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Good first moves, Athijade. I can see how it would be scary - but I hope, a Yooly suggests, this will shift some of the things you have struggled with from the "unknown" into the "known" territory.
Poor Mutski, PAV. Lucky vet! She gets to fly to Greece. I would absolutely go with the antibiotics....the other stuff ??? Gotta hand it to your girl though - she is no wallflower (river weed?).
Connie - I'm guessing your update to 20/20 vision is because the lens implants they used are "prescription"?2 -
I am having many second thoughts. I almost called to cancel. I mean... it has been 48 hours... shouldn't any sign of infection have already shown up? Why should she go through sedation if there is no need?
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EEEEKKKK ....I didn't realize it involved sedation. That would scare me a lot.1
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Especially if there is no sign of infection.1
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When my girl was attacked - she had a bunch of puncture wounds. The vet - who I trust enormously - gave her a prescription for prophylactic antibiotics right away. After that it was a case of keeping a close eye on her wounds. He is a country vet - accustomed to animals living in a rougher way.
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I know. That's why I am having so many second thoughts.... she wants to stitch. OK. But... does she a) need to? and b) again... not even light sedation. We are talking just short of IV.2
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Tough call. You really want to trust your vet / doctor ... but some of them ... I just don't know. My hamsters would have a field day with that kind of stress. Hope you are doing okay on that front.
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Personally I'd only put my dog under heavy sedation as a last resort. Too many dogs don't do well under full anaesthetic. I'd put my faith in the antibiotics and let nature take its course.3
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So I'm a bit worried that I'm on a slippery slope.
It's been easy losing the 33 kg because we never went anywhere. But at the weekend we sat down and talked about risk of infection vs our lives being permanently on hold...and decided it was time to start being a bit braver and pushing the risk window a little. Husband has had 4 shots....is very careful with masks and hand hygiene and social distancing...
Pre-pandemic our outings always used to involve food in some way. Seemed we could never go anywhere or do anything without it involving a foodie treat...
Fast forward to this week:- Tuesday we ventured to the garden centre for compost and a few veggie plants....got sidetracked in the cafe (outdoor seating) and each had a fruit scone the size of a baby's head (with butter AND jam AND clotted cream), Admittedly it was only 5g butter, 10g jam and 15g cream, but even so.....exceeded maintenance calories by about 700 calories.
- Yesterday baker pal popped round with sourdough and cinnamon buns...ate a bun (490 calories) and about 250g of the sourdough...came in about 150 under maintenance calories
- Today felt really brave and ventured as far as the city....did lots of window shopping and tried on lots of clothes for the first time in 2 years. Rewarded ourselves FIRST with a huge Eccles cake in honour of my dad (he died 5 years ago today and Eccles cakes were his all time favourite cake)....and then thought what the hell and went for a pizza....and didn't just settle for a small pizza, but had a 12" one AND a bottle of Moretti. I didn't eat all of the crust...but most of it...so definitely exceeded maintenance calories today...(haven't yet dared to estimate...but will do so shortly)
In my defence, I've walked 24,000 steps today AND cycled 25km AND dug vegetable beds in the garden for 2 hours....
And all the clothes I tried on today, I was able to fit comfortably into either size S or XS....so all is not lost....
But it feels scary having been 'naughty' for three consecutive days. It's disquieting....and makes me nervous...
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^^^ got to say I tend to agree, my beautiful lab didn’t do well after such an episode, though may not have done well either way …Tough one to call Pav.,..2
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The flank has the shallower wounds but she is currently lying on her bit shoulder... so that will have to wait for later!
Update: shoulder picture taken! I swear in real life the shoulder looks deeper than the flank. She is reclined on the flank one and standing for the shoulder one. In the picture it looks WAY less dramatic than in real life!
Pics will be up for a month or so:
https://icedrive.net/s/aFCD3BwPRg5BzPW1DTy8QYCBzCkP
https://icedrive.net/s/bkuF1tRZGj6xvRhukC8iwgSRh7Cy
There are actually FIVE puncture wounds in total as it turns out.
