Online Dating

mznisaelaine

Ever tried it?

Thought about it...but not sure.......What are the pros and cons....good or bad experiences...etc,

skierxjes

Worst experience for me: Finally decided to go on a date with this guy. We talked quite a bit beforehand, then on the date, he informed me that he still lives with his parents, smokes like a chimney, drinks a fifth a day, doesn't have a drivers license.. I know there were a few more things that he failed to mention beforehand.

mznisaelaine

Worst experience for me: Finally decided to go on a date with this guy. We talked quite a bit beforehand, then on the date, he informed me that he still lives with his parents, smokes like a chimney, drinks a fifth a day, doesn't have a drivers license.. I know there were a few more things that he failed to mention beforehand.

Wait so you still went on a date with him after he told you those things?

skierxjes

He didn't tell me those things til we were ON the date..

liveinthemix

Mine was that the relationship fell into relying on electronic communication more than actual interaction.. email and texts are not a reliable means of communication.. trust me.. don't ask me to explain.. but it's just not.

dixiech1ck

I have a profile on OKCupid, but even when I spell out my preferences (they are quite minimal... being within an hour of where I live, between 30 and 44, SINGLE, white, male, job, no drama) -- I always get matched up or hit on by guys that fall so far out of this realm. My preferences are my own, not anyone elses. I prefer to date caucasian men, that's my choice and I get harrassed because of this.. it's ridiculous. I just feel more comfortable in that situation. I don't go down to what color eyes, hair, height -- weight, I do ask that they be into healthy lifestyles like hiking, running, working out -- no spending hours upon hours online or tv playing games. And I definitely do not date smokers.

I had a guy recently tell me that he only came on the site to browse. So you spend all that time writing a profile, putting up a picture and don't want to date? So odd... my friend met someone via eHarmony. The price is rather high, so I don't know that I'd do that one. Anyone else have any stories, suggestions?

JThomas61

I don't get why people go to dating sites in the first place. How many people are actually 100% honest about who they are, what they are, or what they look like. I think MFP offers so many opportunites to find other people that you may actually be interested in and share common ground with. If you start out as platonic friends, it can lead to a spark on here.

chocolateandvodka

yes. it's great for hook ups. awesome for people who work all the time and lead active lives and are looking for others in similar situations and with things in common with you. and it's terrible for the shy, or those with low self esteem.

i have no issue with it. it isn't 2001 anymore. things have progressed quite a bit since then, and frankly, i'd rather know a bit about someone before "approaching them" than seeing someone at the bar, having a semi-conversation tainted by alcohol and lust, and finding out later that they're married with 7 children or some such catsatrophe.

BigDanTX

Finding a date online is just the same as it is in the real world. You can either go it alone or hire help to choose for you. As for me I met my ex-wife and my ex-gf online. A word of advice though: set up a new email account and get one of those free txt/vmail apps. That way if he/she turns out to be an A-hole you have a way to cut them off without them having your personal info.

MelissaE27

Well I have done the online thing and well my first date was a woman pretending to be a man (I didnt know) looked like a man sounded like a man.. had muscles. etc.. we met. still thought it was a man until she stretched and then I saw yep you guessed it boobs.. my mouth dropped and I guess I had a deer in the headlight look.. and she said I think I need to tell ya something.. umm hello you think?? Dont get me wrong I dont care about other peoples sexual preferences or judge anyone.. but be honest!

my 2nd the guy was married(didnt know) he was busted out in the restaurant by his wife!!!!
my 3rd and LAST we clicked so well met at a coffee shop he didnt want the date to end it was kinda late.. so he suggested a movie.. I said ok.. during the movie he asked if he could kiss me (such a gentleman.. so I thought)... he kissed me and then put my hand on his crotch he had his whoooo ha out!! I was done.. I walked out ! so disrespectful...

