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  • Yes, I did simplify what I was saying because I'm speaking more from a personal narrative, but I used to be a neuroscientist before I became a doctor, so I do understand the neuroactivity of various chemicals and how they can have paradoxical effects. As for the "experiment", and I only call it that because Annie Grace…
  • I agree with everyone, sometimes you need to take a break from losing. I lost a lot of weight steadily over time and never took breaks and it definitely damaged my metabolism. I regained a bit of weight due to meds, and this time around losing, I take breaks and ramp up my eating quite a bit for a few weeks at a time. It…
  • I do anywhere from 1-6 hrs, usually between 2-4, but that was after several months. I started with a 6-8hr window five days a week, with two "normal" eating days. I just listened to my body from there and ended up preferring something closer to OMAD. I typically keep my window open longer when I'm having beverages in the…
  • Yeah, come to think of it, I've seen this a lot in men. I've known many, many men who gained a lot of fat and insisted they were just very muscular with a bit of fat over top. An acquaintance who used to be an MMA fighter is now obese and has been for nearly a decade and insists he's always just 6 weeks away from having…
  • Yup. A lot of people eat for emotional reasons, and if they don't build more resilient replacement coping skills, then trying to "diet" just robs them of their go-to coping mechanism for emotional distress. If you learn healthier coping skills, then losing weight is much less difficult and stressful.
  • I've always said that the best diet is a really good therapist.
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  • The percent number on your scale is useless and not telling you anything. Ignore it and start eating more. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Start focusing on sustainable habits that will serve you for the rest of your life, sustain a small deficit, and lose weight slowly and steadily. Being impatient is the main predictor…
  • Welcome! Remember, you're in the very worst of it right now, so if you can get through today, you can definitely get through tomorrow. As a mini-goal, 10 days was a HUGE win for me. Perhaps it's because that's how long it takes for the direct affects of alcohol to wear off from the body, but 10 days felt like magic. Stay…
  • Perhaps try black tea instead, I find it much more enjoyable than black coffee. Also, don't worry about populational statistics for individual measurements. Focus on building a life rich in healthy habits. You can't support an unhealthy weight with a healthy lifestyle, it's impossible. So if you make your way towards an…
  • I'm not quite understanding how tortillas are a major problem unless you eat whole piles of them on their own. You have to look at your overall diet and make adjustments there. If you love tortillas, then why would you focus on that as the thing to reduce? Are there other areas where you could lower your intake? Cheese…
    in Tortillas Comment by Xellercin July 20
  • If late night snacking is a major problem for you, then I would first assess what unmet need you are actually trying to meet with late night snacking? The human brain and body are pattern generators and followers, so it could be a simple fact that years of snacking at night has created a feedback system that triggers…
  • Atomic Habits is a decent book for explaining how to change behaviour. But basically, the idea is that you figure out what isn't working for you, why, and then adjust things slowly to make the way you want to live easier. So for example, one of the things I did was I kept raw, chopped veggies in water in the fridge at all…
  • I would be inclined to listen to your body, not try to force it. I'm guessing there's something in your protein sources that doesn't agree with you. I personally can't tolerate meat very well, so I just don't eat it. Have you tried a more plant-based diet? How do you tolerate legumes? Just because you lift weights doesn't…
  • Well, you're asking the right question: why *is* it so hard for you? What triggers are causing you to eat differently from how you want to? What needs are you trying to meet with food? What barriers are holding you back from the lifestyle you want? Figure those out and then step by step figure out how to remove them so…
  • I think it's been pretty well researched that perusing fitspo on social media is absolutely terrible for people's mental health. I just don't consider instagram a good source of literally any health info. That's not to say that there isn't good info on there, but there's so much bad info that it's not a good *source*. A…
  • See this is a prime example of an urge to drink where you shouldn't give in. You say that it's fear of missing out on the fun of alcohol that motivates you to not want to be totally alcohol free, but what you described isn't a fun scenario, it's a stress-drinking scenario. If you've read along in this thread, then I hope…
  • Yup. Your weight doesn't dictate your exercise needs. You should be exercising all along regardless of what your body composition goals are. It is hard to build muscle bulk while losing fat, but that doesn't mean that you don't get enormous benefit or additional strength from exercise along the way. It's not like weight…
  • I quit initially for medical reasons, it's quite common actually. Also remember, you can't actually decide today that you will quit forever, so there's no point in thinking that way if it stresses you out. You cannot make decisions for your future self, it's impossible. If a future version of yourself decides that alcohol…
  • By yo-yoing, what exactly do you mean? Weight fluctuations are normal in maintenance, but if what you mean is that you have a way you eat for weight loss, as in a strict "diet" and then a way you eat when you are not dieting that makes you gain weight and you have to "diet" again, then the issue is that you haven't figured…
  • But you don't have to get rid of all of your things, it's not an all-or-nothing thing, it's a steady process. Just be honest with yourself about what an item actually does for your life. A keepsake that lives in a box and is never seen is functionally no different than if it ended up in a landfill. If an item isn't doing…
  • It's a process and you just have to keep moving forward. One step at a time.
  • Go get evaluated by a PT. Don't eff with wrists.
  • Uh...I grew up in a family full of stunning beautiful women, my mom was a model, and we were all heavily conditioned to value our appearance. But it didn't make any of us "coast." In fact, in my family every single woman is wildly successful and all of the men are under achievers, consistently. Most women I know who've…
  • Have you ever tried not drinking for a period of time? I ask because it's well established that alcohol doesn't actually help with stress, it worsens it. The more you drink in response to stress, the more your brain actually lowers your ability to tolerate stress and raises the sensation of stress as a trigger to get you…
  • He didn't, it was a process that we worked out over time. We spent A LOT of time walking and talking about life, happiness, our visions for what our ideal lives would look like, and the value of every trade off that we could possibly make in our lives. I personally question literally *everything* that is assumed to be a…
  • What happens if you don't eat when you get up?
  • It's because of your physical issues that you *should* approach this from a self care perspective. It's awesome that you are realizing that it's time to start giving your precious, delicate body the care it needs, and not punishing it for not being good enough. I lost from obese to very lean and have easily maintained it…
  • That is one thing I loved about losing weight, I could buy cheap clothes again and look great. When I was obese, I had to buy clothes that fit a certain way in order to be flattering, and often had to get things custom tailored. Finding a dress for a formal occasion was a tedious and expensive process when I was obese.…
  • Uh...I can see value in working with a really good coach, but I question the actual skill, knowledge and credentials of online "health" coaches. If you need personalized advice about exercise, then read up on reputable sources for fitness or hire a personal trainer. If you need help with motivation and managing your day to…
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