Mission Slimpossible Team Chat JANUARY 2022
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My husband just tried to make me feel bad by analyzing why I didn't lose any weight last week. I'm not at liberty to tell him to just stay out of it and mind his own darn business because he would get very angry and when he's angry he breaks things. I made a meal plan every day, I didn't eat over my calorie budget, I weighed and measured everything. I figure there will just be some weeks where I won't lose, it's not a bad thing, and it's not something to be ashamed of. He always and I mean always does this, when I tried to lose weight before and it was working, he got on my case and told me that no person in this household is allowed to eat that much salad. I said but I'm losing weight, I just lost ten pounds. He ranted and raved and said he didn't care.
So, I got all this junk in my head to deal with and I'm working that out, but now I have to deal with his junk too. He admits that he does not know how it works, he said my scale must be off because I ate twice as much food as I usually do last week. He said I put three times the amount of taco meat that I usually put on my taco salad. But I didn't!! I put the same amount as I always do. I put 260 grams, I budgeted for that much and that does not put me over my protein macro. His intervention just makes it all that much harder. How come he does not know that? Ugh!!!!
I don't want to update him each week on my weight loss now, but he will be expecting it. Will he be like this every week that I don't lose weight, or don't lose as much as he thinks I should? I don't want how he feels about it and thinks about it to change what I'm doing. It takes a lot of faith to trust that this process will work, and that is where I put all of my faith. Good grief I just feel like crying. Why is it that when I'm doing good things, he steps in to help? I don't need or want his help with my weight. My shrink even said that he needs to stay out of it, but he won't.
Plus, some weeks I think we don't lose pounds, but we lose inches. Maybe I need to start measuring every Tuesday so I can say how many inches I lost when I'm not losing pounds.6 -
@FushiaKat - there are 2 conversations as I see, and forgive me if I overstep:
- one about what is going on and what is reasonable to expect when dieting.
First of all is unreasonable to expect to be perfect in eating, exercising and everything else , so find if you can be happy at 80% and plan on how to stay closer to that. The other 20% are not fails, and if stopped closer to maintenance and then going back to plat at the very next meal, then they are SUCCESSES. Life happens and it should be enjoyed, not feared.
Secondly, our bodies react to extra salt, sugar, carbs, stress, exercise, lack of sleep, sickness, in many ways , but one that matters here is retaining water. The water will show on scale and will leave independently of our great tries, but water is not fat.
Thirdly, if you do not have a lot to lose (less than 30-40) the whole process is extra slow. It’s hard to plan on waiting many months, but at that point it’s a very small deficit, to avoid hunger and falling off.
Fourth point is that successful diet requires a lot of tweaking until you find what works for you, it doesn’t feel like an extra job, is not painful nor frustrating, it’s satiating and shows results.
At least one of these is applicable to you and could mask a change on the scale.
The solutions for the scale are consistency and patience as results will be evident in 4-6 weeks.
I do believe you are doing great and you’ll have good results, just give yourself time and grace.
-the second conversation would be to find ways to communicate with your husband and hopefully your therapist can guide you on this.
Congratulations on keeping strong with your plan and do take care!1 -
@Katmary71 that is a beautiful meme! You really do inspire me to get involved with charities again, I am going to have to look into it so when our restrictions are loosened again I will have some thing ready to go! Thank you for that.
@trooworld I really hope that you can work through the exertion migraines, I am excited about your Tonal, I can only imagine how you feel lol! Congrats on the loss!
@Jactop sometimes starting at square one is the way to go, those basics are so important! I can definitely empathize with you on sleeping issues, that has never been a strength of mine!
@tammymccrady6278 it sounds like you are starting off the month in a good and strong way! I would have a hard time resisting chocolate cake as well lol!
@FushiaKat I never expect to lose weight every single week, even if I am right bang on with my tracking and macros sometimes it just does not happen. There was a graph that someone put up on here about weight loss, it really did show that it was jagged up down up down but the general trend was down. Don’t get disheartened, none of us always have a loss every week!
I have decided that on Monday Tuesday, Thursday and Friday I will go to the gym and take classes which will be my heavier workout days. Wednesday is supposed to be a much more relaxed day with the goal of still getting in 10,000 steps.
