Sober Discussion (Ongoing)
Replies
-
Hi everyone,
Happy Weekend! Whoops, I slipped up and drank alcohol yesterday!🙄 Though it was NOT a "binge", I promised everyone that I would stay honest and I am committed to that pledge. (I think I ended up having two beers and two cocktails - I'm guessing here, because I misplaced the receipt from the second place I visited.)
I will not drink this weekend (not going anywhere), but I have decided that I will reset my Sober Time account on Monday, May 5th and will celebrate my Soberversary each year on Mother's Day! (I really like that idea.)
Incidentally,May 5th is NATIONAL SILENCE THE SHAME DAY!
On May 5th, "National Silence the Shame Day" brings an opportunity to continue the conversation about mental health and wellness and erase the stigma associated with mental illness. (Seems fitting, doesn't it?) I think so, because addictions are often a coping mechanism used in an effort to ease feelings of mental and emotional distress and getting and staying sober are key components of developing emotional and mental wellness. So here I go!
Today turned out to be a beautiful day in Boston! It's partly cloudy and 85° right now!
Have a nice weekend.
💗 Carole
3 -
Hi Carole,
Thanks for sharing! May 5th- National Silence the Shame Day- I didn't know about this. It is very important to be empathetic to those suffering in silence. Addiction, in my experience, is a shameful lonely experience. But this is our safe place to share our feelings and ups and downs.
It rained all weekend for us and it was so chilly. We had a big party at my house for a family birthday. It was such fun. I did not overdo it, and as the host, I am relieved. I also took some great photos of the event as well.
3 -
Hi everyone,
No alcohol yesterday or today, but as mentioned above, I'm starting my count over tomorrow, Monday, May 5th. (Let's see how long I can meet the streak going THIS time!)
Happy Birthday to your family member, @RubyRed427! I'm glad you had fun and didn't overdo it! We've got rain today. I still have all my windows open, though. The air is nice.
My weight has gone up over the last few days, but I will fix it.
Enjoy your day and evening,
💞 Carole
4 -
The last 2 days I have had LESS alcohol, but drinks none the less. I will have zero today and would like to do that all week.
3 -
Hi everyone,
@SunnyDays930, me too! I had a few drinks yesterday and the scale this morning showed 164.2! (EEP!) That's WAY up; so I am resetting my count for today, May 8th and will celebrate my Soberversary every Mother's Day, since May 8th is the earliest date on which Mother's Day can occur and it would be nice to tie in Mother's Day with years' sobriety. Can I make it stick this time? I really have to! I'm about to join a two-year "Path to Lifestyle Change" program and I don't want to mess it up by slacking off!
I have to wait until I get home to reset my Sober Time count because I left my phone at home! (Can't believe I did that!) Oh, well. Here's to "Round Umpty-NINE!"
Have a great day,
💗Carole
4 -
Hi everyone,
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all you nurturers out there!
04/27: 158.8
05/04: 161.6
05/11: 159.8
WK LOSS: ⬇️ 1.8 (Loss)
TL LOSS: ⬆️ 1.0 (Gain)
So, looks like I'm back to my May 1st weight. Hopefully, I will sure a list by Thursday's weigh-in, which is such weeks until my annual physical. Time to stay focused and try harder! 12,688 steps today (6.18 miles); so if I can keep up this activity and be mindful of my intake, I should be able to make improved progress towards my goal.
No alcohol since May 8th.
Hope you enjoyed your day and have a great week ahead!
💗 Carole
4 -
Hi Carole and Sunny Days,
It has been one celebration after another. Family birthdays, parties, dinners out, afternoon drinks on the deck on Mother's Day. I am not trying very hard to be AF and my face shows it. Puffy and old.
Tonight is one more obligation out to eat at a fancy restaurant. At this point In the day, I am not interested in a fancy drink. I do like stopping by on this thread to see how you are all doing.
The weather this weekend was perfect here. I soaked up some sun and read a good book by Don Miguel Ruiz. He writes about Toltec wisdom. I found his books years ago and I saw this on at the Five Below store and it's about being kind to yourself. It's called the Circle of Fire.
2 -
I need a good book. This sounds interesting.
I, too, have been drinking for days for the same reasons as Ruby Red. Not today. I need a break. We just got a foster dog so hopefully I will put my attention on her instead of wine. She is young so she requires lots of walks and attention. Plus as you can guess, my sleep has been poor. I need a reset. I had deleted my clock on my sobriety app but I just created another one.
