The friendzone ...
raige123
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This question is mainly being put to the guys but feel free to disucuss ...
Once you put a girl in the friendzone, does she ever have a shot of being more? The reason I ask is a good friend of mine and I have been hanging out (differently lately) and told me he doesn't want to ruin our friendship because he likes our friendship.
I'm curious if once a girl gets put in the friendzone, does she ever come out?
Once you put a girl in the friendzone, does she ever have a shot of being more? The reason I ask is a good friend of mine and I have been hanging out (differently lately) and told me he doesn't want to ruin our friendship because he likes our friendship.
I'm curious if once a girl gets put in the friendzone, does she ever come out?
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This question is mainly being put to the guys but feel free to disucuss ...
Once you put a girl in the friendzone, does she ever have a shot of being more? The reason I ask is a good friend of mine and I have been hanging out (differently lately) and told me he doesn't want to ruin our friendship because he likes our friendship.
I'm curious if once a girl gets put in the friendzone, does she ever come out?
Ok so not a guy but I have about a gazillion guy friends..... HE just let you down gently honey...Trust me if he wanted to date you the fear of ruining you friendship would be outweighted by the potential he thought you guys had..... He doesn' t want to risk your friendship because he doesn't see a relationship there.....0 -
I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?0 -
I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
Kind of where I am with said friend too which is why I asked.0 -
I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
Kind of where I am with said friend too which is why I asked.
LOL! Okay then... bump!
@jenbit - I think your advice is probably invalid since sex is involved. As someone recently said to me, sex is a game-changer.0 -
This question is mainly being put to the guys but feel free to disucuss ...
Once you put a girl in the friendzone, does she ever have a shot of being more? The reason I ask is a good friend of mine and I have been hanging out (differently lately) and told me he doesn't want to ruin our friendship because he likes our friendship.
I'm curious if once a girl gets put in the friendzone, does she ever come out?
Of course. If while being friendzoned you were overweight, then probably after getting fitter/healthier you have a good shot.
Before you all start crucifying me, know this
A person who's personality only you like, thats somebody you friend
A person who's body/beauty only you like, thats somebody you lust
A person who's beauty AND personality you like, thats somebody you love.
So of course if the other person starts finding you attractive after a while, you can easily get out of the friendzone.0 -
He's known me the same size since we've met. Things just recently got more physical, but the whole "don't want to ruin our friendship" ... I'm so confused, lol.0
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I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
Kind of where I am with said friend too which is why I asked.
In my personal experience, FWB have never been upgraded to long term relationships. The most I've gone for is "ok we're seeing each other but I'm still looking for better options where I have better chemistry with somebody else".
In my experience, its not a good idea to upgrade from FWB to long term relationship0 -
I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
Kind of where I am with said friend too which is why I asked.
In my personal experience, FWB have never been upgraded to long term relationships. The most I've gone for is "ok we're seeing each other but I'm still looking for better options where I have better chemistry with somebody else".
In my experience, its not a good idea to upgrade from FWB to long term relationship
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I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
Kind of where I am with said friend too which is why I asked.
LOL! Okay then... bump!
@jenbit - I think your advice is probably invalid since sex is involved. As someone recently said to me, sex is a game-changer.
Didn't know sex was involved......
Husky your case is different. Plus I know alot more about it ...
However Raige if you've have the whole I don't want to ruin our friendship conversation after sex and continue to have sex your a FWB unless he "falls" in love with you he just wants to have sex and hang with his friend... FWB relationships are only as complicated as you make them... If you truelly want more from him tell him, if he doesn't don't sleep with him cause your just gonna get hurt if you have feeling and he doesn't0 -
This thread needs more testosterone!
Sorry, taunto, you're just not enough man for me! :laugh:0 -
This thread needs more testosterone!
Sorry, taunto, you're just not enough man for me! :laugh:
Well, I never said that was a rule. I said in my experience.
I'm sure there are men out there who will say "oh now honey, anything is possible!". But before you take my advice seriously, you should realize that when it comes to relationships, I'm damaged beyond repair which can be good for you since I don't get to sugar coat the BS.0 -
This thread needs more testosterone!
Sorry, taunto, you're just not enough man for me! :laugh:
Hahahahah! Agreed on the needing more testosterone! C'mon boys! Give it to me!
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oh now honey, anything is possible!0
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oh now honey, anything is possible!
