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Thanks @saranharm for sharing, this thread has some really great advice in it for those of us who are new to the journey! I especially love all this advice about finding TDEE because I am definitely still trying to figure mine out. I just started using the scale to help, but am using trendweight.com to help me to not read too much into the daily fluctuations. I also got a fitbit charge HR and realized while I thought 2501 seemed like a great TDEE I am really closer to 2770!2
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I don't have any kind on watch like that. I wonder if it's easier? Has anyone found their actual tdee without one?
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Whenever I turn away from trying to lose weight (for whatever reasons) I always use that opportunity (instead of "wasted time") to gain strength.
On a squat break because my knee is killing me. But I did deadlifts for the first time in a month or so today.
Pulled 4@
145#
165#
185#
205#
225#
And my new 1 rep max of 245# (no way could I have done another!) That's 7 pounds away from being 1 1/2 times my body weight. Next goal is to hit a 300# deadlift!6 -
Also, have nailed my macros this week within 5 grams!5
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Awesome job on the Deads!!! thats amazing!
And awesome on the macros too!! great week!!
Kelly1 -
Yay on the new deadlift goal!!!!! You just crushed those dealings and macros! Awesome job!!!1
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Love those deadlift numbers!!!!!! I've told you before, you are SO strong. Those numbers are way better than scale numbers
And absolutely awesome job on the macros. This will make a huge difference.
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Deadlifted again today. Managed to get 2 reps at 245# yeah!
Also went to get ice cream with my kiddos and I enjoyed some.3 -
Omg, 245#'s!!!??? I am soooooo jealous! I was working my way up to 200#, then went on a metabolic phase. I'll be back to it once I get back home. Love this PR!!!!! UNSTOPPABLE! You sure deserved the ice cream!
Tereza
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Love love love your dead numbers!!!!!!
And ice cream is fuel for superheroes (especially deadlifting ones0 -
@TerezaToledo when I first did true strength I saw my numbers rise by 30# . I remember telling my husband and right before Christmas that my 2016 goal was a 200# deadlift. I hit that by March so onto a 300# goal - no time limit though
The ice cream was delicious! But the lady who served us isn't the one who is normally there when we go. And the other guy gives way more. Oh well, probably better for me this way. LOL.
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More deadlift fuel!!!!
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Camping this long weekend and seeing all that I eat as deadlift fuel for next week @TerezaToledo !!! Although I am so tired I can't imaged lifting. But, I am sure, once I get back into the swing of life, I will be happy to go lift!1
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@saranharm enjoy your break! When you get back you will physically and psychologically recharged and ready to kill those deadlifts again!0
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@saranharm Yes, it does the body and the spirit so much good to have a break from your norm sometimes. Enjoy your time away.
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Thanks girls!
@slw19 this is my thread documenting my journey. I started em2wl after 12 years or on and off low calorie dieting. I was always able to drop the weight after each baby except my last. I think my body was just done with me. I had really erratic periods, was sick all of the time, etc. It's taken me a few years already to heal some of those things. When I turned my attention back to weight loss last year i found myself eating 1400 calories and hiking several days a week with no weight loss. I dropped to 1200 and intermittent fasting for about 6 weeks last fall and lost 8 pounds but I was so tired I sat down all day. That isn't sustainable to me.
So I found eat more to weigh less. I now eat 2200 calories every day and am working on increasing that slowly (I did gain initial weight)- but now my weight is stabilised. I now can lift heavy weight several days a week (it's something I love to do and i can see changes happening in my body!!!!) I am coming to love me - even though I have extra body fat, I am still lovely. I don't need to obsess about my weight. I don't need to have a small side salad instead of eating dinner when we go out. I can go to people's houses for dinner and not be in fear. My kids and I can make something we saw on food network and eat it together! Such freedom!
My goal is to still lose fat but I am not ready to tackle it. Once I feel my body has recovered from years of damage, I can do a small calorie deficit (still over 2000) and slowly lose weight.
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One of my favourite ever lines;
" Even though I have extra body fat, I am still lovely"
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@saranharm I love that you are sharing your journey in this thread! Yes, you are lovely and beautiful and sexy! Lofting does that to you and being able to eat and enjoy life with family and friends makes it all worth it! I am sure your husband and kids love this new you! Can we share your beautiful post?
@melsurge83 thinking of you!
Tereza
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Total mind shift @saranharm !! Not too long ago you were stressing over nothing happening on your cut and why the weight wasnt moving.. now look at you!!! Awesome shift in mentality, and yes You are still lovely:)
Kelly
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Sure @TerezaToledo !
