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Checking in.
Hubby and I finished all rounds of testing with a reproductive endocrinologist (no trouble TTC, but recurrent miscarriages). They found nada. Nothing. Zero. Zilch. Totally counter intuitive, but we were kinda hoping they would find *something* so that we could correct the problem.
We meet with the doctor again today to see what our next steps should be. Based on my insurance and the fact that nothing is technically wrong, I'm predicting an action plan of IUI and progesterone. But... I'll keep ya posted!
In the world of weight loss, I'm down 12 pounds
I'm only 5'2" and currently weighing in at 127, but hoping to get back to 115, which is where I was before all the miscarriages and stress eating. My doc sent me to a dietician and I've been pretty strict with a "fertility diet". Now I've just got to make more time for working out! Getting back in shape hasn't been easy. It was much easier putting the weight on! But I am fully dedicated to making sure I do whatever I can to have a healthy pregnancy the next time around! 0 -
Well, it looks like our first month of trying we aren't actually trying
Hubby has a fever blister on his mouth and wont BD until it is gone, because he wants romance and kissing and not just to be used for his sperm...which I get, but at the same time its like...just do me already, I'm only fertile for a little while!!! >.< Trying to focus on the fact that I have more time to lose a few more pounds until next month. #silverlining? Byebye FW....
@Steph, congrats on the 12# loss, that is fantastic. Im down about 14 since the new year, but had really packed it back on over the fall and holiday seasons. Im still about 10 # heavier than I was at this time last year- I have got to stop this dang yoyoing!1 -
@StephAStephan so sorry you weren't able to find a cause for the recurrent miscarriages. It must be really frustrating to not find a root cause for all the heartache. That would make me crazy. Congrats on the weight loss! Fellow 5'2" over here. I haven't weighed 115 since high school but you're making me rethink my goal, haha. I'm at 131 now and was targeting 125 or 120.
@Kirstie155 I can understand your frustration but I do think having a little romance in your first month of trying isn't a bad thing! You just have a new first month of trying. I'm sure I'll feel the same way once we start trying though. Just try not to let it get you down!1 -
I got engaged! After everything that has happened, it's nice to have something good happen. We haven't decided on a date yet or figured out when. We are not exactly on the same page with that lol. He wants a destination some time next year, while I'm leaning towards traditional by the end of the year. I might be willing to do destination as long as it happens this year, but he thinks that's not enough notice for guests.
And we haven't figured out exactly how baby making fits into the picture right now. We've agreed to wait to see what the results are from the specialist are in a few weeks to see what they find.
But super excited about the engagement and it's a welcome distraction from waiting around for test results.1 -
@motivatedsister Congratulations on your engagement!!0
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@motivatedsister congratulations!! Happy planning! How exciting Destination wedding would be fun depending on your guests' willingness to travel! 0
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@motivatedsister I'm so happy for your guys!! Congrats on the engagement. I want more details when you know them 0
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Hi ladies! I'm back for the moment.
@WifiresGettingFit Congratulations!!! That's an adorable story and a stunning ring! Just remember to try to enjoy wedding planning
@motivatedsister I'm so sorry for your loss! I can't imagine how difficult that is. But congratulations on the engagement!! I'm sure whatever type of wedding you and your fiance decide on will be wonderful.
@StephAStephan - That must be really frustrating to not have any answers from the reproductive endocrinologist. I hope things go well in the future.
@Kirstie155 - Sorry your first month of TTC is a bust due to your sick hubby
Work has become crazy busy for me the last few weeks. On top of that I still feel awful. I basically bust my butt all day at work and turn into a useless blob at home. Really not fun.0 -
@puffbrat it's totally fine to be a blob at home if that's what you need to destress! I love to hear from you How is your pregnancy going? How far along are you now again? Is there anyone at work you can talk to about reducing your work load a little bit... have you told work you are pregnant yet? I have so many questions haha. 0
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@VeryKatie thanks for support. I realize I have been gone for a while so I'm sure there are lots of questions for me to answer
I just provided a general (but still really long) update in the pregnancy discussion.
I 18 weeks +2 today. I think my bump really popped at week 16 but several people have asked me about being pregnant just yesterday and today. Probably related my clothes making it more obvious.