3 -
Hi everyone,
I'm so glad you're still visiting and posting! I truly appreciate that so much!
So...I fell off my little, red "Sober Wagon" (again) and slacked off BIG time! I've been steadily regaining weight too. In going to use these next few days to "dry out" and regain my footing, so to speak. I will choose May 21st (my mother's birthday) to reset my Sober Count to Day 1, but I do not intend to drink in the meantime. My blood pressure is very high right now! I'm hoping it will stabilize by Wednesday.
I will check back tomorrow.
Have a great weekend!
💗 Carole
3 -
I'll send you the book. Quick read. Very motivating and positive.
3 -
Carole,
Thanks for posting. I am trying. Sunnydays is trying. Let's keep trying together.
I imagine we are sensitive, loving, caring people. We feel our feeling deeply.
I feel it's a roller coaster. I do well and can hit the peak of the coaster, and sometimes I am going downhill without abandon.
I want to keep trying though. Maybe one day it will click.
3 -
Hi everyone,
@RubyRed427 - Hello! Yes, I think rollercoaster is a good analogy to what so many are going through right now. I am very sensitive as well, which makes these days even more challenging…
I picked my mother's birthday as my official, "Soberversary" reset date because I'm hoping that it will help me to stay with the program and maintain my sobriety, since it can be a way of honoring her. My mother died in 1995 of congestive heart failure at age 57. (I was 37.) She had been a heavy smoker and was very overweight, but she rarely drank alcohol. (Her mom was an alcoholic who lost custody of my mom when she was about 9; so she grew up with her mom's mother.)
No alcohol yesterday. I'm home today and tomorrow as well. That should clear any leftover, alcohol toxins out of my system, and Monday and Tuesday will serve to further prepare me. Wednesday is one week until the Path to Lifestyle Change (2-year) program I'm enrolled in starts, although it might be a week or two later since the group leader needs a minimum of 10 enrollees per group.
I need to stay strong this time! I want to really make this effort count!
Have a great day - I will check back in on tomorrow.
💗 Carole
4 -
So, here I go again. May 21st (my mother's birthday) is my fresh "DAY ONE"!
"A word of encouragement during failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success." - Sober Time's message for May 21, 2025.
YES, I CAN! NEVER GIVE UP!
💗 Carole
3 -
More about the program I joined, which begins on Wednesday, May 28th:
2 -
I am right there with you. I need to get at least 3 days under my belt AF to get some traction but I just keep making excuses as to why I "need" a drink.
I am seeing my daughter that lives overseas in a few months. I need to do this to help improve our relationship overall and our time together in September. I need to remember my "why".
1 -
Hi,
No alcohol since May 21st, 2025 (004 days completed)
"Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough". - Sober Time's message for May 25, 2025.
Have a great weekend!
💞 Carole
4 -
No alcohol since 5/21/2025
"Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later."- Sober Time's message for May 26, 2025.
💞 Carole
4 -
Hi everyone,
In addition to this Ongoing Sober discussion board and my Spring into Summer challenge, I am starting a new one beginning this Wednesday, May 28th. Here is the link:
This Wednesday will be 31 weeks until New Year's Eve. I'm sure I can lose at least 20 lbs. by then. This is IT. (I'm going to stay SOBER too!) Wednesday is when I start the Path to Lifestyle Change program as well; so I'm trying to tie everything together.
Enjoy the rest of your day!
💞 Carole
3 -
I am resetting my sobriety clock today. Carole, you are inspiring me! Good job! The holiday BBQ's wrecked all my goals. Today, I refocus.
3 -
Hi everyone,
Hey I go again...
@SunnyDays930 - I'm resetting too! June 1st. I'd like to start on the first on the month because it's "cleaner" and makes it easier to count up the months.
"Never give up, for that is just the place and time where the tide will turn." (Sober Time's message for June 1, 2025.)
I've whittled down the number of challenges I'm in so I can focus better. I'm definitely staying in THIS one!
Have a pleasant Sunday!
💗 Carole
2 -
Hello everyone, I’m still here and reading all your posts. The month of May wasn’t terrible on the booze but not particularly brilliant either. I’m setting myself some small goals, including for exercise too, and hope to get a routine going in June.
Best wishes,Chris
2 -
Hi Chris @LowTechForever , welcome back! Happy June 1st! I am totally recommitting to being 100% alcohol-FREE! I'll never give up.
I'm in a 2-year program to change my lifestyle for the better and I plan to stick with it this time!
3
