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  • carlsoda
    carlsoda Posts: 3,429 Member
    cyndiesstuff wrote: »
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    It is the Holiday here in the States! Memorial day weekend. the unofficial start to summer. What are your plans?

    I also took Tuesday and Wednesday off for a 5 day weekend! Planning family time, a little memorial day shopping, hiking, cuddling with Lucy and relaxing!
  • carlsoda
    carlsoda Posts: 3,429 Member
    cyndiesstuff wrote: »
    Daily Check in: Thursday
    Food: it wasn't pretty
    Water: 76 oz
    Exercise and steps: 30 minute walk, 15696 steps

    i have really spent some time analyzing what happened yesterday. working on figuring out the belief that i have that makes it OK to binge like i did last night. it started at work around 10. i was bored and decided to eat my afternoon snack mid morning. that set the thoughts rolling. my snack was a deli roll. so not sugar or bread. i talked myself out of over eating all day till i got home. i spoke compassionately to myself, reassuring myself i could live thru this. it was just urges. i thought of all the things i could do instead of binge. and then Jim left to the farm and i was alone. i went to the bathroom and looked in the mirror and told myself i could do this, that it was only one evening. that i wasn't hungry. it wasn't pretty. i ate 3 granola bars, a protein bar, corn chips, 3 bowls of cereal, a string cheese, and a deli roll after dinner which was a 4 oz sirloin steak, roasted broccoli, and homemade garlic toast. i felt terrible. i had done it again. it all started with the feeling of boredom and as the day rolled on i became exhausted. so by time i got home, i had no energy left to be strong and i gave in to the urges. i think many of my binges start with my job and lack of work. so far it is very difficult to distract myself at work because really i have nothing else to do. so i sit and ruminate about not wanting to eat, what it means if i do and why i can't quit thinking about it. my crappy job is not the problem tho, it doesn't help but it is not the problem. my flawed thinking is that eating will help me feel better. see all day, the anxiety built up and up and up. and then when i finally ate it was like an addict getting her fix. it was a relief and then i needed another hit. so how do i change my flawed thinking? my belief that food is going to make me feel better? i need to find something else to make me feel better. something healthy. a new job. i need to be stimulated by my environment not put to sleep by it. but... can i give up, the good money, the freedom, the benefits? i think this is a conversation i need to have with Jim. and i am not going to punish myself today for my flawed thinking. i am going to work on changing my belief. Food will not fix this situation, only i can fix this situation.






    Ok couple of thoughts...I deal with this all the time. Love my job but it goes through phases of not being able to keep up, then I get caught up and nothing to do. I think that's a huge problem for most people working in offices these days. Can you download books on your phone and read while at work? Can you listen to audiobooks with headphones, but just in one ear? Day dream, plan for something coming up. These are all forms of distraction. I heard this week a suggestion to clean your desk drawers. Maybe we need to spend time getting it all messy so we can clean them (LOL!) Also, take a walk. We're on the 3rd floor of a pretty big office building so I can go down to the 1st floor and walk around for a bit. Even step outside and take in some fresh air on a "smoke" break. Start thinking of distractions and write them down and keep them close to you. One other thing, since you came home exhausted last night maybe you should have laid down and taken a nap? I find I am super hungry when I'm over tired...it's like needing the energy to keep going. Finally...I heard on PNP and Life Coach School podcasts: talk to yourself, just don't listen, actually talk to yourself. It's a different part of the brain - so I'm trying it starting today. Start your morning with a good talk and set your day right!

    Sending you hugs - I go through this so often and it's not about the food, it's what is going on in our brains!

    I hope today is a much better day for you!
  • carlsoda
    carlsoda Posts: 3,429 Member
    Mrsbell8well wrote: »
    @cyndiesstuff I’m wondering if the successful weight loss was a trigger. We sometimes self sabotage. In 12 steps we call our sponsors when we feel like acting out. I wonder what would happen if you came to our team with an sos before it happens. Putting down all your feelings and what your contemplating and asking for help. You have lots of support here. In 12 steps we don’t always have to figure out why it happens as much as we need to stop it from happening...just for one day.