I can talk with my manager and team lead at work about my work load. I also need to get better at delegating work to my backup and the 2 new team members. Everyone at work does know I'm pregnant. I've been trying for over a month to get an appointment with a benefits person to tell me my options for maternity leave.0 -
@puffbrat Thank you Jessica!
I haven't gotten too much into the wedding planning yet but I already feel stressed since I really kinda...just don't know what I want. haha I'm sorry to hear you're still feeling awful and that work is still crazy! I hope things slow down soon and that you start feeling better. 0 -
How is everyone's weekend going?
Mine has been rather...long. haha I've been dealing with a headache for most of it and I've been more tired and irritable because I started my period on Friday. Yesterday was running errands and visiting some family. Today it's just relaxing and laundry. The headache thankfully is finally subsiding and my appetite seems to be going back down to a normal level instead of me wanting to eat the fridge and the pantry and pretty much everything in sight. haha0 -
@WifiresGettingFit I'm with you in the irritability. Feel like I'm inventing conflict between hubby and me and sensing tension that isn't actually there. So frustrating. Glad your appetite has decreased hehe.
My weekend is okay. Yesterday I spent 45 minutes in a fitting room at Victoria's Secret and found a good fit in a random color, grabbed another in a good color in the same size, and bought it, later finding out that it's too small. But I can't go back to that store, ugh. Too much time in that little room. Today I realllllly wanted to go mountain biking and it's SO windy. Gonna try a run instead and then plant some starts for our new garden bed. Also wanna clean up the house a little bit. Ugh wind. At least we sprang forward last night and evening outdoor activities are more likely to happen!0 -
@pezhed That is frustrating. I've been called out for doing that myself. I'm glad too but now to try and salvage March a bit so I'm not even further behind. haha
Well that sucks that the other one didn't fit and that it's so windy out. I hate when plans get messed up. I had completely forgotten about the time change until my Mom mentioned it in a text but I'm excited for it nearing the end of this cold weather and getting to spend more time outside! I see lots of trips to a nearby park in my future! I hope you enjoy your run and gardening! Both sound relaxing! 0 -
I hope you're feeling better today @WifiresGettingFit!
This weekend wasn't exactly exciting but it was the most productive I've had since getting pregnant. I'm proud and excited just to have had the energy to accomplish some things. Saturday I spent about 3 hours running errands, went hiking with hubby and the dog, then hubby and I went out to dinner. It was great but exhausting. I fell asleep on the couch around 7
Sunday I spent the first half of the day sleeping, but still did 3 loads of laundry, vacuumed the house, and cleaned the bathroom. 0 -
@puffbrat Today is definitely better, thank you!
So glad to hear you're getting some of your energy back! Sounds like you had a very productive weekend! 0 -
Puffbrat that is awesome that you have your energy back, yay! I also had a productive weekend. Did all the laundry plus multiple loads of homemade blankets and things that my MIL made back in her hayday. Shes an indoor smoker though, so they all reeked of smoke, so right in the washer they went! Its so cool to have things she handmade though. Crocheted king and queen sized blankets for the bed, throws, wall decorations, pillows, curtains, place-mats! She sure kept busy I also got new curtains, hung them, ordered a new rug, vacuumed, hung some art that Ive been wanting to hang. Felt good to cross a few things off my list Also got a new low and mini goal this morning 190.0! My goals are set at 5# increments from here on out, and then at 178 because that is a "normal bmi" for my height. Focusing on that goal until I get pregnant! 0
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@Kirstie155 That sounds like a really productive weekend! It's so nice to get those things checked off the list. I bet those blankets your mother made are beautiful. Congrats on hitting 190!0
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I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm going to be on a trip from March 25 to April 1. So I might have the April sheet up for April 1 but it might be more like April 2. Do not fret, just remember your numbers lol. 0
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@VeryKatie Thanks for the heads up! Hope you have a safe trip! 0
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Totally fine @VeryKatie! Enjoy the holiday ☺️0
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Just got a job promotion!! It was one that I didn't really expect, so a nice surprise. Now my manager, team lead (I will be taking this position) and I are trying to determine how best to work the transition with my upcoming maternity leave.
