Doom, Despair, and Agony on Me! (aka a whine thread)
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_inHisGrace wrote: »Thanks everyone. That was the first time I ever told anyone since I was 14. After I typed it to y’all I told my husband. It was cathartic.
@jodibeth5744 ive been told that before and took it as a compliment. Hugs to you.
It is good to know we can share anything here and no one is ever judge mental....such a kind and supportive group!1 -
_inHisGrace wrote: »Thanks everyone. That was the first time I ever told anyone since I was 14. After I typed it to y’all I told my husband. It was cathartic.
@jodibeth5744 ive been told that before and took it as a compliment. Hugs to you.
Wow, Lady. You have so much strength. This is going to be a great year for you, I think! I'm glad to be here as witness.
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@_inHisGrace I'm so proud of you for telling us and for telling your husband. It's so hard to privately hold onto trauma, especially for so long, and sharing is such an important step towards healing. You're doing a fantastic job.3
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_inHisGrace wrote: »Thanks everyone. That was the first time I ever told anyone since I was 14. After I typed it to y’all I told my husband. It was cathartic.
@jodibeth5744 ive been told that before and took it as a compliment. Hugs to you.
@_inHisGrace I'm glad that it was a help to you, and that your husband was understanding!
@jodibeth5744 - I agree with Grace here - take it as a compliment!
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This isn't exactly a while, and it's not about me or anything, it's just more of a frustration with the app today
First, this morning, it wouldn't let me get into the boards to see anything, it kept saying that Community was not available.
Then, I kept trying to put in a new recipe for dinner tonight (just a basic chili that's been cooking in the slow cooker all day), but it kept giving me errors.
And now, the app won't sync with my fitbit for my steps/exercise for my calories.
But, I did manage to finally get my recipe saved, and obviously it's letting me back on the boards, so, fingers crossed it'll eventually sync with my fitbit.2 -
@rieraclaelin it's not just you, mine's been saying "community not available" periodically for several days now!2
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its like whenever I go in on the browser version to add something, it always errors out the first time. I move from recent to frequently used and then back to recent and it will usually show my most recent items which is what I like to pick from, but sometimes it takes a couple of tries.1
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I'm just blah today
and don't really know why. I usually love snow, and I've sat here watching it snow all day today, but maybe what I really need is some sun therapy.
The boyfriend has been very patient and taking it in stride today. Just wish he wasn't 1000 miles away at the moment......4 -
bmeadows380 wrote: »I'm just blah today and don't really know why. I usually love snow, and I've sat here watching it snow all day today, but maybe what I really need is some sun therapy.
The boyfriend has been very patient and taking it in stride today. Just wish he wasn't 1000 miles away at the moment......
I would give anything to see some snow!...I am so homesick to visit Indiana....the weather here today is sunny and chilly with wind out of the north....sweatshirt weather....I wanted to swim because the water was so warm yesterday but I was afraid the air would freeze me...li should have gone and gotten in the jacuzzi but I was busy with other stuff!1 -
I need a little rant, I feel like I fell into some sort of Friday 13th alternate universe around 10 mins before leaving work.
For those who use the Today's Goals thread you may have already seen that I had planned for this evening to be a bit of Me Time which is long overdue between my work and various committee commitments.
At 10 to 5 I got an email from the company's travel agent telling me that some of my crew's flights have been cancelled (I work for a shipowner) and that there are no flights now available until the 19th February - stupid COVID!
Anyway, as usual they hadn't checked all the flights available because they tend to ignore any in Business Class ones (there was one available Friday) because they think we'll say no to the flight cost (even though it's cheaper than accomodating and feeding crew in a hotel for over 2 weeks whilst they're also being paid + £2k for economy flights), I tried getting through to them for about half an hour and also sent an email asking them to call me urgently as the ship is leaving port tomorrow morning before the office is open and I need to make a decision tonight whether to take them off and hope the flight goes or try at the next port. They replied to my earlier emails just 2 mins before they finish for the night saying they'd hand it on for someone to look at tomorrow! By the time I finally get throught to someone the flights had already gone, so now I am gonna have to spend my evening trying to find flight options both from here and Spain and then evaluating cost difference and make a decision on whether to take them off the ship or not and inform the ship of my plans and rearrange all of their PCR tests, visas, etc.
