2017
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Happy Canada Thanksgiving to you Snooozie and anybody else from Canada ,
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Happy Pie Day, Snoozie!! Kudo's on the loss!!
Such cute puppie pics!!
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Thanks for the TG wishes and pics ladies!
I took my senior friend to a restaurant; and while it was a lovely TG meal... I ate way too much and honestly. afterwards I felt like crap.... all bloaty and icky... and I would have been more than content with having a little of everything and leaving the rest.. but nope... cleaned my plate even tho I really didn't want or need it.. sadly the pie was just a sliver LOL.. I would have eaten the whole pie and passed up the turkey... well.. maybe not but... it was a bit of an eye opener later on.. about mindful eating! I've been doing well with smaller portions and eating when i'm actually hungry but since that night the munchies have taken over and i'm struggling a bit to get back away from them.... and I think I finally have a handle on it again..
I include one less healthy choice a day already, but its sliding into a couple lately so fighting the force within and without hahaha..
I did manage to make my goal last week of taking one step every single day towards getting what I want.. some were as simple as choosing an apple over a cookie, walking a little further one day, and a little bigger step one time as i had a complete vegetarian dinner (which for me is quite a leap lol). im finding asking myself what step will I take today is helping too.. makes me think about wht i'm putting in my mouth, and I need to focus more on applying that same theory to moving more..
hope everyone is doing well... I cannot believe how fast this year is flying by..
Suzy can't wait to hear more about the hike and following vacay time....
Susan - how are you doing with your goals you set?? hope the doc visit wed had some positive news...AND thanks for the puppy pics omg so cute!
Milove - nice on the loss, well done!!
Vail - how are things going with the new meds - i know it hasn't been long yet but wondering if you're seeing any results?
Gail - how are things in your neck of the woods?? i thought of you the other day when i passed okra in the grocery store.. and kept on walking LOL!!
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I know what you mean, I did the same thing last year, Snoozie. Hopefully I will be more mind full this year.
I am so glad you and your friend had a great day.
Still fighting the allergy stuff. Not much of an appetite.
I have blown out my ear. I went to bed with it feeling normal and then when I woke up it was aching down from my ear to my jaw and closed shut!! Hopefully the allergies just settled in to it and not busted.
Yes. This year has flown by!
Hope everyone is doing well.
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That sounds miserable. I hope your ear's OK.
Thanks for asking about the meds, Snooozie. Unfortunately, it turns out that Prozac interacts with one of my heart medications, so I've stopped it. I've been given something else, but haven't started taking yet as I want to check it out. Also I have actually been feeling OK ... my main problem is these extreme mood swings and insomnia, and recently my mood has been more stable and I have been sleeping better. I'm daring to hope that I might have come through the worst of it. If not, I might just see how I cope. It's quite fun when my mood swings in the right direction - I have more energy than I've had in years! It's just when it goes the other way. But knowing it's menopause and I'm not actually mentally ill (honestly, it sometimes really feels like I am) is a big help.
I have been doing too much baking and cooking recently which equals too much eating. I baked a lovely cake for my son's birthday and have just had some for breakfast. I don't even normally eat breakfast. However, once the cake is gone, it's gone, and I'll be back on track. At least, that's the plan! But yes, I regret having cakefast already, so I understand about your meal, Snooozie. It's frustrating having overeaten when there's no need to. On the other hand, I think there are only so many calories you can get down you in one sitting so not a big deal in the scheme of things - lol!1 -
Vail - I have often in my past had cake for breakfast - AND pie..... so I can totally relate! And one reason why I gave up baking myself; I used to do a lot of it (I can't cook but I was always a really good baker lol) simply because I ate it all... no matter the size or the type so I can totally relate! Actually my mom always made our birthday cakes - never store bought; and we always got to pick which one we wanted - mine was always her "dalmation cake" - chocolate cake with white icing and melted chocolate drizzled and blobbed all over the top.. and I absolutely remember that there was always at least one piece left for ME for breakfast the next day - thanks for bringing that lovely memory back for me... cept now I want to make a dalmation cake ha.
