Some people

Trust me, you've met plenty of them. You've most likely complained to them extensively about your boy troubles. If you keep ending up with a string of bad ones then maybe you should look at the only constant in the situation...

Well you're 18 are you dating guys your age? Most 18 year old boys are like that.

I started dating my now hubby when he was 18( I was 19) .We have been married 26 years now so they are not all like "that".To the OP, don't give up

I sound snarky, I'm not trying to be pp.

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

^^^^^This......and try getting to know the guy better before giving yourself :flowerforyou:

My friend just had a horrible break-up and I really like her and we get a long well. I think she knows and would probably be interested, but right now we're just spending time together because I've rushed into things with far too many and messed things up. This is all happening while a guy who pretty much is "THAT" guy from high school... Dated freshman as a senior, would go to the bar and keep ordering drinks for girls who weren't interested and pressure them to come up with him etc... is flirting hard. My other female friend is encouraging those two just to mingle (he's moving away soon) and fall out because she doesn't want ME to be the rebound.

I went from the sincere guy that would be patient, to the sincere guy that rushed into things and messed up, to the I kind just want some action, to back to my original self. I think it's where you catch people is the problem. I feel most comfortable or feel better if I know what I'm getting into rather than asking someone out and then finding out they're crazy / or it won't work out.

There are a lot of great guys out there. Usually you find the right person when you're not even looking.

Stop dating Mancs.

Never before were truer words spoken.

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

This.

You're not a victim here.

These are choices you're making.

I'm hoping this doesn't turn into 5 pages of "men are the devil" because I know plenty of people (male and female) with equally bad intentions.

PS Any females with "bad intentions" feel free to inbox me,

hahah

Any chance you are doing something wrong here? Let them know from the beginning what sort of woman you are and what you want/hope for. Of course guys are going to want to do you if you aren't butt ugly, it's normal. Up to you to say if there is any boundaries that can't be crossed.

Stop dating Mancs. In all seriousness you have to go through the weeds and pondlife before you get a decent catch sometimes.

Hey! I'm a Leeds lass and my hubby is (was) a Manc. :laugh: I managed to drag him to the right side of the Pennines though :laugh:

He sounded like Liam Gallagher to me for the longest time though :laugh:

OP - hunnie you will find someone! I was 26 when I met my husband and had dated some guys that sound like the ones you meet. You are young, free and beautiful. Enjoy it and eventually true love will slap you in the face when you least expect it xxx

Check out your friend zoned male friends -

THIS i married my friend zone male friend. we were mates while i was with someone we broke up and we were still mates, i went though a rough patch and several one nighters, leigh my male mate came to me one night at work and told me in no nice way and told me to sort it out ( he knew i needed it) 4 month later we got together, 10 years on we have 2 kids and 12 years on been married 2 years, look closer to home, the good ones are already looking after you!

I had to 'take a course in marriage and family life as a degree requirement. Was divorced at the time and the course clarified the mechanics of the divorce. One of the key concepts was that your optimal mate is your mirror image (translation: lots in common, best friend). After ten years, I met and married my best friend. We are worlds apart in terms of physical abilities and professional fields, but our values are identical. We've been married harmoniously for 23 years. Just sayin'.

I am not blaming you so don`t take it that way but start by examining what you expect and bring to the equation.

If you are a princess that feels a guy has to fawn over her,wine and dine her,and plan everything out with the idea of eventually I will do the same if it works you may be the 3rd or 4th one and after nothing but wasting time,money and emotional energy he figures it isn`t worth the dance anymore to see where it goes.

I have found that if you expect something from ANOTHER person most likely you are in for a lot of disappointment.

well,,, i think life is too short,,,, i think we ALL should get out there and take what we want!
It is what it is.