Some people

kaybelieve

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Some people make me fume!
This has nothing to do with weight loss but I needed to get this off my chest and see if anyone had been through the same.
I am sick to death of being used by guys! I have yet to meet a decent guy who's after more than a night. It is beginning to really take its toll on me and make me bitter, I don't want to be one of those woman who hate men but it's getting harder not to!

Sorry to any decent men out there offended but honestly I have yet to meet one of you.

Zomoniac

Trust me, you've met plenty of them. You've most likely complained to them extensively about your boy troubles. If you keep ending up with a string of bad ones then maybe you should look at the only constant in the situation...

Brittany3oh3

Well you're 18 are you dating guys your age? Most 18 year old boys are like that.

vkw1

Well you're 18 are you dating guys your age? Most 18 year old boys are like that.

I started dating my now hubby when he was 18( I was 19) .We have been married 26 years now so they are not all like "that".To the OP, don't give up

Brittany3oh3

Well you're 18 are you dating guys your age? Most 18 year old boys are like that.

I started dating my now hubby when he was 18( I was 19) .We have been married 26 years now so they are not all like "that".To the OP, don't give up

That's why I said most not all. I met my husband when I was 16 he was 17 we've been together for 8 years. I know.

Brittany3oh3

I sound snarky, I'm not trying to be pp.

Chadomaniac

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

SueGeer

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

^^^^^This......and try getting to know the guy better before giving yourself :flowerforyou:

Cr01502

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

This.

You're not a victim here.

These are choices you're making.

I'm hoping this doesn't turn into 5 pages of "men are the devil" because I know plenty of people (male and female) with equally bad intentions.

PS Any females with "bad intentions" feel free to inbox me,

Warchortle

My friend just had a horrible break-up and I really like her and we get a long well. I think she knows and would probably be interested, but right now we're just spending time together because I've rushed into things with far too many and messed things up. This is all happening while a guy who pretty much is "THAT" guy from high school... Dated freshman as a senior, would go to the bar and keep ordering drinks for girls who weren't interested and pressure them to come up with him etc... is flirting hard. My other female friend is encouraging those two just to mingle (he's moving away soon) and fall out because she doesn't want ME to be the rebound.

I went from the sincere guy that would be patient, to the sincere guy that rushed into things and messed up, to the I kind just want some action, to back to my original self. I think it's where you catch people is the problem. I feel most comfortable or feel better if I know what I'm getting into rather than asking someone out and then finding out they're crazy / or it won't work out.

kaybelieve

I'd just like to clarify a few things

- I don't give myself up so easy, I am fortunate enough to figure this out before it even gets to that stage but thanks for the concern :laugh:
- I've already said not all men are the same
- Never claimed to be the 'victim' I'm aware these are my choices it's just frustrating.

Brittany3oh3

There are a lot of great guys out there. Usually you find the right person when you're not even looking.

jst1986

Stop dating Mancs. In all seriousness you have to go through the weeds and pondlife before you get a decent catch sometimes.

Zomoniac

Stop dating Mancs.

Never before were truer words spoken.

twiggypal

you're looking in the wrong places....

Hendrix7

Try going for the opposite type of guy u normally go for , you obviously choose guys that use

This.

You're not a victim here.

These are choices you're making.

I'm hoping this doesn't turn into 5 pages of "men are the devil" because I know plenty of people (male and female) with equally bad intentions.

PS Any females with "bad intentions" feel free to inbox me,

hahah

HopefulLeigh

I have yet to meet a decent guy who's after more than a night.

Sorry to any decent men out there offended but honestly I have yet to meet one of you.

Doubt it. Can't tell you how many decent guys I know who constantly listen to members of the man haters women's club and are just ridiculously turned off by it. If you're often on a groan about how men suck or talk like this in front of men, you're never going to get a nibble from a guy who is actually in it for the long haul. They'll be petrified that you're going to constantly look for something to be peeved over, that proves they're just another in a long line of suckage. I know I wouldn't want a man that was convinced that all women were *****es, so why would a guy want a girl who thinks that none of them are decent people?

mockchoc

Any chance you are doing something wrong here? Let them know from the beginning what sort of woman you are and what you want/hope for. Of course guys are going to want to do you if you aren't butt ugly, it's normal. Up to you to say if there is any boundaries that can't be crossed.

wildaaron

Check out your friend zoned male friends -

witchy_wife

Stop dating Mancs. In all seriousness you have to go through the weeds and pondlife before you get a decent catch sometimes.

Hey! I'm a Leeds lass and my hubby is (was) a Manc. :laugh: I managed to drag him to the right side of the Pennines though :laugh:

He sounded like Liam Gallagher to me for the longest time though :laugh:

OP - hunnie you will find someone! I was 26 when I met my husband and had dated some guys that sound like the ones you meet. You are young, free and beautiful. Enjoy it and eventually true love will slap you in the face when you least expect it xxx

MSeel1984

I started dating when I was 19...that didn't go well.

I casually dated one or two guys after that and met my now husband when I was 23. We dated casually and got married a few years later.

Chances are you won't meet the "good ones" until later in life. Younger guys/guys your age are selfish right now...and they're almost definitely not thinking about a permanent ANYTHING....at least not until later in life.

nettip

Check out your friend zoned male friends -

THIS i married my friend zone male friend. we were mates while i was with someone we broke up and we were still mates, i went though a rough patch and several one nighters, leigh my male mate came to me one night at work and told me in no nice way and told me to sort it out ( he knew i needed it) 4 month later we got together, 10 years on we have 2 kids and 12 years on been married 2 years, look closer to home, the good ones are already looking after you!

zilkram

I reckon stop looking, stay single, have fun, concentrate on your interests & friends. You're young and free, enjoy the heck out of it!

It's nice to be in a couple sometimes, sure, but take the chance to be/find you, to be independent, to have no-one to worry about but yourself.

ijavagypsy

I had to 'take a course in marriage and family life as a degree requirement. Was divorced at the time and the course clarified the mechanics of the divorce. One of the key concepts was that your optimal mate is your mirror image (translation: lots in common, best friend). After ten years, I met and married my best friend. We are worlds apart in terms of physical abilities and professional fields, but our values are identical. We've been married harmoniously for 23 years. Just sayin'.

gerard54

Date chubby dudes, we're funny...

Carl01

I am not blaming you so don`t take it that way but start by examining what you expect and bring to the equation.

If you are a princess that feels a guy has to fawn over her,wine and dine her,and plan everything out with the idea of eventually I will do the same if it works you may be the 3rd or 4th one and after nothing but wasting time,money and emotional energy he figures it isn`t worth the dance anymore to see where it goes.

I have found that if you expect something from ANOTHER person most likely you are in for a lot of disappointment.

Oakley82

Focus on your weight goals and workouts! *Forget men for a little while.* You're young, you have plenty of time. That's what I'm doing for the moment, and I'm 30...I shouldn't be waiting too long!! haha

KANGOOJUMPS

well,,, i think life is too short,,,, i think we ALL should get out there and take what we want!
It is what it is.

oregonzoo

Then focus on yourself, and respecting yourself enough not to put "one night" as an option if that's not what you want.

Higher your standards.
THe more you focus on yourself and meeting your goals, I think the more appropriate men you will find.