I know how awful a few of the symptoms you're having can be. the insomnia especially and I had a few mood swings - mine went more towards instant rage over stupid stuff, and I developed anxiety.. which I never used to have... I seriously thot I was losing my *kitten* at one point.. I went to a webite and looked up the symptoms of menopause and saw the 100 or so things including anxiety depression etc... actually the list itself was pretty depressing LOL.
Have you considered HRT at all? i dont know much about it...but I do know one of my friends sisters was suffering from depression and mood swings and got a low dose HRT from her doc and my friend said it had really helped her... so just passing it on...
In regard to weight loss (which we're all here for after all lol) I am committed to getting back to my goal weight and improving my fitness level - i'm doing good with part 1 overall, but i'm struggling to find some kind of fitness that i can DO and i enjoy... i am beginning to realize just how unfit i am ... and while part of me is hesitant because i have days where the overall pain thing is pretty bad (assuming its the fibromyalgia, and every so often a different part will go (shoulder, leg, back whatever lol)... and part of me thinks doing any form of exercise will bring pain so mentally there's a block there i think that i need to get over. Im starting to realize tho that my inactivity is part of the problem.. the less i do the more stiff/pain - so my focus for the next few weeks is going to be trying to find something that will fit into my schedule, my budget AND will get me moving ALL my parts. i'm not quite sure how to google "ty[es of exercise classes for over 50 with aches and pains and broken parts" LOL but i'll give it a go. I even considered joining a place like Curves with the circuit training, but there aren't any near me and i think it's pretty expensive as well.... however that's my goal for the next few weeks.
And while I am committed to getting as healthy overall as i can be as I age.. one of my friends who is around 70 now posted this little video the other day..... and it definitely has some things i think i need to remember too... so i thought i'd share in case anyone wants a quick peek at it!
Keep on taking care of yourselves Hatters - in whatever way that IS for each of us!
https://www.facebook.com/stronggmindd/videos/287501868413982/
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Thanks for the thoughts about menopause, Snooozie. I can't have HRT because of my heart disease, unfortunately (I have friends who swear by it!). On the good side, I know it's something that will eventually pass! In a few years - lol! And it's good to know that it's not just me.
I'm sorry that you are going through that pain. I have some aches and pains, and yes, it's so much more difficult to exercise when you're in pain before you've even started! It's still a learning process for me finding what works, and I don't understand why some days are different from others. I hope you find a good class. There is definitely a gap in the market for "older" people and exercise. It seems to be so much easier to get injured/hurt doing exercise, and then takes longer to recover.
That dalmation cake sounds lovely! The cake I made was an orange cake, with orange zest in it, and orange buttercream icing, one of my favourites too. I managed to avoid having it for breakfast this morning! But you've given me a good reminder that I used to do things like have cake for breakfast when I was slim - it's OK to have the occasional treat.
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....just passing through......it's too quiet in here.
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Definitely quiet! I am kind of lurking in shame as my eating has not been good over the past week, and I'm seeing the results on the scale. I'm astounded how quickly the weight goes on when I slip up!
However, something cheered up - somebody linked to this modified BMI chart on facebook: http://www.smartbmicalculator.com/. It looks as if what they've done is try to tie in BMI to health outcomes, which are different at different ages. So it seems as you get older it's statistically less dangerous to be a little overweight but more dangerous to be a little underweight and so on. Anyway, it cheered me up a little, because I'm overweight on the normal BMI scale, but in this one I'm in the green/healthy range.1 -
Well, Vail, I am in the yellow....I think it's moderate level, still tooo fat..... 35.5
I too am finding it hard to keep my loss off. I just finished eating waaaaayyyyyy toooo many Fritos w bean dip!
It's a way of life for me...I love food to much to lose and be able to keep it off...even w keto, I still find I can eat what I don't need to....but I don't crave foods like I used to. I use to be eating and planning my next meal at the same time. Low carb has helped with the a that tremendously.