So these are the kinds of situations I deal with at work quite regularly and sometimes that's outside of normal work hours, these are the things that stress me out and normally make me turn to food for comfort, particularly on a day where I had plans to be doing something to unwind instead.
To add to all of the above, I left my purse in the office and with it all my cards/cash so I'll have to go back to the office tonight or tomorrow for it and shark week just arrived along with it's bloody cramps (no pun intended - ok maybe it was).
I'm going to try and get my Strength Training done as planned, put some metal tunes on, whilst I wait on alternative flight options and then hopefully at least have a soak in the bath after I get the work stuff sorted to keep me out of the fridge.
If you've made it this far - thanks for listening/reading - I feel better already for the rant.8 -
Sorry you had such a rough time of it....sounds like you have a very stressful job!...maybe you can squeeze some “ ME “ time in over the weekend?....your boss is lucky to have you!...take a deep breath, breathe and try to remember that overeating won’t help and will probably make you feel worse!...lots of hugs sent your way!2
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AAAhhhh!!! I got annoyed just reading your message. As someone who always handles family travel plans I know how annoying this is, albeit on a MUCH smaller scale. Hope it all gets worked out and you can get some time for yourself!4
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Thanks guys only just finished a moment ago (it's almost 10pm here now), I didn't raid the fridge but I did go to KFC as I really could not be bothered to cook at this stage of the night, under on calories for the day and protein should be pretty sorted for today.
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »
I would give anything to see some snow!...I am so homesick to visit Indiana....the weather here today is sunny and chilly with wind out of the north....sweatshirt weather....I wanted to swim because the water was so warm yesterday but I was afraid the air would freeze me...li should have gone and gotten in the jacuzzi but I was busy with other stuff!
Let me know when you're coming through Indy and we can have a visit! We have plenty of snow at the moment, also cold.
Cold enough that I've decided to shut off the three season porch. The cats aren't going out there for any length of time anyway with it being in the single digit temperatures, and that way I stop an air leak into the room I sit in. They can get their outside observation done in the front window.
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What part of Indiana are you in?0
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Ahhh, Indiana, I grew up there! Moved out to Ohio about 15 years ago, though.1
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Ack. My hard won size 12 pants are tight. I took a slight break for the Christmas holidays and had a heck of a time getting back on track since then. I'm slightly annoyed with myself that it took so long, but I'm also proud of myself to sticking to the only two rules I set for myself.5
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »What part of Indiana are you in?
I live on the east side of Indianapolis now, but I was born and raised and spent 25 years in Anderson.
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Ack. My hard won size 12 pants are tight. I took a slight break for the Christmas holidays and had a heck of a time getting back on track since then. I'm slightly annoyed with myself that it took so long, but I'm also proud of myself to sticking to the only two rules I set for myself.
Won't take you long to ge them looser again.1 -
I’ve been in a big slump. My head has been killing me. I’m getting pathetic with feeling sorry for myself. Today is much better!!3
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_inHisGrace wrote: »I’ve been in a big slump. My head has been killing me. I’m getting pathetic with feeling sorry for myself. Today is much better!!
Glad to hear you're feeling better today. Is the headache stress related?2 -
Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
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Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
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double check with cardiologist/dietician/relevant authority specifically on cocoa saturated fat. I believe that while coconut is NOT considered good saturated in spite of the various internet promos, I recall somewhere reading something about cocoa being a "good" saturated... or maybe I like chocolate too much and that is selective memory in action!!!3 -
Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
/end rant/
double check with cardiologist/dietician/relevant authority specifically on cocoa saturated fat. I believe that while coconut is NOT considered good saturated in spite of the various internet promos, I recall somewhere reading something about cocoa being a "good" saturated... or maybe I like chocolate too much and that is selective memory in action!!!
