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This was eye-opening. Also very good advice. Thanks for sharing, and encouraging. :]

Will do. Thanks for the recommend. :]

Ugh, addiction, indeed! I sometimes forget to look at it that way, and then realize that it really is an addiction.

Yeah, I've talked to a few counselors over the years about my anxiety and depression. I know, generally, what the things are that spur my anxiety & depression, but it's so difficult to keep up with the things that make me happy. =\ Something that I learned about myself in therapy is that I'm bad at prioritizing my personal…

These are very good ideas, and ones that are close enough to the healthy habits that I've acquired, that I know I can incorporate these ideas without much trouble. I /do/ like to save money, so especially the idea of writing down things (like getting my hair done) will be helpful. Thank you so much!

HI, ME <3 *HUGS*

Possible motivations: Healthier foods = more energy, feeling happier, sleeping better, feeling more comfortable, living better, possibly more self-confidence Exercise = stronger, more energy, sleeping better... Healthier = more attractive (the fact that you've chosen to fight the good fight and make changes that are not…

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I like that analogy, too. I was just talking to a friend earlier today about how sugar *is* an addiction for me. I just need to help people take me more seriously by telling them!

Amen to that!

Hahahaha. Picturing myself at the casual-formal theatre we were at and doing this...I would've been such a scandal, but it would have been so awesome. XD

I'd been too self-conscious to want to share about my borderline-binge episodes. But I realized I will probably have to do this, too. I will tell people, "it might just be this one chocolate, but I will go home and eat everything, or I will go to the grocery store to get more, because of this chocolate." Because that is…

This is true, too. Man, it's kind of annoying to think of it that way. Even if people don't mean it deliberately, when they push food on you, thinking, "they're overweigh/not skinnyt, they obviously don't care." But annoying in a good way, ha! It makes me feel more defensive about putting up a wall around my healthy…

I would like to clarify that I'm not overly upset, and that my annoyance is not with 'hurting feelings'. It's mostly with the situation altogether, and how much of a stigma there is.

Ha, I really like your reply, too. "No thank you" is still polite enough that people would probably still push it. But just "no", in a polite tone, is firm enough that it should discourage pushing. Thank you.

That's really awesome that it's not hard for you. But for me, like I explained in my post, I avoid friction. I am unassertive. I am un-confrontational. With these aspects, it is hard.

This sounds similar to my grandparents. With my grandpa, food = love. Even if we go out to dinner, and I am overly stuffed, he ALWAYS asks me, "have you had enough? Are you sure? Are you sure? You've had enough?" My grandma always tells me "have more". And it drives me nuts! This is an excellent idea, though. I eat out…

It is nice being able to touch bases with others that are in the same boat. Ah yeah, when you're with friends it's the hardest. There's a certain vibe for when the group is going to dinner, or even if you're just with one friend that wants to do dinner. I've noticed, too, that if you are with a friend, they propose going…

Duude...that was extremely observant of you, and reading that was actually kind of really profound. I very much do want to have the same kind of gumption in real life. I severely lack self-confidence, but that is true, I have it in me somewhere, don't I? Thanks, much, for pointing that out. . . :D

This thread has been inspiring, yes. And I'm not actually offended, but my tone was slightly defensive, because I felt like your questions were belittling the fact that I /do/ struggle with the pressure, and that it's not easy for me.

OH MY GOD, this had me loling.

Well, that's the thing, isn't it? I shouldn't let other peoples' feelings affect my goals. Which is what I'm confronting in THIS post.

Isn't that kind of what I'm doing now...? I don't appreciate your critical approach to this.

Thank you for your perspective on the subject. I have been thinking a lot about how I can be a more assertive and self-assured person. I never really thought of this issue in that context, but it makes me want to face that barrier more. :]

I appreciate that you think it's that simple. Which, when you get down to it, it is. It's as simple as you make it. But I'm very conscientious of other peoples' feelings, I avoid friction, and yes, that has resulted in me making some bad decisions. But I'm at a transitional point, and I was merely looking for input on that…

This is a good honesty reply. It's one that still makes me a little nervous, because I feel like it emphasizes that friction that people feel when they're the ones trying to do the sabotaging. But you also bring up a point in that, they dislike facing their own failures... and I really shouldn't bring that upon myself to…

Aha! Clever little you! <3 I love this. I will have to use this.

I love your ready-to-fight attitude! I don't know how many calories of damage I did, but I think you've just inspired me to fit in a workout today, once I (hopefully) feel better/less bloated&sick. :b

I'm bookmarking that documentary, and will probably watch it tonight. :] Your explanation of short-term weight gain and loss is especially eye opening, I'm happy to understand that much more. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this reply, I really appreciate it! It is very helpful.

Thank you for the encouraging reply, I really appreciate it. :] I shall look forward!