With the weather being so nice here I arranged to go for a walk with a friend to spend some time outdoors! My friend is 72 years old and fit as a fiddle! She wears a Fitbit as well and gets in on average 120 to 140,000 steps a week! I average of 80,000 steps a week. She has been sick this last week, so I thought it was good a good time to go for a walk with her when she is not 100% LOL! Well… We went for a walk, as she said it needed to be an easy one, as she wasn’t back to 100% yet. We put on 10,000 steps in two hours!! All that walking and all that fresh air, I am now perched on my couch and I don’t think I will get off for the rest of the night🤣🤣🤣2 -
Omg what an ordeal
I wasn’t able to post in the group and it’s been difficult trying to find out why
But I am back and I’ll start posting again tomorrow3 -
I agree with everything that was said and I only have about 34 pounds to lose to reach 145. My therapist's point of view on communicating with my husband is to just survive. My husband can be really, really sweet but he also has a very bad temper and then there is no reasoning with him. So later my husband came back to me today and said, "I'm not worried about it, it just looked odd". We are married for better or worse. It's those times when he's out of control that scare me the worst. There is no reasoning with him beyond saying, your right and I'm sorry. I'm sorry for venting here that is what my therapist is for.4
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Today was a very good day. I got enough sleep last night and that's a rarity. I normally wake up through the night but didn't last night. My sugar number was good this morning as well as my blood pressure. I even went to the gym and worked out for about an hour. I am in a good head space and it feels great. I'm praying all my days in the future will be like today. Let's go get it!!4
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Username: GabiV125
Check in day: Thursday
PW: 133.0
CW: 132.7
There’s some snow left on the grass areas (very unusual for VA) and my dog kept eating it the other day, and these last remnants must be heavy on ice melters and made him sick. He’s 3 but I cleaned after him in one day as much as I did in 3y, poor boy. Now one easy day after, and he’s back at his happy self, hopping around and driving the cat crazy trying to be her twin.
When I started cleaning I couldn’t stop, so I vacuumed and wiped everything , except the windows. In the whirlwind I also made some bags for donations so maybe I’m caught up with you on the cleaning/organizing spree 😁.
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@tammymccrady6278 - Bummer about the trip, but getting stuck would be awful. Good for you, enjoying a day of binge watching and then getting all your stuff done anyway! I do like the idea of seeing my kids make their own mark on the world. That is coming soon. College is sort of a holding pattern time.....
@FushiaKat - It's good that your recognize that sugar and salt are a part of life. Managing them in a way that works for you is the key. Having a talk with myself to analyze feelings helps me very much. You did that and it helped you too! I LOVE your game room! You are not going to lose weight every single week. Looking at Non Scale victories like losing inches is very helpful. And I believe you said you found a lot of clothes that were too big in your closet this week- that's a good one right there! I think @GabiV125 really hit the nail on the head. I also think that you've been talking to yourself a lot this week to get your thinking going in a positive direction and your hub probably turned that in the complete opposite direction with his "help". Believing that you can accomplish this is very important. And you CAN! Hugs to you!
@trooworld - Does Daisy get to take walks with you? Glad you are enjoying the beautiful weather. Oooh, I'm glad you found some solutions that might help you get back to work with your Tonal. Let us know how it goes.
@TeresaW1020 - How is hubby doing today? Are your muscles better? I hate when I do too many squats and trying to sit on the potty is painful, so I will be careful. How did work go with the financial stuff? Thank you for the hugs. I needed them.
@askewcr - sounds like you are doing great getting back to working on your goals! You go girl!
@laurelfit57 - Yes, that is exactly right. Even though my young adults are behaving normally and I understand that it sometimes doesn't feel good on my heart. I'm trying so hard to get past this. And I think that if it weren't for Covid I would have found more ways to distract myself by now. At what temperature do you break out the shorts? I love your story about walking with your friend!
@Katmary71 - LOVE the meme! That is such a good image of getting rid of the bad and pulling out the nutrients that you need! Also love this charity idea. Seniors are so lonely right now. You amaze me.
@jactop- yes, that's exactly it. Now that he's been gone a few days, it doesn't feel weird anymore. I wish you well on sleep improvement. It sucks so much when you can't sleep. And when you put in all that work and the scale won't budge.
