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It is not uncommon to have a lull over the holidays. Traffic should start to pick back up.1
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@bmeadows380 How's it going on the guy front? I have loved reading about it. Hope your holiday was magical!1
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@gewel321
*grins so big my face hurts*
its going very, very well! We still haven't been able to get together; Wisconsin to WV is a huge distance, but I have plane tickets for Valentine's Day weekend, and he's already making plans. He's looking for a job down this way but also just found out that his new assignment as a temp is a temp to permanent position with the company he was working in and that there is a strong possibility if it does turn into a permanent position, that he can work from home from anywhere.
So we virtually date, watch movies together, play games with his friends, and video chat. Since we aren't physically in the same location, we spend a lot of time talking and are very compatible. Neither of us are young kids and both have been in this with the intent of vetting out a marriage partner, and he's been hitting all my check boxes that I've had. He's not perfect, but who is? He is very much like my best friend in personality and values - really funny to me how alike they are. She calls him her long lost brother lol The good news is that I lived with her for 11 years and we got along very well, which gives me good hopes on how he and I would live together. Not that we will be doing that before marriage; neither of us want to do that.
So its been a whirlwind, thrilling ride, and I may just find myself doing something no one ever thought sensible, grounded, pragmatic Bridget would ever do lol I may find myself planning a summer wedding! There is a part of me screaming "way too soon!" but at the same time, we aren't children, either, nor young lovers just starting out. I'm going to be 41 in March; he's going to be 50 in April. We are set in our ways and won't be changing as much as people do in their 20's. We've experienced life and are more seasoned and grounded in what we want and what we expect from marriage. We are seriously talking about things like finances, how to combine households, what we expect with family obligations, splitting household chores, dietary styles, and expectations we would expect as a couple, and the more I pray about the issue, the more at peace I am about the idea.
So who knows? I just may do something wild and crazy this summer lol
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@bmeadows380 I am so happy for you!! This may be exactly what you need at the exact time you need it. If his job is a permanent and you aren't super happy in yours maybe the universe is tell you that WV is the place to look. I can't wait to hear all about how the Valentines trip goes! I can feel the butterflies from here lol.2
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bmeadows380 wrote: »
After the anxiety of 2020 - wouldn't that be wonderful!3 -
I'm here. Feeling a little bruised and shaken due to the happenings of 1/6, but otherwise okay. I gained while theoretically on maintenance over December, so clearly I will have to revisit what maintenance calories for me actually are next time I do that. I have two pounds yet to lose back to where I was when I paused the weight loss, which is not pleasing, but it is what it is.
I'd like to lose another 50 pounds in '21... well, actually, I'd like to lose another 80, but until we get things to where I'm comfortable going to the gym, I'm not going to set my sights too high. 50 pounds would get me close enough to my goal to perhaps start figuring out what surgeries to deal with the diastasis recti and such are needed. (I don't WANT to get a breast reduction, but if they don't go down when everything else does, I will.) There's also a torn ankle tendon I need to get fixed and probably some bunions at some point, and I'd rather do any orthopedic stuff when I'm not hauling so much weight.
Also, engagement will be happening in '21. So I'd like to look better in those pictures.2 -
Has anyone experienced terrible cravings after getting back on plan from a few days of overeating? I went well over maintenance calories for about 5 days around New Year's but since Monday I've been trying really hard to stick to my deficit. I just can't figure out why I've had the worst cravings all week - I desperately want to binge, just buy an entire cake or a large pizza and eat it all in one sitting. My usual triggers for binging are either unpleasant emotions (none of which are particularly strong lately) or TOM, which shouldn't start until Wednesday and I usually only feel the urge to binge in the day or two before starting. Could these cravings just be a sort of "hangover" from my days of overindulgence?2
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Has anyone experienced terrible cravings after getting back on plan from a few days of overeating? I went well over maintenance calories for about 5 days around New Year's but since Monday I've been trying really hard to stick to my deficit. I just can't figure out why I've had the worst cravings all week - I desperately want to binge, just buy an entire cake or a large pizza and eat it all in one sitting. My usual triggers for binging are either unpleasant emotions (none of which are particularly strong lately) or TOM, which shouldn't start until Wednesday and I usually only feel the urge to binge in the day or two before starting. Could these cravings just be a sort of "hangover" from my days of overindulgence?
