Is it really just Calories In, Calories Out? What do you think?

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  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »
    Part of me wants to believe it's all CICO but then I see folks like my brother-in-law... He's about the same age as me, a couple of inches shorter and he is svelte despite the fact that each day, he eats twice as much as me. Seriously. He never gains an ounce. sigh...

    Thin people can have clogged arteries too. I hope he is really healthy.

    E.

  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,712 Member
    E_Brault wrote: »
    UncleMac wrote: »
    Part of me wants to believe it's all CICO but then I see folks like my brother-in-law... He's about the same age as me, a couple of inches shorter and he is svelte despite the fact that each day, he eats twice as much as me. Seriously. He never gains an ounce. sigh...

    Thin people can have clogged arteries too. I hope he is really healthy.

    E.
    So far, so good. At family events, he is usually one of the first to start eating and always the last to finish...
  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    Uncle Mac,

    When I first met my former sister in-law she looked 20 years younger than she was actually! The whole family seemed wired that way. Upon my divorce, my former husband finally promised to eat better and he looked amazing! His sister died two months later. So, reach out and see if he will take your advice.

    Be well.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,712 Member
    E_Brault wrote: »
    Uncle Mac,

    When I first met my former sister in-law she looked 20 years younger than she was actually! The whole family seemed wired that way. Upon my divorce, my former husband finally promised to eat better and he looked amazing! His sister died two months later. So, reach out and see if he will take your advice.

    Be well.
    Four years ago, his maternal uncle suffered a heart attack. It looked like he was going to pull through but then he had a second attack which proved fatal. My bro-in-law resembled his uncle and I think this served as a wakeup call. He still out-eats me but I'm fairly sure he's seeing his family physician regularly.
  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    That is sad, Uncle Mac

    But it is becoming clearer to me every day - that I can barely take care of myself. I don't mean anything bad by that. I just mean, I used to cook, clean, grocer, errands and work 4 professional jobs. Now I am about twice that age and I'm sure I didn't have nearly enough self care. So right now I am being a little selfish and beginning to figure out (all over again) what it takes to be really good to me.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,712 Member
    Taking care of oneself is only selfish when it's done to the exclusion or detriment of others.

    Is there a word for taking care of others to the exclusion and detriment of oneself?

    I spent the past couple of decades being the sane parent in a dysfunctional marriage. I became obese by not caring for myself as I spent all of my energy either working or taking care of my family. Now I'm working out and doing yoga most nights and slowly regaining my sense of self.
  • Mccmack
    Mccmack Posts: 195 Member
    There is a reason why they tell people to put the air mask on themselves before their children on an airplane. Your time serving others is not wasted time. Your loved ones are watching and they are blessed when you are blessed.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    http://www.dbtcenteroc.com/the-gift-of-self-centeredness/

    Maybe think of this as "self-centered."
  • BRaye325
    BRaye325 Posts: 1,383 Member
    You can't fulfill your commitments to others before you make a commitment to yourself.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,712 Member
    RodaRose wrote: »
    http://www.dbtcenteroc.com/the-gift-of-self-centeredness/

    Maybe think of this as "self-centered."

    @RodaRose, great link.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    Oh my. people are really something!
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,156 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »

    Is there a word for taking care of others to the exclusion and detriment of oneself?

    If it's unabated, I can think of two words for it: Slow suicide.

    One can give a lot, and do a lot, but it's only sustainable with at least *some* healthful and self-care behaviors to fuel the giving behavior.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,712 Member
    AnnPT77 wrote: »
    UncleMac wrote: »

    Is there a word for taking care of others to the exclusion and detriment of oneself?

    If it's unabated, I can think of two words for it: Slow suicide.

    One can give a lot, and do a lot, but it's only sustainable with at least *some* healthful and self-care behaviors to fuel the giving behavior.

    ^^^^Agreed^^^^