Self Sabotage

canadjineh

hahaha @elize7. It's great if it works that way for you.... unfortunately for me, if I am home sick, I graze CONSTANTLY and am always hungry! For me it's "feed a cold, starve a fever."

RowdysLady

awww...feel better @elize7. Me? I could eat through any illness...sigh...

Catawampous

I had one of those chicken pox parties! Then found out ... much to my dismay ... I am NOT immune to chicken pox and ended up getting them myself! After three kids and three times getting it as an adult, I stay WELL away from any chicken pox nonsense!

Hope you feel better elize7

cstehansen

Given nearly everything in this thread has been from a female perspective, it has helped me better understand my wife a bit and given me some help on how I might be able to better communicate with her. After all, us guys are not naturally great at communicating feelings or picking up on feelings of others. For that, thank you.

As for self sabotage, it is not just a female problem. It is just too many of us guys are too proud to admit we aren't strong enough to control ourselves.

My problem is not necessarily with carbage. It is much like @RowdysLady a matter of eating because it's there. I may have to quit buying peanuts because of this. In small amounts, they aren't a problem, but for some reason, if they are handy, I can eat what the container calls 6-8 servings without thinking. Really, any nuts can go this way. Last night I ate too many walnuts.

I play the same stupid mind games of "I'm in maintenance now, so a little extra now and then isn't bad" or "it's low carb so it's ok" and other such sorry excuses. Fact is I have a propensity to overeat - not from being hungry, but just because it is available. You are doing well to have removed some of the temptations from your home. I think I need to do the same with my peanuts, both the can at home and the can at work.

kmn118

@cstehansen I MUST weigh my walnuts and pecans or I have eaten half my calories in those.

RowdysLady

@Cstehansen glad it's been helpful and PEAAAAANUTS! Freaking can eat them til my fingers bleed from cracking. I refuse to buy ones in a jar or else I'd eat a jar an hour.

cstehansen

RowdysLady wrote: »

@Cstehansen glad it's been helpful and PEAAAAANUTS! Freaking can eat them til my fingers bleed from cracking. I refuse to buy ones in a jar or else I'd eat a jar an hour.

Jar? I have the 52 oz cans from Sam's.

fatchimom

RowdysLady wrote: »

I've been thinking about this for several days now. Even as I post and say all the "right" things for other people I can't seem to get back on all the right tracks for myself.

I'm not moving and that's always been a problem. I'll do it for a short time then quit. That's probably the least of my worries these days.

I'm not logging my foods so I have no accountability. I tried to start again the other day and failed again over the weekend.

I'm eating whatever is around. Shayla had to make cookies for a project at school. I ate cookies...lots of cookies over the past few days. Sugar cookies, M&M cookies...cookies.

I'm not drinking nearly as much water as I was and I'm starting to see the Pepsi Zero intake climb...which I know is dangerous for me. Yet here I am drinking them. I wish it were as easy as "just not buying them". Damn PepsiCo.

I'm out of Ketosis as evidenced by negative on the strips.

My BPC has sweetener in it every day again, whereas it was only if I was making Mocha before.

I'm taking tastes of foods that I know are not Keto friendly because "a taste won't hurt me". Yeah right.

I've lost almost 50 lbs and I want to lose more. Why would I just stop caring about all of this? I want to care. I do care when I'm not indulging in bad behavior but the minute I go habit eat a cookie I think "whatever, I'll be fine". Well we all know I won't be fine. I'll start to gain and lose all my progress.

The worst part is I've been doing all or a combo of these behaviors for several weeks now and I'm still losing some. Which only sets into my head that "I must be ok doing these awful things because I'm still losing". I really am smart enough when I'm rational to know that's not true but the moment I become irrational and pick up a cookie I think "I'll be fine".

I have my first physical early next month in over a decade and I couldn't wait to see what the results were but now they'll be skewed.

How do I kickstart myself back to what I was like when I decided Keto was the way to go back in April? What makes us do this to ourselves? I wonder if I should increase from 20 to something like 50 but I'm scared I'll start gaining weight...yet clearly I'm eating at least that many right now if not many many many more. Who's going to come to East Texas and kick me in the *kitten* for being an idiot? I can't seem to do it myself.

I need the most sage advice from someone who's been here. Stuck in a spiral downward in every possible way.

I was totally there. I gained 10 pounds. I ate carbs and crap every day-didn't log. I thought a couple pounds was okay-I could take that off easy! WTF? I don't know how or what changed but, one day I woke up and got back on the wagon. I know this will happen for you. One day you'll be sick of carbs and grossed out by how they make you feel. We're here for ya!!!!

JennifrClaire

I'm just coming out of this. I don't know why it took me so long but I was doing the same nibbling thing. Not sure how I stopped so I can't advise you but I'm just posting here to wish you luck. Don't give up.

ProCoffeenator

*hugs*
Oh @RowdysLady I just now stumbled onto this post!
Sounds like everyone is being super supportive so I can jump in and be a cheerleader!

I will recommend a journal. Yeah I know "Dear Diary". Just having a place to write something down when you are being challenged. Sometimes just writing down "I want to eat all the food" is enough to help you realize what you are doing. Put the date and time. You'd be able to look back to find commonality and pinpoint any triggers.

Another thought... for all of us... we should look into buddies. Having an accountability partner. Many of us don't have someone to talk to about our "diet". Just a thought.

LemonMarmalade

Off the plan? Yes. Feel like dirt? Yes.
Kicking myself in the rear and jumping back on? Heck Yes.

The only time my body feels good is lc. When I eat carbage, i can never get enough food. It doesn't help, but is no excuse that I am still having pains like I had when my gallbladder was in...just not as extreme. It's fairly mild when it happens. So I am giving it time and if I have a larger attack it's back to the doc. Again.

treehugnmama

Rowdyslady I was doing the same thing just couldn't stop!! I supported my friends but could follow my own advise. honestly I was getting like 4000ish steps in tje next day 8 except for fridays was good so I lowered my step goal to 8 so I could feel successful. as soon as I did that I had all 10000 days. I made water a goal for two weeks I did that started feeling like yay I'm back. then I realized I was getting enough sleep so went to bed earlier for a week and the cravings stopped as did the nibbling....mine was sleep.

hang in there make a couple easy attainable goals so you can feel successful and proud ( you are a success and should feel proud regardless) it helped me.
also awesome job on the dancing you are doing great...just a bit of a rough patch. you can do this!! I'm cheering for you!