We're in the clear!! Cleveland Clinic agrees! Now I'll just pretend that applies to milk chocolate, and go on my merry way.3 -
Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
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How long before you meet with the cardiologist? If it is happening sometime soon I would wait before making radical dietary changes. My cardiologist said that my primary had expectations that were too aggressive and unnecessary. Your primary only has the data and what is normally done in those situations. The cardiologist evaluates it based on your current heart health and your level of risk.4 -
Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
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How long before you meet with the cardiologist? If it is happening sometime soon I would wait before making radical dietary changes. My cardiologist said that my primary had expectations that were too aggressive and unnecessary. Your primary only has the data and what is normally done in those situations. The cardiologist evaluates it based on your current heart health and your level of risk.
Oh that is good to know. I honestly have no idea what to expect at the cardiologist, but this makes sense. My appointment is in 2 weeks, so really not that long. I'll stop fretting about my saturated fat intake so much. 10 grams is surprisingly hard for me to hit....and I think I already eat pretty well!1 -
I'll stop fretting about my saturated fat intake so much. 10 grams is surprisingly hard for me to hit....and I think I already eat pretty well!
The American Heart Association recommends "aiming for a dietary pattern that achieves 5% to 6% of calories from saturated fat. For example, if you need about 2,000 calories a day, no more than 120 of them should come from saturated fat. That’s about 13 grams of saturated fat per day."
Err, yes....
I, personally, need a reset on this issue: I just did a cronometer export of the past six months... and... drumroll... on an average intake of 2996 I should be getting about 18g of saturated fat maximum... 42.57g doesn't sound like a stellar percentage of 18g... and 1.2g of Trans-Fats sounds even less good... yikes!
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I know my fat intake is high. My response to someone who would tell me to reduce it is, "Well, when I can eat vegetables instead of chips with my burger, I'll do so."3
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@eliezalot Less than 10 grams of saturated fat frankly sounds too aggressive. I get an average of 15+ for the last 6 months and I eat...too clean for my own sake.
Can't really see how to minimize this more without nuking low fat cheese/milk/yogurt, eggs or olive oil from the diet altogether (I run Mediterranean style).
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Grump grump grump.
This cholesterol thing is getting to me. The information my doctor gave me suggests limiting saturated fat to just 5-6% of my total calories. Doing the math....1480*.06=88.8 calories from saturated fat per day. And with 9 calories per gram of fat, that allows me about 9.8 grams of saturated fat per day.
Today, I'll be about 300 calories below my deficit. I was super excited to fill those calories with a nice treat. Cheese, chocolate, a cookie, etc... But nope. That would put me over my saturated fat goal for the day. In fact, I'm already 2 grams over it. So I can have...what. Fruit? A vegetable? I was so excited to treat myself. It is treats like this that have made weight loss sustainable for me. If I had to snack on carrot sticks, I would have given it up long ago.
I'll feel better after I meet with the cardiologist and see what the plan is. Maybe continued weight loss and exercise will be enough. If I do have to continue with the dietary adjustments, I'm going to ask for a referral to a RD. How often can I go over and stay healthy? Can I ever eat pizza or cake again?? I WANT CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES.
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I totally feel you! I am dealing with the exact same thing. My doctor finally sent me my results and honestly they are not as bad as I thought they would be. TRIG and overall cholesterol are borderline high. HDL is low, but not extremely so (normal is over 40 and I am at 35). My LDL is also high by like 5 points as well. So not what it should be, but not OMG I am gonna die right now bad.
While I am trying to decrease my saturated fats, it is not my main focus. Weight loss is focus #1 because I KNOW that works to lower my cholesterol (has helped in the past). I am trying to increase my produce intake which will help increase my fiber as well. I am increasing my Omega 3 fatty acids with more fatty fish and a supplement. I am also trying to exercise more, even if it is only a 20 minute walk or some yoga (some exercises seem to cause problems with my pelvic floor problems ugh).
However, there are some things I will not give up. You can take my cheese from my hands when I am dead but not a minute before. I also won't go vegetarian because of my medical food restrictions making it real hard to get protein without meat. Now, will I eat less red meat and incorporate more meat free meals? Yes.
In my past my doctors have said it is about small changes as long as you are not in immediate danger. I'm not in immediate danger at this time, so I am not going to cut everything out of my life. They will become occasional treats instead, but I will still have them.4
