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Nooo - I hate auto correct! I said how AWFUL for you.4
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That's such rotten luck @amart4224 - I hope you manage to secure another job soon that you enjoy at least as much and that has a little more job security. Well done you for stopping the downward slide!3
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@amart4224 The mental battle is always the hardest part for me. Although it sounds cliché, sometimes things end and leave us feeling rotten but it just means something better is coming! Celebrate that you made the decision to make your health a priority and be kind to yourself as you work through everything. Sending you warm thoughts. There is beauty in imperfection and the lessons learned. 🤗4
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I ended the day at 200 cals above maintenance - a good start to ease back into things. I was notified this evening that I've been chosen to move on to the next round of interviews for a promising-looking role, so that definitely boosted my mood. I appreciate the encouraging words from everyone! It's so much easier to get back on track when there's a community of understanding people to come back to.3
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We are always here for you….fighting our own battles but in the same war!3
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@amart4224 I am so sorry about the layoff! That stinks. I remember the stress after I left my last job (horrible for my mental and physical health) but before I got in with my current one. It was terrible. Sometimes focusing on one part of health, the mental part of it, is more important. So be kind to yourself.
Glad to hear though that you are on to the next round of interviews for something new! I will keep you in my thoughts and put an offering out for good luck.3 -
@amart4224 you must be feeling really bruised. Glad you were able to regroup. I hope the white noise is quietening down so that you can focus on what's important for you and start moving in that direction again.3
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Boyfriend has formally accepted the job, and it will be all remote for the present, as they are moving offices. (Everyone's all remote at the moment.) There's a lunch on Friday that he is going to go to, and meet people face to face, which I think is nice. And he starts work on the 18th.
I want to get him into a routine of going to the gym before work with me as I think it will make him feel better. He has both kyphosis and scoliosis, and so having core strength is very important for him to put off spinal surgery as long as possible. He has a high chance of eventually needing a wheelchair, so we are planning our lives with that in mind. It's another reason I want to lose weight and keep myself strong and limber.
Had a CT scan and barely fit on the table. I wasn't hurt or offended by it, but it's definitely a motivation to keep at it.
For the record, with my thyroid crappy, I'm more or less working to not gain weight and have good habits until I have surgery in January and we get me up to normal thyroid levels. It's no good trying to lose weight until the thyroid's normalized. I'm sure I COULD drop myself to 1200 calories and exercise till I fell over and get a little off, but I want a decent quality of life, because I am going to be eating less for life and I need not to be miserable. That's a sure way to get a binge.6 -
Doctor woes! I spent the morning getting X-rays and blood work. Everything looks good. I just need to stop pushing myself so hard in the gym and on walks. Have to work my way back up after two month break. But I am very impatient and miss feeling strong and healthy.5
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AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »Boyfriend has formally accepted the job, and it will be all remote for the present, as they are moving offices. (Everyone's all remote at the moment.) There's a lunch on Friday that he is going to go to, and meet people face to face, which I think is nice. And he starts work on the 18th.
I want to get him into a routine of going to the gym before work with me as I think it will make him feel better. He has both kyphosis and scoliosis, and so having core strength is very important for him to put off spinal surgery as long as possible. He has a high chance of eventually needing a wheelchair, so we are planning our lives with that in mind. It's another reason I want to lose weight and keep myself strong and limber.
Had a CT scan and barely fit on the table. I wasn't hurt or offended by it, but it's definitely a motivation to keep at it.
For the record, with my thyroid crappy, I'm more or less working to not gain weight and have good habits until I have surgery in January and we get me up to normal thyroid levels. It's no good trying to lose weight until the thyroid's normalized. I'm sure I COULD drop myself to 1200 calories and exercise till I fell over and get a little off, but I want a decent quality of life, because I am going to be eating less for life and I need not to be miserable. That's a sure way to get a binge.
You are so inspiring @AlexandraFindsHerself1971!
One of my primary reasons for embarking on this healthy eating lifestyle was to become smaller and more limber because my knees were getting dodgier and dodgier by the day, and I foresaw a time when I'd be infirm if I didn't do something about it...and I can't afford to be infirm because there's no way in the world that my husband could push me around in a wheelchair or haul me up and down stairs. He's had numerous vascular surgeries on his arms and legs (related to his kidney failure and years of dialysis) - it's imperative that I stay strong so that if needs be I can haul HIM around, not the other way around!
So your words really touched a chord with me - it's so wonderful that you're planning for the future with such grace and emotional generosity.
PS, I agree with you about the thyroid - no sense in making yourself miserable pre-surgery. Just focus on maintenance while that particular deck is stacked against you.