Very long side not: Finally got to talk with someone in HR last week about maternity leave. We do get 12 weeks FMLA leave. Unbeknownst to me, however, is that the first 6-8 weeks is at full pay. They just pay me out of my sick leave balance (the company provides all full time employees approximately 6 months worth of sick leave each year). I then have the option of using vacation/PTO or doing unpaid leave for the remainder. Since my husband and I budgeted for 12 weeks unpaid leave and I don't have a ton of vacation saved, my plan is take 1 week of vacation before the baby pops out, and then do the 12 weeks FMLA with the first part paid and the remainder unpaid. I had hoped to return at part-time status for the remainder of the year, and then go back to full-time in 2018. Unfortunately my manager said that taking this promotion would mean less flexibility with that and I would need to back at full-time within 1 month of returning. Someone else just told me though that our organization is seriously backing off on allowing part-time work in general, with several people in her department recently having their requests denied or their current status revoked and forced to full-time, so I may not have gotten nearly as much flexibility as I had hoped and expected anyway.
The concern with my promotion is that I will fill the role for no more than 4 months and then be on maternity leave for 3 months with someone temporarily filling in. The current team lead is worried about continuity for the team (as am I) but my manager has reasons for wanting to start the transition immediately. Either way, this will be interesting....0 -
Congratulations @puffbrat - fantastic news about your promotion and about the paid leave!0
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@puffbrat Congratulations Jessica!!! 0
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@puffbrat ...(the company provides all full time employees approximately 6 months worth of sick leave each year) WHUT?! You get 6 months of paid sick leave?
Also congrats on the promotion! It sounds like you might be unsure about it though with the less flexibility it might provide. That is also great that you get half of FMLA paid! That must be a relief!
As for my check in, Ive kinda gone off the deep end and refound my love of candy and sweets. Clocked in at 193 this morning (up from 190 2 weeks ago) and am now ready to return from my crazy sugar binge and eat like a grown up again! I think I was just being too strict for too long, and that makes me binge and is not good for my waistline or my mental health.
Also, first month ttc and my period is late but pregnancy tests are negative. OMG this is so hard! Who knew I'd become an obsessive crazy person over this? I just wish my period would come and crush that little bit of hope that is hanging out thinking "but maybe I am pregnant." Cause I can only get so many negative tests (6 days in a row!) Im just ready to start a new cycle. Also, symptom spotting is the most real and horrible thing ever. Why is everything a symptom of pregnancy?! Diarrhea? Constipation? Bloating? Cramps? Nausea? Headache? Ticklish? Ughhh. I didnt really think we would get it the first month trying (coff, like puffbrat!) but I did have some hope, man!0 -
@Kirstie155 Hopefully you can find the happy medium you need to go forward so you don't feel like you're over restricting but not so much that you end up down the deep end again. It's a hard balance. I hope your cycle comes soon or you finally get the positive! Baby dust sent your way!
As for my check in, well I'm currently on my second period for March. haha which kinda explains why I had the other bout of increased appetite and wanted to eat everything (and I did).
I did manage to get in almost 13,000 steps yesterday which is a new record for me and I ended the day in a nice deficit.0 -
@puffbrat congrats on the promotion! I hope it ends up ultimately being a good thing for you and your family! And your career!
@Kirstie155 It's definitely hard to not be too restrictive and not too out of control. I like tracking because I feel like if I have to log it in my diary, even my out of control days aren't THAT bad because I think to myself, "I cannot possibly log one more beer tonight" (alcohol is definitely my calorie issue...except when ice cream is my calorie issue). And then on the TTC front I'm sure I'll be in the same boat when we start trying. Hang in there!
@WifiresGettingFit 2 periods in a month sounds TERRIBLE! Good job on the step record though!
DH and I got in a big fight this morning right before I left for work which is absolutely the worst timing. I'm trying to calm down and get to work and also come up with a solution. I think typing it out will help me realize where I'm wrong.