Heading out to deliver a bed...
Have a great WEEKEND.
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I love dogs, the pics are so adorable.
Thanks, Snoozie and Susan, I heard of macular degeneration, but not macular cellophane. I wish you the best, it is not easy as we get older.
My baby just turned 2
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I'm still here, alive and well in Jersey...
Gorgeous pictures of the pups everyone...
For those going thru health challenges... get better soon and hope the docs figure out the best treatments / meds...
For those whose weight loss hasn't been great... it's always darkest before the dawn, and the teacher is quiet when the student is taking a test...
As for me... it goes down, up, down... get me off this roller coaster please...
Anyway... go team go...
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Hello Hatters! I’m FINALLY done with all the traveling and am back to my routine and starting back on healthier eating today! I just got caught up on all your posts. Thank you for the shout outs on my hike. It was incredibly challenging and I’m so darn proud of myself for completing it! That cheeseburger was absolutely the best!!!
I’m concerned over all the health issues that have been mentioned. I hate that we’re all trying to do something healthy for ourselves and these issues keep popping up to throw obstacles in our paths. It makes it harder to keep going but the alternative is so much worse. I hope everyone is seeing improvement with their health issues. I’ve started physical therapy for my neck and I’m hoping for the best.
Our trip to Boston, Maine, Vermont and New Hampshire was awesome! I ate a lot of “lobstah,” saw some absolutely stunning views, the fall color was at it’s peak, and enjoyed the company immensely. We were home long enough to do laundry (break my washing machine) and repack for a trip to Kansas City for a wedding.
I’m glad to be home, I must say. This morning on the scale I was up seven pounds!!! I was actually relieved that it wasn’t more! I’m not going to reset my ticker because I’m determined to take the seven off quickly. Back to the higher protein, complex carbs and multiple smaller meals approach but I’m ready!
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****UPDATE******
Today went off the rails at dinner. I did great until my parents showed up and we had an impromptu dinner consisting of pizza! Of course I then followed it up with ice cream. Ugh!!!!
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Suzy, at least it was just one meal! And I do think that social eating like that doesn't "count" to some extent - I know it does obviously, calorie-wise, but what's life if you can't enjoy a pizza with your parents now and then? I was thinking about what you said in your post yesterday about enjoying your trip (it sounds wonderful!) and I do believe just enjoying things is so good for our health.
Your dog looks like a sweetie, Milove! I only have a cat at the moment, but I'm a dog person too - I know most people tend to like one or the other - and I do miss having a dog around. I love seeing dogs when I'm out on walks. My cat is great though, quite a character and fantastic company.
It's getting so dark here recently and everybody seems tired and sleepy - not just me for a change! I feel I could hibernate for the winter! But pushing myself to go to the gym, and to get out.
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Suzy, that sounds like a trip of a lifetime...totally worth every one of those pounds! especially with fresh Lobstah!1
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Hi guys i'm here.. been on days and without internet and got tired of waiting on hold forever every night with my provider - then got hit with a head/chest cold but am thrilled on day 2 it seems to be just that and not the flu - so i'll take it. Internet still spotty but I got on now so i'll post this and then come back to add just in case it flips out again
Vail - re the exercise classes for those of us inbetween as such - funny I saw a guy on a tv morning show talking about exercise for over 50... saying how you have to be careful and adapt its important to keep (or start in my case!) exercising for sure, but we have to remember that exercise while good or us is still a stressor on our joints and al our parts which are not like those of young uns.. and are already breaking down as we age... so it was good to know I don't have to go out there and become a gym rat.
I checked out the BMI site you posted - I think I come in at the high end of normal on it... but I can still pinch several inches.. ok eet... lol so I know my ratios aren't where they need to be .. yet!
Milove your baby is gorgeousssssssssssss!!! Gail hows the ear and allergies?