    What a great idea!! I was thinking on my way in to work this morning how much I cherish our group. It's not just about food or weight loss, it's about changing our mindset. We're in for the long run and dang it we will make it! We're all working on making this a permanent lifestyle!
  • sleepymom5
    sleepymom5 Posts: 2,473 Member
    Daily Check in: Thursday
    Food: logged and over
    Water: 65 oz
    Exercise and steps: 30 minute Leslie Sansone tape, 9,000 steps

    Not surprised about the weight. This week I was off. This is part of the reason I have to log, if I don't for some reason I think I can overeat. The same with weighing myself each morning. If I don't, I think I can eat whatever. It is very weird and another thing I have to work on. I am hoping some of the weight is from dinner that is sitting like a brick in my stomach. Such a weird thing for me to order. I am not even a fan of fried food. Ugh! Oh well, more of a reason to stay on track. Something I am proud of- I didn't buy those donuts although I felt terrible about it. I know the kids like them but I seem to like them more Lol! Instead, I am going to make cinnamon rolls and monkey bread instead. They both go quick so I won't have to worry about them. I also will make them right before breakfast so they won't tempt me at night. I am also going to have the kids keep the snacks downstairs where they hang out at night. Another thing I am proud about is I really wanted this sugary cereal that my daughter wanted. I was beyond stuffed but I really wanted it anyway. I think it helped that the box wasn't opened. I actually just went to go to bed, then realized my steps wer4e low and did a Leslie Sansone video for 30 min. Then went to bed. I have a few things I want to get done before the crowds come so I have to get moving.

    @GingerPwr Congrats on your anniversary! I know you looked beautiful in your new dress! Glad you had a nice time. You are in the home stretch for school! I know it will be busy!
    @cyndiesstuff New day! Don't beat yourself up. This is a struggle that you have had for a while. You have had more good days than bad days in the past week. You also thought about what happened and the triggers. The job is a difficult decision but one that has the potential of making your life better. Not that that it is going to magically solve everything as you know. Hugs my friend. Remember to just take one day at a time.
    @eyesopennow Nice loss! Not minimal at all! I am sure you will have loss again next week, just keep doing what you have been doing!
    @hkfleming Awesome loss!! Congrats on your PRs with lifting! Sounds like you are kicking butt!!
    @lennoncpa You are just barely in the 140s, you can turn it around. You have been traveling a lot so just get back into your routine and kick butt like I know you can!
    @pacsnc6 Nice loss! I was doing better with snacking at night and now it is back. It does make a difference!
    @lenka1 Good idea for the weekend. Sometimes we need a little break and as you said, it isn't an invitation to eat all you want, just a break from counting macros etc. Looks like you have a fun weekend planned (except the cleaning part lol!) It also sounds like you have a great plan for next week. Hang in there! You are doing great, the scale will catch up! Do you take measurements? They are a better picture to what is going on sometimes. Happy Birthday to your little one!
  • sleepymom5
    sleepymom5 Posts: 2,473 Member
    @Cafelelia Nice loss! I bet you are building muscle mass! Good idea to take measurements!
    @carlsoda Nice loss! Sounds like some fun gardening time! You really are doing well and the scale is reflecting that! I do love those podcasts. I try to listen to 1 PNP and 1 of the life coach school per day. I know PNP can get repetitive but I need that Lol! Have a great weekend my friend!
  • Shirin_K
    Shirin_K Posts: 258 Member
    Check in for: Thursday
    Logged food: Yes, under
    Water: 24 oz
    Steps and Exercise: 12,722 steps

    Yesterday was a full busy day outside! We spent 5 hours at Track and Field Day and another 2 hours at baseball. I got all my steps in just walking at the events and food was on target. Today’s goals: 64 oz of water (top priority since the last couple days were low), log food and be under calories, 10,000 steps, and start planning for the long weekend (activities, meals, house and yard work, etc.).
  • amsandos
    amsandos Posts: 273 Member
    @sleepymom5 thank you I feel like a bit of a fraud though because my fitness plan double counts my work outs so it is making me look like an olympian. I wish I was built like an Olympian but I am not ready to eat like one! :D I am doing the triathlon with a tri-buddy and not taking my family to support so I don't know if there will be any pictures. I always look like I am going to kill someone in race pictures. In fact my profile picture is completely unrepresentative of what I look like when I race. There are only 2 pictures in existance of me smiling while I am running. My profile picture is one. Shortly after this picture was taken I triped over the curb grazed myself up and gave myself a concusion. I crossed the finish line looking like a bloodied Viking Warrior.

    @cyndiesstuff I find those days hard to where you are literally fighting with yourself all day and then you get to the end and you are so tired with arguing with yoursel that you just give in. Strategies for dealing with that will be awesome. If I figure any out I promise to share.