@GabiV125 - Your poor doggo! Glad he's better! It's funny how getting started with the cleaning can be so hard, but once you get going you're on a roll and then suddenly you're cleaning out closets too! I'm really hoping I can get something like that going this weekend.
Thank you to everyone who encouraged me with my kids and my empty nest. Much appreciated. It's Thursday and the weekend is almost here! Planning a reasonable weekend food-wise. I've got to get caught up on the housework because it's been too long since it was all clean and I'm heading out of town next weekend. Did the step workout again yesterday and I'm not back to where I was, but I did note improvement. Going to do it again tomorrow.
Still did not do the journal! I will make myself accountable to you all and will post about it in the coming days or ask for you to yell at me about it!
Happy Thursday!
Lisa
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Username:@leonadixon
PW 12/29: 225.8
Check in weight (1/5/2022): 226.0
Check in weight (1/12/2022):227.8
Check in weight (1/19/2022):
Check in weight (1/26/2022):
it's still a rough week, but I do know this is water weight. I am not moving enough due to the work stuff. I am trying to actively move more, but it is hard to take a break!
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Hi Team! I am doing a quick check-in because if I don't do it now it won't happen. I am very sorry that I am not replying back to you individually but I did read all your post and I love how you take care of each other.
Hubby is feeling so much better the last couple of days. His dizziness has greatly diminished and his pain is getting better. He will feel even better once he gets the stitches out next week. I'm glad he is doing better right now because my work is blowing up. My financial secretary leaves next week and we just found out that someone has hacked our bank account and now we have to shut that one down and open a new one, which will mean updating our vendors and who knows what else. My pastor gave me a long list of stuff to do this week and tonight we start back with women's Bible study and for some reason, I agreed to run this next 8-week session. So, you might not see me around as much but I will try. Eating has been good and I'm hopeful for a small loss tomorrow.
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@FushiaKat after 31 years of marriage I’ve learned that I can’t change my husband‘s behaviour but I can change the way I let it affect me.
My husband has control issues too and used to have what my kids dubbed “Cheerio Tantrums” after he threw a bowl of Cheerios across the kitchen and we all scrambled to clean it up. I stopped apologizing for things I didn’t do and stopped the frantic cleaning when he’d have a tantrum. I started letting him have his rant then calmly went to fold laundry or clean the bathrooms and his tantrums fizzled out so much quicker with no witnesses. Now he vents in an acceptable way without losing his temper. Changing my behaviour changed his.
It sounds like your husband is attempting to sabotage your diet which says more about him than it does about you. Since it’s so common you can find lots of info on the web offering tips on how to deal with it.
It’s frustrating when the scale doesn’t reflect the work but consistency will pay off. Hang in there. You have some great strategies in place3 -
Another good day in the books. I honestly feel better even though my sugar did drop at the gym today. I just have to make sure I have enough food in before I go there tomorrow. Each day I increase my workout and it feels great. I do have arthritis in my knees so I have to be very careful.
I have been logging my food and see trends that need to be tweaked. LOL I thank you all again for allowing me to rejoin the group. It has been good for me in the past and it is good for me now. This is a win, win situation and I am so blessed!! Let's go get it!!3 -
@askewcr I think sleep is the golden ticket! Sounds like you are killing it at the gym!
@GabiV125 poor pup! I love when I can get a ton of that cleaning and organizing done, just think of all the calories you burned lol!
@trooworld before Vannie, I had to think about how I would get in my 10,000 steps, with Vannie my little high energy girl, three walks a day and we are done LOL. I am totally jealous of you! Your description of your workplace sitting outside, sounds like a piece of heaven! I must say, your dinner last night sounds delicious!
@Cornanda Believe it or not, people break out in shorts anywhere around 0° lol. I live on the prairies and we have big blue skies, the sun is out and the shorts come on. It is typically all those young whippersnappers who are wearing them🤣. Good for you for getting back to your step workouts, I find those extremely challenging. I will definitely not yell at you about journaling, that is not one of my skills (journalling that is)
@TeresaW1020 WOAH!!!
You have a whole lot going on! Please take time to look after yourself. So glad that your hubby is doing better and improving daily, so sorry about work and all the extra duties. Good for you for keeping on track eating!!
Beautiful weather here again today, but the crazy freezing rain has started again. After the freezing cold, nobody is complaining about the freezing rain anymore🤣.
