Batch cooking...

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  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    I'm lucky... no issues handling the hot stuff... >:)
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,233 Member
    Chipotle peppers in a can, yum. You could make big pans of stuffed pepper or cabbage rolls. Do you like spanakopita? You can make batches of that.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    Oh gosh yes. I've had that stuff in my eyes, up my nose ......
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    Spanakopita? Hmmm... (sneaks off to check Dr. Google)... That looks kind of cool. Some of the pictures looked like spinach samosas. Anything I can do to sneak more veg into the diet would be a boon.
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,233 Member
    You can even get the protein up with quinoa, mashed chick peas and or nuts.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    I managed to sneak quinoa into supper a few times by pretending it was brown rice. :blush:
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    pretending?
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    pretending?
    Although the boyz aren't super-fussy eaters, sometimes my experiments aren't received with open arms or mouths...
  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »
    Too bad the bottom is so thin... so easy to burn food...

    Bed Bath and Beyond and Crate & Barrel sells well made pots and pans.

    I'm glad you ventured into making enchiladas. They are delicious and there is so much room for variety. With a nice sized wok, you could make Chinese food very easily. Google: Beef & Broccoli and serve it over Chinese rice. You can buy the rice or learn to make it. And like you said, there will be less sodium. Health food stores sell low sodium soy sauce.
  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »
    I think the next batch of enchiladas, I will find a recipe with a bit more kick. I like spicy food and the recipe I tried was a bit bland.
    My neighbor grows her own jalapeños. You might enjoy this too. I am considering putting together a micro garden in my kitchen.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    E_Brault wrote: »
    UncleMac wrote: »
    Too bad the bottom is so thin... so easy to burn food...

    Bed Bath and Beyond and Crate & Barrel sells well made pots and pans.

    I'm glad you ventured into making enchiladas. They are delicious and there is so much room for variety. With a nice sized wok, you could make Chinese food very easily. Google: Beef & Broccoli and serve it over Chinese rice. You can buy the rice or learn to make it. And like you said, there will be less sodium. Health food stores sell low sodium soy sauce.
    I've done stirfry in a large non-stick frying pan but I don't have a wok. The thing I've found is stirfry isn't popular as leftovers. I've made curries that did well as leftovers. It's a learning curve for me.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    Growing jalapenos? Neat !
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    My son helped me to craft the massive pot of chili. As usual when he helps, it took twice as long and made three times as much mess but I noticed he is paying attention to each stage of preparations. Maybe some learning going on. Then again, when I set the pot to simmer, he asked if we were done cooking. I said yes and he blitzed... so I chased me down and reminded him of that other part of cooking... the cleanup phase...
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    edited December 2015
    FML...

    Last night after yoga, I was feeling energetic so I threw together a nice chicken coconut curry & brown rice for supper tonight. 2 cups of brown rice & 2 cups of chicken broth... three boneless/skinless breasts plus veg etc... Enough food to feed six people for supper. As soon as everything was cool enough to do so, into tupperware and into the fridge for tomorrow.

    This morning as I was making my breakfast, half of the curry was gone. I didn't check the rice but safe to assume it's half-gone too. As I was getting ready to leave, one of the boyz came down and loaded a bowl with rice & curry for breakfast. I didn't stop to check but I figure that likely leaves about 1/3 of the meal left now.

    It's not that I want to starve them or whatever but a box of cereal doesn't require me to spend an hour cooking. Am I being unreasonable or is he being an ashhole?
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    edited December 2015
    dupe
  • BRaye325
    BRaye325 Posts: 1,383 Member
    Not unreasonable at all. I've got an 18 yr old son at home and I feel your pain. While it still takes an act of congress to get him to pitch in, he has learned the ground rules for what is fair game in the frig and what isn't. I'd voice your displeasure if it was me.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    I don't know which of the boyz waded into the food overnight so further investigation will be required. The breakfast curry was the boarder. I suspect he's likely the one responsible for everything but I don't know that.

    I have my son (age 23) at home and one of his friends/college mates (also 23) who boards with us during semesters.

    My son is in his last year of university for degree in mechanical engineering. He's taken to helping lately including cooking but, in the past, getting is help required an executive order.

    The boarder is a red-haired version of Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory although his "raison d'etre" is mathematics rather than theoretical physics. He started off in engineering but, after two years, he changed majors and went into mathematics. Unlike Sheldon, the boarder has been tested and diagnosed with Asperger's.

    When I've brought up issues, he acknowledges but either has an excuse or "forgets" so nothing changes. For example, I have full laundry facilities at the house, he brings everything to his mother so it's "done right" and the cognitive dissonance required to understand how wearing dirty clothes until your mamma can clean them is a good thing escapes me. Short of drawing up a "boarder agreement" to cover each and every potential possibility or constantly adding clauses as each bump in the road arises, I'm fairly confident his behaviour won't change. He is mostly quiet and unobtrusive (although he softly grunts often) so it's not all bad.

