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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Very happy to welcome you back…I have missed your posts….I know you can do this because you have before!…I have been struggling a lot but really want to get back on track…we can do this!
Girl just look at your picture. You have lost sooooo much. You look amazing! Hope you are out of Elsa's path!4 -
Yep, we made it thru the hurricane with minimal damage….I want to lose about 40 to 50 more but that sure sounds better than 150 like it was!4
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lauriekallis wrote: »@Athijade Deep breaths. You can get over this and back on track! THis is going to be a tough week though. Those parent treasures. I have them too. A little less every year. Every little thing that I manage to let go is a challenge but it feels like so much weight off my shoulders once the decision is made. And yes - it is all still here in my mind to recall with love whenever I want. I'm not forgetting any of it anytime soon - and when I do? I guess that is okay too because you can't pine for what you can't remember.
I really liked reading "I have my memories...I don't need all the stuff" - I'm going to hold onto that thought when I need it.
I have felt some guilt over things I have gotten rid of I will admit. Like I am throwing away a part of who my parents were. But I can't keep hanging on to things just because of guilt. Obviously I am keeping pictures and some really important items (like my dad's old police uniform and belt), but I don't need everything. It just weighs me down and keeps me stuck in the past instead of moving on with my own life.
One box at a time...5 -
This is what I have been doing as well. I am a very numbers/data driven person. I know I'm technically eating healthier for me if I have red meat 1-2 a month, and lots of fruits and veggies every day. But I like being able to see the actual numbers and to learn from them. As long as it fits, I can have it. And there are plenty of days I am under my goal, which means the occasional day over is still okay and balances out.
The biggest thing with me is that I was telling myself "You can't have this." even though I KNOW that has never worked for me. Telling myself I can't have it only makes me want it even more. Which leads to restriction, then cravings, and then binging. It's funny because before I made this "One red meat meal a month" rule, I rarely ate red meat. Only like 1-2 times a month anyway. But as soon as the rule was there, all I noticed were recipes with red meat and I craved it. So odd how that happens.
I am having burgers this week. Real beef burgers. But I am using 97% lean grass fed beef from a local farm. Only about 2g of saturated fat per 4 oz patty. So I am going to enjoy the heck out of it! Putting fresh veggies on them and having corn on the cob as a side.
I think it needs to be more about balance then restriction. Have the red meat but in smaller portions and keep things balanced around that.3 -
We're doing very well at eating lighter in the heat. But lord, I do hate this steamy weather. It was up to 70% humidity earlier today, and I can't even when it's like that. Bleah.
Dinner was pretty simple. Shrimp scampi, wild rice pilaf, pan-seared asparagus, and cheddar garlic biscuits.
(Yes, it was simple. Rice pilaf is pre-portioned in bags, so just nuke and plate, same with the cheddar biscuits. Scampi is thaw shrimp, melt butter and mix sauce, pour sauce over shrimp and bake. Simple.)
Tonight I have to find my brain and make the grocery list for next week.4 -
Athijade, I read your post early today and it has stayed with me all day….
You said you “gave yourself permission to eat maintenance at your friends so you could enjoy your day “…how many times have I equated more food with more fun?….more times than I care to admit!…and if a “ little” over is fun then surely a lot more is really fun!…and afterwards I feel so guilty and ashamed!…holidays, birthdays, anniversaries are always celebrated in our family with tons of food!…
…I have been a binge eater for so many years….I can remember going to a family reunion when I was a kid and eating until I threw up….I think that is about the time I knew I had a problem with food but had no idea I would continue struggling with my weight for the next 60 years….my weight has been all over the place….at one time I had clothes in my closet from size 11 to a size 28…. I have been on every diet known to man except surgery….most of my high school years I was the “ right “ size but I was taking diet pills prescribed by my family doctor….I gained and lost weight so many times….I was always a functioning obese person and worked very hard in our family grocery business….I never let my size get in my way of traveling, working or family outings…my husband is very supportive and has always loved me thru fat and thin….my health started taking a turn as I got older….my joints could not take the extra stress and body weight….I had major back surgery, both knees completely replaced, shoulder surgery from a fall losing my balance….I suffered so bad from depression, anxiety, stress, high blood pressure, pre diabetic conditions, etc etc….my size was embarrassing me more and more….
The moral of this is that I “oh so badly wish I had gotten help with my weight in a healthy way when I was MUCH younger! “… I am still learning and I still struggle daily…you are not alone on this journey…in Larger Losers we all share your setbacks and your victories….every ounce of fat gone or every extra step towards a healthy weight is a victory!…your post made me cry but it also got me back on track today after a horrible couple of days…I do not want food to define whether I can be happy!…
Please stick with your healthy eating because it is so worth it….I have no words to describe how much better I feel almost every day!…life sucks some days and life is messy but we can find happiness and joy in so many other ways besides in food!….I want you to succeed as much as I want myself and others!