I talked with the owner vet and even though the wound care specific recommendation would be to proceed with deep cleaning and suturing, on balance given the totality of her conditions (IBS, sedations in the past 12 months, potential future issues), on balance we decided to go with a "conservative" approach which involved shaving, cleaning, and systemic antibiotic and to see how this develops4 -
I think this is a very good call, PAV. Poor girl really got into it! 2
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Bella - there is danger everywhere when you come out of the controlled pandemic world. And, what created problems for me is how a day or two of stretching the limits triggered terrible cravings. It was like my body suddenly realized it had been deprived of calories and that it might want to make up for those dark times!
Again though - I have faith in you. Your self awareness and careful methodical approaches will see you (and all of us following you) through this well.2 -
I wasn't the one who decided to tune-out the yelling from the observation platform above me and emitted a high pitched hunting trill before launching myself with a four pawed leap straight into the river to attack a swimming otter when I am barely able to dog paddle!!!!3
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Today wasn't great because I'm in a lot of pain from that time of the month, but I did get the shopping done, and I think I might have enough brain tonight to do a precooking list.
Whether or not I'll get anything knocked off the list tonight is....doubtful. I really feel awful. This is highly inconvenient. But it may be better tomorrow. I've had two bad days and that usually does it. Plus tomorrow I don't have to drive to and from downtown because he will drive himself, so I can stay home and just work and deal with this.
He's applied to work at home two days a week, which I highly approve of. That way he can have his therapy on its usual day and be home and not have to be adult in public the way you have to be at work. And on my usual day I can go to the grocery store and not have to drive back and forth, which I deeply appreciate.5 -
Good Grief!….I am silent for a week and all of you are having crisis!….I think we must be a very dysfunctional bunch!….but I do love all of you!….
Bella, I understand what you are dealing with and you have to stand up for yourself….my in laws lived with us and so did my mom while we were raising a teenage son and a toddler daughter….our parents were constantly wanting our attention and taking our time away from our kids….it was hard to tell our parents “No”….we had to control their meds, finally take their car keys away, grocery shop for them, balance their check books, etc….if I hadn’t stayed firm with some things, they would have had me in an asylum…tough love is hard to do….
PAV I am so sorry about your doggie….I hope she has a successful recovery….
Alex you are truly an amazing person…
Yooly ( sp ) you give some good advice…btw did you know PAV thinks we are “ elderly”?
Altajade you are dealing with so much I hope you find some relief and answers….
Laurie you amaze me more and more with all of your creative talents….
Did I forget anyone?….so happy we have some new members…I hope we don’t scare them away!4 -
Well Connie- what does PAV know? He’s just a kid. Punk whippersnapper!
We’ve got more life experience and wisdom than PAV could only hope to acquire.2 -
In case you are all wondering, this is what the precooking list looks like. I will do this over Friday through Sunday.
Cut up pork loin for fried pork bits
cut veggies for cashew chicken
make lamb meatballs
Grind lamb and make gyro loaf
make orange pork sauce and bag and freeze.
Make gyro quichecake
Make pizza quichecake
Make pizzas for people as needed. (I haven't been out to the garage fridge to see how many we need, but I'm pretty sure that I ate all my personal pizzas. Let alone anything Son or Girlfriend ate.)5 -
Ha, the elder @conniewilkins56 showed up, huh?
Bestow your wisdom in conjunction with @Yoolypr upon us whippersnappers!
@Janatki I am sooooo not sure.... some people say they are so deep. others say not so bad.
@AlexandraFindsHerself1971 you will continue to amaze!
@Bella_Figura you also have a Fitbit, right? How does your resting heart rate correlate to caloric overage / deficit? I'm not going to tell you NOT to be worried... especially if baked goods are switching from "seldom if ever" to "often". They are remarkably easy to consume, for myself. And it is not just "satiety" because they're an item that I will continue eating PAST satiety just because I like eating them!
So... there's a few strategies.
One=less often and in lesser quantity (a treat a day , two treats a day 
, no more than 1/3 of my calories worth of treats a day 
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Two is adjust the rest of the day without resentment and without over-doing it. I mean if you had this big pizza lunch then I would be looking at a lighter dinner. Bunny time! Courgettes as you guys call them can make a nice salad, right? Courgettes and cauli and broccoli with vinegar and a tiny bit of oil
OR whatever. But you can adjust a bit and end up the day even Steven. Or not too far off.