    I do not understand how a 23 year old who is 5'6" max and weighs maybe 130lbs yet manages to consume easily twice as much food as I eat and doesn't have a spare ounce?
  • BRaye325
    BRaye325 Posts: 1,383 Member
    My son and one of my daughters are both in the autism spectrum, ADHD & PDD so I understand. They don't recognize the same social cues that are obvious to others. However, logic and quiet conversation are your best friends. Any parent to child conversation is perceived as yelling, even when it's not. Adult to adult with a logical outline usually works best for them.
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,233 Member
    That would drive me crazy. I am definitely "see something that needs done and do it kind of gal". I am ADHD and a little OCD, so sounds a little "excusy" to me. I hope he at least pays something for his room and board. There needs to be some accountability.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    My daughter was diagnosed as ADHD. She refused to take medication (with her mother's support) so she was always a bit of a handful. Still, I could always talk to her.

    I will figure out in my head what to say to him about this. Not sure it'll make any difference but still worth trying.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member

    If you have time and energy, seek out an expert on how to how to live with someone on the spectrum.

    I live with someone who is undiagnosed but clearly somewhat on the spectrum who also moved from math to engineering.
    In general, engineers are much more practical than mathematicians because they seek the shortest easiest route for close enough results.
    Spectrum folks can follow very clear and logical instructions that you might have to repeat a few times and then periodically thereafter.
    Keep high calorie /easy access food around that does not tempt you that he is welcome to at all hours of the day/night.
    Ask both boys which foods fit into that category besides cereal.
    The other food is meal time food only for example.

    Your guyz can follow household rules. Maybe labeled containers or colored containers will help.
    'Hoping you find a way that makes your life easier.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    He does pay room & board and he never complains about anything.

    As part of my recovery from the rather nasty divorce, I've been seeing a pshrink regularly. In my next session, I think I will bring the subject up and see if she can help me to craft a better approach.
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,233 Member
    Excellent idea!
  • nikkib0103
    nikkib0103 Posts: 969 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »
    He does pay room & board and he never complains about anything.

    As part of my recovery from the rather nasty divorce, I've been seeing a pshrink regularly. In my next session, I think I will bring the subject up and see if she can help me to craft a better approach.

    Pays and never complains? a dream tenant. Your shrink may have some helpful advice. My experience with people on the autism spectrum is that they are not intentionally difficult, but they do have challenges changing their behavior and it takes a lot of time.. Patience is required.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    nikkib0103 wrote: »
    UncleMac wrote: »
    He does pay room & board and he never complains about anything.

    As part of my recovery from the rather nasty divorce, I've been seeing a pshrink regularly. In my next session, I think I will bring the subject up and see if she can help me to craft a better approach.

    Pays and never complains? a dream tenant. Your shrink may have some helpful advice. My experience with people on the autism spectrum is that they are not intentionally difficult, but they do have challenges changing their behavior and it takes a lot of time.. Patience is required.
    I believe he is quite happy to be with us. During his first year at the university, he stayed in residences. The constant unpredictable noise over-stimulated him so he rarely slept a full night. During his second year, he got an apartment off-campus which was dead quiet... so he was under-stimulated and spent most of his waking hours on World of Warcraft... except when he was visiting at our house which was frequently.

    Toward the end of their second year, my son asked me if I would consider room & board for him. I thought about it quickly and asked my son if he felt it might impact on their friendship. He said he didn't think it would be a concern. So I asked why the friend wasn't the one asking. My son said he hasn't told the friend yet... he wanted to check with me first. I asked how he planned to pitch the idea. My son said he's just going to tell him that he might as well move in since he's at our place half the time anyway.

    Since he started hanging around with my son, the boarder opened up a bit socially... especially when my son is involved but also on his own. When his father dropped him after the summer, he thanked us enthusiastically for the positive changes.

    I'll see what the pshrink has to say. I suspect a chat followed up with a series of reminders will do the trick as per @BRaye325's suggestion.
  • E_Brault
    E_Brault Posts: 362 Member
    UncleMac wrote: »
    FML...

    It's not that I want to starve them or whatever but a box of cereal doesn't require me to spend an hour cooking. Am I being unreasonable or is he being an ashhole?

    You are not being unreasonable and he's just hungry. Some kids don't see the sacrifices parents make and if they do they think it is your job anyway.

    It seems like a teaching moment. Remind the boys you are there to help them become independent. You would be remiss in your parental responsibility, if you didn't teach them to clean the kitchen. The general rule is one person cooks and the other(s) clean. If you cook together, you clean together.

    Meal planning: get them involved in planning meals for the week and get an agreement that this is what you will follow and why. Let them know the consequences and be prepared to follow through.

    This might be something you want to bring up on the boards: how to teach meal planning - explaining your scenario.

    Wish you well.

  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    edited December 2015
    Although my son has started to help, it's still pretty sporadic and it's just with cooking & cleaning. Meal planning... not so much... I can't much teach meal planning until I have a better way of doing so myself!

    You're right... it is a teaching moment. I've talked to the boyz about keeping the kitchen clean and they're doing a better job of wiping up after themselves. Perhaps not to the same standard as I would like but that will come with time... I hope...
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Keep talking to them.To the degree that they are involved in meal planning, you can involve them more in the discussions. Let them know what you plan to make next, what you will be putting on your shopping list, how many days (servings) you expect a meal with last, which dishes they like to see more, which ones they would like to see added.
    When they see a dish from start to finish, they might recognize clean up as one important part of eating.
  • UncleMac
    UncleMac Posts: 13,728 Member
    You know, I don't remember my parents having these kind of issues with me or my sisters. Selective memory?
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,233 Member
    With my mom, it was expected, no discussion. Failure had consequences.