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I really need to get back into working out, at least some stretching or yoga. My back and hip have been really bad of late. Every morning I am waking up in pain and I know it is at least part because I sit at a computer all day and then do nothing the rest of the day. Because when I do get off my lazy butt and take even a short walk, it feels better (until I sit at my desk more lol). Nothing I can do about being at the computer as I can't afford a standing desk but I know I can take 30 minutes and do SOMETHING.4
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Ugh….I hate days like today…I just feel hopeless and miserable….flashback to May 2019 when I started MFP….that is the mood I am in today…I am 110 pounds lighter but I feel all of the pounds suffocating me this morning….I know I have to keep going but I don’t think I can today…5
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Hang in there @conniewilkins56! We ALL have days when we feel like that - when the weight of expectation, effort, self-discipline, endless sacrifice just feels too much and it's sooooooo tempting to just dive into a vat of ice-cream to drown it all out for a while.
BUT...... don't do it, Connie! A bad eating day can make you feel good on one level while you're doing it...but even while you're doing it, part of you won't be enjoying it. And afterwards you'll feel like crap mentally, emotionally and physically.
Do something fun, wild and indulgent to lift your mood. Treat yourself somehow - just not with out of control eating. You're a strong, mighty, passionate, gorgeous woman - you can leap mountains in a single bound!
Time and again you've proved how strong you are, how inspirational, how capable of raising yourself up from your low points and putting one dogged foot in front of the other.
You CAN do this. You ARE doing it! And smashing it out of the park....
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Bella is on fire! And I agree with her Connie. Do something somewhere else if you can!3
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Ugh….I hate days like today…I just feel hopeless and miserable….flashback to May 2019 when I started MFP….that is the mood I am in today…I am 110 pounds lighter but I feel all of the pounds suffocating me this morning….I know I have to keep going but I don’t think I can today…
You can and will keep going - maybe not so much today but tomorrow. Can you possibly figure out what set off the mood? Maybe work on that trigger?3 -
I really need to get back into working out, at least some stretching or yoga. My back and hip have been really bad of late. Every morning I am waking up in pain and I know it is at least part because I sit at a computer all day and then do nothing the rest of the day. Because when I do get off my lazy butt and take even a short walk, it feels better (until I sit at my desk more lol). Nothing I can do about being at the computer as I can't afford a standing desk but I know I can take 30 minutes and do SOMETHING.
I completely get this - you’re speaking my language! Even just a 10-15 min walk helps me. I feel like the longer walks have both the physical and mental benefit. Sitting all day is a killer for me. I know you’ve said a standing desk isn’t an option, but I do highly recommend one if/when you can swing it. It’s been a game changer for me. The other major game changer for me was buying a heated mattress pad. While not for everyone and didn’t completely resolve morning pain, I don’t feel the same level of stiffness and feel much more mobile in the morning.conniewilkins56 wrote: »Ugh….I hate days like today…I just feel hopeless and miserable….flashback to May 2019 when I started MFP….that is the mood I am in today…I am 110 pounds lighter but I feel all of the pounds suffocating me this morning….I know I have to keep going but I don’t think I can today…
You have the inner strength to get through today, tomorrow, and beyond. You will find that motivation again. While how you feel today may feel reminiscent of the beginning of your journey here, it’s undeniable you have new tools, new insight, new support, and more importantly new inner strength that helped you through losing 110 lbs. I can’t imagine that didn’t come without stumbling, falling, and getting back up again. Each struggle brings wisdom to your journey and when embraced helps you continue. Reaching out and sharing your struggle shows fortitude and a different kind of strength and will help get you back on your feet!
You’ve proven you have it in you. Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Know you have support and people care. Most importantly find a way to comfort yourself that makes you feel good and supports your long-term goal.
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I often don't do it even though I know I should. I even register the poor Fitbit's reminders sometimes and say not now I'll do it later. But absent a standing desk, the simple get up for 3 minutes and walk around every hour still helps tremendously. Yes it does interrupt and especially in an office may be very hard to pull. But when I'm doing it I can't recommend it enough2
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I actually do better in the office because we have tunnels to connect the different buildings downtown. So I can get up and walk no matter what the weather is. Plus everything is further away from my desk so I have to get up and walk more in general.
The problem is when I am home. I find I don't get up as often. You would think it would be the opposite! But I am less likely to take my breaks like I should. Not healthy.2 -
I actually do better in the office because we have tunnels to connect the different buildings downtown. So I can get up and walk no matter what the weather is. Plus everything is further away from my desk so I have to get up and walk more in general.
The problem is when I am home. I find I don't get up as often. You would think it would be the opposite! But I am less likely to take my breaks like I should. Not healthy.
You might do what my boyfriend has started doing. He has a small timer, which he sets for 20 minutes. When it goes off, he stands up, stretches, and Does Something Else other than what he was doing. We took this from Un**ck Your Habitat postings on how to handle housework when you feel physically or mentally unable to do anything. He tends to get locked into something and get frustrated and wind himself up in a big ball of frustration/shame/anxiety, and having to stop and take his mind off it and get back into his body by stretching interrupts the cycle and makes him more productive. He can do as many cycles as he needs to, and it seems to work for him.