Three is of course the other adjustment. Your 25K steps etc. But you have to watch it so that it becomes neither TOO obsessive, nor your ONLY tool in the arsenal. I won't lie to you: long walks and audio-book listening has covered a lot of overindulgent lunches. But it can't be the "goto" tool all the time because if you do, you're going to fall into the "you can't outrun a bad diet" category.
So be... a LITTLE bit worried. On the other hand: that's what maintenance is all about. The SMALL shifts. So you had three days of too much. You may not even need to push down to a deficit at all to "correct" them. Just let them roll. If trendweight starts shifting calculate by how many calories and over what time frame and don't correct for any more than that and over a similar or longer time frame.... <-- PAV idea: "FLATTEN the curve". spikes are NOT your my maintenance friend...3 -
Yikes!…forgot to share my day which was considerably better than yesterday…spent most of the day with John at Urgent Care and then the hospital until midnight when he was released…he had a severe reaction to the 4 steroid injections he had last week in his lower back….the reactions mimicked a heart attack approaching and the EKG looked like he had already had one!…the Urgent Care doctor called the ambulance and the paramedics were the same ones at our house when we fell a few weeks ago…the cardiologist met John at the door in the ER…so he is home today resting and recuperating…we both have cardiologist appointments in a couple of weeks…I have some sort of bundle branch blockage, not sure what…in all of the turmoil, drama , and chaos I have managed to pack the pounds back on…to the point my knees hurt again, I can’t breathe and I am disgusted with myself…my bra and my pants are tight…this has got to stop as of now….
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You’re going through a lot of trauma Connie. Just do the best you can for now.
For me the biggest motivation would be to get comfortable in the bra again. Nothing worse than a tight bra strangling your rib cage! And getting a bigger one costs a small fortune.3 -
Hey boo: I've got all fingers and toes crossed that it is the ONLY thing you have and that it proves as "light" as Ms Google made it sound! But adding lbs? That one not very good! Come on you!
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I am embarrassed to say how much I have gained but I have learned you can share anything with this group and you are never judged…it isn’t fair how hard you work to lose weight and how easily you can gain it back….but that is the way it is!….my highest weight was 350 pounds plus a few more back in May 2019 and my lowest weight was last June at 240 pounds…this morning I weighed 293 pounds…it made me sick to see how close I am to 300 again…but I am going to take it off and get myself back on track!5
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Try to put away the embarrassment and self anger, Connie. It won't help you keep the hamsters at bay.
I don't really know what will to be honest, but I know that won't. I've been battling myself. I managed to gain 30 pounds back but seemed to have that at least stopped.
It feels like we are on a similar wavelength. What I'm trying now is to do what PAV keeps suggesting. To go very very easy. To aim somewhere between 1750 and 2000 calories - with the ultimate goal of staying under maintenance. This is hard. It doesn't feel like "dieting" nor is it "eating freely." But it is giving me back some control. I have managed to leave the grocery story without a treat a few times, and to not completely inhale the good stuff around me. And to save recoup the day when I lost control a few days ago.
Our bodies really do try to fight back after losing such a significant amount of weight. We just have to outsmart them.
To keep doing the same thing over and over just isn't going to suddenly starting working.
Throw all the stress you are going through on top of the messed up hormones and you're talking a perfect storm. So maybe. For now. Your goal might somewhere just south of "maintenance" - even though that is hard when you can't let go of where you were just a few months ago.
Maybe go buy yourself a new bra and undies....just a few pair....so that you don't feel terrible everytime you get dressed. Some pants too if you pulling on your pants makes you feel bad. Feeling terrible about your clothes leads to feeling terrible about yourself and that is not going to help you get into the mindset you need to take good care of you. It seems like it would, but it doesn't. And deep down we know that but just refuse to accept that we can't bully ourselves into submission.
I finally broke down and bought some clothes last week. It was the best thing in the world for my state of mind. I'm starting to feel a bit better about my body and myself in general. And every once and a while notice that I look much better than a few years ago - even if it isn't as thin as last fall.
Be gentle and kind to, Connie. She's the only Connie we got.4 -
Laurie!
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Yep Connie, listen to Laurie - she speaks for all of us when she says go gentle on yourself. You're under so much stress that it would be counter-productive to demand fast-paced weightloss at this point. Just get a few small wins under your belt and take it one baby step at a time. Sending healing vibes your way for you and John!
