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Hey guys this all means so much to me as lately I've been hit hard by the depression again. Only this past few days I've started to pick myself up again so I'm trying to be strong and look at the positives.

Thank you and thanks again all.

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Once I'd started having therapy for my depression (and other issues) the weight fell off me and today I am 15 stone less than I was at the start of it all. I'd been obese since I was a child. A friend of mine has anxiety and was an alcoholic (WAS) and I think what she has done is immense with the support system she used. I…

Yeah it's weird that people don't recognise you or that they assume you must be starving. If I'd been starving I'm pretty sure I'd have died long before the 18 month weight loss had ended. No matter how much I was losing or how much I'd eaten my Nan asked me every week if I wanted dessert! After 5 months she said to my…

Tough week? Hang in there!

Yes Camper this is correct :)

Thank you...request accepted :)

Well done Ownsy! Yeah I didn't call mine a diet either. Just calorie control.

Many support groups quote the mantra: people, places & enviroment I was obese from a very young age also. There was a lot going on. Part of that was depression. That has now been resolved. I may fail, I have accepted that but I need to try.

Thank you. I am not worthy.

I concur. It's only here or my website that I would "offer" advice. It's generally not welcome and people believe a lot of the things they read about foods being evil or this fad diet or that one. If I'm completely honest I spend most of my life trying to avoid people finding out about my weight loss.

Yes absolutely but for some of us is can take a lot of therapy and money to realise this. I know other people aren't the whole problem but if those closest to you are more supportive I think the whole thing gets easier. People can and do still knock me though.

Thank you! Yes, you get it. I guess I didn't feel I'd need to go into all this depth here but you have done it so eloquently for me. Obesity "runs" in my family as well.

Thanks Benzie. I only wish it ended with coworkers! People at the bus stop loving to contribute to my losing weight as well. "Oh you should stop now".

I do absolutely get that believe me. 18 months of psychotherapy has given me some confidence to try this. I'm not claiming to know the correct way just sharing experience. Each to their own.

If only we were so immune to the ideas of others the world wouldn't have so many examples of destructive ideology scattered across time.

I don't recall claiming otherwise?

As mentioned above my entire circumstance is different to what it was before the weight loss started. I have no problem following MFP again should the need arise.

We shall have to disagree on the last point. To me it felt hostile. I will concede that Internet forums are not the best place to judge context. The bridge jumping analogue only applies if you can clearly see what is being done is dangerous and destructive. We fall for much for insidious traps created by society than that.

Absolutely...sadly we are all guilty of falling for it. Societies expectations. We all try to be what is expected of us. Engaged, marriage, buy a house then kids. All sorts of things.

I fully accept that I may have to go back to doing it. I'm not being disparaging of the tools I just feel like I need to stand on my own two feet for a few more months. A lot of other things changed in my life and I'm trying to figure out if the source of the problem has gone away. If I'm being honest my whole life has…

At Christmas I felt obliged to eat an excessive amount of food in front of my family to "prove" I hadn't had a gastric band fitted. I think that like so many things in life, if we for the support of those around us it would be so much easier. You hear all the time of one half of a couple trying to lose weight and then the…

Was it really essential to add "that's your problem"? "That's a cop out" was your response to a serious comment presented with facts on how easily we as humans are influenced by others and society. It was hostile and dismissive without any substantive evidence.

Nothing is "one size fits all". Why so hostile?

Thank you, that is entirely my point. It worries me when we agree with those who don't have weight problems about being an adult and makes choices. Often for a lot of us it isn't a simple as just having a weight problem there is an awful lot going on in the background. My depression can be at the whim of other people's…

I don't even want to have them ask for tips. It's nice if people do but why can't people just take on the advice "if you haven't got anything positive to say, then don't say anything at all"?

I'm not sure I can yet but I need to give this a go! Good luck on your journey.