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This really depends on how self-conscious you are. I avoid swimming at peak times not so much because I look awkward but because I am slow and I don't like impeding other peoples' workouts when I have to share a lane with them. My experience from swimming is that most people have their heads in the water and can't notice…

I look in here every once in a while but not very much. There really hasn't been a lot to see on here either. I hope everyone is doing well. I met a gal in 2013 and married her in 2015. Meeting her made putting up with the dating scene and all the nut jobs I met along the way more than worth it.

Those seem like trivial details

I don't think anyone is suggesting that you change who you are at your core. I think people are suggesting how you present yourself. At its essence putting an account on a dating site is no different than placing an advertisement to sell a car, a house or any other product. Every one who is looking is a little jaded and…

Have you updated your calorie requirements with your weight loss? If 2480 Calories was your allotment when you started, it should be lower now since you've lost about 24 pounds.

I think she made most of it up. The Jewish population in Philadelphia was estimated at 300,000 in 2009 and 28% of the population was estimated to be between 25-44. That would mean about 10% is 30-36. That would give her around 15000 Jewish males aged 30-36. The putting out fake profiles of men and getting plenty of data…

I actually saw an outline of a proof that argued that it is better to be the one asking others for dates than it is to be in the role of being asked. The general argument is that if you do the asking you make your way down the list from best perceived (or most desired) potential mate to least desired potential mate. When a…

My total weight loss is 130 pounds. I've completed one marathon and half marathons in 10 states. I lost most of my weight by walking and have gone back to doing walking just recently. I like walking because I can do it daily without needing much recovery time. When I run I need a day (or two off) to recover from it. On a…

Hi I'm Dave. I used to be a regular on this group but got met a gal about 2.5 years ago who I married about 6 months ago. I don't have much reason to be on here now so I'm not. I don't know that I have any advise or relevant criticism for you. You are in a tricky position. What you are doing obviously isn't working but at…

My goal is to lose weight. In the past, it's been for vanity reasons. To some extent it still is. I am getting married in 3 months and would like to look better in all the photos. However, my fiancée and I were supposed to do a marathon together this past Sunday. Two weeks ago she fell and broke her tailbone. I did it and…

It looks like we are staying home. My stepbrother may come up with his kids but that looks doubtful. Our original plans were to visit with several of my fiancée's friends but the host's son has a highly contagious strain of flu and the party was cancelled. About 20 minutes after receiving notice about the party, my fiancée…

After all the agonizing experiences of being forced to go shopping with a woman, I feel that there is some sense of justice in the fact that a woman is worn out and aggravated because she was forced to shop with a man. Seriously though, sorry 'bout your luck. I hope your daughter likes the books.

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It seems like his sense was somewhat accurate. His mistake was that he assumed you had a problem with putting yourself out there in general rather than the problem being specific to him. Although he may be right. I've been on several dates where I got a strong impression within an hour that the gal wasn't sure about…

How hard is it to say, "You are really confusing me. What's up with the infrequent nature of calling me?" or even better, you like the guy enough that you're qualifying your relationship as nothing sexual YET. Why not take some initiative and call him to arrange doing something?

After all the BS pictures of women "presenting themselves in the most favorable" ways, I can understand the desire to want to call someone out for pictures that are inconsistent but to actually do it is just pathetic. If it makes you feel any better, most of my experience with match was me thinking to myself "Jesus, no…

Columbus only made it to Haiti. He was a hell of a salesman though. How else do you get a holiday named after you for "discovering" a place that is already inhabited?

It's kind of funny how everyone got hung up on the type thing when the category was look at what you've been doing to see if it's holding you back. Dating a certain type was just an example. Einstein supposedly said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting the result to be different.…

I figured it was bad statistics. First, most people get heavier as they get older. Applying that reasoning, the skinny ones who last less than 2 minutes are most likely a bunch of inexperienced 18 year olds who ejaculate when the wind blows. The heavier ones are likely to predominantly be older.

You must be awesome if your father hasn't been willing to sell you yet.

sometimes direct = rude. Sometimes it doesn't. I think in this case, your wording sounded a little rude. Had you said, "I don't have time to do that." or "No time, ttyl." It wouldn't have been rude but you made it sound like the whole string of texts was wasting your time. I think a bigger question is why are you second…

You're not the only one who feels that way. This was supposedly written by the person running at the track: To the man who judged me on the Westview track, I see that you wrote a Facebook status about my journey and me. It described me on the track and from what I gather it was supposed to inspire after a little insult. It…

Just give up. You are not worth it. Whatever it was that made you want to lose weight in the first place is just trivial nonsense. You know, the fear of diabetes or heart disease. Perhaps feeling inadequate and self-loathing. A desire to be more mobile, to walk a few flights of stairs without being short of breath or…

I'm 6'3 and currently 340. I flew a month ago at about 350 lbs and could get the seat belt on. I was cramped but mainly because of long legs. If your shape is as you describe, you shouldn't need two seats. The "passenger of size" policies relate to the ability to get the arm rest down not to whether or not the buckle needs…

At my heaviest I was at least 465 pounds. I would complain about my weight to my friends and the typical response was, "you're not really fat. You're just big." After a while of hearing that, you start to wonder if maybe you are just too critical of yourself and that it's not as big a problem as you think. The reality is…

it sure is fun watching a train wreck. Would it be inappropriate to approach the engineer without solicitation to tell him you watch Judge Judy and you can help him with his legal problems?

Does your church ever go around offering to "help" nonbelievers with their "problem?" Do you consider that rude?

Nothing dating-related. My fiancée's niece is almost 3 years old. She has been terrified of animals, especially cats and dogs. Over the last month or two the fear has eased up a little. It used to be that when she came over to our house, she wouldn't leave the kitchen until we put our cat away. If she saw the cat, she was…

Maybe it's because I have a background in trying to apply the scientific method to problems and finding a systematic answer instead of relying on anecdote but I thought it was a rather disappointing article. It really lacked any meat and potatoes (pun intended). The summary is basically, meat as a source of protein is…

When you say only complex carbs do you mean that literally as in avoiding all proteins and fats, etc or do you mean that you have replaced the simple carbs of most processed foods with complex carbs?