Suzyyyyyy so lovely to have you back and so glad all the travels went so well on top of the major accomplishment on the hike - glad you were able to read back on our postings we did after you hit the top but were still travelling lol!!
I have no doubt the vacation gain will be gone soon - remember it doesn't have to be all or nothing anytime ladies... a day can have good bad and ugly choices and that's just fine... our goal is to simply get to wanting and having more of the good right... and its a process.... and we will get there!
I didn't lose any this week; sadly I wish I lost my appetite with a cold but i'm the opposite lol.. but I did pick up a large tub of watermelon and canteloup along with the Kleenex to snack on..
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Hello, everyone,
Snoozie, the old folks always said that you feed a cold and starve a fever. I always stuff myself if I have a cold if I am feeling miserable I might as well eat. lol
Suzy what a wonderful sounding trip! Sorry about the broken washing machine.
Vail, I only had cats when I cat sit for co-workers and they are leaving town. I have only own dogs, fish, rabbits, turtles, and hamsters. lol.
I am away up until tomorrow left out on the 25th for my husbands birthday was the 26th and my birthday is tomorrow and will be returning home. Unfortunately, have not been counting calories but having a restful relax time. I also was a little under the weather but hopefully, have pulled through the worse. The resting has helped a lot.
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Happy birthday to you and your hubs, Milove!!! Restful and relaxing sounds awesome!
I guess we’ve arrived at the time of year when the colds and flu start hitting us. I need to get my flu shot. I hope you’re feeling better Snoozie and Milove...and anyone else who is sniffling and sneezing.
I’m having a hard time getting serious about my eating and exercising habits. I’ll get there....eventually. Hopefully sooner rather than later. I feel so unsettled after all our traveling and am slowly getting things accomplished. Next week should be much better. We’re going to buy a washing machine today so I can catch up on laundry next week, do some much needed housework, get my meal planning and grocery shopping done and my husband won’t be on a call so we can go out hiking next weekend. We’re so routine driven, so when we get thrown off it takes awhile to get back to “normal.”1 -
Milove - happy birthday(s) to you and hubby both - hope you did get that relaxing time and enjoyed every moment! and frankly - hope there was birthday cake!! lol
Suzy - I hear ya on the settling back in.. I think it always takes a wee bit after our routines are thrown off no matter the reason to get back our comfy zone.. sounds like you have a plan so don't sweat it - it WILL happen bit by bit...
I also need to get my flu shot, as soon as i'm 100% over this head cold i'll be getting jabbed - when the cold first hit I was actually afraid it was the flu; I hurt and it hit so fast and the first night I even woofed my bikkies all over the bathroom floor (yes I know too much info LOL)... but I thought oh hell no its the FLU! fortunately I think it was just all the coughing so hard that caused the salute to the porcelain god that night.. cause its just been a head/chest thing since.. not pleasant but i'll take it!
Today has been one of those days where I have lost my mind... I stripped the bed and tossed the fitted sheet in the wash with some pillowcases; and left the flat sheet sorta just folded over on the bed to go in once the fitted was washed and dried ( I have a small stacked washer/dryer so cant take both queen sheets at once... so I wash the fitted; toss it in the dryer and when it's done I take it in the bedroom to put back on the mattress and grab the flat to go in... then I remember I was supposed to do something so I drop it back on the bed, go do whatever it was.. come back grab it and the rest of the pillowcases and toss it all in the washer... I decide to have an orange then go back to make the bed - and discover I had thrown the FITTED sheet that I had already washed and dried.. BACK in the WASHER!! I grabbed the wrong frigging sheet... so my fitted is gonna be super clean LOL.. then I broke a ceiling tile (I have what they call a Hollywood ceiling in the condo.. large acrylic tiles that sit in a track ... I took one down to replace a light and decided to clean it whilel it was down... i couldnt get the flourescent tube in properly and burned out both others already in there.. then after cleaning the tile (its like 2 feet x 2 feet) I promptly dropped the damn thing breaking it into 3 pieces.. so I now have a nice big hole in my ceiling where I can look up to the cement above.. sigh.. i'm hoping the building has a stash somewhere but not counting on it LOL.. then I did something else just as dumb... I can't remember what now lol.. but I've decided I've done with work for the day. Sigh... im blaming it on menopause brain... yes I am...