That has been my luck.. not saying it wont work for everyone... but badddddd for me..lol

catherine4211

I tried. Had zero luck. Managed to go on plenty of dates but nobody worth while. I will never try it again but I will also never knock anyone who does try.

catherine4211

But I did get a bottle of wine for my birthday from a Nigerian Scam Artist. True story!!!!!

scapez

Well I have done the online thing and well my first date was a woman pretending to be a man (I didnt know) looked like a man sounded like a man.. had muscles. etc.. we met. still thought it was a man until she stretched and then I saw yep you guessed it boobs.. my mouth dropped and I guess I had a deer in the headlight look.. and she said I think I need to tell ya something.. umm hello you think?? Dont get me wrong I dont care about other peoples sexual preferences or judge anyone.. but be honest!

my 2nd the guy was married(didnt know) he was busted out in the restaurant by his wife!!!!
my 3rd and LAST we clicked so well met at a coffee shop he didnt want the date to end it was kinda late.. so he suggested a movie.. I said ok.. during the movie he asked if he could kiss me (such a gentleman.. so I thought)... he kissed me and then put my hand on his crotch he had his whoooo ha out!! I was done.. I walked out ! so disrespectful...

I'm at a loss for words!!!! What experiences!!! :noway:

scapez

I don't get why people go to dating sites in the first place. How many people are actually 100% honest about who they are, what they are, or what they look like.

For example, who's to say that sexy back picture is actually Jttaylor99's back? I mean, it could be *anyone's* back! :laugh:

JThomas61

I don't get why people go to dating sites in the first place. How many people are actually 100% honest about who they are, what they are, or what they look like.

For example, who's to say that sexy back picture is actually Jttaylor99's back? I mean, it could be *anyone's* back! :laugh:

This is true, for all you know I could be Fred Flintstone in desquise..muhhaaaaaaa.
But to prove it I will take a side pic that shows the tattoo and my incredibly small biceps.

BigDanTX

my 3rd and LAST we clicked so well met at a coffee shop he didnt want the date to end it was kinda late.. so he suggested a movie.. I said ok.. during the movie he asked if he could kiss me (such a gentleman.. so I thought)... he kissed me and then put my hand on his crotch he had his whoooo ha out!! I was done.. I walked out ! so disrespectful...

I don't want to get all technical but the last time I check my anatomy and physiology book, women have whoo-has and men have thingies. So are you sure you did not date a fauxman...again

mznisaelaine

Such not so good experiences.....But then yesterday from my MFP friends, I got so many good stories about how they met ther SO online......Like JT said, MFP has good oppurtunites! I've witness that already.....I so wouldnt mind finding someone like-minded on here....Found a few but the reality of the situation is not equitable.

MelissaE27

lmao to funny... that made me giggle

my 3rd and LAST we clicked so well met at a coffee shop he didnt want the date to end it was kinda late.. so he suggested a movie.. I said ok.. during the movie he asked if he could kiss me (such a gentleman.. so I thought)... he kissed me and then put my hand on his crotch he had his whoooo ha out!! I was done.. I walked out ! so disrespectful...

I don't want to get all technical but the last time I check my anatomy and physiology book, women have whoo-has and men have thingies. So are you sure you did not date a fauxman...again

Carl01

No luck at all with any of them.

VeryKerri

I too have tried the online dating sites but didnt have much success. My last straw was when my ex-husband joined the same dating site as me and we were matched.... no thanks!

kimi131

I do online dating. I don't think it's the best way to meet people, but I just don't know how else to do it :indifferent: .

Best experience: Met someone who I had unbelievable chemistry with. I was crazy about him and he was crazy about me. Pure magic. We dated for 3 months, but broke up because he moved out of state.

Worst experience: closed out a guy because I wasn't attracted to him. He didn't realize that I had removed him. He took my picture off the site and posted it on Craigslist that he was trying to find me because I was "the perfect girl for him." I never would have found that post had a friend not stumbled across it. This was a few years ago, so I didn't even know what Craigslist was. I reported it and it was removed. A couple of days later, he posted another one. I reported it again, it was removed and he was blocked from the dating site and his posts were blocked from Craigslist. Still, pretty creepy.

mznisaelaine

I do online dating. I don't think it's the best way to meet people, but I just don't know how else to do it :indifferent: .

Best experience: Met someone who I had unbelievable chemistry with. I was crazy about him and he was crazy about me. Pure magic. We dated for 3 months, but broke up because he moved out of state.

