How can others do it but i cant?

I am sorry that you are feeling this low about yourself. :frown:
I think the only difference between you and the people that do lose weight is that they too felt like you do and then decided that was the last day they were going to feel that way. They usually reach their own "bottom" and say enough is enough.

Don't get me wrong. It has taken me since April to lose 15lbs. Its a hard slog and some days I am super healthy and other days I want to do nothing and eat junk food.

I think weight loss is a battle that is played in the mind and if you can win that battle then you are halfway there.

Decide today, make good choices and move more. I promise you will see a difference and that will spur you on.
You will soon be back in your pretty clothes.
Good luck:happy:

Souns like your weight gain might have been love weight that slowly crept up on you and is now causing you to hate yourself. I am not a licensed counselor but I have worked in mental health for several years and am currently serving as a Mental Health Specialist. As someone struggling with the same things you are and as someone who works in the mental health field I need you to acknowledge that your emotional health and your physical health are very cloesly intertwined.

Don't deny yourself what you know. Don't be ashamed of yourself. Don't struggle in silence. Do seek out support (as you alreay have). And seek out professional help from your physicians and counselors.

I found that we are most apt to ignore the things we know we shouldn't until it's too late. Until we see a family member (or we ourseles) suffer a stroke, heart attack, suicide, or other life changing event. You are not alone and do not have to suffer alone. I'm planning to study policy and helth management so that we can secure ways of people who already feel outcast or uncomfortable in their own bodies and mind not to feel ostracized from society as well.

Depression is a serious condition and cannot be dealt with by just cheering yourself up. Reach out to a professional, you'd be amazed what homeopathic, allopathic, osteopathic and psychopharmacologic therapies are available (and not for very much out of your pocket). Utilize your EAP if you have one or get a referral from a PCP if you don't. If you're unemployed and underinsured or cost is prohibiting you from seeking help, don't let it. There are many aid programs among municipalities and states for you to receive the services you need.

No one is going through exactly what you are going through but still you are not alone. There are those in your life and here on MFP that can provide support. I can sympathize, many can empathize and I'm sure everyone wishes you the best. Good luck on your journey. The road is hard. It won't be easy but you are wroth it.

Every journey starts with a small step.
I never had an AHH moment that changed things for me. I was struggling with my weigh trying to control it but it just keeped going up. I final stopped trying to fix everything a once, and just started by dealing with my main problem...Sugar. Sugar for me is an addiction, once I start I can't stop. So I started by SLOWLY reducing the amount of sugar I ate. I also have better luck controling my eating than I do with being able to workout everyday. (If you do better with the working out start there.)

My husband loves to workout it is an addiction for him. Everytiime I would start a program I would fail, especially when I compared myself to him. Which always made me feel like a failure. Working out is just blah to me, I know it has benifits. I fit what I can in and don't worry about what I can't do.