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Ah Snoozie....you make me laugh! Mama said there’d be days like this! Hang in there! As Scarlett O’Hara said, “I’ll worry about that tomorrow; tomorrow is another day.”1
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Good morning Hatters:
***** Warning - long post - read at your own risk ********
Starting to feel a little more human today; I am scheduled for an event at the LAC tonite so hopefully with a few cold pills popped I can make it - its a fundraiser for the symphony here with a James Bond theme - an aston martin parked in the atrium and lots of fancy food and drink stations with a casino (fake chips tho) as well.. then followed by a symphony performance with all James Bond music.. unfortunately we're only working the symphony part - but i'll get to see everyone all dressed in their |bond stye" tuxes and fancy duds when I arrive ha...
Anyway - after giving up on chores yesterday (altho I did sleep ok on my very very clean fitted sheet!) I decided to turn my thoughts to other areas in my life that need work, one of which is my weight loss journey. I was reading back through some older posts and looking over my diary and basically trying to decide what I want for myself. This year has gone by so quickly - its so hard to believe in only a few weeks it will be 2018! While I was browsing and thinking I ran across a phrase that struck a chord again - that a goal without a time frame or a structure - is not a goal - it's a dream.
When I first read that again it kind of annoyed me.. I thought umm no it's not .. my weight loss isn't a dream. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized it was kinda true for me at least - without setting specific time frames and ways to get to my goal, i'm just kinda going along, sorta working on it... flopping around like a fish some days and streamlined others.. but wandering most of the time.
So there are about 8 weeks left before the end of 2017. And I have decided i want to accomplish "A" goal with my weight loss by the end of this year. I have actually set two goals; one short term (see below) and one long term (4 months to get to my goal weight).
My short term goal I have set is that I am going to lose 6 pounds before the end of the year.
I've decided to incorporate the "SMART" steps to help me accomplish this (I'll post a brief synopsis of em in case anyone else is interested") but mainly to reinforce to me what my goal is and the details that will get me there. and i'm putting this out here in writing to my friends here as well, since you are al a big part of my success to date and my future endeavour!
Specific. A good goal includes specific details. For example, a goal to exercise more is not specific, but a goal to walk 30 minutes after work every day is specific. You're declaring what you will do, how long you will do it, and when you will do it. I will walk for a minimum of 30 minutes 5 days a week either outside or on the treadmill. I will add 5 minutes each week to my daily walk. I will get up every hour if seated and move my body.
Measurable. If you can measure a goal, then you can objectively determine how successful you are at meeting the goal. A goal of eating better is not easily measured, but a goal of eating 1,200 calories a day can be measured. A goal of riding your bike is not measurable. A goal of riding your bike for 30 minutes three days a week is measurable. I will increase my water consumption to 6 cups daily. I will ensure I incorporate 2 fruits and 3 vegetables every day into my diet.
Attainable. An attainable goal is one that you have enough time and resources to achieve. For example, if your work schedule doesn't allow spending an hour at the gym every day, then it wouldn't be an attainable goal. However, two weekday trips to the gym and two weekend trips might be attainable. If a particular type of exercise, such as running, is physically too difficult for you, then running every day would not be an attainable goal. I have enough time and resources to meet my goal.
Realistic. For most people, a realistic outcome goal is losing 5 to 10 percent of their current weight. Process goals must also be realistic. Setting an unrealistic goal may result in disappointment or the temptation to give up altogether. 6 pounds in just over 8 weeks is a realistic goal.
Trackable. Goals are best achieved if you keep a record of your progress. If you have an outcome goal of losing 15 pounds (7 kilograms), record your weight each week. If your goal is to eat 1,400 calories a day, keep a food diary. Keeping track can help you evaluate your progress and stay motivated I will track my progress with a weekly weigh in.
