That's awesome inspiration @Karlottap

Are there people on this planet that don't struggle with long term motivation??? I can't sustain it myself, it's just impossible. I skip from one short-term goal to the next short term goal because I can promise you if it's going to take more than a few months I'm going to lose interest.

For example, Halloween has been a huge motivator for me for the last 6 months - that's twice as long as I have ever had a single motivator in the past and it was a huge challenge for me to stay interested for 6 whole months...especially after half the girls in the universe decided to do the SAME COSTUME as me...<sigh>

I have enlisted my husbands help for the next motivator - I asked him to pick out an outfit he would like to see me in, something sexy and christmas themed...so for November and December I will be using that for my motivation and then at the end of that I can maybe get him to take pictures of me in my sexy new outfit...or just take me to bed in it, whatever he's in the mood for.

After that, I don't know, I'll have to come up with something new, because I will NEED something NEW for motivation or there's no way in hades I'll stay on target without some new kind of goal.

You aren't a failure for slipping off the rails, I think it happens to everyone. But if you want to stay on the rails you have to find a system that works for you, and what you are doing, it's not working, so it's time to change it up. Find a shorter term goal and some kind of reward at the end of the goal. Maybe shopping for a new top after 5 more lbs, or going on a special trip for staying on target 3 months, or doing some fun activity for getting A1C levels in line...whatever you will find motivating, whatever gives you that little edge to WANT it, you have to find something you WANT enough to put in the work, because it's a lot of work...for me, it's always vanity because I'm at the point my weight is not a health issue, I just want to look a little better, a little less jiggly, a little more badass...

Find something that works for you...I like to read the success stories for ideas about what will be motivating, a lot of times people include their own motivations in there...

RowdysLady wrote: »

Ok, my typo in the word sabotage in my title is driving me crazy. I do know how to spell most of the time...sigh.

I fixeded it.

I'm wondering if I'm going through the self sabotage myself. I'm not eating "cheats" or anything. But I am over eating nuts and keto treats. I am also not being careful when I eat out. Last night I had beef brisket which was fine but I had some braised greens with bacon in it. I wonder if those greens had sugar in them. *sigh*
I've been where you are though and you can bust out of it. Let's do this! I can honestly say making friends here on MFP has helped me SO much!!!

@RowdysLady Having your partner actually understand what you needed from him (eliminate the triggers) really shows his commitment to helping you reach your goals, whatever they are... just accepting that you are an equal and deserving of the same respect he wishes for himself. PRICELESS!

You have a wonderful husband! What a great support

Your husband sounds like such a great supportive partner. You're a lucky lady. I'm sorry if someone else already mentioned this but I know for myself when I want to have things that aren't keto friendly I have a few things I do. 1. I'll allow myself something awesome and keto friendly (i.e. today I'm having a big prime rib steak!) 2. I think about all of the positives that I get from keto that aren't weight loss. My energy levels and how much better I feel are the things that usually come to my mind. Sometimes changing the focus is extremely helpful in adherence for me.

Good luck lady! You've got this!

I am about to committe carbacide...I ate Chinese rice, some chocolate and probAbly a banana split soon

From your most recent post it sounds to me like you're already set on doing exactly what I was about to suggest, which was essentially - get back on track already!

I've been low carb on and off for years now and I'm very familiar with the slippery slope you describe - you just have one cookie because your daughter made them and it doesn't do much harm and before you know it you're sneaking bites and tastes and snacks until you're essentially off plan but still eating like you're not.

Incidentally the time this diet gets dangerous is when we're struggling and our high fat lowcarb diet becomes high fat and high carb...

Anyways for me this usually happened at emotionally rough times. I fell off the wagon after death in the family and then had a rough two years with other family deaths/illnesses and could not get back on properly that whole time. I would start over, lose 5lbs, fall off and gain 8lbs etc etc until I gained a lot of weight back.

I tried telling myself I would go to 50g carbs a day and ease myself in - no good because I used the lax carb limit to allow myself treats and started the whole cycle off again.

Honestly I think the best way to get on plan is to be extra strict for a couple of weeks, eg:
Under 20g net
No wheat products
No sweets (even low carb ones as they can set off cravings)

BUT don't calorie count for those two weeks and don't push yourself too hard or do extreme fasts etc. What works for me when I'm getting on track after a cheat is to start my day with a big meal - steak and eggs maybe or bacon and cheese omelette - something REALLY filling, more food than you think you want. Hopefully you'll be stuffed enough not to habit eat or give in to cravings.

You had weight loss surgery, I think? That means you were willing to risk death to lose this weight once and for all. Surgery is not an easy option and you have to be a tough determined person to go through that. That just shows me you know what you want to do and where you want to be. There will be detours on the way sometimes, we all wander off occasionally, but you will get there for sure.