So glad to hear your check ins @Alioth and @WifiresGettingFit I’m sorry for all you’ve been going through. The world is such a crazy place at the moment. I work in healthcare so am still at work but it’s changing everyday.

Congratulations @Bekah7482 🥳👶🎉 Can I ask how long you had been trying for?

Hi ladies! I hope everyone is doing well.

@sarawilliams5889 I’m so sorry to hear that!

@Alioth I don’t have much advice for potty training. I think we are now on week 8 and he is starting to improve. This week was his first time having 2 days in a row without accidents. Compared to my Facebook bumper group, I think he is picking it up much more slowly than many other toddlers, but in line with others. One woman in that group compared potty training to sleep - some will be great at it right away, others will take forever, but they will all get there eventually. My only advice is to make it fun and be willing to try different treats to figure what is motivating.

Like many others, I have been eating my way through quarantine. At week 2 or 3 I had finally gotten down into the 180s, but now I’m back up to 195.

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@puffbrat we started potty training on March 14 too. We are using the oh crap method and its going OK. K seems to be having a few regressions so I'm back to making him go every 2 hours instead of being able to trust he he will go on his own. And he refuses to poop in the potty and keep saving it for nap or bedtime (we are atill diapering for sleep). I'm giving him till he is 3.5 before taking away diapers and just dealing with the aftermath/night time wakeups.

We also recently started feeding therapy with an occupational therapist with K. We've been at it about a week and he did take one bite of egg (the first food we are working on) so thats promising. I'm very nervous for how things will go when I go back to work. Its making me want to quit honestly. I'm quite stressed about it.

Meanwhile B is starting to try to walk on her own (16 months old) so thats exciting.

I also weaned B a few weeks ago and have been slowly getting off my meds. Now that I'm at a fairly low dose, I'm experiencing withdrawal induced anxiety and insomnia so that sucks. I hope the symptoms go away soon.

I'm kinda ready for this year to be done tbh.

@VeryKatie that’s a lot going on!

We are on week 8 or something of the 3 day method It actually worked well and went perfectly the first day and a half. But then Leo got fed up with washing his hands and us pushing fluids. Since then, he just been really inconsistent with both great and terrible days. He isn’t very good about telling us he needs to go so we just have to pay attention to how long it’s been or other signs he gives. He wears pull-ups to sleep but actually seems to be night time training himself since the pull up is usually dry and uses the potty when he wakes up.

I’m so sorry you are having the food struggle! I’m glad you’re getting help. Leo was super picky for a while and I considered therapy but then quarantine happened, and now he is back to eating lots of stuff. I’m sure K will get there, but I wish it didn’t have to be so hard for you.

Yay for walking!! I hope your anxiety and insomnia resolve soon.

When do you go back to work? It seemed like it was causing you tremendous stress before. Do you need to return? Can you wait longer?

@VeryKatie that’s a really tough spot!

Hey guys, happy 4th of July!
So we finally got our BFP yesterday. I had mostly given up, thinking I was getting too old to have good fertility. Now I need to be serious about getting into shape though. I'm 10 lbs heavier than I was last time, and last time the extra weight wrecked my feet. So I need to not gain a lot of weight this time if I'm going to survive.
I don't have an OBGYN, just a GP. And my income keeps changing so I might get kicked off my health insurance. And I don't have anyone to cover for me at work if I need to miss. last time morning sickness made it hard for me to come in sometimes. We lost 1/2 our emps during Covid shutdowns. Anyway, we're gonna try our best!
Potty training is hit or miss...literally. haha.
Glad everyone's hanging in there. Even if it's hard sometimes. I took a break from the internet for a while. And the gyms were shut down. Things feel like they're looking up though. We can do this! I just need to drag myself to the gym...

@Alioth and @pezhed

Congratulations to you both on your pregnancies!! I'm very excited for you both how are you both feeling?

I have to look back on previous posts from everyone here... maybe at least to a reasonable date. It is so hard to catch up, I neglected MFP for a LONG time, over a year and now im only using it once in a while.

After my second kiddo was born I was so done with having more children. But now that she is older and my picky eater really isn't so picky any more (we got feeding therapy for him and he has improved a lot which is a huge stress relief - still picky, but I can usually get him to try a couple of bites). Apparently now I cannot stop thinking about a 3rd baby. It is frustration though because I am not sure if we should go for it but it is CONSTANTLY on my mind.

The debate goes like this:

- it feels like someone is missing and more seems better in the future
- But the pregnancies and 1st 15 months are so darn hard it might break me this time
- But i can't let go, I can't stop thinking about it. I can't close this chapter
- how about enjoy what you have?
- And i have no self confidence left that I will be a "good mother" - I feel I have succumbed to mom shame thinking, 99% me to myself. The amount of TV, how bad a cook I am, how bad I am at keeping house
- chris's hours at work make it hard for a good chunk of the year
- breastfeeding again uuugghhh
- but my children are the and my husband are the first things I've really ever had passion for...
- But how amazing would that person be?
- but am I being environmentally irresponsible, or am I creating children in a world that will explode before they are old?

So basicaly I just stew about it all the time. And I can't freaking decide. And I dont know the right answer. And I. am. going. Insane.

So... basically the actual settling point I personally am at right now is we will ttc in november and february only. And if that doesn't happen then I will give up. My husband says he doesnt see us only trying 2 specific months. He thinks if we try we will just keep trying from nov TO March or so. But then he also won't confirm that he will take parental leave if baby comes when work is too busy.

So. Yup. I've gone nuts.

Gonna try to get that last bit of baby weight off from B (born 20 months ago) just in case. But honestly not sure where we will land.