Okay - that's me done for the moment! Thanks for listening - unless you skipped the post after the warning lol.. looking forward to the path ahead!
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Great post Snoozie. You’ve really given me something to think about. I need to set measurable goals and track them. I’m feeling frustrated and realizing that I’ve spent an entire year “losing weight” and am currently ending the year at about the same weight that I started it.
I always have an end goal date or event in mind but have never achieved that goal. We’re planning a five day hike down into the Grand Canyon in October of next year. It’s a lottery system so we won’t know if we got the dates until May. Either way I’m going to use that trip as my end date. Now I need to work on making my goals measurable.
And yes! This year flew by!!!1 -
I like these smart goal steps, Snoozie. You can and will do it!
Sorry about the misery you've been through. I must confess I laughed quite a bit at the sheet situation.....
I was just telling Young Son's GF that she and I were going to get serious about losing some weight before the end of the year. More exercise( she's thinking of enlisting in the military ) Less Carbs( will help her get ready for the MRE meals they have) Helping her get ready will help me reach my goal, since I find it hard to do it for myself sometimes.
I am still fighting the allergy fight...some days feel like I am on the way to better days, then comes the yuck! but the ear is a bit better but still stuffed up. I could go back to the doctor , but I get tired of paying so much for so little...
Milove, Happy Late Birthday to each of you. I know you had a great time.
Suzy, The Grand Canyon trip sounds exciting.
Vail, it's getting darker here earlier here and I know what you about feeling sleepier too.
Carol, Hope things are great with you!
Bye girls!!
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I was working on defining my goals today and am wondering if I’m being too ambitious in the exercise area. I mean...I’m actually awful lazy and I have laid out some pretty extensive goals. I’m struggling with how to make them more reasonable. Logically I know I can’t go from no daily exercise to doing three different things five days a week but I definitely want to challenge myself as well. I think it’s going to take a more fluid approach to learn what actually will work for me. I wish I could be a go getter and achieve very demanding goals but realistically I know I’m setting myself up for failure.
But then again....why is it that I wouldn’t dream of disappointing or letting down someone I love but I can let myself down and disappoint myself with no problem? What does that say about me?!?! Hmmmm....methinks I need to do some soul searching and learn how to put my needs first for a change.0 -
Suzy... I read your post twice cause I thought It had some excellent points - but before I expand on ONE in particular that intrigued me, I just want to give you an "attaboy" on giving some serious thought towards what you want for yourself, and how to get it. (an "attaboy" is a good job moment at work - quite sexist in retrospect but still remains a high accolade LOL).
When I was re reading a lot of my info on the importance and definition of goals, all of it agreed that it was important to have both short and long term goals - and I love the idea of the GC hike next year as a long term one! It addresses a personal challenge for you outside of both the fitness and weight challenges it will incorporate too, so I'm very impressed!
The comment you made in your earlier post tho. "I always have an end goal date or event in mind but have never achieved that goal" = umm.. i'm not sure if that comment was ONLY in regards to a weight loss goal?? because you HAVE achieved a huge personal goal recently with your hike up the mountain just a few weeks ago?? That was a GINORMOUS goal and you absolutely nailed it... along with several others this year.. so I just wanted to remind you of what you have accomplished this year!
As far as trying to decide on an exercise goal - I feel for ya because i'm very much like you - admittedly lazy! And you'll note my first exercise goal is just the walking 5 days a week.. I honestly debated about more because I thought I need to challenge myself a bit and while that is true - one of the articles reminded me that its mportant to keep your goals fluid as well - it mentioned if you find you are meeting the goal and there is no challenge, to increase it week by week or month by month. But especially when starting out, the exercise goal has to be attainable - for exactly the reason you mentioned above; so you don't find yourself believing you "failed" if you set unrealistic ones. And in defining realistic, it takes into account what's happening in your life.. and for me this month, I know there are going to be some challenges because i'm going back to working nights again, and no more holidays... and winter coming and the dark and dreary days sometimes can drag me down if I let it.. I honestly felt perhaps my goal was too low at first, but I need to be able to make that tick on the calendar every day for a while to say I DID IT (that's my measuring method for exercise lol). I will personally be comfortable with tweaking the goal to more bit by bit as I go, but for me right now it's the right amount - so just food for thought while you make your decision about what you want to do - just keep in mind that you want it to be a realistic and attainable goal for right now - and can be tweaked whenever you want or need to...