I am still a bit stiff from the power barbell class I took on Tuesday, must mean it is working lol.3 -
Thank you for the support, it really means a lot to me. It makes life so much better. I'm sorry I don't support you back yet. But I will in the future. My last weight loss group was not much fun. The leader checked in about once a week and didn't offer very much in the way of support. We didn't have any challenges, or goal setting. I like it here very much. I loved the goal setting. It brought me to life more and I'm a better person because of it.
My husband bought me a pound of Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese from Italy. He says that stuff I'm eating in the green container made by Kraft is made with sawdust. I was using it because it's not that high in calories. I do admit the real stuff taste's so much better on my Squash Noodles. I can budget in 1 ounce of real cheese and still be OK.
I had a really good day today. Having that chat with myself has really helped. I bought a cloth measuring tape so I can update the spreadsheet I made for my measurements every Tuesday when I update my weight. Today I didn't weigh myself. I just wanted to enjoy feeling smaller, and not worry about the scale today.
So, I had a crazy morning, we are having a Distilled Water shortage, and maybe salt too. When I was at Costco 2 days ago, they didn't have any salt and today I went to 5 markets and they didn't have any distilled water, I even drove to a different city. I didn't think to look for salt since we have plenty. I use distilled water in my CPAP 1 gallon a week. I do have enough for a while, but I have no idea when we will get distilled water again. The helpful Walmart employee suggested that I look for distilled water in the baby section after he came back and said they don't have any more distilled water in the back.
I don't use baby stuff, but I'm sure there is some shortages in that area too, lots of shelves were empty. I did a little bit of stocking up so I would not be so anxious and its stuff I needed anyway. The scrubbies I like to use in the kitchen are also out of stock at 3 stores. I can make do with something else.
Please be safe!4 -
Daily goals :
Date: 1/12
Username: murdog3t
Log food: ✅
7500 steps: ❌
45min exercise: ✅
30 min walk: ✅
20 g carbs : ✅
2 min planks
30sec forearm plank x2
30 sec right side plank x2
30 sec left side plank3 -
Fatfifties, weigh day monday
Current weight 233lb
Previous weight 234lb
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Hi all, It looks like I'm still gaining xmas weight
davidji82
weigh in day Friday
PW:210.7
CW:215.8
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davors19
Weigh in day: Friday
PW: 260
CW: 259
LTD: 414 -
@TeresaW1020 - Oh my goodness, you are going to need a week off soon to rest up from all this. Who would hack a church bank account?! Grrrr..... Very glad to hear your hub is feeling better.
@Jactop - That is amazing that your behavior change improved his tantrums so much. That would be a difficult thing to deal with for sure.
@askewcr - Look at you, improving your work outs and tweaking your food. Great work!
@laurelfit57 - it is cold here in FL. It was windy and 50 this morning and I wore gloves and my winter jacket.
(I'm sure my "winter" coat would not be warm enough for where you live.)
@FushiaKat - glad you are feeling better after talking to yourself. Positive self talk is so important. The shortages are odd for sure. First world problems, I guess.... I also did not find any salt at the store today.
@davidji82 -that's a bummer- you're quite good at losing! You got this.
@trooworld - hope the dietician appt went well. I haven't been tracking lately, but when I was I would try to balance adding new foods into the rotation so I did not have too many recipes to enter at once. Because that could make me quit tracking for several days! I hope you shared your motto for the year with the dietician. It makes me smile every time I see it on your posts.
My insta today showed Yukon Canada where they have a "hair freezing" contest. Basically you come up with some crazy do that works because your hair turns into ice. Very creative. Since we've been talking about the weather, I thought this might be of interest.
Now I'm going to post a shameless plug for my favorite work out site. It's free! This lady is lots of fun and she has terrific playlists- very easy to find whatever you might want. She has a bit of everything- weights, cardio, step, tabata, dance, barre, mobility. She does live workouts on YouTube. And she picks good music!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyfg0A7ZE3RJEcbUBS688Fg
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Friday weigh in
Cornanda
PW: 170.8
CW: 170.4
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LTD: 20.7
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Username: TeresaW1020
Weigh in week: Week 2
Weigh in day: Friday
PW: 191.5
CW: 189.4
Month +/-: -2.1
Total Loss: 75
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@laurelfit57 Yeah, I do have a lot going on and it’s not slowing down. See post below.