    Yesterday went well. While I was in the office someone came in with a Magnum (ice-cream) do you have them over there? Instead of jumping up and buying one I promised myself that I could have one the next day. I wrote it in my food journal. I spent the afternoon and morning looking forward to it. I waited til mid morning snack time when I was hungry. I ate it and enjoyed it. This was as my snack not as well as my snack. I had tagine for lunch and I am really full. but I wanted something for sweet in the afternoon and I realised it was because I didn't like the taste in my mouth. What a strange trigger. I had one tictac now I am fine. I will probably be fine until dinner which is shepherd's pie. I don't want to spoil it.

    @lenka1 it might be worth changing things around work out wise. Either try different routines or different exercises. Maybe the same with food. I find when I do a lot of the same exercise I plateau. That is why I love triathlon so much because I am always changing my training depending on what I am working towards. Plus I need the fear of an event to get me off my back side to work out. (I know that you don't need that kind of motivation)
  • ljdanny
    ljdanny Posts: 2,161 Member
    Ljdanny
    Week 3
    Thursday
    Pw 187
    Cw 189.2
  • ljdanny
    ljdanny Posts: 2,161 Member
    Sorry guys. I almost died when I saw that. I will not be 190. If that isn't a kick in the *kitten* I don't know what is. I got up and went to Zumba today. I'm going to go food shopping, this weekend I will get some meal prepping done. I can add that to my to do list. I do plan on exercising all weekend also. Well hopefully next weigh in will look better.
  • carlsoda
    carlsoda Posts: 3,429 Member
    sleepymom5 wrote: »
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    The Birthday Girl! She doesn't look very excited does she?! Lol! Daisy is 9 today!

    <<SQUEAL>> she is SO cute!!! Happy Birthday Daisy!!!
  • kirsten11872
    kirsten11872 Posts: 519 Member
    Hello all, TGIF & it is a long weekend! The weather is going to be gorgeous!

    After last week's weigh-in, I got back on track this week. Looks like I lost all the weight I gained and then some. I finally got back to my workouts on Wednesday. I did the elliptical last night and I am going to the gym after work. I am hoping to get out early today with the holiday weekend. I am feeling good!

    @cyndiesstuff I have been there so many times. It is a never-ending battle! I can be perfect all day, plan to be good when I get home, then I go nuts at night and feel terrible. I just try to give myself a pep talk and remind myself I am human and I can start fresh tomorrow.

    @sleepymom5 I am the same way. When I don't track I eat whatever, like my body doesn't know I ate it if I don't track it, lol. I also weigh myself every morning, I have an obsession with the scale, but I feel like it keeps me on track.

    Have a great day & weekend! Enjoy the holiday! :smiley:
  • Mrsbell8well
    Mrsbell8well Posts: 1,652 Member
    Daily check in Thursday
    Food-good but I was so tired I skipped dinner
    Exercise-did my 35 training run in morning. It left me more tired than energized
    water-good
    Sleep-slept 8 hours and 45 minutes last night. much needed

    I am feeling good and thin again. I find that I do best with breakfast, snack, lunch, snack and dinner. And sometimes I do best to skip dinner depending on how big my lunch was. It feels like a good routine for me. I am planning to draw up something doable for me. @sleepymom5 I thought about what you said on eating the same types of food but maybe limiting quantity. And overall I really do best when I am listening to my body's hunger signals. It helps me to feel loved and cherished.

    I have thought a lot about all the "why's" we come up with for losing weight. Sometimes I think if we over analyze we end up going no where. I think there is a certain amount of respect for our bodies that is crucial and lots of self-love. I thought about the 12 step program some more...if you are an alcoholic and wait until you figure out the why before you stop drinking...will you ever stop? Food is harder granted but finding coping strategies is always a moving target. A book that really helped me years ago was overcoming overeating. It is always helpful to continue to educate ourselves but there is times that it seems that sheer will power kicks in to save us before we are back escalating up the scale. I celebrate daily that I am there back at the bottom. I shudder to think about climbing back up. I do feel "normal" in how I eat and how I take care of my body through good physical exercise and sound sleep.
    I don't know the answer but it seems that as soon as we find what "works" then we have to adjust and find something else that works. What worked last year may no longer work for me now.
    My "why" was always exuberant great health. I am there now. But according to plan...I still have a few more pounds to go to be in the "normal" range. So I will push on so the scale can say "ok, your normal".
    I am going to the self defense class today at 4. I am pretty excited about that.
    I have always said that I just want to eat healthy and stay active and let my body weigh what it wants. haha...that is how I ended up weighing over 200 pounds. So the truth is I need this group. I need the accountability. I need to live and perform the way that "normal" people do. I am always on alert for those very rare times that I overeat or feel out of sync.
    Hope you all have a very happy Memorial Day Weekend.