But i still love this group and I still want to keep up with you all even if i barely come on. I like reading the past posts.

I'm feeling a bit better about the decision now. I think it makes sense to have another kiddo. I keep worrying I won't be able to spend enough time with my other two... but I had that worry when I was pregnant with my second... and when I was at work after my first was born. So thats a pretty normal thought. And when I think back on my childhood... its playing with my siblings I remember the most.

Hallo gang. I wanted fill y'all in on how things went with my pregnancy in case anyone else still checks in. @VeryKatie Did you ever make a decision? I'm sort of in the same place right now where I'm debating whether or not I want more kids. It's a dread weight I'm dragging around every month not sure if I can do it again or if it'll be too hard to continue.
About my last pregnancy, I had hyperemesis again, to the point where I couldn't look at my computer, which is why I disappeared off the internet. I was on anti-nausea meds the whole time, which I had to fight my docs for. I had multiple doctors in two cities but had trouble finding one willing to deliver the baby because they discovered ovarian cysts, including one the size of a small grapefruit. I'd never had them before. They were possibly cancerous and maybe life-threatening if they burst. So I felt like a bomb was strapped to my belly. To add insult to injury, I looked huge way earlier in the pregnancy than I was supposed to, which people loved to comment on! LOL. The docs pressured me to have surgery in 2nd trimester, but I resisted because I didn't want to risk harming baby. At this time, I was grateful for my friends and family praying for me to keep my peace of mind in Jesus just to get through every day. Poor Josh was extremely patient and supportive.
I also fretted about catching Covid in my state. I couldn't miss work; and I couldn't locate a vaccine. In 3rd trimester, I got Covid anyway. It was rough, but I recovered. Days later, in February the baby came a month early. Labor lasted 1 full hour. Nobody was prepared, least of all the hospital when I arrived. The delivery was traumatic. They took the baby away thinking there was something wrong with her (there wasn't). Placenta was stuck (like last time). I hemorrhaged. Lots of unpleasantness but...After that, I recovered nicely. Baby Grace was sweet as she could be and wonderfully healthy. Dealing with the hospital and their people, not so much, but anyway...
The day after we got out from the hospital, we got a contract on a house! We sold ours and moved in with my parents for a few months while our new house's seller put in a new septic, fixed stuff, for the sale. In July, I got my surgery to remove the cysts. Surprise! They discovered not cancer, but endometriosis, which explains some of the cycle problems I've had, anemia, and irritable bowel. It's not curable, but they removed a lot of adhesions and endometrial tissue while they were in there. It's quite possible I'll get pregnant easily as a result now. (Though terrified now to do so.)

In August, we finally got into our new house: a sprawling ranch style on 6 acres outside of town. We absolutely love it! It's a fixer-upper, so with the new baby we've been painting, cleaning, shuffling boxes around, and trying to repair the property. We also got a dog and some chickens now to look after. I'm having a great deal of fun. Grace is 9 months old now, such a delight and gorgeous! Bruce was pitiful for a while when he stopped being an only child, but he recovered from that too and loves his baby sis now. (He will still not poop on the potty.) 2020 was an exciting year, sad in some ways (friends lost to Covid), but otherwise altogether satisfying. I hope it's been good to everyone else here as well! Can't wait to see what the new season brings! Who knows, maybe I'll break out of the 170s and down through thee 160s again? Good luck everybody!

Little update! Baby Amber was born on December 14! It was an interesting labour. Early labour/pre-labour was lots of starts and stops probably because Amber was face up. She eventually flipped face down and once she did FRICK we barely made it to the birth centre in time (my husband decided to take me there because he didn't think we would make it to the hospital). She arrived 10 mins after getting there.

She's a sweet little sleepy thing, which is nice for recovery. We are investigating why she isn't able to nurse but pumping and bottle feeding is going decently well.

She looks just like my oldest kiddo. They handed her to me after she was born and I instantly said "holy smokes she looks like Keith". A few people haven't been able to tell them apart when looking at their 2 day old photos.

@Puffbrat oh congratulations on being pregnant! Wishing you a smooth pregnancy! When are you due? So nice to hear from you. And from anyone who pops in once in a while.

I'm 3.5m pp and struggling not just to lose the weight but to not gain. I've just lost all desire to actually get it done because I'm quite sick of losing weight. My eating habits are awful and I can barely make myself cook, which I think is one of the main contributing factors. I don't really want to wait till I wean this time around since I was hoping to nurse a couple months longer since I didn't get to nurse my baby for 2m. Turned out I was right and it was a tongue tie. Took 6 weeks to get anyone to believe me. Nursing like a champ now.

Hi Kayla @WifiresGettingFit! Glad to hear from you! I agree this group calls to me still, too, even though I am totally done having kids! It was really fun during my active times. Sounds like a lot of cat care for you! Do you want one more? Haha, I'm kidding, mostly, but my cat is kind of a nightmare. She's 17 and it shows. I swear she's the entire reason we bought a new house last summer.

I don't remember what was going on with me the last time I posted. I was a SAHM for the first 2.5 years of my first kid's life. Last August I got a remote job at a pharma company in my field and it's been good! The corporation is starting to call people back to in-person, and it's based in another state, so we'll see what happens to me then. No plans to relocate to NJ. I have two sons now, Atlas (March 2019) and Bennett (February 2021).

I've just recently started trying to get on track and lose some weight. Over the years my setpoint has increased by 10 pounds and I'm really struggling to get back below that. Really would like to maintain a lower. I was trying intermittent fasting (just 16 hours fast with 8 hours eating) alone and it wasn't working. I have no problem cramming 2000 calories into 8 hours. So now I'm tracking again and intermittent fasting. Trying not to obsess but that seems to be my personality.