Now about your comment in the post above - you said
"But then again....why is it that I wouldn’t dream of disappointing or letting down someone I love but I can let myself down and disappoint myself with no problem"
I'm not 100% sure what reference that line was in - if it was about making big exercise goals and not hitting them, or weight loss?? or something else entirely.. so keeping in mind i'm not fully sure, I do want to address it cause I think it's a thought many women in particular suffer from ...
and I think it's something woman struggle with every day - because we do exactly that - we are SO hard on ourselves and hold ourselves to higher standards than we would EVER dream of holding anyone we love to - yet when one of our friends/family are struggling with feeling like failures, we sure as hell don't say "well you've disappointed me yet again friend.. " If someone we care about told us hey I ate an entire pizza at 2am this morning cause I had a fight with my husband and I was feeling down so I turned to food' - none of us would ever say ANYTHING like WHAT the hell did you do that for; food won't change the fight that was just dumb" - RIGHT???? omg of course we wouldn't!!! We would be understanding, supporting and encouraging - it would never occur to us to be hurtful or critical of someone else struggling - but holy cow... when it comes to ourselves???? we are mean and harsh and rip ourselves apart in a heartbeat.!!!! It's so wrong!!
I remember posting a few years ago about this very thing - and proposing an experiement for a week or so; where anytime we found ourselves criticizing ourselves or thinking anything negative, like "crap I just blew it for today I ate a bag of chips"... then to ask ourselves what would we say to our best friend if she said that to us?? and whatever we would say to her - is the only thing we can say to ourselves!! if you wouldn't say "well hell mary - you ccant get thru one day without messing up?" to your best friend?? then you DONT get to say it to yourself!!
So maybe its a good time to try that experiment again... to remind ourselves that we are far too hard on ourselves most of the time... and anytime we find ourselves thinking something negative or critical about us - to just stop and ask... would i say this to snoozie? or mary (imaginary best friend) and then ask what WOULD i say to snoozie... and then say that to yourself...
im not saying making excuses... but just to remember that we are just as deserving of compassion and understanding and positive reinforcement in our journeys as the people we love and treat that way!! And that it's never about all or nothing, its just about making progress in getting to our goals
ok I just had heart failure because my battery died and computer shut down, and when I came back this was all gone... so i'm gonna shut up now and pray it saved as I edited!!!
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I'm afraid to edit the above post again so just a quickie (ya I know I said i'd shut up but I lied lol)
I think it's important too as well for us as well while we're taking a good hard look at what we want to change and accomplish, that we recognize all the GREAT changes we've all made already - count up all the good things we've done for ourselves this past year and recognize them and say well done me!! Because every single one of us has made progress in some area of our lives this year - and its just as important to celebrate those as to set new accomplishments!
As Mondays are going to be my weekly weigh in day for tracking purposes on my weight loss goal, I hopped on this morning and reset my ticker; I'm a 1/2 pound up from it's last entry so I needed an acurrate start weight for this morning.
It feels good to have a plan at the moment; and as I've set the end of the year for my short term goal, i'm looking forward to focusing on me and getting what I want for myself!
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Thanks Snoozie, you are always so encouraging! You’re absolutely right...I did meet my goal of hiking the AT and some others along that same vein this year. I need to realize that not all of my goals are weight loss centered. I’m going to add some short term goals and some non-weight goals.
Oh! And I’m going to try your experiment of talking to myself (but not out loud...my husband would probably freak out) like I’m talking to my friend.1
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