Self Sabotage
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There is so much good advice here along with experience. The only thing I can add is that I have noticed that when I start eating carbs - for any reason - there is never a point of "enough". It's like searching for a place where I've finally had enough and can quit looking for more but it never comes. I just want more and more and more. And then some more. So the only answer is to stop eating them and go through the horrors of withdrawal once again. It's starting over once again except this time you know why you feel like "kitten" and you know that after a few days you will feel better and that eventually you will feel like your old "new" self again.
Eventually this, too, shall pass. You have a place to come until it does.11 -
PaleoInScotland wrote: »
I really hate myself today and I told my husband, he really doesn't get the self loathing I deal with, but he was really sensitive to it today and has been working really hard to love me twice as much while I can't love myself. It can be hard to talk to our menfolk about our feelings sometimes, but I'm glad I shared with him today. It really helps to have a spouse, friend, parent, adult child, etc who can support you through this journey.
I read everything you wrote but this got to me. Rowdy came home from work just a bit ago and it was a tough day for him - two of his guys didn't show up and he's exhausted. So much so that he didn't even go hunting after work - which is is all time favorite thing to do. I was dying to talk to him about what's going on with me. He will listen to every single word (and actually hear it) even though he can't understand how I feel. I want him to know what's going on with me. I also know that right now is not the time. I need to wait until after dinner, once we are alone and the house is quiet. I know he will be there for me and try to make me feel better but I have to wait until he's unwound from his awful day. He can't fix it but I know that I will feel somewhat better once he's reminded me he loves me as I am. And @canadjineh he will give me that hug for sure. I'm going to unplug now and head down to the pond where he is fishing and listen to his day knowing he'll listen to mine a little later. Fishing together will be our walk
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You are blessed.0
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@missippibelle and @supergal3
I'm gonna try... thank you.
@suzqtme I am blessed in life and family these days. Took a long time to get here but yes. And I do hope it will pass with me overcoming vs succumbing. Thank you.1 -
*hug* Rowdy! I have been going through the exact same thing for a few weeks now too! I am good for a couple of days, then for some reason I eat cookies. Not just one cookie, LOTS of cookies. Or Halloween little chocolate bars, lots of them. Rice, bread... I've dabbled in all of it lately and I am not proud of myself. In fact, every night I go to bed beating myself up, and I've been avoiding this forum because of it. =(
I get up the next day planning to be good, and it starts out well, but then.... I screw it all up and don't ever make it to the gym, etc etc. *sigh*
Anyway - just wanted you to know you're not alone. I feel ya!2 -
Thank you @Zenwenner. I'm sorry you are going through this too. If I could recommend you not avoid the forums here - we won't beat you up and as you can see we will try to help you stop beating yourself up too. Everyone is so supportive! Love you guys!!1
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Ok, my typo in the word sabotage in my title is driving me crazy. I do know how to spell most of the time...sigh.2
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LOL. Where's the Spelling Police? Probably eating donuts somewhere.7
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We're going to need to start a *kitten* ups only challenge lol.
Hold one another accountable. Message one another when things are dicey. Reach out for compassion and a shoulder, or even a *kitten* fest.
I've been doing the same thing, @Zenwenner and am ashamed to log it, I'm hiding it, like I used to do while using! I want to be back to where I was a few months ago.
Anyone else interested in a cheaters anonymous challenge thread?
@RowdysLady would that help you? I know I need a reset.1 -
Hey, just came across this! Check out number 8!!!
Well check them ALL out lol
http://alldayidreamaboutfood.com/2015/05/top-10-tips-for-getting-back-on-track-with-your-low-carb-diet.html2 -
@SuperCarLori I, too, failed to stop smoking... this time! But, there will be another time that I will be successful. Just now, I choose to focus my willpower on food. I feel lucky that I don't have to bake cupcakes or stock the house with many forbidden (to me) foods, which would be like dangling a steak in front of a lion. It's like that bumper sticker says, "Choose life" because my old choices were killing me. By the way, we still have 2.5 months in which to be able to claim that we quit smoking in 2016!
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@SuperCarLori I, too, failed to stop smoking... this time! But, there will be another time that I will be successful. Just now, I choose to focus my willpower on food. I feel lucky that I don't have to bake cupcakes or stock the house with many forbidden (to me) foods, which would be like dangling a steak in front of a lion. It's like that bumper sticker says, "Choose life" because my old choices were killing me. By the way, we still have 2.5 months in which to be able to claim that we quit smoking in 2016!
I wish I didn't have to have carbs in this house, but Bob is a frickin long drink of water. Sigh.. two and a half months you say.....0 -
@RowdysLady ... you have helped me tons on here. I was afraid of eating the bad foods for the last two months. At the boat show this past weekend, VIP tickets to the food tent. Protein overload. Still shouldn't have eaten the breaded chicken or breaded fish. Shouldn't have had that taste of cocktail sauce. I did and it lowered my keto number dramatically. I kicked myself in the *kitten* and said, now do something about it and get your butt back where you belong. A setback is temporary, so don't beat yourself up constantly. You have come so far. You got this.4
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I don't know about anyone else, but there is usually something stressful going on when I fail on my diet: not enough sleep, too much work, heartbreak, illness, injury. It happens occasionally, and I go back the same way I got onto a healthy diet in the first place, one step at a time. I'm currently recovering from jet lag, and not fully on a healthy diet again.4
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I like that idea, @SuperCarLori and thanks for the link..checking it out now!1
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Thank you to everyone for the wonderful support!1
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Yeah, I'm sorry...really sorry if I hijacked. I believe in you!0
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(((((((hugs))))))) to you all and the mind*kitten* this whole thing can be...esp for women. I go through a very similar thinking process.
We're all worth it!!!! And other trite, but true, cliches.3 -
This isn't really sage advice & I haven't been losing long enough to give it anyway but here it goes...maybe you are just bored with it all? Even though it is all good maybe it has gotten boring. Is there anything you can do make some kind of new thing that can come into your life? Even as simple as cooking a new food? You know you have always wanted to try crock pot frog legs? Is there something you want to buy for just yourself (to kitten with the budget) How about a new activity? I only say this because I know being bored is the sure path to disaster for myself. Even the busiest ppl can be bored. We have to be like sharks alway moving ... that is my theory anyway.
Big hug to an amazing women! YOU!4 -
I had surgery on August 11th and have been seeking "comfort foods" since then. I have been eating off plan foods since then! I've been eating carbage and it's going to stop, today! The pain I've felt from eating the junk has returned with a vengeance, and isn't worth the convenience of grabbing whats there, instead of preparing on plan food for myself. I'm finally feeling energetic (after some surgical problems recovering, and an unrelated 15 day hospitalization!) enough that I feel I can cook again! It's been a ride these last couple of months, but I can feel the inflammation that goes with eating the junk! I'm actually up a size in my pants! I'm committing to leaving the junk behind as of now! You all can do this too! I want to feel better again, and will! That's what we deserve!
Recognition is huge, and is the first step to controlling what we choose to put in our mouths! I'm taking the control back as of now! I began the day with a two egg omelet with Canadian bacon, and cheese! Very filling, and will likely keep me full until late afternoon! Will continue to eat low carb, and no more junk! I hope you all can do the same!
Loving yourself is so important! We deserve to love ourselves, just as we do others!8
