PocketNaomi

There is NO justification for cheating on you, no matter what. If he's a man who cheated, then he's an *kitten* who left you because of his own issues, and not because of anything to do with your weight. He's just trying to blame your weight so he can feel better about doing something he knows he shouldn't have done.…

Wrecking ball

Thank you! I'm really excited about being able to start again. I could diet before, but couldn't exercise at *all* because the pain was too overwhelming. Now I can exercise a little, and not have it hurt me for days.

Thanks for everyone's suggestions! For the moment, I'm incorporating both the "get rid of the bad foods/keep them out of the house" idea and the "tell myself I'm allowed to have it in three hours (my own choice of timeframe, I can be pretty sure to be refocused by then) if I still want them then, and then throw my…

Congratulations! You both look great!

Welcome! It's hard not to eat when you love food and it's all around you, so try to find some low-cal foods that you can keep easily to hand, so you feel able to eat something you like when you want to without ruining your calorie budget. I eat a lot more cookies when I DON'T have popcorn or pickles in the house, I'll tell…

Thanks for the suggestion, and I really mean to follow it. I do think of this as a lifestyle change, toward healthier eating! I don't work out yet, because I'm still trying to get my fibromyalgia under control enough that a workout doesn't mean a major pain spike every time it happens... but I'm working toward the goal of…

There's nothing inherently wrong with losing 30-40 pounds or with this site's way of doing it, including a 1200-calorie diet (I'm on one myself, though I take a "day off" once a week and go up to 1600-1800, to keep my metabolism from going screwy on me). But you don't say what you weigh now, or on what kind of a…

Go you!! I know what you mean about treating it like a game. Some days I can't, most often when I've been sick recently because then I'm both ravenous since that's what my body does during convalescence and also so miserable from the illness that I can't focus on any game. So I haven't been making progress as fast as you…

Wow, thanks for all the thoughts, everyone! The reason I posted about the article is because I'm finding it difficult to keep to my calorie limits, and easier on the days when I don't try to exercise. I agree (with most of the people here and with the article itself) that exercise has a lot of benefits besides losing…

Congratulations!! That's terrific!

Welcome to you both, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! A relationship that's been going since you were kids that age sounds like you two must really be good together. I am sure you can reach your target weight with time to spare... just remember to target five pounds lower than you want to end up, because between a…

Thanks for warning me about the sodium, guys. I don't have a blood pressure problem at all, so i don't think it will be bad for my health, but I definitely agree with the person who says don't weigh myself the day after I've eaten them, or I'll be aghast at the number on the scale, even though it's only water weight. I'm…

Congratulations! That is so great!

I really encourage you to talk to a doctor or a counselor about the depression. You CAN lose weight, but first you need to get your emotional pain and misery under control... nobody can manage the motivation to lose weight when they feel so awful it's overwhelming them and making them unable to focus their energies! Find…

Thanks, everyone. The support helps. I think the person who suggested arm raises in bed, or similar exercises -- leg lifts, stomach crunches -- on the days when I literally can't get out of bed (or I will lose weight via throwing up from the pain spike; for those who don't know what severe fibromyalgia is like, that's a…

Hamburgers and green beans. Nothing very exciting here, I'm afraid.

Hard-boiled eggs are quick to boil up a whole big bowl of them and take everywhere. They're high protein and only 70 calories apiece. Tuna salad is a quick make for a big bowl, then you can just scoop some into a tupperware container and taken it with you when you're running around.

Hard-boiled eggs are quick to boil up a whole big bowl of them and take everywhere. They're high protein and only 70 calories apiece. Tuna salad is a quick make for a big bowl, then you can just scoop some into a tupperware container and taken it with you when you're running around.

I'd say eat something with protein in it right after your workout --it doesn't have to be big, or make up for all the calories you're under; being under for one day is all right. But having something with a bit of carbs and a bit of protein to help your body bounce back from the workout is probably well worth your while,…

I've been here ten days, and I love it. The tracking tools make it ridiculously easy to keep track of calories, and all the nice people here are so supportive and help me stay motivated. The first thing I want to do when I find I've had a success is tell people here because I know they'll all be happy for me, and I try to…

Good question! 1) I'm planning my week so that Thursday will be my "cheat day" for that week (not easy, since Tuesday and Wednesday I will be driving from Seattle to San Jose with my family, and therefore eating every meal in kid-friendly restaurants!) 2) I'm deliberately aiming myself at ONE Thanksgiving-specific food:…

Welcome! You'll find all the support you want here; I've been here ten days and everyone here is so nice. Good luck on your journey!

Thank you so much for such a supportive message! I've got a female partner and she loves me and thinks I'm sexy no matter how much I weigh, but she is being very supportive of my diet and glad for me because she feels (as I do) that it will make me have more energy and less fibromyalgia pain if I am hauling around less…

I can't afford to eat out very often, so I expect to completely and totally eat what I feel like when I do. One day of that may make me gain back a pound or two, but if I only do it three or four times a year, it won't blow the overall pattern. Besides, a lot of the time what I *like* to eat when I eat out is stuff like…

(1) Eat before you go. (2) Locate the veggies, and skip the dip. :) Good luck!

I exercise so little that my exercise calories are pretty minimal, but I don't eat them. I stick to 1200 flat, every day... partly for convenience, partly because exercise is so hard for me that if I do a little of it successfully, the last thing I want to do is use it up in food! I'd rather it come off my waistline if I'm…

Work the arm which isn't losing -- do strength exercises with it, even just lifting grocery bags with that arm instead of your other will work if you habitually use the one that's losing. Try to do things with the other one. It'll shape up with time!

I've only been here about a week, but I've found it REALLY helpful. It's so easy to input things, and it does all the calculations for you. And don't forget us, your friendly support cohort! :) Welcome!

I never liked the old Wendy's fries all that much. I like McDonalds' better, and Nathan's best of all, but can't get those here in Seattle; AFAIK Nathan's, which started out as a Coney Island hot dog stand, is only on the east coast. If anyone knows of a Nathan's near Seattle... well, I was going to say please tell me, but…