Context:
- I've cooked dinner for us the past two nights and have been too tired for lunch prep
- I woke up at 5:20 Monday and today to go swimming (first week officially training for triathlon)
- DH has Wednesdays off and stays up late on Tuesdays
This morning I went swimming and got home around 6:20 to shower and get ready for the day. Since DH has Wednesdays off, I don't have to walk the dog, so I had time to do the meal prep I'd been putting off all week. However my noise in the kitchen disturbed him, and I also ended up not having time to clean up my mess before I had to leave for work. He got out of bed about 10 minutes before I had to leave. He was really annoyed at the noise and the mess even though I was apologetic about it and said I'd clean it up tonight. Then he said he wants me to train in the evenings because he had been awake basically since I got out of the shower. This simply WON'T work for me. I am never consistent with evening training and use it as a backup in case I can't get it done before work or at lunch.
So I'm thinking I can:
- Ask him to help with dinner more so I'm not so exhausted from planning and cooking dinner after work that I can't do lunch prep
- Hard-boil eggs at night and have them ready for breakfast instead of frying eggs in the morning which also makes noise in the kitchen
- Pack my work bag at night
- Have clothes downstairs for getting ready hopefully out of earshot. Our house is just not very soundproof
Week 1 of any change is full of troubleshooting, I realize. I'm sure we can work this out, but today I am frustrated and sad.
Meanwhile my weight loss has worse than stalled. Definitely not meeting my March goal and I just hope I don't show an overall gain, though I might. Ugh.0 -
@pezhed How much noise were you making?! Lol. Banging pots and things? Joking aside, Im sure you'll get this figured out. Prepping is so important for success for me. I cook a bunch of meat on Sundays.10 chicken thighs and about 5-6 chicken breasts on the grill this past Sunday. We have them for dinner on Sunday, pack for lunches during the week, and we put them in containers that night to just grab and go as needed. DH and I dont eat meals together M-F because he works later than I do and is often not home until 7:30-8pm and we dont want to eat that late. He eats at work and I eat when I get home around 6-6:30pm by myself. I'll admit that while its lonely, it also really takes the pressure off. Just want a sandwich? Cool, just make it. Hardly any clean up, and no one to complain about "meatloaf again?!" However, having that chicken precooked makes a world of difference. This morning I chopped a breast and tossed it in a container with salad stuff. Chicken salad!
The hardboiled eggs prepped is a great idea. Why not make a dozen at a time on your prep day and just peel and eat?
I do feel you on the not waking him up though, DH stays in bed until after I leave for work. I sneak around my dark bedroom getting dressed.
Also, I will not make my goal for March. Dont give up, each day is a new opportunity to make great choices! Plus you are training for a triathlon, you're amazing!
@WifiresGettingFit my cycles are usually 24 days long, which means I have 2 cycles in a month often. Like this month was the beginning of March, and was also expected yesterday. Meh, just means I get to start trying again that much sooner. Fertility friend says my fertile week is next week!0 -
@Kirstie155 Haha, I think it was cracking eggs and chopping garlic. Oh and pouring pasta! Our house is not very soundproof since it's a split level, and we leave the bedroom door cracked for the dog and cat. Oops! Yeah I'll definitely hardboil a dozen when I do it, especially because I detest hard boiled yolks so will have to eat an extra egg white or two. I'm not gonna lie; there are times I wish I only had to feed myself, and this morning I was very much wishing I lived alone again. I'm sure DH was too! That's great about your chicken prep! My pasta sauce I made this morning is supposed to kinda be like that...today with pasta, tomorrow with chickpeas, Wednesday with quinoa patties. I just have to not make it (or the things that go with it) at 6am perhaps Thanks for the encouragement on the triathlon. I'm feeling selfish for even wanting to do it.
I also just found out a guy I really don't like working with is joining our group at work. I have a feeling he's going to take some of my projects which I'm already feeling steamrolled about. Holy cranky day. This withOUT any PMS!0 -
I'm pretty sure my second period is the result of coming off birth control.
@pezhed Why are you feeling selfish? Honestly I feel like your husband is the one being selfish expecting you to cater to his schedule. You have different schedules, you have stuff you need to do in the morning so I don't see why he's all bent out of shape about it. Sure being woken up sucks but it isn't like you were doing it on purpose. I hope you can work it out and find a good compromise but do not feel selfish for wanting to do something for you. EDIT: That also sucks about work, I hope things work out there as well and that your week gets better!
@Kirstie155 I honestly can't remember how long my cycles used to be before birth control. haha I just know I had a period every month but getting to try again sooner is definitely a positive with having shorter cycles! Fingers crossed for you!0