*pats on head**
Good boy telling her what she wants to hear lol0 -
I think y'all already know the answer, it's just not what you want to hear. Jen is spot on with her advice. He probably likes being friends and hooking up with no strings attached, but just doesn't see enough chemistry for a relationship for whatever reason. Guys are pretty simple, but we have a hard time saying "I don't like you like that" because we don't want to hurt your feelings.
It is possible to get out of the friend zone, you just have to boost your attractiveness level. Weight loss helps, let him see you with other guys, sometimes a better hair cut or clothing can work wonders. Not really sure how to go from FWB to relationship though, if a guy is already getting sex without all the hassles of a relationship then he won't want to ruin a good thing.0 -
I think y'all already know the answer, it's just not what you want to hear. Jen is spot on with her advice. He probably likes being friends and hooking up with no strings attached, but just doesn't see enough chemistry for a relationship for whatever reason. Guys are pretty simple, but we have a hard time saying "I don't like you like that" because we don't want to hurt your feelings.
It is possible to get out of the friend zone, you just have to boost your attractiveness level. Weight loss helps, let him see you with other guys, sometimes a better hair cut or clothing can work wonders. Not really sure how to go from FWB to relationship though, if a guy is already getting sex without all the hassles of a relationship then he won't want to ruin a good thing.
But all men aren't looking for only sex. Isn't there a situation where a guy might have a girl as an FWB rather than a girlfriend because of extenuating circumstances? What if he's just scared of a commitment? Can't he get past that?
Is it really always a lost cause for the FWB?0 -
oh now honey, anything is possible!
^ This.
Honestly if you're having sex with him, it should be because you like having sex with him. Not because you expect or hope that having sex with him will cause him to develop stronger feelings for you. This is the female version of the "nice guy" who kisses *kitten* and becomes a doormat in the hopes of getting a woman to like him more.0 -
I think y'all already know the answer, it's just not what you want to hear. Jen is spot on with her advice. He probably likes being friends and hooking up with no strings attached, but just doesn't see enough chemistry for a relationship for whatever reason. Guys are pretty simple, but we have a hard time saying "I don't like you like that" because we don't want to hurt your feelings.
It is possible to get out of the friend zone, you just have to boost your attractiveness level. Weight loss helps, let him see you with other guys, sometimes a better hair cut or clothing can work wonders. Not really sure how to go from FWB to relationship though, if a guy is already getting sex without all the hassles of a relationship then he won't want to ruin a good thing.
But all men aren't looking for only sex. Isn't there a situation where a guy might have a girl as an FWB rather than a girlfriend because of extenuating circumstances? What if he's just scared of a commitment? Can't he get past that?
Is it really always a lost cause for the FWB?
All men aren't looking for sex but if he's in a FWB situation, he got there because he was looking for sex.0 -
oh now honey, anything is possible!
^ This.
Honestly if you're having sex with him, it should be because you like having sex with him. Not because you expect or hope that having sex with him will cause him to develop stronger feelings for you. This is the female version of the "nice guy" who kisses *kitten* and becomes a doormat in the hopes of getting a woman to like him more.
Heavy dose of reality! I know this...
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Probably not always but most of the time. I thought the biggest rule about having a FWB is to not do it if one person secretly has feelings for the other person.I think y'all already know the answer, it's just not what you want to hear. Jen is spot on with her advice. He probably likes being friends and hooking up with no strings attached, but just doesn't see enough chemistry for a relationship for whatever reason. Guys are pretty simple, but we have a hard time saying "I don't like you like that" because we don't want to hurt your feelings.
It is possible to get out of the friend zone, you just have to boost your attractiveness level. Weight loss helps, let him see you with other guys, sometimes a better hair cut or clothing can work wonders. Not really sure how to go from FWB to relationship though, if a guy is already getting sex without all the hassles of a relationship then he won't want to ruin a good thing.
But all men aren't looking for only sex. Isn't there a situation where a guy might have a girl as an FWB rather than a girlfriend because of extenuating circumstances? What if he's just scared of a commitment? Can't he get past that?
Is it really always a lost cause for the FWB?
And in my experience, I get over my fear of commitment really fast when the right girl comes along. Everybody is different though.0 -
No offense but husky and raige, you're both setting yourself up for disaster if you're FWB with someone you want as more than just a friend. It will end up in heart break. I won't say 100%, but def high up there.
