Seajolly wrote: »
....the friend I was with put pressure on me to eat carbs. I know I could have just said "I'm making this choice and I'm sticking with it, sorry", but she kind of laid the guilt on me. She wanted to split appetizers and get desserts and was hoping I'd split them with her so she wouldn't have to pay the whole amount and so I'd share with her. Augh... She won.
AlexandraCarlyle wrote: »
I applaud you for your continued effort.
However, in your shoes, I'd hang out far less with the guilt-trip friend who holds you hostage emotionally and pressures you to do what she wants, so she can benefit, but you can suffer.
I'm actually sorry - and a little angry on your behalf - that someone who calls themselves 'your friend' can feel entitled to corner you into that position.
The discussion from her PoV, would be "I wanted a whole bunch of stuff to eat, but *Seajolly* was going on about this low-carb crap, so I put the pressure on her because no way was I gonna pay for that stuff all on my own, and eat it, so I kinda made her feel guilty about it, to do what I wanted - and she caved! Hah! Got my way, and the food was lush - and she paid half of it! Woo-hoo! So yeah - I had a GREAT time!"
Okay okay, I don't know your friend, and maybe I'm being harsh. But seems to me she cared more about herself and what she wanted, than paying attention to what sacrifices YOU were having to make!
Ok. I'm done.
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