    And just a reminder we are all so beautiful and perfect exactly right where we are today...not in some future far off fantasy!
  • lenka1
    lenka1 Posts: 295 Member
    @sleepymom5 happy bday to that cute fluffy girl!!!

    And yes - measurements would have been helpful/ I never really did take them when I was heavier.
    I did today so we shall see in next couple of weeks :)

    @amsandos you’re right! I think I need a change of pace and maybe try different eating macros as well! That’s my new plan after this weekend. I’ll focus on shocking my body and getting some new workouts in :)

    Pool season is here too and I love swimming so I’m sure that’ll help too! :)

    @cyndiesstuff ITS OKAY! it will happen sometimes! You just can’t make a habit of it. My last day like that was in March sometime. I had a few there. Every week.

    And I know I will. In the future. You need to shake it off and let go. New day. New plan. Don’t dwell on it. Today you can start over. You’re not a quitter. One day of bad eating won’t matter if you have a string of 15-20 good ones..

    @hkfleming that’s awesome! New pr!
    That’s what motivates me too! I feel like I can lift heavier every week or two . I’m building it slowly but still, 6-7 months ago I would barely lift the Olympic bar or squat with it for 3-4 sets. Now I do warm ups with it and it feels so ridiculously light!
  • Mrsbell8well
    Mrsbell8well Posts: 1,652 Member
    @lenka1 great progress. Your plateau is relatable. Hang in there you have all the right tools.
  • Mrsbell8well
    Mrsbell8well Posts: 1,652 Member
    @sleepymom5 Princess Daisy...too adorable!
  • GingerPwr
    GingerPwr Posts: 1,984 Member
    @sleepymom5 Daisy is too cute!
    @cydiesstuff recognizing your setbacks is half the battle. You'll regroup and move forward. You have been such a strong, encouraging leader and role model here, and part of what you model is simply being human and sometimes flawed. Keep loving yourself!

    So far my summer plan is going to revolve around the keyword "consistency." Getting up at the same time every day, budgeting time for exercise and school work, that sort of thing. I do much better with structure, so I'll have to create it for myself.
  • Mrsbell8well
    Mrsbell8well Posts: 1,652 Member
    Went out to dinner with the old folks. Had a nice salad bar, bake potato and grilled asparagus. When we got home I desperately wanted strawberry ice cream. I made it with frozen organic strawberries, frozen banana, almond milk (30 calories) and a drizzle of honey. It’s the best strawberry ice cream ever!!!
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  • Mrsbell8well
    Mrsbell8well Posts: 1,652 Member
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    I have to post these pics of Skylynn. We sat on the porch and each ate a whole grapefruit. Building fun memories.
  • Julie8468
    Julie8468 Posts: 151 Member
    Username: julie8468
    Weekly check in: week 3?
    Pw: 138
    Cw: 138.2
  • cyndiesstuff
    cyndiesstuff Posts: 1,562 Member
    Daily Check in: Friday
    Food: it wasn't pretty
    Water: 36 oz
    Exercise and steps: 30 minute walk, 11663 steps

    yesterday, i used thursdays binge to continue to binge. i am not even going to explain it. so i started the day today with positive affirmations. and i will continue to use them all day. i am quiting binging. today is day one.

    @eyesopennow hey! thats a pound and you need to give yourself big credit for making the scale move. remember your words are powerful messages to yourself. i know it seems like you have a long way to go. but you can do this. break you goal up into smaller pieces. did you do the 4 circles goals challenge i posted? i think it would really help you get your mind around it is the small daily things that add up to weight loss. make it doable and realistic. then just concentrate on what you can do today and the rest will fall into place.

    @Mrsbell8well i understand what your saying about posting an SOS. i am willing to try it. but i am worried that mfp is not the right forum for it. i am thinking that even if i post sometimes it is quite some time before someone responds. and the response to a SOS would need to be quick. and logically i know what you are saying is correct. i need to stop. and today is day one. ohh please let us know about your new exercise class. i took ti kwan do years ago and i loved it! and you speak wise words angelina. you are my motivation today, to make this day one. skylynn is soooo beautiful. look at her gorgeous face!!

    @hkfleming ohhh my gosh. that is fantastic!! wooosh!! i love it when that happens. good job on your continued success.

    @lennoncpa for the vacation you were on, thats not a bad gain. now get to work girl! the 130's are calling you!!

