zilkram

The only problem with falling off the wagon is not getting back on it again. It's ok to have a 'bad' day - it doesn't mean it's all been for nothing and you might as well give up. Perhaps you're being too strict with yourself when you are being 'good', so it's really hard to stick with? Try having a cheat day per week,…

I think 'loving your body' and 'loving yourself' are too tangled up. I mean, when you're very overweight and society looks down on you and judges you to be lazy/ugly/smelly etc, it's a very damaging perception to your self-esteem. It often doesn't inspire you to change, but makes you retreat, hide away and double down on…

I would be worried about the future. If you are planning children with this man, how will he behave towards you post-partum with baby-weight , stretchmarks, any longterm changes in your breasts/stomach? Or indeed just as you both get older? The amount of weight you have put on is not huge. And it doesn't sound very healthy…

Isn't there any change in how your clothes fit? Have you been measuring yourself, or are you just relying on the scales? I think it's hard to see changes when you see yourself in the mirror everyday, and self-taken photos are taken at weird angles usually and can be deceptive.

Do some pelvic floor exercises?

If he regularly verbally abuses you and makes you feel bad about yourself, you need to think about where you go from here. You deserve better than that from a man who is supposed to love you. If he's suffering depression or other MH problems that may contribute to his behaviour towards you then he needs to seek treatment…

I reckon stop looking, stay single, have fun, concentrate on your interests & friends. You're young and free, enjoy the heck out of it! :) It's nice to be in a couple sometimes, sure, but take the chance to be/find you, to be independent, to have no-one to worry about but yourself.

Hiya OP, I've joined relatively recently too. I've found it really helpful to keep track of what I'm eating. I hope you do too. In response to some of the posts on the thread about the fiance's lack of support. Some people - have a fat fetish, - are emotionally abusive and like to have a partner who is 'grateful', -…