps me the most. But I also find that there are too many times when that also doesn't seem to matter. Ya know? Do you have other suggestions?
• Self-contempt is not our friend and is not effective place to stand if we want to change our behavior. Yes, we will have that feeling, but maybe just watch it float by -- thank it for sharing and then let it go, like a balloon.Again, never really thought about not wallowing in my self-contempt and how ineffective it is to my behavior changing. Going to work on this one for sure.
• Labeling yourself as having poor self-control actually leads to less self-control. So, maybe look at telling yourself a different story about yourself.Like....Hey, I do have self-control! Look how I workout with consistency and give it my all each time I go into my workout room. I can do that with my eating too! Something like that?

Username: mlhopp93
Weigh-in week: Week 3
Weigh-in day: Saturday
Previous Weight: 339.5
Todays Weight: 339.0

Goal this week is to not gain back my 2 lb loss.

Yay @mlhopp93 down .5lb!

Great job maintaining @digger61

Copied and pasted this "Labeling yourself as having poor self-control actually leads to less self-control. So, maybe look at telling yourself a different story about yourself.Like....Hey, I do have self-control! Look how I workout with consistency and give it my all each time I go into my workout room. I can do that with my eating too! Something like that? "

I struggle with this, moderator vs. abstainer, trying to be a moderator and not doing well with it, then struggling with actually saying I'm not good at moderating because putting the words out there isn't good either. I don't want saying I'm better abstaining to be an excuse to eat everything whenever I get the chance to either.

Weigh in Apple852hk
Week 3 - Apr 2020 Sunday
PW 155.6(70.6kg)
CW 154.7 (70.2kg)

Lost - but only a little but. Ate well this week I thought but I did have bigger portions for lunch. I had quarter a roast chicken, when maybe I should have had a smaller portion.

I had chicken pie with puff pastry with a cream sauce. Plus a fish pie with heavy carb potatoes topping so maybe that is why I didn't lose so much this week.

I have been trying to add less butter on my breakfast hot cross buns. I noticed that I was enjoying just tasting the butter flavour than the bun itself. I made the changes around Thursday, so the last couple of days I am now tasting the bun flavour.

Drinking less tea but maybe as I am busying myself so don't feel bored and want to drink something.

I thank myself every morning for eating right the day before and the day to come. But I want to learn to say grace and actually notice that I am about to eat and to do it mindfully. I already have gotten into the habit of taking pictures just before I eat to time me how long I eat (10mins - too short I know).

I did snack on 2 pieces of chocolate this week. But I wasn't mindful and didn't drink water before eating it as promised. Will try and work on that this week.

I have been enjoying having frozen berries with yogurt at breakfast. I always saw other people eat it and I thought it would be too hard and cold to eat. But it's like having ice cream with a little harder texture. I like it. Glad I tried it.

GOALS next week:
1. Say grace silently to myself before eating a meal or snack.
2. Drink water before eating chocolate if I do snack on it.
3. Thank myself every morning for eating right that day.

Good morning team!! We have two weeks left of this month and I want to challenge us all to dig deep and finish this month stronger than when we started. We got this!!

Debster634
Weigh-in day - Sat
Week 3
PW - 181.4
CW - 182

@trooworld that chickpea blondie recipe looks interesting, I might try it. I don’t normally bake but I’ve been considering it during this shut down. But then I think I would just eat it all! So I haven’t yet.

@appleh I think eating mindfully is a great thing to do. Sometimes I eat in front of the tv which is terrible. I do enjoy it more when I eat at the table and just concentrate on that.

@TeresaW1020 yeah I’m trying to do more than 1- 30 minute chunk a day. Last week was probably the best I did since the shutdown. I tried to increase because like you I found I was just sitting too much. I do cycle through different things so a) I don’t get bored and b) it isn’t constantly exhausting. So some activities are more moderate pace than others, and the time probably ends up being 30-60 mins depending on the activity. So right now I do a mix of:

-walking outside
-jogging outside
-stair/hills outside
-strength training
-core
-mobility- this is foam roller work, and some mobility movements I find for hips, shoulders, etc.

This week I’m aiming for around 2 hours a day average, and I might increase my chunks to 40-60 mins.

Every week I plot out a rough schedule bc I can’t do certain things back to back ie I can’t jog two days in a row.

We’ll see how it goes! It’s definitely a work in progress.

@katmary71 I do love checkmarks! I also used to do stickers on the calendar. I don’t find the reward thing really works for me, but I get satisfaction out of trying to do better each week.

@raleighgirl09 chana masala is good. I was going to make it this week, but I always throw in chicken….well hopefully when you do have to go back in to the office they organize it as simply as possible. A few years ago my boss was let go and it was difficult for her- same thing I don’t think they valued her very much. She took some time off and then eventually got another job where she was happier, she was also able to advance very quickly I think just because they valued her more and she was happier.

@trooworld wow that is fantastic about WW!