I had a guy whom I dated less than a month, in that said mOnth we slept together. We had the talk, he only wanted to be friends. We are still best friends and we never crossed the line again. Honestly, I now understand he just wasn't as physically attracted to me as he wanted to be with someone he'd date. Of course now, it doesn't matter. I see him as a brother only and he's my to go guy for any man problems.
Please don't waste your precious time on a guy who won't give you the time of day. Be honest with yourself! If you're 100% fine with the arrangement, then cool. But if there is one ounce in you that has feelings for him, bail. You're being that girl waiting around on some dude to change HIS mind about YOU. You're better than that! Right???0 -
If a guy wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would be. That's all there is to it. In the meantime he's getting free sex out of it. He's in a win-win situation.
Also, if he gave two rips about your feelings he wouldn't be in a FWB situation with you. All that proves is that he cares more about getting his d*ck wet than about you.0 -
I have a question for the guys too.
I have been friendzoned and recently upgraded to FWB. Is it possible to go from FWB to something more?
It's possible but very very unlikely.0 -
This question is mainly being put to the guys but feel free to disucuss ...
Once you put a girl in the friendzone, does she ever have a shot of being more? The reason I ask is a good friend of mine and I have been hanging out (differently lately) and told me he doesn't want to ruin our friendship because he likes our friendship.
I'm curious if once a girl gets put in the friendzone, does she ever come out?
Ok so not a guy but I have about a gazillion guy friends..... HE just let you down gently honey...Trust me if he wanted to date you the fear of ruining you friendship would be outweighted by the potential he thought you guys had..... He doesn' t want to risk your friendship because he doesn't see a relationship there.....
I agree with this.
It's a nice hint, take it as such and if you're still struggling take a step back from the friendship.0 -
He's known me the same size since we've met. Things just recently got more physical, but the whole "don't want to ruin our friendship" ... I'm so confused, lol.
The friendship is already "ruined" because you took a friendship to a whole level. This guy is basically saying "you're good enough to hook up with but not good enough to date." I would be offended, but that is me. Just because a man can have sex with you does not mean he wants to have a relationship with you...and he already told you that.
P.s. Dbright is right on.0 -
Both raige and I have extenuating circumstances that would seem otherwise.
But thank you all for your opinions. Realize that you may not have the whole story.
Best of luck, raige! I hope things work out the way you want.0 -
Both raige and I have extenuating circumstances that would seem otherwise.
But thank you all for your opinions. Realize that you may not have the whole story.
Best of luck, raige! I hope things work out the way you want.
Everyone thinks they are the exception.0 -
Both raige and I have extenuating circumstances that would seem otherwise.
But thank you all for your opinions. Realize that you may not have the whole story.
Best of luck, raige! I hope things work out the way you want.
Everyone thinks they are the exception.
Exactly
To the two OPs. These guys think you are good enough to have sex with but not good enough to really date. If a guy like you, not just sex, he will make an effort to actually date you.
And if he is even telling you "I don't want a relationship" he is being even more honest!!0 -
Both raige and I have extenuating circumstances that would seem otherwise.
But thank you all for your opinions. Realize that you may not have the whole story.
Best of luck, raige! I hope things work out the way you want.
Everyone thinks they are the exception.
Exactly
To the two OPs. These guys think you are good enough to have sex with but not good enough to really date. If a guy like you, not just sex, he will make an effort to actually date you.
And if he is even telling you "I don't want a relationship" he is being even more honest!!
It's not like that at all...
And I may not be the exception, but some risks are worth taking. If I lumped this man into your narrow scope of all men and their behaviors, I will never know, will I?0 -
Both raige and I have extenuating circumstances that would seem otherwise.
But thank you all for your opinions. Realize that you may not have the whole story.
Best of luck, raige! I hope things work out the way you want.
Everyone thinks they are the exception.
Exactly
To the two OPs. These guys think you are good enough to have sex with but not good enough to really date. If a guy like you, not just sex, he will make an effort to actually date you.
And if he is even telling you "I don't want a relationship" he is being even more honest!!
It's not like that at all...
And I may not be the exception, but some risks are worth taking. If I lumped this man into your narrow scope of all men and their behaviors, I will never know, will I?
I don't know about others but if you feel like going for it and think you have a shot, I would say go for it. This isn't a hard and fast rule. I would however suggest not to get your hopes up. I have done so in the past and have gotten hurt.0