Worst experience: closed out a guy because I wasn't attracted to him. He didn't realize that I had removed him. He took my picture off the site and posted it on Craigslist that he was trying to find me because I was "the perfect girl for him." I never would have found that post had a friend not stumbled across it. This was a few years ago, so I didn't even know what Craigslist was. I reported it and it was removed. A couple of days later, he posted another one. I reported it again, it was removed and he was blocked from the dating site and his posts were blocked from Craigslist. Still, pretty creepy.

Wow! That is super creepy! I'm glad it gotten taken care of!

zozilla09

Tried it...not bad but not 'good' either. Sometimes I'm tempted to try again but then I talk myself out of it. I have a friend who has met a few guys....they've all turned out to be turds. But then again there have to be a few decent people left out there somewhere. Folks on here seem to be pretty cool!

kendrafallon

Tried it, not had the best of experiences with it. I kept meeting guys only interested in one thing and thought that because of my size and weight should be grateful for their attention!!

Several friends have had sucesses with online dating, with at least 2 couples getting married in recent years. After my lack of success with it...I'm don't think I'll be going back to it anytime soon

PedmomJill

It can work. You just have to be careful and patient. I don't want to spell out my experiences with it because that's private, but it can definitely work. Great suggestion from the poster that said set up a free email like gmail or yahoo. I have my full name on my "regular" Outook mail so I don't use it.

Good luck. OK Cupid is free-why not give it a try?

jj1lawyer

You have to weed through a LOT of creeps online, but you can find some gems. I had a few bad dates (like everyone does), but I also had several dates with guys that were nice and we just ended up having a good time, talking, laughing. Eventually, I ended up in a two years relationship with a great guy. It didn't work out "forever", but it was a wonderful experience. Also, my best friend and my nephew both met their spouses online.

With online dating you get out of it what you put into it. It takes some work to dig through and if you set up a profile then just wait for someone to contact you...you are going to get the creeps who email everyone. You have to sift through and be willing to initiate conversation for someone who meets your criteria. Good Luck!

MiaOrange

MelissaE27

I feel bad, but you're comment made me laugh. That is scary. I cancelled my plentyoffish within a couple weeks of opening it last spring and was kind of creeped out and didn't go out with one guy. Your comment makes me feel better about cancelling.

MissingMinnesota

I started using eharmony and there was a guy I thought was great so went out on a date. There was nothing wrong just no chemistery. I haven't had some of the horror stories that are coming out here but you could get those kind of stories from meeting a guy in a bar and going on a first date with them.

I do know some people that have meet their husbands/wifes on match and eharmony. I tend to stick with the pay sites as it takes more commitment to be on them them putting up a random one on like POF.

kimletton11

I have tried online dating and the experiences were not too good. I met this one guy that lived about an hour and a half away from me. We started talking and he happened to be coming to my city for work that next week. We met at a restaurant and had a great time. He was everything I was looking for and was attractive too! He told me he was going through a divorce and that was believable because he was 5 years older than me and everything seemed to be lining up. We talked for over a month, and he was supposed to come down and visit again. I really liked him and thought we might would work out. Well, he texted me a few hours before he was supposed to be in town and told me that he thought I was really sweet and a great girl but he was actually still married! WTF!?!?! Who does that and why do they do it? I cussed him out and haven't communicated with him since. Needless to say, I haven't met anyone else off line since then.

foremant86

I met a couple of my exes online. The first one was a perfectly sweet guy, just wasn't mature enough or really ready for commitment.

The second kept his profile on the dating site even after we become exclusive and I found him talking to several different women on there about what he would like to do with them in the bedroom....


Met a really great guy on there shortly after breaking up with the last ex but his job requires him to travel and he's currently in Mississippi...we continue to talk almost everyday and i'm actually trying to get a job down there but i just don't think it's going to happen.

Online dating isn't all bad, it's really no different than going to a bar and trying to meet a person. You have to weed through the losers to find the good ones...it just takes time.

JThomas61

This is my online dating add:

I am 3'6, 400 pounds, no teef, prematurely balding. I am a conservationist so I shower once a week, I have no job, no car, no place to live, so I hang out in my parents basement. I prefer 70s disco fashion to modern trends, oh and chicks dig me!


LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!