    @pacsnc6 ohhh yes! nice loss this week. cutting out some of those snacks seems to be helping. now that spring has finally sprung in michigan, i love to garden. and i can do that when i am bored at home. i tried writing in my journal and that didn't work. i love to read but it puts me to sleep. and if i am at work that is a problem. i know if i could just find something i could do at work, it would really help dramatically. but a project that i could do for 6 hours and sometimes more? i don't know. i think i would need more than one project. and i am not really a crafty person. but i am will to try.

    @lenka1 and you are correct. plateau's do suck. that is just a small gain. and sometimes we all need a mental break. getting your mind straight is half the battle. just don't let you mind convince you that you are done. you are never done.

    @carlsoda ohhhh girl! i love your holiday plan. it sounds amazing. i love hiking, cuddling and relaxing!! you have fun. that is some amazing self care right there. yes i can listen to audio books. and i do, but i can only do that for so long and then that gets boring. and i pace my office all the time. back and forth while i listen to audio books and podcasts. but this will go on for weeks at a time. 90 percent of my days are like this: i get to work at 830. i take a walk, tend to my plants, check voice mail, put out the flag, and make coffee. then, i check my calendar, then do any work that needs to be done and then usually by 10 i have nothing to do. every day. day after day after day. and that is what i should have done. just go to bed. and look at that loss you had this week. woooooo girl cyndie is doing the happy dance for you! have you thought about maintenance and what that is going to look like? ohhh yea, the garden center. i could spend all day there and come home with half the store!!

    @sleepymom5 ok chicky! thats a tough one on the scale. but you know the scale does not go down in a straight line. learn from this and move on. i was going to tell you to enjoy this trip but i am not sure enjoy is the right word. you are good daughter and a great friend, so find comfort in your trip. here is a little exercise for you: when you come here to post, start every post with the credit worthy acts that you accomplished. praise yourself for your continued commitment to making this the last time. and then go into analyzing your missteps. you mind needs positive reinforcement. first and foremost. and i love it that you didn't buy those doughnuts. maybe one day you can have them around and not over eat them. but thats not today and your realize that. and daisy says, "get that thing off my head momma. i don't like it. but.... does it come with a treat?"

    @Cafelelia our bodies respond to our lives in very different ways that we expect. don't minimize the loss. it is great that the scale is moving in the right direction. good job!! and you are right. i will not quit. this is the last time i am going to lose this weight.

    @Shirin_K ohhh your day sound like fun. i miss when my babies were little. enjoy!!

    @amsandos and i think you look amazing in race pictures. you look fierce. not like a serial killer!! lol. and you totally get my struggle. and i will share strategies if i figure this out as well. and yes. we have magnum ice cream. ohhh so yummm. ohhh and look at the new you go. you planned your joy food. that is amazing progress. really give yourself credit for that.

    @ljdanny nope, no need to be sorry. you just need to stop the downward spiral. you can do this. make a plan for today. try not to punish yourself. being very strict can very easily turn into bullying. be kind to yourself and encouraging. beating yourself up never works.

    @kirsten11872 good job at your continued commitment to make this the last time. and your right, i know your right. today is day one of no more binging

    @GingerPwr ohhh thank you. your right, i am flawed and after all only human. i am learning that more and more every day. i am so glad that you are here with us. and consistency is a big key to success in this life. get a wall calendar and put it up on the wall where you can see it every day. start every day looking at your agenda for the day. and remember, your the boss. Thanks.

    @Julie8468 maintains are good. you got this. keep moving forward. small daily goals. i like the idea of a small cooler for your car. just wondering how that works. they have those ones you plug in the lighter. but really, warm veggies is not that bad. i have a bag https://www.amazon.com/Kate-Spade-New-York-Lunch/dp/B078X6PX5S/ref=pd_sbs_79_3/137-6277995-5427051?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B078X6PX5S&pd_rd_r=f1f69c05-7ed7-11e9-9b09-4f16de09a724&pd_rd_w=P58r2&pd_rd_wg=zt0Pd&pf_rd_p=588939de-d3f8-42f1-a3d8-d556eae5797d&pf_rd_r=0Y39YCFH8FRR3341D91G&psc=1&refRID=0Y39YCFH8FRR3341D91G i leave it in my car. i have a little freezer pack that goes inside. you can figure this out.

    @DananaNanas yayayyaya! good job. looks good girl.





  • carlsoda
    carlsoda Posts: 3,429 Member
    @cyndiesstuff - just remind your self you are getting paid a lot of money just to be there. May not know why but you are! There is something to learn from this I bet.
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