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Please stick with your healthy eating because it is so worth it….I have no words to describe how much better I feel almost every day!…life sucks some days and life is messy but we can find happiness and joy in so many other ways besides in food!….I want you to succeed as much as I want myself and others!
Big hugs!
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Thank you Connie! That made me cry, but in a good way. I appreciate your support (and the support of others here) so much. I am so glad I found this part of the community!
I'm not young but I need to get this weight off before it causes me even more problems. My back, hip, and knees have been giving me more and more trouble of late. I know a lot of that is due to my size. They won't miraculously get better, but at least could improve if I was putting less stress on them due to my weight.
Could I have had just as much fun at my friends house without going food crazy? Yes. 100% yes. And I know my friend wouldn't have been upset if I didn't eat everything. In this case it was the idea that she double checked to make sure everything was safe for me to eat so I need to eat it to show her how appreciative I was. I need to get over feeling guilty for turning down food or weird for watching what I eat when those around me don't.
I have felt like *kitten* the last 2 days because of going off plan this past weekend. I feel bloated and my digestive track hates me. It's not fun. So why do I keep doing it? I don't know.4 -
I’m still sticking with it. Baby steps. Heading to White Water today to do some water slides. I always max out my exercise ring on water park days. No way to really measure how many calories I earn but it kinda equals out since I have to eat park food. I’ll get a chicken and rice bowl with little rice more black beans. Better than the pizza or burger. I’m feeling good. Scale is down 2 lbs. I know all water but still makes my heart happy to see it move down!
Everyone have an awesome day today!6 -
What a great thread! I'm 37 days in and down 14.4#. My starting weight was 261 and I'm at 246.4 today. I have one indulgence meal a week and that happens to be today. I'm meeting a good friend for lunch that I haven't seen for months. She told me to select the restaurant so I can get the exact meal I want, which happens to be a hamburger and fries. Being able to eat exactly what I want one meal a week has really helped me stay on track. For the first time in decades, I am starting to believe I can weigh under 200 pounds. That's because of this wonderful community. Those early in the journey and especially those who have been successful who are still here cheering us on. Thank you all!4
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Today was my last day of work at the job that's been stressing me out for the last year and a half. I start my new job a week from Monday, so I have next week to just rest up and enjoy a little break. I'm really excited about the new job, and I'm hoping for a big reduction in stress that will also give me more emotional energy to work on my weight loss. I've been stuck at 40 pounds lost for way too long and I'm ready to see the scale moving down again. I even got ambitious last week and ordered a pair of extra cushioned running shoes in hopes that I'll be able to rack up some exercise calories in spite of the plantar fasciitis in my left foot.4
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I have felt like *kitten* the last 2 days because of going off plan this past weekend. I feel bloated and my digestive track hates me. It's not fun. So why do I keep doing it? I don't know.
I feel you.
I have a fructose intolerance, and have had since I was 13 years old. I eventually got to where a dessert bar with lovely soggy cakes and cookies and fruit and sweet sauces and ice cream didn't tempt me at all. It just looked like a headache and upset stomach.
So it IS possible to retrain yourself.
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Yesterday was a day that was such a struggle. I've been doing really well the past few weeks. Logging everything, making healthy choices and I'm still not sure what happened yesterday but I just wanted to quit and eat crap. It felt like emotional eating desire but I don't even know what triggered it. I did eat differently than I have been but not horrible (not near as bad as everything I wanted to eat). Hopefully today will be better mentally today. Two parties this evening so I'll be walking through minefields. I think a nap will help me have more resolution this evening.5
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Yesterday was a day that was such a struggle. I've been doing really well the past few weeks. Logging everything, making healthy choices and I'm still not sure what happened yesterday but I just wanted to quit and eat crap. It felt like emotional eating desire but I don't even know what triggered it. I did eat differently than I have been but not horrible (not near as bad as everything I wanted to eat). Hopefully today will be better mentally today. Two parties this evening so I'll be walking through minefields. I think a nap will help me have more resolution this evening.
Some days are harder than others but when you make it through a tough day, it makes you feel so proud!….a cup of hot tea or low calorie hot cocoa or soup calms you down!….1 -
Today is cool and rainy and there is nothing I "have" to do...which is pretty rare. And it comes after a week with many accomplishments and a day of over 30,000 steps - though for some reason fitbit went a bit funny last light and didn't track my walk back from the patio!! Slept in till almost noon and it all feels so deliciously decadent.
Thinking of venturing to the grocery store and considering something I've never done. Kind of Part 2 of things I don't do that I am doing today. Last week I picked up a pair of flannel pajama pants I found in my favourite blue, green and black plaid (love it so much I painted my front door "plaid" ... lol). I'm wearing them now because it is cool and I have them and they are so comfortable and feel so determinedly "relaxed."
