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3 years sober for me today! I have to say that the best part of quitting on Jan 1 2020 was that I was sober when the pandemic started. I was so grateful to not be drinking my way through it, because I know that if I had still been a regular drinker, I would have easily graduated to a heavy drinker during that time.…

I'm not saying that relationships/marriage were better in the past. But I would say that people seemed to not give up so easily back then compared to now. With the coming of technology, I'd say that it has had a negative impact on the way we date and have relationships. The coming and going of relationships is a normal…

Weight lifting is all about form, so you can follow any weight lifting plan and just use lighter weights. Or you could just start with gentle body weight exercises.

I felt pretty great about myself at my heaviest. I was in a great place in my life and finally had the freedom and time to take better care of myself. I'm very proud now of having taken excellent care of my body, but I don't like myself any more than I did back then. I was never motivated by liking myself less, I was…

Are you under the impression that marriages were happier and healthier at some point in the past? If so, I strongly recommend that you read up about the history of monogamous marriage in the western world. It's a pretty messed up history actually. Most relationships are not built to last forever, and that's okay. The…

It would help to specify what you actually want to accomplish. Many, many people have gotten frustrated trying to achieve the elusive "toning" through exercise. In reality, there is no such thing as "toning," is doesn't exist. You can build muscle strength, endurance, and bulk. That's it. It's very possible that you have…

Well for exercise, what do you like to do? What could you see yourself looking forward to doing every day? For meals, I'm sure there are tons of online resources for high protein, diabetes-friendly meal plans. But the bigger question is what has held you back from eating better in the past? Basically, anyone can give you…

There's really no need for exercise to be strenuous. Stick with what works for you and stick with it, over time you will build strength and endurance. Beyond that, don't worry about trying to make it hard. I've been limited due to disability to just doing gentle clinical Pilates and PT for years now, and I'm in quite good…

I just got used to wearing mostly leggings. I'm wearing some today that I wore regularly 40lbs ago. I just didn't wear non-stretch clothes while losing weight unless I happened to be at the exact weight that a certain pair of non-stretch pants happened to fit.

What the scale does from week to week gives almost no indication of what's happening in your body in terms of fat loss. It's only the pattern of weight over longer periods of time that can actually show you how much fat you are losing as opposed to just fluctuations on the scale. Like others have said, I would recommend…

Same. I also don't find it "extreme" at all. I find it very comfortable and way more sustainable *for me*. It's not for everyone, because no one way of eating is for everyone. But I seriously wouldn't go back to multiple meals a day if you paid me. I eat exactly as often as I feel like eating. If I wanted to eat more…

I don't think this is a new thing. I remember my grandmother talking about how horrifically judgemental the neighbours were when she was a young mother, and how her house had to be magazine perfect. People care about judgement because people are judgemental. Certainly social media makes it so that people can't ever have a…

K... Well I'm just going to stick with it since it was prescribed by my world renowned neurologist, and I find it much more pleasant than eating multiple times a day... I'm not even doing this for weight loss, I've been in maintenance doing IF for nearly a year and I have no interest in ever going back. Besides, I don't…

I started with maintenance. Meaning, I ate the kind of diet that would sustain a leaner body and eventually I got that leaner body. I didn't change anything, I just eventually stopped losing and just kept eating the same way and maintained the loss. I did, however, regain a small amount due to prednisone and other meds…

This is the thing. For myself, I'm not a fan of the whole "keeping myself accountable" thing. I know when I'm eating well and when I'm not. This is why I always commit to a small change for at least 6 weeks, long enough to make it a habit. And yes, the key was to engineer my life so that eating nutritious foods in modest…

I personally lost from obese to very lean without tracking my food. I incrementally improved my eating with small, sustainable changes. I tracked my weight daily and looked for patterns over 6 week periods. Every 6 weeks, I introduced a new improvement to my eating routine. Within a year, I had totally overhauled my entire…

Perhaps change the frame of reference a bit? Bodies are high performance machines that need to be optimally maintained. You can't just red line them indefinitely and not expect parts to break down. PT is the cornerstone of my keeping my body and functional as possible. I have a complex genetic condition that literally…

I definitely had to retire some friendships after I quit drinking, but I've moved a lot and changed jobs many times, so I'm pretty comfortable with the concept of certain friendships working only for certain phases of life. If you met people like them today, would you want to connect with them? If not, then move on. Now…

I don't believe in "cheat days" I believe in whatever healthy routine is sustainable for the individual. If that includes a strict regimen that has built in days that are less strict and that works for them, then cool, but that's a plan, not cheating. Let me put it this way. I used to do 80-100 hour weeks for school. It…

I guess I am left wondering: how do you want to be eating once you reach your goal? There is no "dieting" and "giving up." There's just the way you eat, day in and day out and how that shows up in terms of your body composition. I get that you're frustrated, but try not to conceptualize anything as giving up or saying "to…

I lose in my face so everyone notices.

Have you sought any kind of counselling?

Go nuts. It's a very simple concept, but it takes constant commitment. The world doesn't make it easy or intuitive to put ones health and well being first. So it takes a bit of a radical spirit to staunchly commit to doing so.

Always keeping my health as my top priority. There are always priorities that fall by the wayside when life gets demanding. If health isn't among the very top priorities, it's easy for those habits to drop off under times of stress and overload. Other things can come to feel much more important: busy schedules, career…

I always find this debate odd. The definition of addiction has been very clear for a long time. It's the compulsive seeking and engagement of a behaviour or substance despite predictably negative outcomes for the seeker. It features persistent invasive thoughts in the form of cravings, which are the product of altered…

I'm not quite sure what you would be trying to accomplish with this? You are going to burn what you are going to burn, and tracking your temp isn't really going to help you with that estimate very well. The best way to track what you burn is to carefully log what you consume, be consistent with your average activity over a…

Don't overcorrect. I lost weight steadily over years and often had periods where the scale didn't budge for weeks on end. However, I logged my weight daily the entire time and the slope of my loss actually stayed consistent. The objective data showed that I only *ever* had a real plateau if I ate and drank more, like…

There is no answer to this, just wait works for you. I personally do IF and have 100% of my calories in one meal. That works for me, not for my spouse. Try to figure out how to work *with* your particular body and what it responds best to.

I personally always stick with a routine for at least 6 weeks to assess how it is working. The human body, especially women's bodies don't tend to give very reliable scale data over short periods of time. If you stay exactly the same for 6 weeks, that's great, that means you are 99% of the way to losing, and just a small…

Yep, I've often said that the best diet is a really great therapist. It can be hard to tackle major challenges, stresses, traumas, and a lifetime of behavioural patterns by yourself.