My new goal: share with as many people as possible!
Remember my white shirt fishing win? Well I chose to wear that shirt because we went fishing with a young gal who wore jeans and a long sleeve black t as usual. She is a gorgeous young lady and I don't want her to waste as much of her life hating herself as I did!
Love the support we give each other too! Muah!4 -
@saranharm You are adorable! Those young years doubting ourselves, thinking we didn't look good enough and not giving ourselves credit did suck! No looking back, I'm in a way better place mentally and physically right now. If my joints weren't achy sometimes and if I had more patience like before, it would be good though, lol!
Tereza
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TerezaToledo wrote: »@saranharm You are adorable! Those young years doubting ourselves, thinking we didn't look good enough and not giving ourselves credit did suck! No looking back, I'm in a way better place mentally and physically right now. If my joints weren't achy sometimes and if I had more patience like before, it would be good though, lol!
Tereza
Team EM2WL
I thought patience came with age?!?! Lol.
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My mantra lately has been Give no F@%^#s:) So I stopped caring about what other people might think about me and my appearance and started just living my life freely. Its been hugely eye opening:)
Kelly
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@saranharm thank you for sharing. i can't quite wrap my head around EM2WL. i have a hard time with purposely putting on weight mentally and physically. i keep reading and stalking so one day maybe i can be as brave as you:)1
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@saranharm thank you for sharing. i can't quite wrap my head around EM2WL. i have a hard time with purposely putting on weight mentally and physically. i keep reading and stalking so one day maybe i can be as brave as you:)
And one day, when you are truly ready, the shift WILL happen. It took me a long time to grasp that, so dont feel like you need to put a timeframe on when that should occur. A lot of the process is learning how to eat again, how fuel helps aid in our journey, and its not just muscle gains. Eating more changes physical and emotional changes as well.. Nails arent brittle, hair isnt falling out, skin isnt dry and scaly... sleep is easier to come by.. Track all those little changes on your way to eating more.. You are doing so well already. Know that you ARE making a difference in your health, even if you cant see it yet.
Kelly
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@saranharm, to be honest, the older I get the more patience I have with myself and the less I have with foolishness. Just like an older cat who snaps at everyone, lol.1
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TerezaToledo wrote: »@saranharm, to be honest, the older I get the more patience I have with myself and the less I have with foolishness. Just like an older cat who snaps at everyone, lol.
Yes Tereza I feel just like that! I think I'm morphing into my mum. My dad's phrase about her was always,'she doesn't suffer fools gladly!'2 -
@saranharm thank you for sharing. i can't quite wrap my head around EM2WL. i have a hard time with purposely putting on weight mentally and physically. i keep reading and stalking so one day maybe i can be as brave as you:)
The mental battle is the toughest one. The fact that you keep reading and stalking means that your mind is becoming more open to it. Don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone comes to it in a different time frame and the only one that is right is the one that is right for you.
Ichel
EM2WL Ambassador and Moderator1 -
@saranharm thank you for sharing. i can't quite wrap my head around EM2WL. i have a hard time with purposely putting on weight mentally and physically. i keep reading and stalking so one day maybe i can be as brave as you:)
@slw19 I did not start with this attitude at all! I wouldn't say it out loud but while reading em2wl literature that states it's a long process, your body needs to heal, you will probably gain some weight, yadda yadda, I was actually thinking: "not me. I am sure this is a secret that can help me shed some pounds. The weight/inches will melt away." I was devastated when I finished my reset and my before/after pictures looked the same. I should have been happy because 1) they were the same!!! Even though I gained 17 pounds and 8 inches, and 2) I was eating double the amount!
I did the pull the bandaid off quickly approaching, because I am impatient lol. I jumped from 1200 to 1900/2100 immediately. I probably could have minimized the gain had I added 100 calories every week or every other week. But my mindset was rush to complete the reset so I can cut!
My mindset has changed slowly since November, when I started. I came in expecting a physical change, but what I actually got was a mental change! From just needing to lose weight and cover up all of the time to loving me as I am while working on improving me. I do prefer sweats and a sweatshirt because it's the best thing ever, but I don't wear those things during the summer any more, etc.
And it's a process. I still struggle. There are certain people that trigger horrible doubt in myself. There are still times I look at myself with frustration. But it's less and less. And it's very freeing- I want others to feel that way!2 -
@saranharm You truly have made the shift:) And you remind me so much of myself when I began. It took a long time to let go of the "fast" mentality, and it looks like you have finally gotten there too. Im so proud!
Kelly
EM2WL Ambassador and Moderator2
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