In this ??? (I don't really even know what to call it!) area I live in there are some pretty crazy outfits at the grocery store. Full out pajamas are beyond common. So I'm thinking for the fun of it I might just pull on my boots and trip down to my No Frills in my plaid pajamas and a tank top and see what looks good for dinner!
Living dangerously close to the Hamilton outback norm these days - beers on a patio in the north end near the steel mills, and pajama pants to the grocery store. I might never turn back! Perhaps I should stop resisting the safe injection site they are proposing a few blocks from me and just get with the program! (weight loss would no longer be an issue!)5 -
Scale this morning was a bit shocking. Moved a few lbs down. I know water weight but it made me feel better!
I am going to go to my workout class tonight. I haven’t been in a while and I know it is going to kick my butt. I’m ready for it though. I know that doing that will allow me some extra calories for this Holiday Sandwich I am making for dinner! I haven’t put it in my counter for the day yet because I just don’t know how much stuff is going to go on it. I’ll have to input as I build it.
If it’s warm today I may also get in the pool for a little bit. It’s been cold and rainy over the past few days so that one may be out!
Everyone have a great Monday!!5 -
Venting....
UGH....I need to just release the weekend and move forward. We had three different celebrations to go to. I didn't do great foodwise but I logged most of it and I think it is out of my system. At one of the party, we dressed up 80s style and pics were made. I was horrified at my appearance. I mean I know I am over 300 pounds and I've seen other pics. But I think I felt really cute and then I was that I'm really not. I feel ashamed and just want to stay hidden in the house. That was coupled with our two year old grandson looking at pictures from 10 years ago when I was much lighter and not know who I was even when we told him. I know it will pass and I'll move on. I'm trying to use it as motivation but right now all I feel is shame.
This too shall pass; it just seems like too much sometimes but I can't stand a victim mentality so I have made a meal plan for the week and ordered my groceries. I will do the right things physically and let my mental state catch up.
If you've read this far, thanks....I just needed to share in a safe place.9 -
Venting....
UGH....I need to just release the weekend and move forward. We had three different celebrations to go to. I didn't do great foodwise but I logged most of it and I think it is out of my system. At one of the party, we dressed up 80s style and pics were made. I was horrified at my appearance. I mean I know I am over 300 pounds and I've seen other pics. But I think I felt really cute and then I was that I'm really not. I feel ashamed and just want to stay hidden in the house. That was coupled with our two year old grandson looking at pictures from 10 years ago when I was much lighter and not know who I was even when we told him. I know it will pass and I'll move on. I'm trying to use it as motivation but right now all I feel is shame.
This too shall pass; it just seems like too much sometimes but I can't stand a victim mentality so I have made a meal plan for the week and ordered my groceries. I will do the right things physically and let my mental state catch up.
If you've read this far, thanks....I just needed to share in a safe place.
Sometimes it takes a “ light bulb moment” to make you realize that you really need to lose the weight once and for all not only for your appearance but for your health…the combination of the pictures, grandson not recognizing you, and feeling ashamed might be your final wake up call!…we all have a time when something triggers us to eat the way we are supposed to….mine was falling in the yard, no one knowing I was outside and not being able to get up!….I was so embarrassed as drivers were stopping to ask if I was alright….
Dieting is hard and being overweight is hard….it’s time to choose your hard!5 -
conniewilkins56 wrote: »Sometimes it takes a “ light bulb moment” to make you realize that you really need to lose the weight once and for all not only for your appearance but for your health…the combination of the pictures, grandson not recognizing you, and feeling ashamed might be your final wake up call!…we all have a time when something triggers us to eat the way we are supposed to….mine was falling in the yard, no one knowing I was outside and not being able to get up!….I was so embarrassed as drivers were stopping to ask if I was alright….
Dieting is hard and being overweight is hard….it’s time to choose your hard!
Well said Connie....I think I'll change that to a lifestyle change is hard and being overweight is hard...I can always diet for a little while. It's sticking to it!
I've lost 150+ before; time to get back in the game. 3 -
Updated my profile picture to include a painting I've been working on since October. I was having fun with the grandson, taking pictures of him in the "red forest" and he took this one of me. It is a big beast - 60" x 60" painted with a tiny tiny brush...only white paint on a red background...and I think it is done! WOOHOO. My big excitement for the month.3
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lauriekallis wrote: »Updated my profile picture to include a painting I've been working on since October. I was having fun with the grandson, taking pictures of him in the "red forest" and he took this one of me. It is a big beast - 60" x 60" painted with a tiny tiny brush...only white paint on a red background...and I think it is done! WOOHOO. My big excitement for the month.
Great picture!…you are an artist?….amazing!1