I often find I have to ease back into a deficit otherwise I don't adjust well and want all the things, I think it's totally psychological rather than physiological. So I've been adjusting this week back down to my normal pre-festive week intake.2 -
Same here....I went overboard eating during the holidays and tried to get back on track...two days in I had a huge struggle and could not get filled up.....I ate a bunch but since then I am back at it for over a week now and only have to lose 4 pounds to get back to my pre holiday weight!1
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Don't forget there's a lot of stress on us right now what with what's in the news. I told my boyfriend on the 6th that I honestly felt like I had before when I'd had a relationship break up, complete with the physical ache in the chest and being near tears for the entire day. I'm not weeping any more, but I'm definitely more sore and spacey and scattered, and I know it's the emotional/somatic response to all of that.
I'm feeling better and more focused on my diet because in all this chaos I can control that, and because I had a scare about having to lie down to zip my jeans again. I do NOT want to gain weight back.3 -
Has anyone experienced terrible cravings after getting back on plan from a few days of overeating? I went well over maintenance calories for about 5 days around New Year's but since Monday I've been trying really hard to stick to my deficit. I just can't figure out why I've had the worst cravings all week - I desperately want to binge, just buy an entire cake or a large pizza and eat it all in one sitting. My usual triggers for binging are either unpleasant emotions (none of which are particularly strong lately) or TOM, which shouldn't start until Wednesday and I usually only feel the urge to binge in the day or two before starting. Could these cravings just be a sort of "hangover" from my days of overindulgence?
so glad you wrote this post. I've been having a heck of a time getting back on track - no particular cravings - but just wanting to eat a tremendous amount - close to hunger but I'm not buying it as real hunger. I haven't completely lost it too many times but it has been a struggle. It's nice knowing others are in the same situation!
I hope I find the same recovery sense that you have found Connie.
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Would really like to see more members posting...telling what you are doing to keep on track helps everyone....let’s keep this group going strong!1
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Would really like to see more members posting...telling what you are doing to keep on track helps everyone....let’s keep this group going strong!
I'm trying to bring myself to post more! Unfortunately, a lot of times my anxiety is too high so I struggle to comment. But I do read everything!
I'm still chugging along, counting my calories and doing my exercises. Lately I've been getting back on the exercise bike. I had been doing cardio workouts through youtube (a girl named Caroline Jordan, I love her videos), but, I found I'm having better luck getting my HR up into the cardio levels and actually staying at cardio when I'm riding the exercise bike.3 -
rieraclaelin wrote: »conniewilkins56 wrote: »Would really like to see more members posting...telling what you are doing to keep on track helps everyone....let’s keep this group going strong!
I'm trying to bring myself to post more! Unfortunately, a lot of times my anxiety is too high so I struggle to comment. But I do read everything!
I'm still chugging along, counting my calories and doing my exercises. Lately I've been getting back on the exercise bike. I had been doing cardio workouts through youtube (a girl named Caroline Jordan, I love her videos), but, I found I'm having better luck getting my HR up into the cardio levels and actually staying at cardio when I'm riding the exercise bike.
That is great doing more cardio....sorry you have such high anxiety....this group never passes judgement....we are all trying to go in the same direction!...we just take different roads to get there....keep up the good work!2 -
well, I've gotten elliptical sessions in yesterday and this morning, and 2 hours of shoveling snow on Monday. I plan to do a cardio video in a little bit. And because of the extra calories, I managed to stay under calorie limit Monday and Tuesday; we'll see if I can do the same today. So far so good!
The scale has been much more reasonable the last few days; back down to almost 230 and not pushing 240. Now to get it back under 230 and into the 220's!4 -
I feel a lot more hopeful and capable and strong today, and I'm making good food choices and working hard to log it all.
Indeed, I feel such a relief of tension now that I may need to go lie down after I finish my lunch. I think I've had my shoulders tight for the last four years.2 -
personally, my tension is going up today.
Meanwhile, I have put my application in for a different position internally; it sounds promising, and I hope it might lead to something better than what I'm dealing with now and help with the stress that my job has on my life!5 -
@bmeadows380 sending well wishes for your job application! Maybe being an internal applicant will send you to the front of the line!1
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I've been MIA for a few months. I didn't spiral or anything, just kind of apathetic since my vacation in August. I keep meaning to type out a "where have I been" update, just haven't gotten there yet. I've spent the last few weeks reading everything I missed trying to catch up! So glad to see most still here!
I'll get my update posted soon. 3 -
I've been MIA for a few months. I didn't spiral or anything, just kind of apathetic since my vacation in August. I keep meaning to type out a "where have I been" update, just haven't gotten there yet. I've spent the last few weeks reading everything I missed trying to catch up! So glad to see most still here! I'll get my update posted soon.
Welcome back to the best group of “ Losers”.... give us an update soon how you are doing!1