Alex I hope BF is approved for the two days of home working - many employers are much more open to that concept post-pandemic, so hopefully he'll get a positive outcome.
Pav, I don't have a fitbit. I wear a heartrate monitor when I'm on the turbo, but I never wear it at any other time. So I have no idea how my heartrate fluctuates with high and low days.
I'm not panicking unduly, but I'm feeling a little disquieted by the several days of unexpectedly high intake in a row. The choices feel transgressive and indulgent...I'm not sure if that puritanical mindset is a help or a hindrance.
Re your counterbalancing measures, I do a mixture of them all. I was genuinely full until way past our normal dinner time yesterday, so at about 9pm I just had a banana and a thin slice of toast. I estimated yesterday's calories at 2,400, so on the high side but nothing too earthshattering considering the amount of NEAT/exercise calories I burned.
For the next couple of days I'll try to come in at small deficit, though I won't sweat it if I don't manage it, provided that I keep within maintenance calories so that it all evens out over the next week.
Just to reassure you, yesterday's exercise wasn't obsessive or done for compensatory reasons. The 24,000 steps just naturally happened from adding city windowshopping to my usual dog walks (because muttski had to stay home so needed walkies before and afterwards). The 25km bike ride was my usual Thursday evening Zwift group ride - I'd agreed to act as a sweeper to help any back markers make it back to the main bunch, so I felt I couldn't bail at the last moment. And it was a nice easy pace. And the gardening just arose naturally, because my baker friend bought round lots of veggie seedlings that needed to be got in the ground quickly because it's so warm here.
So I wasn't flogging myself half to death to try to outrun my fork...
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@bella_figura (MFP is not cooperating right now, again)... anyway Garfield. Unlike you I am not at all worried that you're actually above maintenance with your indulgences.
To begin with I believe (without numbers; just on your description of activity) that you're actually at "maintenance pushing down" vs "maintenance pushing up". This is a pet theory. No real support. But pet theory is that there is a bit of a block to initiate change from equilibrium. The bit of a block is absorbed by NEAT changes first. And only once these NEAT changes are overwhelmed do we see energy reserve and weight changes. And while this resistance seems to be more absorbent dropping down than it is going up. It is STILL there even when going up.
So an occasional overage without counterbalance will be fine. Persistent overages... not without a penalty.3 -
Connie... take care of yourself dear. You and your family has been through so much of late!
Bella... I know how you feel. It seems like one "cheat" (I actually hate that word but it is early on a Friday and I have not woken up fully yet) leads to another... and to another... and to another. It is not something that I have figured out how to stop yet. Actually in one of those cycles right now. Being back in the office 3 days a week gives me more opportunities to just get what I want to eat because I have more options. But the biggest downfall for me? Ordering in. I just deleted the doordash app again from my phone. Now to just follow through and try and forget the option even exists.
PAV... I think the balanced, wait and see approach is the right one. Keep a close eye on the fur baby.
Alex... do I remember right that you said it was a state job your BF got? I could be crazy and be making that up of course. But if so, as long as his job is able to be done from home, he should be allowed to work from home up to 15 hours a week. That was stated by the governor and applies to all agencies. Of course it doesn't work for all employees, but many would be able to. I work for the state and do 2 days at home.
I am SO glad it is Friday. For some reason I was super tense last night and then I stayed up later then normal to finish the book I was reading. Oops.
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Yeah, he's got a state job. Works for the DLGF. He is going to do two days a week at home, and that really helps as we have only the one car.
Today I am precooking. I made a gyro quichecake, and battered and fried pork pieces for future Thursday night "Chinese takeout" dinners. It takes about an hour and a half of constant work, but at the end of it they are done, they are done five weeks ahead, and all I will have to do when I want them is warm them through in the microwave and tumble them onto a baking sheet to crisp up in a 200 degree oven while I get the sauce ready and steam the veggie and such. It makes things so much easier.
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Thanks for all of the great advice….now to heed it!….the problem is that I will be 71 in July and I would really like to lose this weight before I get too old to care!…
Today we have a handy fix it man at the house doing repairs…Willow hasn’t stopped barking for three hours….I am ready to give her away….2