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I actually do better in the office because we have tunnels to connect the different buildings downtown. So I can get up and walk no matter what the weather is. Plus everything is further away from my desk so I have to get up and walk more in general.
The problem is when I am home. I find I don't get up as often. You would think it would be the opposite! But I am less likely to take my breaks like I should. Not healthy.
When COVID lockdown happened, I learned the same thing about myself. At work I walk a whole lot more, make the decisions to take breaks, go for walks/hikes — at home, I was never able to establish a healthy routine. On the weekends, I can do it — weekdays and working, I failed.3 -
Alexandra - I really love that idea. 20 minutes may be too often for me as some of my tasks can take longer then that and I hate stopping in the middle of one, but I think the concept is good. Even if all I do is stand up and stretch a little bit I think it would help a lot.NerdyScienceGrl wrote: »When COVID lockdown happened, I learned the same thing about myself. At work I walk a whole lot more, make the decisions to take breaks, go for walks/hikes — at home, I was never able to establish a healthy routine. On the weekends, I can do it — weekdays and working, I failed.
I almost feel like if I take the extra time that the ability to work from home will get taken away. Which is not logical at all. My team isn't the type to make a huge deal about that sort of thing unless you are really really abusing it. My work gets done. Heck, I was just promoted a month or so ago so obviously I am doing something right. I just need to learn that I don't have to fix every problem or respond to every email right then. I'm allowed to step away for a few to refocus and stretch.
And I feel you about healthy routine.
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@conniewilkins56 , I hope you're over your funk and having a better day today!3
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Bella_Figura wrote: »@conniewilkins56 , I hope you're over your funk and having a better day today!
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Alexandra - I really love that idea. 20 minutes may be too often for me as some of my tasks can take longer then that and I hate stopping in the middle of one, but I think the concept is good. Even if all I do is stand up and stretch a little bit I think it would help a lot.NerdyScienceGrl wrote: »When COVID lockdown happened, I learned the same thing about myself. At work I walk a whole lot more, make the decisions to take breaks, go for walks/hikes — at home, I was never able to establish a healthy routine. On the weekends, I can do it — weekdays and working, I failed.
I almost feel like if I take the extra time that the ability to work from home will get taken away. Which is not logical at all. My team isn't the type to make a huge deal about that sort of thing unless you are really really abusing it. My work gets done. Heck, I was just promoted a month or so ago so obviously I am doing something right. I just need to learn that I don't have to fix every problem or respond to every email right then. I'm allowed to step away for a few to refocus and stretch.
And I feel you about healthy routine.
Congrats on the promotion! Nothing wrong with taking a break to take care of yourself. You might try the timer suggestion and make some notes about your productivity and how you feel at the end of the work day, I know when I take a walk late morning/early I go back to my desk with some mental clarity, less stressed and feel more productive. You may find it’s a benefit overall. When I first started walking, I did it for my physical health. Begrudgingly I continued. Now I feel like it’s a necessary part of my workday.3 -
Husband had back surgery today….very long day but he is home and resting….hopefully he will get some much needed relief from pain…5
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I wish your husband a smooth recovery. My Mom just had back surgery and things are progressing for her. She is going through ghost pain right now. It can take awhile for the brain to catch up with the body. I remember the long road after surgery but the quality of life after dramatically improved.
Please don’t neglect yourself in taking care of him through recovery. It’s so easy to get caught up in helping a loved one, it’s easy to forget we all need self care too.3 -
Connie, I will keep your husband's recovery in my thoughts. Hopefully it will go as smooth as it can. I agree though, make sure you take care of yourself as well.
Guys... I am tired. Tired of being in pain. Tired of being exhausted. Tired of feeling like poo. I need to make a change but I am so scared that I will just fail again. I went to Jungle Jim's in Cincinnati Sunday with a friend. For those who do not know it is like a Costco sized international grocery. We were walking around there for about 2 hours, maybe a bit more. I had to call in Monday because I hurt too much to get out of bed. Back, hips, knees, ankles... it all hurt. And the rest of me ached.
I don't know what to do or where to start. But I need to do something.
Sorry... I am in a dark place atm and feeling very alone.3 -
Do consider getting medical help. Not sure of your insurance situation but an evaluation can identify what is going on. And more importantly what you can do to feel better.3
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Alexandra - the timer to remind you to get up and stretch idea is brilliant. I've been aiming for that, and struggling since quitting smoking. At least the addiction pulled me away from the screen and made me move. When I got past that, I realized I would sit, completely focussed, and lose track of time until a few hours had passed and then I was almost frozen.
Now that I have a computer back on my desktop, I'm going to look into setting my phone up to shake me up every half hour or so.
Athijade - Medical help might be a place to start? But, sometimes they are no help too and it will be up to you to figure out how to feel good. So hard when you feel bad though. But you will do it. Because you have to.
Connie - tough time for you. How are you holding up? How is your husband?3
