Yep, Bob sounds like a jerk. Being 84 doesn't automatically excuse you from being a jerk (not all old folks are sweet and lovely)...but Yooly is right that advanced age and crass remarks do seem to go hand in hand. My experience is that old age makes folks who were jerks in their middle age even jerkier, and can turn some previously adorable middle aged folks into newly minted jerks as they lose control over their civil/social inhibitions.

Don't let it needle you....you probably look simply gorgeous just the way you are....and a few surplus pounds can be re-lost but being a jerk is a much harder problem to solve.

Also...don't let it stop you being kind to Bob. Toxic comments can hurt, but losing your compassion and natural kindness can hurt your spirit in a different way.

Hope it all goes well, Connie.

Walking up my street tonight, Bob was on the front lawn with neighbours across the street from him. As I approached the husband called out "don't worry - he's grounded"
I said "did he tell you what he said?"
He and his wife said "no"
I said "ask him - and tell him that it was a really dumb comment to make to a woman" ... they laughed...I imagine they will get it out of him and rag him for being a dumb ***kitten***

bojaantje3822 wrote: »

Bob 😡

I hurt my left lower back exercising yesterday. I woke up several times from the pain and decided to call in sick to work because my full focus is on the pain at all times. Fortunately I'm on a diet break so I can eat whatever and not worry. Might have to order in, which I never do by myself and have only done three times when I had people over. I'm not even hungry or craving anything. It's 8.13am and I'm not even sleepy, even though I've been fully awake for an hour and I am not at all a morning person.

I'm so sorry! Alternating ice and heat will help it feel better. I have some scoliosis in my lumbar spine so I'm familiar with just how much muscle aches can cripple you.

Oh, @bojaantje3822, hope it settles quickly.

Hope you have air conditioning Alexandra! Looks like a brutal summer ahead.

I remember growing up in Cleveland when no one had AC! Luckily the hot weather is temporary in the Midwest. Hope things cool off soon.

Tooth blew up at three am, and it took one of my precious hoarded pain pills to get it to where I wasn't weeping in pain. I'm managing right now because in an hour and a half I can go to my dental appointment and get antibiotics, and some temporary pain relief.

Yikes. Hope health improves for all three of you. Ibuprofen seems to work even better than opioids for teeth for me.

And Bob. Can join my innocent looking dad. Who commented I should add a kilo or two instead of trying to lose even more weight (his interpretation of maintenance, not mine). And the next day when I added a second 400 Cal frozen dinner for myself after we each had one for dinner (I was operating with 1500 Cal remaining)... he said: "wow: a second one. As long as it doesn't make you head out for a walk! 😡😡😡🤬🖕

Clueless old guys...the world's full of them. Plenty of clueless old gals too. We just have to hope we don't join their ranks one day.

I've burned a lot of calories today. Two long walks accounted for 16,000 steps, and we also went for a 50km (30 mile) bike ride. Stopped at a pub for lunch at the 35km point and had a diet Pepsi and a ham baguette...nicked a half dozen of Kim's chips. Man, I love being retired!

I hate reading everyone’s bad health problems today when I am having such a great one!…..yesterday at the dentist I had no cavities and only one tooth to watch for sensitivity!….I plan on keeping these teeth the rest of my life!….

Saw the cardiologist today and my ECHOgram and stress test were ok!…I have a thicker left heart valve because of high blood pressure for so many years and it showed up as a blockage!…I was cleared for all exercise and was told to find one activity out of my comfort zone!…said I look great ( except for weight ) for almost 71 years old!

I feel really good and am getting some energy back again….depression is always hovering in the background but I am fighting it…

I hope everyone has a better day tomorrow!

Alexandra, is there a dental college in your town? Often they take patients for senior students to work with at a greatly reduced cost. They are supervised by their professors and get graded so there’s big incentive to do good work. And they might offer some new innovative treatments.

Several of my family members have had great experiences. Can’t hurt to get a second opinion if possible.

@jenniferelizabethwiseman and @AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wow. I know that both of you will overcome. But I've heard of better news, right?!?!?!

My update is basic. Garage was almost empty to use for staging. Rain started. Driven. Against the door. obviously bottom seals are not water tight. Garage has lots of water. Not suitable for staging. Either bet on no more rain over the next two weeks or try to fix the seals. I was fixing seals today! While doing enough for work like things to not end up in deep poo poo!

Lots of healing vibes!!!