We are gearing up for freezing rain and snow on Sunday. It’s the BIG news here in the South. We will probably have to cancel church because. *fingers crossed*
@FushiaKat Mmmm I love me some Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese! And I find using really good cheese is worth the flavor and I usually end up using much less. I hope things will get better with you and your hubby. It’s hard for men to understand what it’s like for us to lose weight. Maybe tell him as little as possible. Hang in there and we will continue to support you!
@trooworld Eating custom recipes is why I find tracking so hard too. But I’m doing it…most meals. :grins: I will be interested in what the dietician advises you to do.
@Cornanda Hair freezing contest sounds awesome!!Congrats on your loss this week.
Hi Team! It’s been a day! I went and cleaned the church and then ran a couple of errands. I came home to my husband telling me that he isn’t feeling confident anymore to take care of our finances and wants to turn it all over to me. What!! I haven't done one thing to pay our bills or take care of our retirement plans in the whole time we have been together. I mean I knew there would come a day but did it have to be this week!! All I could do was laugh because otherwise, I might get in my car and run away.It will be OK. That is what I am telling myself. I am happy that I lost a little weight this week!
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Hi all! I enjoyed catching up and comparing the weather in our various areas. I have time to check in today because Iowa is having its first real snowstorm of the year, and that means a snow day! It was announced last night, and I had great aspirations of all the things I would get done today. It has not been a total bust, but let's just say I have not done what I thought I would ;-)
My challenge at work has been motivating (with the exception of exercise - I can't seem to get motivated for that), and I am more aware of building daily healthy habits: at least 7 hours of sleep, 64 oz of water, 2 cups of fruit, 3 cups of vegetables, 30 minutes of moderate physical activity, and 3 social-emotional actions.4 -
Hello Everyone!
Today was such a pretty day here in Georgia! The sun was shining and it wasn't too cold. I made it to the gym again (Woohoo!) I also celebrated my best friend's 59th birthday and it was a success. We made her day. I am encouraged to run towards my goals. It's a good feeling. Thanks for all of the support! Let's go get it!6 -
Ohhh ive been so ill after my booster vaccine! I ve slept for 3 whole days. Only eaten 2 pieces of toast. Feeling better today so took a sneaky peek at the scales and ive lost 4lb. Just hoping it doesn't all come back before my weigh in on Monday!! There is always a bright side to life. Have a good weekend everyone5
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gwamajtw91
Friday
PW: 164.2
CW: 164.8
Sorry it's a day late. I have just read a week's worth of posts. Very inspiring!
I knew this week wouldn't be good weight wise as I just couldn't get it together with my meals. I do so much better when I prepare in advance. Exercise was on point though, so this weekend I will be planning and grocery shopping for success next week! Have a great weekend everyone!!5 -
askewcr
Weigh in day: Saturday
Starting Weight 258.5
PW:256.5
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Username: bgame4
Weigh In Day: Saturday
PW: 134 lbs
CW: 132 lbs
Phrase of the year: OWN IT!4 -
The Week 3 Group Challenge, starting Sunday, Jan 16th is open for tomorrow. Hope you enjoy this one! Can't wait to read and share with all of you.
Here's the link:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10853885/january-week-3-group-challenge-5-10-15-20-workout/p1?new=1
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@bgame4 Enjoy your snow day! We are getting our first in 4 years and I’m excited!! Great loss this week!
@askewcr What a nice day you had to celebrate your friend's birthday. I am so happy to read how encouraged you are feeling about your goals. Great loss this week! You go, girl!!
@fatfifties I am so sorry that the shot affected you so hard. My mom got it a few days ago and wasn’t feeling well for a day. Wow, that is a great loss on the scale!
@gwamajtw91 I am the same and do much better when I plan my meals in advance. Good job on your exercise being on point! This will be your week to lose for sure!
Hi Team! Well, we just got the word from the pastor that we are canceling church tomorrow due to the upcoming storm. We haven’t had this kind of storm in four years. I admit that I’m excited that I get to be stuck at home for the next few days.I just pray we don’t lose power! I was going to go work out, but I bent over this morning to pick up a toy for the dog and ended up hurting my back. So, I’m taking it easy with my back massager. Hopefully tomorrow I will work out and then I will watch the snowfall!!!
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